: Congratulations are in order. MediaTakeOut.com has EXCLUSIVELY learned that La La Vasquez and NBA superstar Carmelo Anthony are expecting their second child.
We spoke with one of La La's family friend's who broke the news. The woman told MediaTakeOut.com, "When we heard the news everyone was so happy ... La La is such a great mother."
La La and Carmelo already have a son, Kiyan, together. The happy couple has been engaged since 2004. No word on when the two plan on jumping the broom.
Yeah, she put that thang on him. She is like 6 or 7 years older than him so I'm surprised she aint made him walk down the aisle yet.
------------------------------------ You wanna be the big fish, you little guppy Black man can't be no yuppie You put on your suit and tie and your big clothes You don't associate with the Negroes
Damn. When will women learn that it's not okay just to be a 'baby's mama'. I feel sorry for the generation that believes it's okay for men to continuously disrespect and degrade women for an easy dollar. Because that's what he's doing. He's basically saying, she's good enough to have sex with, but not good enough to spend the rest of his life with.
Women, this is 2008, there's more to life and love than just getting paid okay. Have some respect for yourselves, and you will draw men to you, who realize this, and will inturn respect you as well.
Men only do things that women let them get away with. Just my opinion, no need to address me. LOL
wow..i didn't even know these 2 already had a kid to begin with....wow...but what's up w these women being quick about popping babies but no sign of getting married & wanting more for themselves & their children better yet...don't jut be a baby's mom, become a wife, & for their kids to grow up in a home with both paents being married ..geesh!...especially black/latino women....nevertheless if you are with a pro athlete or entertainer who have so much going for themselves & can very much afford to gve you the life you deserve...don't settle for less ladies!!
All this "he dont wanna marry her" "shes just a baby momma" BS has got to stop! Did it ever occur to some of you that SHE may not want to marry? That DOES happen you know! Believe me, LaLa knows just what she wants! But far be it from me to entertain the masses with her personal life! JUST REMEMBER... EVERYTHING ISNT ALWAYS WHAT IT SEEMS!!
Why do people criticize and say "oh you just a baby momma" or "oh they need to get married" and blah blah blah.... NEWSFLASH! just because a man tells you "I DO" does not mean he's there to stay. we hear everyday about men that are cheating on their wives, with woman and men. and some of them have been in relationships for 20 and 30 years. call me a part of the "young generation" but i dont see what the big deal is. besides 50% of all marriages fail anyway. so to each is own. if they wanna be a "baby momma" let them. hell who's to say they not happier that way....
why is everyone calling her stupid because they aren't married yet? to each its own, and why do everyone have to follow the status quo? maybe marriage isn't for everyone, do you all feel that if you are married everything is better? if so, then you need a reality check! Marriage is just a title to show off to people who think it matters lol, and I'm not judging all marriages the same because I know some people who actually knows the real meaning behind it, but maybe they both have decided they aren't ready for that step and settles with being engaged
AND? JUST ANOTHER RAGEDY AZZ BLACK MAN WITH AS BITTTTTCH THAT'S NON BLACK WHO WILL BE HAVING A NON BLACK LIGHT SKIN BABY. I DONT KNOW WHY DUMB AZZ BLACK MEN ARE HELPING THE MISSION OF GENOCIDE THATS BEING INFLICTED ON THE BLACK RACE WITH ALL THESE GODDDDAMN NON BLACK CHILDREN. I BET THIS BIIITCH SWEAR UP AND DOWN THE BABY WILL BE CUTE CAUSE THIS HOE GOT OTHER IN HER. BUT IT WON CAUSE SHE IS SO GODDDDAMN UGLEY WITH THOSE BOG BUG AZZ EYES, THOSE DROOOPY TITTTTTIES AND THAT NASTY YELLOW SKIN.
DARK SKIN WILL ALWAYS BE MORE POWERFUL BIIITCH. NO MATTER WHAT.
@TRAVIEBOO
ARE U FUKING CRAZY. CARMELO DONT WANT TO GET IT FROM U. U ARE A PURE BLACK. HA U R FUNNY
@ Ruthless
Damn what nicca you done hit, carried the f*ck out of u. Girl ur ass been scorned. Talking like that I assume u know first hand. lol. But some of what u sya is true.
Congrats to Lala and Carmelo I do hope to see them married soon but.........
@craze189 u said it best.....
Get Your Paper, Alani!!! 34% is better than 17%... Everyday. He Can Marry Her IF He Wants To, But She's Good Either Way. Smart Girl.
AND @
FelonysHobby
Yeah, she put that thang on him. She is like 6 or 7 years older than him so I'm surprised she aint made him walk down the aisle yet.
Thats ish is probably so trueeeeeeeeeeeee....
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mzbabygurl Flag post Why do people criticize and say "oh you just a baby momma" or "oh they need to get married" and blah blah blah.... NEWSFLASH! just because a man tells you "I DO" does not mean he's there to stay. we hear everyday about men that are cheating on their wives, with woman and men. and some of them have been in relationships for 20 and 30 years. call me a part of the "young generation" but i dont see what the big deal is. besides 50% of all marriages fail anyway. so to each is own. if they wanna be a "baby momma" let them. hell who's to say they not happier that way....
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why is everyone calling her stupid because they aren't married yet? to each its own, and why do everyone have to follow the status quo? maybe marriage isn't for everyone, do you all feel that if you are married everything is better? if so, then you need a reality check! Marriage is just a title to show off to people who think it matters lol, and I'm not judging all marriages the same because I know some people who actually knows the real meaning behind it, but maybe they both have decided they aren't ready for that step and settles with being engaged
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ I disagree, if all marriage is to some is "a title to show off" then folks like that need not marry, and really do not understand the signifigance of it at all. How can you not be ready to dedicate your life and be committed to a person but you will spread seeds and have a child with that very person. That makes zero sense to me...like okay, I don't know if I am ready to marry you, but sure lets have a few kids and be bonded for the next 18 years as co-parents. Then it does not work out and you have 2,3,4 baby daddys and thinking it is "ok" because society has it backwards? I just do not agree with that. I see why the older generations are so disappointed in todays young people, we have no family values it seems (in general). But to each her own...
RUTHLESS: you said "CHILDREN BEING BROUGHT INTO THE WORLD JUST TO GET A PAYCHECK IS DISGUSTING...CHILDREN SHOULD BE BROUGHT INTO THIS WORLD FOR THE MOTIVE OF LOVE NOT MONEY.."
Tell that to Karrine Steffans and Gloria Velez (the chick that had a baby by Aaron Hall)!!
Career FIRST!! MEn and BABIES LATER!!!!
All you woman downplaying marriage are the same ones who jump for freakin joy if a man asked YOU to marry them, so stop frontin like it doesn't matter!!!! Just because no one may have married your grandmother, your mother, your aunts or even your sisters doesn't mean the idea is FOREIGN!!!
She not that cute...and she doesn't speak all that well...but I guess you can't help who you fall in love with...He's a cutie though...you haven't heard much about since he hooked up with her...I guess it's a good thing. Good luck with that...She's like Diddy's baby mama "Kim P" now, set for life...
Byyouth smart move and I agree
Mom2girls: well babe we will have to agree to disagree on this one because I don't feel like a person needs a piece of paper to tell them when they can have kids, that's just my take on it, and I still feel like everyone don't have to believe in the institution of marriage, if they want to be in a committed relationship without being Mr & Mrs, fine, so be it, but I do agree that they should have a bond before having kids though even though that is rare because most of time kids aren't planned
Someone said above that the women who don't care about marriage are the same ones without their ancestors married. Eff what ya heard. My grandparents were married, my parents are married, and so on. Not everyone is for marriage. Why get married if your unsure only to endure an expensive divorce later?
This is just my opinion:
I personally don't give a rat's a$$ if they get married twenty years from now! As long as they raise their children in a respectable manner!! Everybody is ranting and raving about they need to get married! And half of those may I ask where is YOUR wedding band? I will admit that four years is a long time to be engaged, but I respect the fact that they're not rushing into a quick "I do" only to end up replying with an even quicker "I DON'T!" It's not like this child they're having is going to affect anybody on this website (except those who wish they were the mother or father)!
NOW CONGRATS!!
*This is only my opinion...don't like it....don't read it!*
@ JAH-N-ME.....I LUV YOUR HAIR!!
I'm sorry, but my mom raised me old school. Don't bring a child into this world w/o being married. As for the people saying you don't have to be married to have kids how about you just chill out until you FIND that person you can love and marry and THEN have kids. It's soo funny caue where I'm from, me and my friend are about the only people who don't have babies, and then these chicks get mad when we don't congratulate them and coo over their babies. I'm sorry, I just can't congratulate you on something that wasn't and still isn't accepted in my home.
@imperfectbeauty
I see where you are coming from. Marriage is nothing to rush into. But neith is parenthood. And how anyone can rationalize having a child, having multiple children with someone who you are wishy washy about maiking a committment to is insane and backwards. Yeah I love you, but we may not be right for marriage so lets just have kids instead? What kind of junk is that? I guess we just have different views on family values and that is cool. Everyone does not think alike but if you have to second guess marrying someone then you need to tripple guess having a child with that came person...
I do not consider myself old fashioned at all. Wanting to have children within a union of two committed parents just makes more sense than a bunch of 1/2 stepping folks procreating with people they really really care about...but are not sure they want to marry.
And being 'engaged' does not make it sound or seem any better...just like LeBron's baby momma x's 2...they know how ridiculous it is so they throw a ring and call the chick a 'fiance'...
I just think it is a shame... JMO....
THEY GETS no congrats here! Another professional baby-momma. If ya don't want to be married, don't bring babies into this world! Sure nothing is gauranteed, but not even to try? That's like saying just because you might die tomorrow, you should kill yourself today! Stupid, right? So let's at least try to commit to each other and get married first, then bring the babies. Some of these youngstas on here got life all wrong, and to them I say, ...keep living, you'll figure it out. It's not always about the selfishness of the mother or father ...they need to keep their kids' future ahead of their own selfishness.
@ Smiley Peach...I am not downing her at all. I will congradulate any mom to be. Pregnancy and children are a blessing. But at the same time, I just said what I thouht about her situation. Duh I don't know her, or him so my opinion means zero in the grand scheme of things. But this is a messageboard of sorts so we are all discussing it right?...
@ Micaii don't take it out of context. I am not rationalizing that marriage is the end all and be all because there are a lot of married people who should not have made the move and there are a lot of married people in lovely marriages.
Just because the divorce rate is high should not mean 'oh well we might as well never get married look at everyone else who got divorced...'
It's cool. I just wish there were more families than baby mommas and baby daddy's...
@DC Diva How you Know he got a Little D***? cause your friend told you after she got taken advatage of because she was drunk..please.......Your friend Knew what she was doing...let's face it your friend is a damn groupie..and that's what happens to groupies.....stop using the alcohol as an excuse for careless behavior....she was looking for a Baller and got Balls in her mouth instead.........Tell your friend to grow up and stop drinking if she can't handle her liquor.......
[EXPLETIVE] BABY MAMA'S AND U BYTCHES WHO SUPPORT THEM !!!
THIS IS AN OUTRAGE !!!
IT'S AN OUTRAGE BECAUSE MARRIAGE DON'T MEAN SHYTE TO NYGGAS ANYMORE !!!
WHY IS THIS SUCH A BIG DEAL ???
BECAUSE I TRULY BELIEVE AND ANY COLLEGE PROFESSOR WITH BRAINS WILL TELL YOU THAT MARRIAGE/FAMILIES ARE THE BUIDLING BLOCKS OF CIVILIZATION ITSELF !
THE DESTRUCTION OF THE BLACK FAMILY IS ONE OF THE MAIN ISSUES THAT'S JUST KILLIN US AND LEADING TO OUR DESTRUCTION AS A PEOPLE.
WAKE YO DUMB @SSES UP AND RECOGNIZE !
F%@#K BABY MAMA'S AND U BYTCHES WHO SUPPORT THEM !!!
THIS IS AN OUTRAGE !!!
IT'S AN OUTRAGE BECAUSE MARRIAGE DON'T MEAN SHYTE TO NYGGAS ANYMORE !!!
WHY IS THIS SUCH A BIG DEAL ???
BECAUSE I TRULY BELIEVE AND ANY COLLEGE PROFESSOR WITH BRAINS WILL TELL YOU THAT MARRIAGE/FAMILIES ARE THE BUIDLING BLOCKS OF CIVILIZATION ITSELF !
THE DESTRUCTION OF THE BLACK FAMILY IS ONE OF THE MAIN ISSUES THAT'S JUST KILLIN US AND LEADING TO OUR DESTRUCTION AS A PEOPLE.
WAKE YO DUMB @SSES UP AND RECOGNIZE !
@SmileyPeach, I was just about to ask the same question. Everyone who has a problem with her being a "baby momma," are you a virgin? I DOUBT IT. Please people get off your judgmental boxes, most of you are not virgins so this could very well happen to you. Most children are not planned anyway.
I happen to respect marriage and respect couples who take time before actually getting married. I've been dating my guy for a number of years and keep getting asked about marriage. We are simply NOT READY. One, because we are college students, and two, we are very young. I personally do not want to be a baby momma but it happens and I would deal with it accordingly. I don't get how someone would want to wear an engagement ring for four years though. If you aren't ready to get married, men, don't propose and women, don't say yes BUT to each his own. I'm not here to judge, as long as they are happy it doesn't matter what I think.
Now to everyone who says that he should've married her once she got pregnant with their first child, ya'll know that's ridiculous because you and all your friends would be on here saying "he don't love her, he only marrying her because she is pregnant." YOU CAN SATISFY EVERYBODY so just satisfy yourself.
" YOU CAN SATISFY EVERYBODY so just satisfy yourself. "
Interesting saying :)
Being a virgin and being a baby momma are mutually exclusive. Unplanned 'accident' babies..I have my own theory about that. If you have unprotected sex and you get pregnant, sorry that was NOT an accident because you knew the consequences, maybe you are surprised to be knocked up, but it was certainly no "accident".
Now, if you are using protection and birth control like you are supposed to and you get pregnant. 2 things happened, you slipped up on your prevention method or you are part of the less than 1 and 2% that get pregnant anyway. Unique situations. Most women who were on birth control or used some kind of protection are lying through their teeth when they say "it broke," or "I don't know how this happened".
in anycase, I wish her a safe pregnancy and another beautiful baby. Good luck to the both of them
Everything ultimately goes back to values....
GOOD FOR YOU LALA CUZ HALF THESE PEOPLE ON HERE DOWNING U FOR BEING A BABY MAMA IS PROBABLY A BABY MAMA A COUPLE OF TIMES OVER BY DIFFERENT MEN THAT CANT EVEN SUPPORT THEIR DAMN SELF. A PIECE OF PAPER GIVING YOU HIS LAST NAME DONT EQUAL FOREVER SHE HAS ANOTHER IMPORTANT PAPER THAT GIVES HER BENEFITS A CHILD SUPPORT ORDER! SO WHATS THE PROBLEM
@ KATDADDY
U SOUND VERY IGNORANT.... [EXPLETIVE] BABY MAMAS YOUR UGLY ASS PROBABLY AINT SCREWING NOTHING BUT YOUR HAND SO YOU DONT HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT THAT SITUATION. TIMES ARE CHANGING IT USED TO BE THAT WOMEN WERE SUPPOSED TO STAY HOME AND KEEP HOUSE BUT NOW WE ARE INDEPENDENT AND TAKING CARE OF OUR SELF SO IF A PERSON DONT WANT TO BE MARRIED THEN THATS THEIR CHOICE WE ARE TALKING ABOUT A FATHER IN THE PICTURE NOT AN ABSENT PARENT SO GO KILL YO' SELF U LAME ASS
In the words of my late grandmother , Why buy the cow , when you can get the milk for free?, Last I heard they weren't married and it's sad to say after two babies he probably wont marry her , I mean where she goin? NOWHERE if she is smart, she better keep a close eye on him cause soon as she turn her back , so many hoes are ready to jump on that, and you know, turkey basters aren't only for basting turkeys.
@Mom2Girls
I agree with your points too! But in this day and age, sometimes values get thrown out the window right behind the condom wrapper! LOL...but seriously here's what I'm saying:
Single parent homes are way more common in our generation! I can respect that as long as the mother is handling her business! The "wedding ring" has just about no value now-a-days. It's just a ring and the meaning behind the ring has been lost! Most people get married just because they want they show of the wedding, the marriage doesn't mean anything. As long as they aren't all on the tabloids with domestic violence and drug abuse then I see nothing wrong with that! (Ex: Whitney and Bobby, Kevin & Brit)
Hate to use the Whitney and Bobby example, but wasn't Whitney MARRIED to Bobby when she had Bobbi Kristina....and the same for Brit! I see none of the drama going on with Carmelo and La-La which says alot!!
But if you're adamant about not having children out of wedlock then do you! More blessings to you! But if you should happen to pop one out and you're not married, make sure the child knows that have parents who love and adore them! That's all I'm saying!
Great Points @ Mom2Girls
I'm a product of a single family home and have nothing but respect for my mother and women like her who took the weight of childrearing on their shoulders solo. But at the same time, what is the point of her being "engaged" if she doesn't plan on getting married? If it's not for her, that's her personal choice but why bother with the front in the first place? Either piss or get off the pot. Getting engaged isn't like a promise ring, it's done with the intent of moving towards a life long commitment. (And if their relationship isn't solid enough to warrant marriage, why continue the charade. And if neither of them really wants to get married, once again why bother with the charade?)
And how can people say they aren't ready for a commitment, or that they aren't sure they want to be with a person for the rest of their life, yet turn around and have a kid? Hello, you are bonded through that child whether you like it or not. (Unless the person you conceive with is trifling enough to disappear from the picture all together.) That's how you end up with folks who have children with people they can't stand and yet are forced to deal with because they created a life together.
Marriage is a big step, but so is giving birth to a child, so why do we treat one as a life commitment and the other as a casual choice? (At last check it's an even more profound and permanent decision. I can't give my kid back to the baby store, but I can file for a divorce.) We should be putting as much thought into the decision to bring a child into the word as we do getting married.
I've been a "baby mama" and "wife" and the truth is the "baby mama" will never get the benefits of the "wife" my final decision to marry my husband boiled down to my economic sensibilities or what i really should say is i grew up and got some damn sense i've been married twice 1st for love 2nd for money and i am much happier this time around, she will eventually trick him into marrying her, hell i could offer her some pointers if she needs them
People should get married before they have children becuase it's what God wants! I have nothing against baby momma's (my mother was a single parent/baby momma) and no a marriage dosn't mean the relationship will last ( I was a product of a marriage and I barely even know my father)but these are Gods rules.
Black women are more than just women to sleep with a make babies with. I find it funny when it's a black girlfriend she never makes it down the aile yet so many white women of NBA/NFL players are rushed down the aile (with out pre-nupts.
OMG..I hate to sound shallow but La-La has top greatest racks of all time......SMH....Carmelo might as well marry her...they got a family and shyt...you got homie...
Its cheaper to keep her...!! Learn from the guys that came before you...i.e. Diddy,Eminem,BabyFace,Michael Jordan....Juanita got 130-150 mil..dude it's not worth it....Marry her..!!
i truly believe men look at "their wife" differently than they look at "their baby's mama". and are any of you who say it doesn't matter if you're married actually married?
because if you're not...sit down and shut up. LaLa is not just a Mom or a girlfriend to an NBA player- she has a career to think about...this is not a good look for her. Well, I guess we'll see what MTV and VH-1 do.
carmello does not want to marry her, if he did, he would have been done this. he doesn't see her as his wife; now rememeber my words. One day, when he finally leaves her, he'll marry whoever he's with then. because men know from day one whether or not you are marriage material for them, or girlfriend, or baby mama. she is a baby mama. and if by chance he does marry him, it will be because he would not have been his wife, and her pressuring him would have worn him down.
I watched this debate when it was about Monica, and didn’t say anything (mostly because I don’t like the concept of registering on a gossip website to put my two cents in) but morality issues aside:
NO a ring and a piece of paper do not ensure a happy marriage and stable environment for husband, wife, and child (and if that is what you think CLEARLY marriage isn’t for you), but it DOES provide numerous legal, economic, and social benefits.
*shrugs* Maybe I’m just 24 and old fashioned, but on what planet is a living, breathing expression of love (a child) LESS of a commitment than marriage? ANYONE?
I’m not trying to down my fellow men and women who choose to have children out of wedlock by any means. You have to live your life the way you see fit. But when will we as a people and a community believe that maybe broken “families” are not the optimum choice?
I want my children to know they were planned, desired, and accommodated for to the absolute best of my ability before I choose to bring any in this world. I don’t feel like I can say that unless I have dedicated the rest of my life to their father and thus our family as a whole. Sure, there are no guarantees but life has no guarantees. All you can do, is try.
The marriage issue here is a legit question. First off, they may never get married; 4 years is way too long to be engaged. An engagement shouldn't be more than 2 years at the max.
I'm not saying he's stringing her along but it damn sure looks that way. Baby#2 on the way and no wedding date? I'm from the old school and believe that you shouldn't be poppin out babies left and right without some type of commitment. He already has the milk, so why should he buy the damn cow????
If she is not careful, she will be another dumb ass Kim Porter in the making, poppin out babies only to realize ten years later, the man never had no intention of marrying her.
Get the ring FIRST ladies!!! Marry only for love; if you marry for any other reason (like money) than you are doomed from the start and setting yourself up to fail.
ruthless obviously got banged and abandoned by some celeb guy haha you shoulda listened to ciara "my goodies, my goodies, my goodies... NOT MY GOODIES!!" haha ah haaa
and i totally side with lusil1976 babies do NOT keep a man around neither does marriage carmello is with la la cuz HE WANTS TO BE WITH LA LA
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“What you keep in the dark comes to light,” a statement in which we’ve all heard and probably have used once or multiple times. However, when we’re actually in a situation in which the truth is distorted or hidden, is it really better to know? Or should we follow the proposal of Mario Winans of not wanting to know?
In a previous and highly controversial note “Power of the P-U-S-S-Y” I stated that both men and women cheat, however, I went on to elaborate on the different reasons leading to their infidelities. Women, I said, cheat for a legitimate reason; because we are in search of fulfillment when things in our relationship are continuously neglected. Meanwhile, men cheat because they fall victim of a woman’s ultimate power… Her [EXPLETIVE].
Within this past week, I’ve held several conversations with a male individual who states and stands by the statement, “it is in a man’s nature to be with more than one woman.” Scratching my head in utter confusion and divergence, I ask him to elaborate. He then goes on to tell me:
“There is no such thing as a loyal or faithful man. A man controls his actions [infidelities] when he feels he has something he doesn’t want to compromise or jeopardize in compensation for his actions; may it be a wife, his family, etc. Although a man may choose to control his infidelities, it doesn’t affect the fact that it’s in his nature to be with more than one woman, thus, any man who isn’t gay or is in his right mind are not exempt and will at some point think about it [another woman].”
Still a little thrown off and curious to get a second man’s opinion, I write my good friend Latavious asking him his perspective on this statement. His response, “It's human nature to indulge in carnal desires. It's human nature to be selfish, and to lust and want something that doesn't belong to them. So in that sense yes, I agree. But it's in a woman's nature also.”
Is it really in a woman’s nature to be with more than one man? Using Latavious’ perspective to challenge that of Man X, I get the following response; “If dick was in a woman’s nature, this place [the world] would be chaotic. If women loved sex and thought about sex as much as men, there’d hardly be any relationships. Women are negative, men are positive, and the two opposites attract. To love sex and think about it a lot is not in a woman’s nature.”
Again I scratch my head. I know a few women who love sex and think about it a lot [I plead the fifth lol]. So why is it too not in a woman’s nature? Of course Man X has an answer for this as well.
“Women have sex because they feel like it or are in the mood. Women have sex to satisfy their man or have a reason to do it.” On the contrary, “it’s automatic for men. Men don’t have to know the girl or her name. It’s simply in a man’s nature. Being emotional is a woman’s nature; being sensitive, wanting affection, and nurturing. Women are natural nurturers.”
So here I am now sitting at my laptop, my mind swarming with questions, thoughts, and utter confusion. I now second guess the views discussed and argued in my previous note “Power of the P-U-S-S-Y.” Do men cheat because they are weak and fall victim to a woman’s [EXPLETIVE]? Or do men cheat simply because it is in their nature?
Is it a fact that because we cannot think like men, understand and interpret like men, or relate to men completely [because we are women] that we don’t believe it is a man’s nature to be with more than one woman? If you know your history, you know we’ve all derived from Africa, the Mother Land. You know that polygamy is and has always been practiced here. Have we fallen victim to western world teachings declaring one man to one woman is right and anything different is wrong?
Who am I to say? I’m just one woman and I’ll be damned if my man is running around creeping with another woman. And that’s why I say:
“If it is a man’s nature to be with more than one woman, then leave me in the dark before a crime comes to light!”
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itiswhatitis - truer words were never spoken
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RDR - Right On!!!!
Mom2girls, ttiiaa77, and Guilty_Pleasure I could not have said it better. If girls are so unsure of marriage then it is because the pickins are very slim. Most, I didn't say all , but most black men do not work, most do not believe in education, they all just wanna be rap stars and basketball playa's. That's why most black women make more money than their men. I ride the train to work every day and you can count on one hand the number of young black men going to work in a suit or business attire.
@ BRONXBOMBSHELL215
SHUT UP YOU IGNORANT BYTCH !
U HAVE NO CLUE OF THE WISDOM OF WHAT I'M SAYING, BUT THE PEOPLE ON HERE WITH SENSE KNOW WHAT IM TALKIN ABOUT !
DON'T HAVE KIDS WITH SOMEONE YOU DON'T WANT TO MARRY !!!
KIDS NEED A MOMMY AND A DADDY !!!
NYGGAS ARE F!%#KED UP FOR THE MOST PART CUZ THEY DIDN'T HAVE NO DADDY GROWIN UP !
I WOULD HATE TO THINK WHERE I WOULD BE IF I DIDN'T HAVE MY FATHER IN MY LIFE.
MY PARENTS DEVOTED THEIR LIVES TO EACH OTHER BEFORE THEY HAD KIDS, SO EVEN THOUGH THEY DIVORCED, THEY WERE STILL COMMITTED TO BEING IN OUR LIVES !!!
THIS IS BECAUSE THEY WERE MARRIED STUPID !
IF YOU CAN'T COMMIT TO A WOMAN, WHY IN THE HELL SHOULD SHE HAVE KIDS WITH YOU ???
SHE ISN'T SURE YOU ARE GONNA BE THERE FOR THE KIDS THROUGHOUT THEIR LIVES.
BOTTOM LINE !!!
SINGLE MOTHERHOOD IS KILLING THE BLACK COMMUNITY !
THIS IS THE DESTRUCTION OF THE BLACK FAMILY AND BLACK RACE AS A WHOLE !!!
F$@#K BABY'S MOMMAS !
I guess a lot of the old heads forgot about why the term "shotgun wedding" was invented in the first place, LOL!
Believe me the younger generation is doing the same thing people were doing 50 or more years ago.
Only back then people were so concerned with their damn reputation than the sanctity of marriage that now the divorce rate is up to 50%.
I've seen kids from divorced parents have a much harder time copping with life then kids who's parents are together, but aren't married. Why is that?
FIRST OF ALL...I AM NOT IN HERE TO JUDGE ANYONE...BUT IF IT IS IN THE BIBLE THEN IT'S TRUE..NO IF'S AND'S OR BUT'S....MEN AND WOMEN SHOULD BE MARRIED BEFORE THEY START A FAMILY...REALLY JUST TO BE PRECISE..THEY SHOULD BE MARRIED BEFORE THEY HAVE SEX....IN NO WAY SHAPE OR FORM AM I TRYING TO DEBATE WITH ANYONE....JUST MY LIL' TWO CENTS
@KATTDADDY.....WIT' YO' PASSIONATE SELF..LOL
People are so ignorant. How can you judge when you are more than likely in the same predicament. Then alot of you probably have more than 1 child by different men. Misery loves company. Black people never like to see other black people happy when you would kill just to have a man acknowledge you. Grow up people! Stop being so judgmental because while you are HATIN, they are laughin all the way to the bank. Nothin is guaranteed especially marriage so if they r happy let them be happy. STOP THE 'CRABS IN A BARREL'MENTALITY..
Marriage is a commitment....it says to both individuals that I love you to point of sharing my last name with you and I am willing to dedicate my life to you. Along the way there will be bumps and there may be failure, but that is a part of life. No marriage is perfect. But to demand less then someone's full love and commitment is unacceptable. Marriage entails more than just a piece of paper. If Melo was to die tomorrow what ground does LaLa have to stand on if his family decides that she is not entitled to anything...what survivor benefits is she entitled to by law? Yes, I understand that they are both rich and can afford to take care of themselves but lets be real. The average young woman is watching them thinking it is okay to have a baby out of wedlock and be like "LaLa". That is why the welfare rate is so high in the US, because so many women are thinking the same way that many on this site are thinking. Why get married if they are happy the way they are....we can keep having kids because he loves me why set your standards so low and help produce more B/A/S/T/A/R/D/S (yes, that is what the children are called). Baby Mothers, don't get offended, because I was born one myself...but I bet my daughter won't be. My mother taught me that! How many single mothers do you know right now you think there life is much better for not being in a marriage? Were are the male role models for the male children...Jay-Z and 50 cents? How are these single women teaching their daughters to respect theirselves and not let men walk all over them when they are allow the men to treat them like a piece of meat. I am sorry, I will never be a "baby mama". Not saying that my marriage will last forever because as we know, [EXPLETIVE] happpens. But, I know that I have a better chance at living happily because me and my husband were willing to make the sacrifice to ensure each others happiness. Marriage is about growth and maturity...if you are not ready for marriage then right DON'T DO IT. But, if any person (male or female) is good enough to have 2 children by then they should consider you good enough to marry. Women...please quit settling for the baby mama drama that LaLa will have in a few years and find a man that is willing to dedicate his life, soul, and last breathe to you.
Once again my opinion....by the way my choice was met, date, engaged for 1 year and them marriage. That was a 5 year plan and now it is time to plan the children.
WELL i AGREE WiTH YOU ALL iN A WAY i THiNK THAT OkK HAVE 1 CHiLD && YUR NOT MARRiED...OKk..BUT TO BE BRiNGiNG ANOTHER CHiLD iNTO THiS WORLD && NOT BE MARRiED && TO BE iNGAGED 4 THAT MANY YEARS iS BULL..&& THOSE PEOPLE WHO ARE SAYiNG SHE'S SMART..SHES HAViNG BABiES BY HiM 4 CASH...& YOU WOULD CALL THAT SMART..MORE LiKE TRASHY && CLASSLESS...WHY SELL YOUR SELF SHORT..&& LiKE SOMEONE SAiD EARLiER..iTS BASiCALLY LiKE HE'S SAYiNG SHE'S GOOD ENOUGH 2 HAVE SEX WiTH BUT NOT GOOD ENOUGH TO MARRY & SPEND THE REST OF MY LiFE WiTH...
i PERSONALLY THiNK THAT LALA iS SELLiNG HERSELF SHORT BUT i WiSH THEM ALL THE LUCK iN THE WORLD && HOPES THiS THiNG WORKS OUT && THEiR RELATiONSHiP SURViVES FOR THE SAKE OF THEiR CHiLD(REN).
@ jakey
Kudos to you for reading my post and recognizing the common sense I spoke. It sounds real harsh, but it's so important is why I'm so passionate about this.
To answer your question:
(so if by chance you slip up and have a child with someone without considering them as a "life partner" is it best to raise a child in a home that has a loveless marriage or best to just be two separated, but loving active parents to your child(ren)??????????)
Of course it's better to separate than to raise a child in a loveless home.
But you can't compare a bad 2 parent home with a good single mother ! It's not fair or equal.
On the other hand, "A GOOD 2 PARENT HOUSEHOLD IS ALWAYS BETTER THAN A GOOD ONE PARENT HOUSEHOLD, PERIOD" !!!
This is a no brainer. This is why marriage is so important.
It's one thing to divorce, it's another to bring a child into this world knowing damn well the daddy ain't committed to you.
At least the married folks tried to give a kid everything it needs.
BOTTOM LINE, IF BABIES COULD TALK THEY WOULD WANT BOTH PARENTS NOT JUST ONE !!!
2 GOOD PARENTS ARE ALWAYS BETTER THAN 1 GOOD PARENT !
MY GAWD' SOME OF YOU FOLKS WHO DIDN'T GROW UP WIT DADDIES HAVE NO CLUE WHAT YOU MISSED !
FATHERS GIVE GUIDANCE AND INFLUENCE TO SONS AND DAUGHTERS THAT A MOTHER CANNOT POSSIBLY GIVE, AND VICE VERSA.
MOST NYGGAS I KNOW THAT GREW UP WITHOUT A DADDY DON'T RESECT THEIR MOMMAS !!!
THEY RUN THE STREETS TALKIN THAT I LOVE MOMS SHYTE, BUT DON'T RESPECT HER ENOUGH TO LEAD PRODUCTIVE LIVES.
F$@#K BABY MOMMAS !
THIS SHYTE IS TEARIN OUR COMMUNITY UP !!!
U GOT SHAQUITA HAVIN 4 BABIES BY FOUR DIFFERENT MEN, NONE OF THEM MUFUKKAS INVOLED IN THEY KIDS LIVES !
THESE LIL NYGGAS GROW UP TO BE F$@#KING STREET TERRORISTS, SELING DOPE, ROBBIN FOLKS, KILLIN OTHER NYGGAS, AND THEN TURN AROUND AND HAVE 4 BABIES EACH THAT ALSO TURN INTO LIL STREET TERRORISTS !!!
THE DAUGHTERS GROW UP AND GET PREGNANT BY SOME OTHER LIL STREET TERRORIST, HAS 4 MORE BABIES THAT ALSO GROW UP INTO STREET TERRORISTS AND GHETTO @SS BABY MAKIN MACHINES.
NONE OF THESE LIL MUFUKKAS HAVE DADDIES !
@kattdaddy2...I agree with alot that you are saying. But, I still can't disrespect "baby mommas" like I said, my mother was one. What people fail to understand is that children learn from their parents. You teach a illiterate mother to read and her child will more and likely graduate highschool. You teach a mother how to demand respect for herself and her daughter will expect nothing less.
To assume that all Baby mama's are tearing our community down is incorrect. That is an individual thing a woman can have 3 pregnacies, but raise all three children to respect themselves and demand respect from others. These children (as I have done) can see the mistakes that the parent (or parents) have made and act accordingly in their life as to not make the same mistakes. It happens! The cycle of failure does not always continue.
I saw in Ebony about two years ago that they were married. So once again MTO is getting us to go against each other.
I agree with family values and marriage and believe that kids benefit from "TWO GOOD PARENTS" because just because there are two parents in the home does not mean they are good parents etc. (Bobby and Whitney, the guy that shot up Virginia tech, and the kids at Culumbine) kids do not grow up to be thugs because they are without fathers they become that way because of how they are raised. In some cases single mothers do good jobs not because they want to but because they have to. Sen. Barack Obama, Dr. Ian Smith, and Oprah were raised by single parents and that is not how they turned out. It's not allways the quanity of parents it's the quality of parents. I'm not speaking against the sanctity of marriage but it's not fair to judge kids based on the mistakes their parents have made. I have a friend right now who is married in name only, instead of her husband putting food on the table for his kids he is spending money on a car he can't afford, so how do you think that is affecting the kids,seeing dad in the home doing nothing. We do need to become more responsible, but lets not put down all those single women who have raised successful black men and women. That's just my opinion.
As far as the people who are saying look at what it's doing to our community, you are right, but putting lables on a child who haven't made their way out into the world is not helping nor is putting one another down for their mistakes is not improving our community either.
"Black women are more than just women to sleep with a make babies with. I find it funny when it's a black girlfriend she never makes it down the aile yet so many white women of NBA/NFL players are rushed down the aile (with out pre-nupts." ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Interesting spin....There seem to be far more African American baby-mommas than White Baby mommas with these professional athletes...the White women get 'wifed' and the Black women are just the baby's mommas mommas mommas....
That may be a overgeneralization but it seems like it.
Whay is that?
Only ignorant ass folks, n****s that's scared to commit and those who don't have good examples of marriage in their families say the same BS: "Marriage is just a piece of paper"
That's b**s**t!! For example, living with someone for 13 years and being married TO someone for 13 years is NOT the same thing, no matter how you slice it.
@ KATTDADDY
YOU THINK THAT YOU ARE SPEAKING KNOWLEDGE FIRST OF ALL YOU SOUND REALLY STUPID JUMPING OFF TALKING ABOUT [EXPLETIVE] BABY MAMS AND [EXPLETIVE] BYTCHES. NOW HOW IS IT YOU DISRESPECTING WOMEN TEARING DOWN OUR COMMUNITY BUT TWO PEOPLE WHO CAN TAKE OF THEIR CHILDREN TEARING DOWN THE COMMUNITY I DONT CARE WHAT YOU SAY ABOUT ME A-S-S HOLE CASE YOU SOUND DUMB YOU CAN NOT SIT HERE AND TELL ANY ONE TO GET MARRIED UNTIL THE TIME IS RIGHT AND IF SHE GETS PREGNANT WHAT WOULD IT BE BETTER IF SHE GOT AN ABORTION TO PLEASE JUDGING A-S-S HOLES LIKE YOU GET YOUR SELF SOME BUSINESS AND STOP JUDGING OTHER PEOPLES LIVES CAUSE YOU DO NOT LOOK SO TOGETHER YOUR DAMN SELF
Y'ALL GOT TO FEEL ME THE=IS IDIOT JUST BUST OUT [EXPLETIVE] BYTCHES AND BABY MAMAS ISNT HE TEARING BLACK WOMEN DOWN THATS WHY I EVEN ACKNOWLEDGEDED THE A-S-S HOLE BECAUSE HE ACTING LIKE HE HAS SO MUCH RESPECT FOR OUR SOCIETY BUT YET HE SAYS SHI-T LIKE THAT. (EVERYONE ELSE PLEASE FORGIVE ME I DONT USUALLY SAY ANYTHING ABOUT ANYONES POSTS CUZ IT IS OUR OPINIONS BUT THAT IS JUST IGNORANT)
Hey KattDaddy I like this one: MOST NYGGAS I KNOW THAT GREW UP WITHOUT A DADDY DON'T RESPECT THEIR MOMMAS !!! THEY RUN THE STREETS TALKIN THAT I LOVE MOMS SHYTE, BUT DON'T RESPECT HER ENOUGH TO LEAD PRODUCTIVE LIVES.
I know men like this! Real talk [SPAM][SPAM]____________
To the women that are so angry, it's O.k, I understand, no one likes to be told that their doodoo stinks!!! How many of you baby's momma's out there have worked 2-3 jobs to take care of your children because no father was in site or because his child support payment is next to nothing?????? (raise your hands up HIGH so I can count)
I'll say it again: CAREER FIRST!!! MEN and BABIES later!!!!!!!!!!!
My mom was a single mother and I would NEVER make the same mistakes she did!!! NEVER! That's not to say I don't respect or love her because I do with all my heart but she told me when I was 16 how hard it was when she was pregnant WITH ME at 16.
@kattdaddy I guess you hate baby daddy's too. It sound like it's the baby daddy's that you mad at bruh!
@bronxbombshell215 I'm with you on that one... lol how buddy gonna act like he all smart and interested in building the black family when he call his own women b**ches.. Lol..
Another thing LaLa is with her "baby daddy" ...she not raising her son alone. 2nd just because your a single mother doesn't mean your kids gonna be street hustlers and shyt. Most kids that end up like that is because they are growing up poor, parents on crack, daddy in jail, and products of their environment...shyt some kids thats all they see...not cause they momma not married to the daddy.
Yall looking at yall life and trying to make decisions based on YOUR CIRCUMSTANCE... Shyt life is hard for some folks...
I'm not saying that marriage is not a wonderful thing to share with someone...I personally want to marry and have kids, but I don't think women should walk in the hall of Shame for the rest of her life just cause she had a baby outta wedlock.
TO THE SMART FOLKS ......
NUFF RESPECT CUZ YOU KNOW WHAT IM SAYIN IS TRUE !
WE NEED TO BRING BACK THE "SHAME OF ILLEGITIMACY" !!!
MAYBE U BYTCHES WILL STOP HAVIN THESE "LIL BASTARDS" WHEN IT AIN'T COOL NO MORE !
THE GUBMENT MAKES IT EASY, IF U AIN'T GOT A BABY DADDY, THE WELFARE CHECK WILL BE YOUR BABY'S DADDY !
THIS IS ONE PEICE OF THE PUZZLE OF WHY WE AS BLACK FOLKS ARE F$@#KED UP !
My black people can be so ignorant.
We try to justify actions and why people do certain things when we all know you that you are supposed to marry the person you are sharing your life with and building a family with.
If you gonnna do it do it right....that's my motto.
They are going to have two kids together, live together but not get married.... that's just plan ignorant
TO ALL MY DETRACTORS:
@ BRONXBOMSHELL215
(NOW HOW IS IT YOU DISRESPECTING WOMEN TEARING DOWN OUR COMMUNITY BUT TWO PEOPLE WHO CAN TAKE OF THEIR CHILDREN TEARING DOWN THE COMMUNITY)
MAYBE THEY CAN TAKE CARE OF THEIR KIDS, BUT THAT AIN'T THE NORM FOR BABY MOMMAS ! MOST OF THEM ON WELFARE AND IM TAKIN CARE OF THEY DAMN KIDS ! THEY SET A BAD EXAMPLE IS ALL IM SAYIN.
(YOU CAN NOT SIT HERE AND TELL ANY ONE TO GET MARRIED UNTIL THE TIME IS RIGHT AND IF SHE GETS PREGNANT WHAT WOULD IT BE BETTER IF SHE GOT AN ABORTION)
NO IDIOT ! IT WOULD BE BETTER IF SHE DIDN'T GET PREGNANT UNTIL SHE IS READY TO MARRY THE MAN SHE WANTS TO HAVE KIDS BY !!!
MOST SINGLE MOTHERS HAVE KIDS BY "IRRESPONSIBLE ACCIDENT" !
(ISNT HE TEARING BLACK WOMEN DOWN )
GAWD'AM RIGHT IM TEARING THEY @SSES DOWN ! WHEN YOUR IRRESPONSIBILITY IS ONE OF THE GREAT SOURCES OF WHY THE BLACK FAMILY IS BEING DESTROYED, HELL YEAH IMMA TEAR YO @SS DOWN BYTCH !
@ ttiiaa77
U already know what the real deal is, real talk ! Keep sittin that real, it's the only thing that will save us as a people.
@ SmileyPeach
(I guess you hate baby daddy's too. It sound like it's the baby daddy's that you mad at bruh! )
TRUE DAT, BUT I HATE THE BABY MOMMAS EVEN MORE !
THEY ARE THE GATEKEEPERS IN THIS SITUATION !
THEY ARE THE ONES THAT GET PREGNANT !
THEY ARE THE ONES THAT GET THAT WELFARE CHECK !
THEY ARE THE ONES THAT KEEP HAVIN BABIES BY DIFFERENT MEN EVEN AFTER THE FIRST NYGGA LEFT !
BOTTOM LINE, DON'T GET PREGNANT AND HAVE KIDS BY A MAN YOU AIN'T GONNA MARRY, PERIOD !
BECAUSE CHANCES ARE REAL GOOD THAT HE WILL LEAVE YO @SS WITH NOTHING WHEN HE'S SICK OF YOUR FAT @SS !!!
IF THIS NYGGA DIES TOMORROW, THE KIDS WILL GET PAID BUT LALA WON'T GET SHYTE CUZ SHE'S "JUST A BABY'S MAMA" !!!!
SHE WENT AND BORE 2 CHILDERN BY THIS NYGGA AND STILL AIN'T GETTIN NO RESPECT !
WIVES ARE RESPECTED ! NO BABY'S MAMA'S !
F@$#K THEM BYTCHES !!!
she's just doin what any other chick with little or no ambition, education, sense of self would do....drop babies for dudes with $. so fraggle rock is no different frm any other chick on the street sellin herself short ON PURPOSE. congrats my a/s/s.
newsflash women: you have a weapon WAY more powerful than p/u/s/s/i trust me, i could use my face n body 2 get it but i use my brain and that gains admiration, money AND respect.
Whoa, One chick get pregnant from an NBA player and it erupts all this conflict, Bottomline, it doesn't matter about Mom and Dad raising kids or Single parent raising kids, it's all about the upbringing period......Right values or teaching the kids from right or wrong........it's Monday too early in the week for all that.....Chill
I DONT USUALLY POST COMMENTS ON THIS B.S., BUT I JUS HAD TO ON THIS ONE...........WAT KINDA SHYT IS DIS MTO........JUS THE OTHER DAY YALL WAS TALKIN BAD ABOUT MONICA, AND HOW SHE WAS HAVING KIDS OUT OF WEDLOCK NOT SETTING A GOOD EXAMPLE FOR OTHERS, NOWITS LIKE YALL PRAISIN LA-LA FOR DOING THE EXACT SAME THING MONICA IS DOING IS IT BECUZ ITS WITH C. ANTHONY? WHO GIVES A FUKK WRONG IS WRONG...........WELL CONGRATS TO LA-LA AND MELO FINE AZZ
@ kattdaddy...
if you go back to the monica thread you will see that i said exactly what you are saying about FAMILY being the basic foundation of every civilization and culture and the breakdown of the black family is the ultimate cause of all of our problems (tied with slavery but slavery broke up the black family and ruined the family structure/system). Basically I agree with you and MOM2GIRLS and many of the other voices off reason on here. How can you make a commitment to bring a life into the world, but not declare to spiritually, legally, physically, mentally and emotionally bind yourself to another? That is retarded. To commit to having a child is a bigger commitment than getting married, which is an enormous decision in and of itself. I'm only 23 so I don't think I'm old fashioned. I just have morals.
Also, nowadays with the technology and education in the US, babies are no longer ACCIDENTS. Beating raw and ending up preggers does not constitute an accident. Use condoms and medicinal birth control as well. Also, if all you get from going raw is a baby, you should thank the heavens because AIDS is not a joke people. And let's be honest, it's more than likely Melo cheats so she is not special by saying she has his seeds because many others will probably be saying it soon as well. Don't have a child with someone you are afraid to marry. Either way you'll be bonded with someone for life. To the TRICKS saying now she's set for life. I feel bad for your children or future children. Children are not checks.
@ Kattdaddy:
I must add also though that I don't agree with you calling women bytches. The destruction of the family system is BOTH the fault of the men and women. Please don't further disrespect our people and dumb down your argument, because I do believe what you saying has merit and I agree with it. Just please try to do so without sounding misogynistic. I say this to you though with the utmost of respect because I feel you will understand what I'm saying.
HAVING ILLEGITIMATE CHILDREN IS NOT CUTE AND NOT GOOD FOR OUR PEOPLE OR ANY PEOPLE FOR THAT MATTER...BUT WE DEFINITELY CAN NOT AFFORD TO FURTHER HELP WITH THE GENOCIDE OF OUR PEOPLE. WE ARE BECOMING OUR OWN WORSE ENEMIES. I WISH MORE PEOPLE OF MY GENERATION HAD MORALS. CHECK OUT THE MONICA POST...
Oh and other STD's are no joke either and many you can get even with condoms but they (the powers that be) will never come out and tell us that en masse.
also, i wrote TRICKS because you are not women if you use your child as a check. you are a trifling bird ass trick. I know I made my otherwise semi-intellectual comment vulgar with that comment but it was needed to differentiate two separate groups of females.
Wow!!! I am not surprised. At this point in the relationship a marriage is doubtful, but then again that one NBA player married his baby mama after 13yrs of hittin it. Now that's trifling. I would not marry after such a long "engagement" y'all remember what happened with Treach and Pepa, nine years together and they couldn't even last what 2-3yrs. The art of man trapping, Shaquille had no intentions of marrying Shaunie, at least according to interiews earlier in the year they were married, but found out in like August of that year she was pregnant with baby #3 and they were married in October. It's a no win situation to argue about the marriage issue only time will tell where the relationship will go.
So many of our people are so delusional today. Some of ya'll have been saying that it doesn't take a piece of paper to show the committment. If a man is "committed" enough to have a child with you (that's 18+ years of committment) then why aren't you good enough for him to marry you? Ya'll gonna be stuck together anyway.
You got love on lawaway & you're letting him make the lowest possible payments & you're still letting him get the merchandise. Get some standards darling & set a good example for your children. Some of the problem with our society today is that women allow men to treat them with such disrespect. You have royal blood running through your veins ladies. Make him treat you like the Queen you are.
First of all KATTDADDY are you still fookin, becuase if you are and you are not married, shut the hell up, in God's eyesight it is still the same thing, Fornication is fonrication, having a baby DOES NOT CHANGE THE FACT THAT U FOOKED OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE!!!all you judgmental [EXPLETIVE] and having abortions does not count either your fake azz was still pregnant and conceived.
It has been confirmed since all of you little perfect angels were dogging out LALA, that she is not even pregnant. [SPAM] has lied or gotten some bad reporting again. MTO check your sources, and the rest of you get out of the glass houses or put down the stones..Damn!!!Thats why I don't deal with black women , we can tear each other down so fast, and it does not matter if she is light skinned or not she gets dogged too...So fo you mofos need to grow up or come back when you are old enough!!!
i find it interesting you refer to LaLa as a black woman Cadee because an interview I saw with her a few years back when she first got the MTV gig she was adamant to prove and point out that she is not black, she is Puerto Rican...
haha, just as they see me as a black woman Ms. LaLa...so are you. you just grew up in a purely spanish speaking household most likely.
and didn't jLo deny she was preggers up until the 7 month...so mto can be wrong or right...we will see in 8 months...
IF this is true, congrats and good luck! MARRIAGE DOESN'T CONFIRM OR GURANTEE ANYTHING! IT ALSO DOESN'T EQUAL AUTOMATIC BALANCE FOR CHILDREN! Really getting married is about getting taxed less. And plus if you get divorced which is likely since people are hos/non-commital these days, then it will be A LOT OF DRAMA, THROW KIDS IN, AND IT'S A BIG MESS.
and carmelo is half puerto rican...but best believe that puerto rican side is moreno or negrito...
so he is black and blacker...just like LaLa but she apparently doesn't acknowledge she is a black woman with a Puerto Rican heritage. whatever, it doesn't matter to me...just wanted to point that out.
i do wish them a happy and safe pregnancy though because i do not wish miscarriages and children with disabilities on anyone. i pray for all babies because they are innocent and don't ask to be born.
also to LaLa's friend. yes he is where he needs to be when she needs him... but where is he in the meantime...so it's ok as long as when she calls he comes home? sounds like that dumb azz (but infectiously catchy) 90's song He's Mine by Mokenstef. hahaha...
If they are so in love he would've married her by now. she obviously wanted to be married cuz she said yes to his "proposal" which happened when he was 20 (cuz he's an 84 baby like me). So if they wanted to be married and are popping out kids, what's the hold up?
ok, i'm done. just wanted to interact for a bit. have a nice night people!
To 600 pounds, i do believe marriage is in the bible, and every good woman wants to be claimed by the man they are already being a wife to .it's also a form of respect, i would want to be respected by the the man im loving and respecting. oh and by the way this photo is nasty , and you should stop playing cause it's not funny, nobody wants to see all that, and you know that your azz , stop fronting!
Congrats to them...They are a nice looking couple and they seem to really love each other....LaLa was already established in a career and she probably makes good money..so I don't understand people saying she is using Melo or getting over. People say me and her favor a lot..so I wish them all the happiness in the world....You can't satisfy black people because if he was with a white chick you would be talking "ish" and for your information LaLa and Carmelo are both Hispanic, so lets not make it into a race issue.I know their son is a cutie pie!!
Kattdaddy2... I'm going to beg to differ with you on that one. Marrying someone doesn't ensure that that person will be around your child forever; mates leave, they change, and they die and a child support check every month doesn't fill the spot of a good father. On the contrary though (whereas I am agreeing with you) I see when Monica found herself in this same situation MTO & their faithful readers would've damn near killed her and just because it's "LaLa" everything is fine? If they're already engaged with two children, they SHOULD be married. Period.
To all i've offended, i apologize...
However, I will never apologize for calling "certain women bytches" !
Some women are, and some women aren't !
It's just the truth. I reserve this word for those women, and describe them as such because that's what they are, for whatever reason.
In this case, casually playing devil's advocate to the destruction of the black family.
Everyone has been irresponsible at points in our lives, but we don't now justify what we did just because "it happened" ???
We should acknowledge as a standard traditional families as something to aspire to.
He aint gon marry her ass...watch he gon marry another bitch! See right now desperation is settin in with Lala so she think babies gon hold him and it won't. He is fine as HELL I can see WHY she doin it but she gonna be up at night with those babies and he'll be on to the NEXT NEW BITCH!
She should have waited to see if this dude was gonna [EXPLETIVE] or get off the POT with this first child...LMAO!
I can remember when LaLa was fat, with a jacked-up shape and a busted-up weave. MTV's checks got her NBA ready. Now, those checks stopped so she's gotta stay on the NBA's payroll. Makes sense to me. She'll just be a professional "fiance/baby mama", cuz her 5 min. of fame are up and he damn sure won't be marrying her.
Some people are saying maybe she doesn't want to get married if so, why is she engaged to be married? I've seen her flashing it all around when they first got engaged. See the thing is that was enough for her because that's all she's getting anyway, an engagment ring. So if she is content with her promise ring and "baby daddy" then let her be. A woman knows how to protect herself from getting pregnant so that means she knows how not to protect herself to get pregnant. If La La is happy then I'm happy for her.
I wanted 2 personally let you all know that Lala is not pregnant. We are happy raising our son, Kiyan at this time and devoting all of our attention 2 him. You all know that if I have anything to announce, you'll hear it straight from me first! Peace. -Carmelo Anthonys Bulletin On His Official Myspace. Posted 1.28.2008 At 8:47 PM.
Ok La La, I see your Motto is: DESPERATE TIMES CALLS FOR DESPERATE MEASURES. It's so sad 2 see how LOW this chick has to go just 2 try to keep this man. I mean let's be realistic. La La is not attractive. And belive me she knows this. There is alot of tough competition out there so she basically just secured her future. She knows exactly what she's doing. I mean what multi-million dollar man was she going to find? She's a Z-LISTER! Melo basically was young & dumb when he met her & got caught up in the "HYPE". He obviously realized this & that he probably made a mistake by getting engaged. The man did not want to get married anymore. After being engaged for 3 years La La came to reality & knew this wedding was not going 2 happen. She knew that if she didn't act fast, that she was going to lose this man! So what does a DESPERATE broad like her do? Get pregnant of course. The oldest & lowest trick in the Desperate Womens Book (written by Kim Porter). To her, this obviously was the only solution. She saw this as her opportunity, a business investment. Girl your just sad & down right DESPERATE & PATHETIC! I really believe that she's content with being "Carmelo Anthony's Fiance & Baby Momma". She's like as long as I got him, & his kids I'm good. I'm in there! She's saying to herself well he'll eventually HAVE to marry me sooner or later with all these kids. What a Bird Move! If a man don't want you, he just don't want you. Keep it moving! Trying to trap a man with a baby is not cute. That's just straight up dirty. But hey im glad it's you & not me. My conscious is clean. You on the other hand will have to live with that for the rest of your life La La. But you don't care. I'm sure you'll be alright with "Having your man, His kids, & HIS millions". I'm saying that's what you wanted, it's the life you chose.
THESE COMMENTS ARE DIRECTED NOT JUST TO LA LA BUT 2 ALL WOMEN THAT HAVE FOUND THEMSELVES IN THIS SITUATION. GET A CLUE!
Ok, I may be a day late, but I had to say this. Now everyone is basically saying Congrats to La La, but a few weeks ago, there was a story posted up about Monica having babies out of wedlock and everyone went CRAZY! This is the same thing! La La is not married to him, sooooooo....if you say it for one, say it for all. It really doesn't matter to me, because to each its own, and only ONE man can Judge, and I don't judge people. But I just wanted to point that out.
NUbian Huntress: u couldnt of said it better the part bout making a child with sum1 who u will eventually hate..Damn i hate my daughter's dad so much ..He's a LOser.... n i made that decision n i cant change it now.......I been rasing my daughter for almost 4 yrs now (since she was born) by myself... n the next time i have a child sum1 is helping me lol
idiots.... My mom has 5 children, from 4 different fathers. She was married to only one of them. I take this very personally. We were ridiculed by family members, neighbors, whomever, because we don't look alike. We resemble our parents, but we don't look "co-hesive", if you know what I'm sayin...
I absolutely hate when people have children out of wedlock! It has nothing to do with religion, because I'm almost an atheist, but it has to do with family structures. To this day, I don't feel close to ANY of my siblings (it may have something to do with us not having the same parents).
But aside from my sob story, people get defensive and say "Everybody doesn't want to get married!" True, I'm one of those people, but I'm damned sure I'm not about to pop out my boyfriend's babies, neither!
If I'm undecided about spending the rest of my life with him, why would I have a child with him? And what happens 'if' we break up? We still have this child 'together'...and does anybody ever think about the children?
Having kids because you want a mini-me? That's F**king selfish as all hell...
Oh well, at least they are able to afford and provide for them...couldn't say the same for me and my siblings' idiotic parents!
Why would he even have sex with this nasty whore.....he just ruined himself as far as marketability is concerned...you have to have a white women on your side in order to make it big..this N1gger Blew it.......He is a fool...don't he Know that all N1gger B1tches are walking AIDS carriers....damn idiot. those damn cornrows..I knew it too damn tight....cut them things off and get you a nice white girl!!!!!!
You damn baby mamas are at it again on here. Taking up for another one of your fellow baby mamas. Damn, yall stick together like roaches and make excuses for why you chose to spit out babies without a real committment. What the hell is wrong with getting married??? Do people not honor marriage anymore? Do people not want to TRY to live right? I mean, just try. Damn, we all fall short but there are some things that can be prevented such as having rugrats outside of marriage. The ones defending La La and her nasty azz behavior are baby mamas or future baby mamas. Stop making excuses for bad behavior baby mamas! Get married and keep your damn legs closed or use birth control.
Lala is NOT PREGNANT!! This is a direct comment from my friend Carmelo Anthony's myspace page he posted last night confirming this. For those who are spreading rumors you need to get a life, & stop it, & if indeed a so called source from Lala's camp is starting this, it is only a publicity stunt or some form of revenge just trying to let the other groupies know that they are still together. MTO you need to quit.
From: Carmelo Anthony
Date: 28 Jan 2008 19:47 Subject: Lala is not pregnant Body: I wanted 2 personally let you all know that Lala is not pregnant. We are happy raising our son, Kiyan at this time and devoting all of our attention 2 him. You all know that if I have anything to announce, you'll hear it straight from me first! Peace.
