: About six months ago, MediaTakeOut.com told you that Rozonda "Chilli" Thomas was dating CNN anchor TJ Holmes. Shortly after announcing their relationship to the world, we were bombarded with emails from friends of T.J.'s wife. According to them, T.J. and his wife were still working on their marriage when Chilli came into the picture.
Well, MediaTakeOut.com has learned that since our report, T.J. and his wife officially divorced. And T.J. and Chilli are still together - and word is they're pretty serious.
We'd love to say that we're happy for these two, but this relationship just leaves a bad taste in our mouths. And Chilli here's a bit of advice that our grandmother used to always say - You lose him the same way you got him.....
It was reported that he & his wife were trying to work it ,but maybe the marriage was over and they were filing for divorce when he met Chilli. If it so that Chilli was messing around with him while he was still married, it was wrong. People pass judgement like the never sinned once! lol We are all spectators we don't know what really goes on
He could have been lying his a$$ off to Chilli saying they (his wife)were completely split when he wasnt so yeah, we dont know the whole f*ckin story...
And I never understood why people always blaming the f*ckin woman soley when it was the f*ckin MAN that made that vow to be loyal..not the other woman..
Now, if the man dont wanna f*ck wit u and the wife told u to get tha hell on, and u still tryin to get that, then the other woman deserve tha beat down!!!
Re: Broken Silence's post...I disagree. There is plenty of blame to go around. Yes...blame him...but also blame Chilli. She is a grown *** woman who did a grown *** *** up thing. Why is it that the other woman/man always uses the excuse that he or she is not married to/ or with the injured party so they are not to blame? ***. Unless there are extenuating ***...and no..his wife allegedly being a ***, not giving him *** etc does not count...you are dead wrong. Karma is a ***!!
Own up to it and
Karma what! Im dating and my divorce is not final. It is not a quick and easy thing to do. usual before you say "i want a divorce" the marriage is not saveable. You have to move on. His ex wife is just bitter. Im glad chilli up graded from usher. She deserve happiness.
TJ And Chilli...Keep your life quiet and it will work
You could put the shame on her if Holmes and his wife were still together, but evidently they weren't. She didn't break them up,evidently the marriage was already broken. So you go girl & get yours and he *** sure looks awhole lot better than that scoop head Usher. Nobody bad mouthed Angelina Jolie when she started going with Brad Pitt, and he *** sure was still with Jennifer. so hey, MTO rinse your mouth out and go to the next story.
I hate when women say another woman broke up their happy home- if your man was so happy he wouldnt be willing to stray with another ***! Open your *** eyes and quit pretending *** is ok at home when it aint- just cause the woman was trying to make it work dont mean he was. HE WAS READY TO GO! Good luck Chili- dude is fine!
I'm tired of people always blaming the other woman, what about the wife? a lot of complaints men have when they stray, the wife wanted to get married but not be a wife, used *** to get him then all of a sudden don't want to have ***, always out with her friends but never him, the ignore and treat him like ***, thinking because they married he ain't going nowhere and he's on lock. I have personally known cases of guys who tried to make their marriages work even going the counseling route the wife refuses to go. all her little friends in her click got married so she got married to and had no intention of being a wife, throw the kids off on her momma running the *** streets. hell I was married to a man for 9 years that I did not love. I was in love with the idea of getting married, flashing a ring and being called Mrs so and so. the man was just a trophy husband I got tired of treating him like *** and divorced him and has since asked his forgiveness sadly he never got over it. but 10 years later I have learned a lot, people often blame the man but it takes two to wreak a relationship and no one I mean NO ONE!!!! can come in and break up something if its built on solid foundations, a lot of these wifes buying into the fantasy of marriage has to understand you can't get these men, then suddenly decide you are bored with marriage and think the brotha ain't gonna walk. I hate it when women say he just left me and the kids and I had no idea. *** please you knew you had problems in the marriage and the man been trying to work *** out, but because you felt you trapped him with some babies he aint going nowhere. men go where they feel wanted, love, appreciated and respected simple as that!!! very few men after being married wants to must up and leave their wifes. but women need to get their *** together and stop blaming men for the *** they do in a marriage. TRUST!! if he leaves your *** for another woman, YOU were not doing you job. but because society likes to villify men then women get sympathy for not working on the marriages, I can't tell you how many men I know that are unhappily married. another sister I know used *** to get the man, as soon as the ring was on the finger and she spit out a couple kids, she suddenly remembered she was sexually molested as a child and no longer wanted to have *** with her husband words from her own mouth. I asked why in the hell didn't she resolved these issues before she got married, her response she wanted to get married. so to all you idiot females always blaming the men, it ain't always the men who *** up a marriage!!! do hate the other woman, be a wife to your husband in all aspects, clean the *** house, suck his ***, take care of the kids, treat him like he's your king, look nice for him, hang out with him, don't be a *** nag because your miserable and unfullfilled in your miserable lives. listen to him and actually care about his feelings. be happy being with him. surprise him every once in awhile by doing something nice for him. dose not have to be anything spectacular, get a baby sitter take him out for a nice romantic dinner, buy him flowers, take him to get a message, send him flowers on his job. all too often we think men don't have feelings, but a man requires a lot of intimacy, thought and caring. *** if okay but at the end of the day do you make you husband feel special? took me years to learn this and next time I get married I will never make the same mistakes again. this is why I have stayed single to work on my issues and make sure I'm full filled, happy and complete and secure within myself so when my next husband shows up. I will know how to treat him. resolve your issues before you run off and get married and then use the marriage as an excuse to act like an *** because he will at some point leave your ***!!
i dont know why some women are willing to date a married man. maybe its just me but, if a man is willing to cheat on his wife with me, what makes me think that since he's with me now and another girl comes along, that he not going to eventually leave me for her. i couldnt mess with a married man, unless he and his wife werent together when i met him, meaning that they still didnt live in the same household, and i still wouldnt make it offical between us until they are legally divorced...... but thats just me.
OKKKKKKK! Enuff is Enuff I got to say something here. In her defense it's not like he was happily married. He was going through a divorce who said they were trying to work it out " the bitter now ex wife" if that's the case how did yall get to the point of about to get a divorce ***-E way. People who have been married can't get a divorce *** especially when there is money involved you got to see who gets what. So are yall saying that even though he don't want his wife no more made a step to get a divorce he *** date anyone who are you kidding? This is life people. I wouldn't sit and wait for no year or two years when it got final to date someone either. Hole nother story and opinion if he wasn't going through a divorce and she was the "jump off".
Preach NubianGoddez!! I agree!
I'm also gonna throw my 2 cents in the equation and say that JADA met WILL SMITH when he was going through a divorce and look at them now.
Secondly, I know someone who is dating a married man, but he and his wife have been separated for years and obviously neither one wanted to come out of their pocket and pay for the *** divorce hence why they're still unhappily married. He is in Boston and his "wife" moved back to NY with their kid after she graduated from school. My friend told me he luvs her and she luvs him, so he's working on paying off the courts so it's official. You guys think my friend is still wrong??
Chili has pulled this mess before messing with a married man. That is why her break up with Ursher was so hard for her and I would have thought she would have learned her lesson from the first time. But she seems to be a nice person but she is getting to old to being playing these games. Instead of chasing married men, she needs to be trying to chase a new and better career.
Pebbles said, Chilli was trying to kick it with LA Reid while they were married.
"See someone standing in your own BACKYARD. Someone trying to steal your man. Don't be a fool and let them get that far. You gotta stop them while you can. Hold on to your man."
"Backyard" - Pebbles
TJ Holmes is f u c *** ing hot!
i hate when people divorce... i hate stories about divorce... i hate the reasons why people divorce... i hate the word divorce... i hate divorce PERIOD and i DON'T believe in it...
divorce is tooooooooo easy!
i love chili and her mexican melt hair, [but]...
what happened to for better or worse? why are people so *** selfish these days?
people, if you get married, make sure God is the foundation, otherwise, you won't be strong enough to get through the tough times.
STOP going before God and a priest with all these lustful feelings toward your mate thinking that is love! {new vagina} DOES NOT mean better and happier!
Yeah they were separated...and if they were trying to work on their marriage, don't blame chilli for the break-up. The Sh*t was messed up b-4 chilli, blame him! Chilli couldn't have broken up a relationship that was strong, the relationship fell apart because it was weakened and it finally broke, but not because of chilli MTO!
Chilli is a very pretty girl. I think she is still hurting from the break up with Ursher. So she just getting with the first thing smoking. We girls call it revenge, but in the end, we suffer. She got to take Ursher words "let it burn". They (Chilli+Ursher) made=a cute couple. They might need to reconsider getting back together. *** girl u hurting...CNN dude looks like a gulpie. DON'T DO IT CHILLI!!!
*~* i thought it took two people to work out a marriage? SHE might've been tryna work it out (don't wanna lose that $$)... but that doesn't mean that HE was! i think if there was really some reconciliation going on, he would've cut off all distractions to new booty. doesn't smell foul... when someone wants out of the relationship, it's over. period. *~*
umm...I'm suprised that dude is with a black woman. He used to do the news here in Arkansas and we used to see him out in the club and he was always pushing up on white girls! And he's an *** too. He thought since he was doing the local weekend news here that he was the ***. He's cute but it was always known he likes the snow bunnies.
Yelp that statement is sooo true! SHe got him while he was married, that relationship will never work because she'll never trust him! Usher wouldn't marry her but married that Bearrilla he calls a wife???? Am I the only one who see's something wrong with that? Personally I think Tameka is a man who's *** Usher's ***!!!
U can't blame Chilli for that man's marital problems! He's moved on and Chilli is where he wants to be! Why stay married and miserable? Thatz why there is so much domestic violence and people killing their spouse because they ARE NOT happy! I wish Chilli the best. U can't wreck a home thatz already TORN UP!!! U only live once and I say live it HAPPILY!!
First of all, too many people are passing judgement on here. *** the hell up!!! Secondly, they were already separated and divorce papers filed. You must be separated legally from your spouse for at least 6 months before a divorce is granted. And last of all.....who says that any of what mediatakeout is saying is TRUE!!! How many times have they had to recant their story because it was FALSE!! Chilli recently said she isn't seeing anyone. She could be telling the truth, she could be lying, but so could MTO
I can't say anything about the situation surrounding their relationship, but ***, how about giving him time to put away his baggage before getting serious? The ink's not even dry on the divorce papers and they're getting all cozy? That's just asking for trouble. Not to mention, no one wants to be the rebound girl. Sure, things are all nice and comfy while he's crying on your shoulder and using you to make himself feel better, but what happens when he's through and ready to "explore his options" as a single man?
I find him attractive...but he'd have to be already divorced before I'd talk to him. Dating a married man is a NO-GO...I don't care if he's seperated, unhappy in the marriage, or "going through a divorce." Get at me when them papers are signed!!
But if this is true, I hope they're happy together. But I don't understand why Chilli would do to another woman what was already once done to her in the relationship with Usher. The cheated on has become the homewreaker...what a transition. But she's still my fav outta TLC tho!!
HOW COME Y'ALL ALL ON CHILI?
I WOULD THINK THE FEMALES WOULD KNOW BETTER?
THAT MAN WAS MARRIED! CHILI COULD'VE BEEN ANYBODY CAUSE IF YOU LOW ENOUGH TO CHEAT ANYBODY WILL DO!
I'M ALL ON THE MAN CAUSE HE KNEW HE WAS MARRIED!
WTF? WHAT'S UP WITH THE BLACK MEN ALWAYS CHEATING?????
I DON'T CARE ABOUT CHILI BEING IN THE MIX CAUSE IF SHE HADN'T HAVE WALKED BY AND "BANG BANG" HAD, THIS RAT WOULD HAVE LEFT HIS WIFE FOR "BANG BANG"!!!
HE'LL SEE IT AGAIN!
@ misstor1
What do you mean she hangs on to a member of One Chance to get to Usher? Do you have solid proof?? spill it! lol
and do y'all really think she wants Usher back after everything that has happened? I think that it would be strange now with the baby and all. I wouldn't want to have to deal with that *** ugly Tameka everyday. I think I would have to kill her lol
I love Chilli! Chillayyyy lol oh blach yall dont knwo what ol dude coulda been spittin to chilli and then telling his wife oh honey I wanna work it out! Women kill me when they get on here and forget hot STUPID 90% of the men are and they are the two timers. Yall dont evne know if Chilli was aware of them still being married or together. Wahtever I LOVE CHILLAYYYY!
I don't know the details of their relationship so I won't comment on it. I'm a fan of her and wish her the best. Hopefully it's a good situation and not a shady one.
But I just have to say that I've seen that brotha on CNN and in mags, and he's just the type that I like. Brother is FIONE! I aint mad at her! OMG!
I hate when women say another woman broke up their happy home- if your man was so happy he wouldnt be willing to stray with another ***! Open your *** eyes and quit pretending *** is ok at home when it aint- just cause the woman was trying to make it work dont mean he was. HE WAS READY TO GO! Good luck Chili- dude is fine! ------------------------------------------ A man is only ready to go when he's actually GONE. Stop trying to justify trifling adulterous behavior.
I can't say anything about the situation surrounding their relationship, but ***, how about giving him time to put away his baggage before getting serious? The ink's not even dry on the divorce papers and they're getting all cozy? That's just asking for trouble. Not to mention, no one wants to be the rebound girl. Sure, things are all nice and comfy while he's crying on your shoulder and using you to make himself feel better, but what happens when he's through and ready to "explore his options" as a single man? -------------------------------------------- Really!
Looks like Chilli may end up being in a Mel B. situation - being used to rebound from his divorce. The "transition" woman, if you will. Whether he wanted the divorce or not, divorce is still a serious adjustment. Very good chance that he will dump her once he has recovered from the loss. That's why it's completely unwise to get involved with someone fresh out of a marriage or relationship.
NUBIAN GODDEZ, YOU HIT HOME!!! WITH THAT COMMENT. I MADE MY WIFE WAIT A FEW YEARS BEFORE WE GOT MARRIED HOPING SHE WOULD MATURE OVER TIME, WELL SHE DID NOT, ALWAYS LISTENING TO GIRLFRIENDS ALWAYS TRYING TO PICK FIGHTS SO SHE CAN HAVE AN EXCUSE TO LEAVE THE HOUSE, MY HOUSE BY THE WAY! PUTS THE KIDS OFF ON ME ALL THE TIME CONSTANTLY COMPLAINS ABOUT *** BUT COMES TO ME FOR IT WHEN SHE WANTS IT. SHE EVEN *** AT ME THE THIRD DAY OF OUR HONEYMOON. SIX MONTHS AGO, WE GOT MARRIED ON FATHERS DAY 2007 SHE PICKED THE DAY AND PLANED THE WHOLE WEDDING NOW I KNOW IT WAS ONLY THE THOUGHT OF MARRIAGE SHE ACTUALLY WANTED. NOW I DON'T EVEN LOOK AT HER, TALK TO HER OR ACKOWLEDGE SHE EXSIST AND I AM SERVING DIVORCE PAPERS RIGHT AFTER X-MAS. I WILL NOT COMMIT ADULTERY WHILE MARRIED TO HER BUT I AM GETTING HIT ON CONSTANTLY YET I DON'T EVEN HAVE THE DESIERE FOR *** WHILE I'M WITH HER. THIS KIND OF WOMAN IS THE REASON MOST MEN DON'T WANT TO GET MARRIED. SELFISF B...H!, I ADORE THE TWO BOYS IN OUR FAMILY AND THE OLDEST IS NOT EVEN MY KID BUT HE ADORES ME I WISH I COULD RAISE THEM BOTH BY MYSELF BUT I WILL SETTLE FOR JOINT, 4 DAYS OUT OF SEVEN. I JUST HOPE OTHER WOMEN LEARN FROM YOUR ADVISE AND STOP LISTENING TO THEIR (NO GOT A LIFE) GIRLFRIENDS.
CHILI IS A HO. SHE IS VERY UGLY AND LOOKS OLD. THE ONLY REASON PEOPL FEEL SYMPATHETIC IS BECAUSE OF HER SO CALLED"GOOD HAIR" AND SLIGHT BLACK FEATURES. YALL FULL OF *** CAUSE THIS BIIIITCH BEEN SLANGIN THAT STANK PUUUUUUSY ROUND THE INDUSTRY FO SO LONG. SHE IS AN UGLY HOMEWRECKER AND I CANT STAND HER. IM GLAD USHER DROPPED HER AZZ FOR THE GORGEOUS DARK SKINNED TAMEKA FOSTER. WHO IS A REAL BLACK WOMAN. IM PROUD OF THEIR DARK SKINNED BABY WITH GOOD NAPPY HAIR. THATS RIGHT BIIITCHES YA MAD WELL DONT READ MY POST BIIIITCHES.
@wescoga36, you go boy!! I'm so tired of these women and their unresolved issues *** up marriages and then blaming the men. there's an old saying "if you want to know the end, look at the begining" I know a brother right now who's been married for 7 years and he's miserable as hell, this dude has tried everything in his power to make his marriage work, he was single when he met his wife after getting out a relationship long term relationship. he wanted to remain single and just be with his children, well Mrs thang could not wait to get the ring on her finger, and he's tried to take her *** to counseling over and over again she ain't trying to hear it. now he's ready to leave her *** she wanna try. but I told him it's lip service because if she truly wanted to be with him, she would have done what she was supposed to do as a wife. this is her 3rd marriage by the way. a lot of females have issues that they never resolved in childhood, teenage hood, early adulthood. add to that a lot of them were raised by bitter man hating women who are under the delusion they are feminist and independent. these women came from other women who made poor choices in men and then consider themselves expert. its like the girlfriend who can't keep a man, because her *** always want to be with some thug no good player, she's been through a ton of dudes constantly makes the same mistakes over and over again, never learning from any of her destructive relationship. now she's the expert on relationships and these are the mentally ill types women take advice from, they don't seek out couples that have been "happily married for years" notice I said happily married. you have many couples because of low self esteem and host of other issues who have stayed unhappily married for years. they will tell you married is hell don't seek those tormented souls out. my grandfather was unhappily married to a woman for 45 years till he died of a stroke. now we now there are men out there who are dogs and such and women need to avoid those type. but I know for a fact the average brother who gets married intends to stay that way. a lot of women have had past trauma such as incest, rape, abuse and being abandoned by their dads and was emotionally crippled by their bitter mothers, add to that these woman have issues with self acceptance, self esteem and self love, they might now be happy with themselves or where they are in life misery loves company, they are good spinning a web for a man to fall under but once your *** marries them, they transform. I have seen this too many times. women and men need to resolve their issues and be in a place in their lives where they are happy and complete, no one can make you complete or happy. I'm not anti women but I'm just one of the one's that will not cosign their *** with them. because I too at one point was guilty of the same crimes. too many good black men are being *** over by their crazy *** with their unresolved issues and it don't matter if they are educated or not. then they want to go around and villify the black men and of course everybody is all too happy to jump on the black men ain't *** bandwagon. I have counseled many sisters on why their marriages end and why their husbands just up and left, the majority will never admit to their wrong doings and choose to live in denial. this is why they will end up alone or *** with the wrong man who takes their ***'s out of here. I'm not saying some men won't stray he in himself might be too immature for marriage and you should have known this before you married him, but 99% of the time a man stray's is because of what the wife in not doing. they want to be married by don't want to cook, clean and take care of the kids the very basics, but will get mad when he goes out with a ugly chick who makes him feel like a king. I have told many sisters including my eldest daughter. looks alone is not doing it,you can be the finest thing walking the planet but if you don't know how to treat a man, he will leave your ***!!
How the hell yall know that the man was seperated at the time Chilli started to see him? None of us know when she started to see this man. Maybe she was the reason for the breakdown of the marriage in the *** *** place!!! None of us know for sure. If the man was out the house and in the middle of a divorce than that's one thing.
If on the other hand, the man was still in his *** house and married....that *** is wrong. I am sooo sick of the other so called woman making excuses for her behavior. Just remember ladies...sometimes you actually do get what you want. In the case of a cheater, what you are getting is exactly that. Just watch out for the next ***!!!
Why is Chilli catching all the heat in this situation?The reporter was the one that made a commitment to his wife!When this type of thing happens,the woman is always the one people want to call a "home wrecker" or other degrading terms. I am not saying I agree with her actions,but I believe more blame needs to be place on him.Chilli is a single woman and can do as she pleases.Now,as for being serious with this cat........uhhhh she better keep her eyes open. Nuff love, Foxy Feline
if he and his ex wife just divorced...more than likely they were separated...and separated people can date! Grow Up People! And just because his ex wife's friends were emailing mediatakeout...doesn't mean they know the entire story... no one ever does. Stop hating on chili...she deserves some happiness...although I don't think this will last too long...just something to do until Usher comes back!
What man is laying pipe in Chili now?...She got more pipe in her than Halle Berry!...*** Chili!...Her ussy got to be piping hot like a dominos pizza before superbowl sunday!...What happened to T-Boz?...Is "Mack 10" still clothes lining that hoe...Who cares, Man-Eka is balling!...That beast ain't even on a budget!...
