: In case you’re wondering what teens think about the Chris Brown-Rihanna incident. MediaTakeOut.com got its hands on a survey conducted by a Boston government agency – here’s what they found:
The Commission's Division of Violence Prevention, surveyed 200 Boston youth ages 12 to 19, between Feb. 13 and 20, using the Chris Brown-Rihanna case to gauge their attitudes toward teen dating violence; 100 percent of those surveyed had heard about the incident. Among the findings:Interesting….71% said arguing was a normal part of a relationship 44% said fighting was a normal part of a relationship 51% said Chris Brown was responsible for the incident 46% said Rihanna was responsible for the incident 52% said both individuals were to blame for the incident, despite knowing at the time that Rihanna had been beaten badly enough to require hospital treatment 35% said the media were treating Rihanna unfairly 52% said the media were treating Chris Brown unfairly In addition, a significant number of males and females in the survey said Rihanna was destroying Chris Brown's career, and females were no less likely than males to come to Rihanna's defense.
SMT!! The media blowing this up. Yes its a very bad thing that he hit her and beat her so badly. But dang if she can forgive him that why can't the media let it go. It makes no sense why the media is hitting on Chris Brown so hard. Yes they are Celebs and role models but THEY ARE HUMAN and they make mistakes and they should be able to do what they want to do and move on. Every day women/men getting beat and they are still together. Smt leave it alone and let them live their lives.
I am so sick of people bashing Chris like is his Mike Tyson or some sh@t. I have never in my life hit someone male or female without the expectation of them hitting me back thats what you do in a fight, when you hit someone you hit them because you WANT to fight. People keep saying that a men should not hit women no matter what they do because they know that they are bigger and strong and that they should just walk away. BULLSH@T women also knows that men are bigger and stronger so shouldn't they know not to hit them. People are making him out to be some crazy abuser like he just walked in the door and beat the crap out of her because dinner wasn't ready or something not the case. Shawty stole him while he was driving yes I said stole. Who in the f@#k get their azz beat then take the keys out of the ignition and sits on them. Her story is dumb and yall just eating up.
Im tired of this story,but I blame it on both of them. Cus MTO ya'll done even reported on her havin a temper before all this mess even happened.And i dont think its right that the media and everyone just automatically runs to her side, just cus she a female.Now im not sayin that any dude she be hittin on a chick for GP.But if you a girl and you just whompin on dude constantly, and wont stop, you are goin to eventually push him to that breakin point. Seriously we are all human, and we all have that point when you cant take it anymore.Or been in that situation when you cant just walk away. Plus there are times when men do try to walk aways but you know how females will follow you till we get our point across.And Ladies honestly they get tired after while.You gotta give them a break every now and again.
But on the same not if he does hit me, I aint the only one goin to the hospital.lol.cus dude gettin messed up.
Its a crying shame when most teens aren't even properly educated by their parents to make a sound decision to see that domestic violence is wrong. I am a single father of a 7yr old daughter and I have custody of my child because she witnessed her mom in a abusive relationship get pistol whipped right in front of her. Just because Chris and Rhianna are celebrities don't me jack ish! Love isn't supposed to hurt and if Rhianna did lay the first blow Chris should of called the cops and left her ass! Case Closed!
@ Latina_sade...Hey woman! How are ya? One question tho...If ya man got a booty-call text, you saw it, and let's just say he told you something slick, like mind ya f'ckin business along with some other cocky shyt (so Chris Brown cocky) and you slap him (because you know he tryin to drop you off to be with the next bitch)...do you think that he deserves to whoop your ass??
Girl, I wish a nygga would, or in my case a bytch. You know how these fools can get when they think they're in control of the relationship and they about to go hit the next one off...and soon as they're finished, they comin to lay up with you and you better not have an attitude...
LMAO...gettin' hot at my desk...I was just wondering tho...have a good weekend!
@ dicegirl and ReEcYCuP, I agree. I don't believe in men beating on women in general but I do believe a man has the right to defend himself and restrain that bytch. Would you want someone hitting you w/ 6 inch stilletos? I know man or woman, nobody is putting their hands on me w/o catchin a bullet in the ass...it's only fair.
Chris Brown is too young to be in a relationship with his status, especially with an insecure femaale. He needs to just be single and sow his oats. If Rihanna is insecure, she needs to date the average Joe and not someone who women go crazy for. She probably did get him upset to the point that he couldn't take it anymore, however, he should have just put some PERMENANT distance between them and not beat her like he did. Whatever negativity comes from them getting back together is warranted.
if you thinkthat picture looks [EXPLETIVE] up you are adrma queeen. the way the media hyped itup i really thought he did a number on her. The media hyped athe story up. She has no black eye period!!!!!
in a tussle even if someone is trying to keep you away form them her lip is bruised but not busted.
Have ya'll ever seen anyone get their ass whipped. I seen bitches that did way better numbers on other bitches thanthis. this does not lookotme like some man went wailing on a woman.
Then the source that leaked it was a tv tabloid. come on. T-M_Z is a glorified tabloid!!!! they could have done anything to the picture.
We should be mad atthe MEDia not the stars. it is their life they do not ask Oprah, Tyra, MEDIa take out and the other bandwagonners to jump on. Oprah killed me the other day for allthe RIhanna... So if she doa crack special is she doing it for all the Oprahs!!!! The only people who keep hyping it up is the media!!!!!!!! which now a days prove to be unreliable. They report anything anyone else whispers!!!!
Fake azz hollywood!!!!!!!!!!!!
i agree w/uraq t
Violence should not be justified by men or women, so they are equally wrong. Had she kept her hands to herself there would HAVE NEVER BEEN A FIGHT! So it is her fault. If your guys cheating on you walk away break up with him don't attempt to beat the crap out of him especially while driving, what is that going to solve? People keep acting like only women can be abused that is straight up bullshit, they try to equate hitting a woman with hitting a baby or a toddler. Women are not weak meek defenseless creatures, especially BLACK WOMEN. They take tae bo, kick boxing self defense classes not to mention all the practice fight in the club and high school. So please stop with the double standards. Abuse is Abuse male or female.
@TGC The affidavit is only what she told the police(well actually it was edited and fixed by the black male hating LAPD because she is not that articulate) after she had just been cheated on, lost a fight and was dumped. Her huge ego was hurt and she was a woman scorned so I'm sure she embellished quite a bit in that story. Repeated later reports state that she did indeed start the fight(including several by the I hate Chris Brown CEO T-M-Z) We have yet to hear Chris's side of the story.
I agree with the kids.
i think this could be positive....
I think this will help al lot of couples. There are alot of females who always do this to guys b/c they assume the guy is not gonna hit a girl so they are always violent, loud, and dangerous with their men. This will probably make alot of those aggressivcev females think twice before they hit up onteir man the next time.
the message that is going out no is "No one should hit anyone period". Not once have you seen any of those celebs come out and say Ri-Ri should not have beat up on Chris with a stiletto as a weapon!!!! Man in the hood, i have seen some crackhead women beating the [EXPLETIVE] out of the men for real!!!!!That ain't right!!
I DON'T GIVE A [EXPLETIVE]...WHY WOULD A MALE SWING ON A FEMALE LIKE THAT?...***DOMESTIC ABUSE 101**= SHAKE HER AZZ...DON'T LEFT HOOK HER...NAW 4REAL ITS NOT A GOOD LOOK FOR NONE OF THEM...BUT BREEZY STILL BLEW THE ISSUE OUT OF PROPORTION...SON U GOT MONEY...HE COULD HAVE PAYED A CHICK TO SMACK HER UP..IF IT WAS THAT SERIOUS!
on a funny note. man ya'll alwys been talking about Ri-Ri star trek head. she probably get contusion putting on a hat or brushing her hair...puhlease!!!
No one has bought up her song about fighting a man on her CD. Like to seeit hear it goes:
Breakin' Dishes lyrics
I don't know who you think I am I don't know who you think I am I don't know who you think I am I don't know who you think I am
He been gone since 3:30 Been coming home lately at 3:30 I'm super cool, I've been a fool But now I'm hot and baby, you gon' get it
Now I ain't tripping, I ain't twisted I ain't demented, well, just a lil' bit I'm kicking ***, I'm taking names I'm on flame, don't come home, babe
I'm breaking dishes up in here, all night I ain't gon' stop until I see police lights I'ma fight a man tonight, I'ma fight a man tonight I'ma fight a man, a man, a m-a-n A man, a man, a m-a-n
I'm still waiting, come through the door I'm killing time, you know, bleaching your clothes I'm roasting marshmallows on the fire And what I'm burning is your attire
I'm getting restless, I'm getting tested And I can't believe he's always out every night and never checks in Is he cheating? Man, I don't know I'm looking 'round for something else to throw
I'm breaking dishes up in here, all night I ain't gon' stop until I see police lights I'ma fight a man tonight, I'ma fight a man tonight I'ma fight a man, a man, a m-a-n A man, a man, a m-a-n
I don't know who you think I am But I really don't give a damn right now If you don't come I'ma huff and puff and blow this, blow this, oh Blow this, blow this, I'ma blow this, blow this, oh Blow this, blow this, I'ma blow this, blow this, oh Blow this house, house down! Dishes breaking, dishes breaking, dishes
I'm breaking dishes up in here, all night I ain't gon' stop until I see police lights I'ma fight a man tonight, I'ma fight a man tonight I'ma fight a man, a man, a m-a-n A man, a man, a m-a-n A man, a man, a m-a-n A man, a man, a m-a-n
Breaking, breaking, breaking, breaking Dishes, dishes, dishes Breaking, breaking, breaking, breaking Dishes, dishes, dishes
Breaking, breaking, breaking, breaking Dishes, dishes, dishes Breaking, breaking, breaking, breaking Dishes, dishes, dishes
I still say we will never know the true story. The only two that know what really went down is them. When the time comes and they go public and speak on it, I feel they will be coached on what to say and how to say it. So all in a nutshell we will never know the whole truth! So how far will all these assumption, speculations and fabrications continue?
It seem like these teens has more sense than some pple on here. "A man should never hit a woman no matter what" lmfao please if u hit a man constantly expect to be hit back in my world woman or not. And ppl there are women that hit like men and they don't have to be bigger than the man for it to hurt. So stop the madness. Do to others what u want others to do to you
What do you expect? Most of these dumb as.s people out here feel the need to have someone in their life regardless if they treat them right and respect them to validate their worth. Which is said as he.ll, so it doesn't surprise me when dumb ass CHILDREN (yes, teenagers are children) and even some ADULTS would say something like that.
this only goes to show there are alot of women who is about to get their azzes whooped and a lot of future azz whoopers coming up. Bit%ches WAKE UP, u DUMB azzes! it doesn't matter who provoke what, u NEVER put ur hand on a woman, u punk azz idiots and bumb azz bit@ches! i hope when these girls start getting their azzes whoop, they remember what the said, hell, i'll bet my life these dumb bit@ches are already getting a beating. Fukking idiots.
That's because we have not gotten out of our SLAVE MENTALITY!! Plenty example of the slave mentality post on here everyday. Girls, its WRONG to hit boys. Boys, it WRONG to hit girls. PERIOD. End of story. Y'all ignorant azzes out there think this ghetto street (slave) mentality will get you somewhere (somebody hit me, I'm gonna hit them back), WHERE the FUKK has that gotten you!?!?!? Dumb-AZZES!!! No FUKKIN' WHERE!!!! You can't even get a real job! Please release yourself from the violent behavior that has been HOLD US DOWN for WAY too long! It just makes you look ignorant and keeps you (and us as a whole) from progressing!
Yall funny talking that a man should never put his hands on a woman bullshit. There are woman out there will not do nothing to another woman that is bigger than her or same size, in her face calling her every name but a child of GOD, smushing her and some more and but will turn around and hit a man simply because it is implied that a man should never put his hands on a woman funny and woman are not f@cking weaklings. Furthermore who calls 2 assistants and leave a fake message when they don't answer but not the police in the mist of a "Brutal Beating" get the f@ck outta here
@KrusherKronkite7 Its a crying shame when most teens aren't even properly educated by their parents to make a sound decision to see that domestic violence is wrong. I am a single father of a 7yr old daughter and I have custody of my child because she witnessed her mom in a abusive relationship get pistol whipped right in front of her. Just because Chris and Rhianna are celebrities don't me jack ish! Love isn't supposed to hurt and if Rhianna did lay the first blow Chris should of called the cops and left her ass! Case Closed!
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OK.. and if the news came out that Chris Brown called the cops on Rihanna for "hitting him", how many of you MEN would have clowned him forever!!
PUHLEEEZE!!!
Yes, a man should not hit a woman ever. But is it OKAY then for a woman to hit a man just b/c she knows that everyone will say he "SHOULD NOT" hit her back.
IT'S LIKE THIS. FOR ONE, IT'S NOT DOMESTIC VIOLENCE WHEN TALKING ABOUT THESE TWO. THEY ARE NOT MARRIED, LIVING TOGETHER OR HAVE KIDS. IT'S DATE VIOLENCE. BOTH OF THEM ARE TO BLAME AND I THINK THE OPRAH SHOW ON PARTS I SEEN LAST NIGHT WAS ONE SIDED. IT WAS LIKE A MAN BASHING SHOW. WHAT ABOUT THE YOUNG MEN U HEAR ABOUT BEING KILLED OR BEAT BY THEIR FEMALE FRIENDS OR WIVES? THE SHOW WASN'T BALANCE AT ALL. WE NEED TO HELP PPL NOT PUSH THEM AWAY LIKE THEY TRYING TO DO CHRIS AND RHI. PPL WE NEED TO WAKE UP AND STOP LETTING PPL DICTATE WHO WE LIKE AND SUPPOSE TO HATE. MEDIA BASHING CHRIS SO WE IN GENERAL FEEL WE HAVE TO BASH CHRIS. WAKE UP PPL.
AND TAKE THAT DAMN PICTURE DOWN. IT'S SO DAMN DISRESPECTFUL.
@eyaku08
U GOT IT ALL WRONG. THATS NOT HOW I WAS PUTTING IT.
MOST SITUATIONS LIKE THE ONE CB IS IN NOW IS WHAT MAKE N*GGAS DATE WHITE WOMEN IN THE FIRST PLACE. MOST, NOT ALL, BUT MOST BLACK WOMEN ARE JUST LIKE RIHANNA AND ARE VERY CRAZY AND OVERPROTECTIVE AND ALL THAT OTHER SH*T. U DONT GET THAT FROM WHITE WOMEN. I GOT HOMEBOYS WHO HAVE MADE THE SAME MOVE. NOT SAYIN THAT I CONDONE THIS, BUT ITS THE TRUTH.
@pennylane I AGREE. THAT PICTURE IS REAL ANNOYING NOW
@ prissy3
-------------- EXACTLY, SHE MEANING OPRAH EVEN NAME HER SHOW "TO THE RHIANNAS OF THE WORLD". I MEAN DAMN WHAT ABOUT THE MEN OF THE WORLD. THAT'S WHY U HAVE MEN BEING KILLED AND WOMEN MAKING IT TO THAT POINT OF KILLING BEFORE EVEN GETTING CAUGHT CUZ IT'S BEEN MADE A MOCKERY FOR MEN TO SAY A WOMAN IS HITTING HIM. I REMEMBER YEARS BACK IT WAS A MOVIE ON T.V. AND IT WAS ABOUT A MAN ASHAME OF BEING ABUSED AND NEVER SAID NOTHING AND WHEN HE DID IT WAS MADE A MOCKERY. CHRIS AND RHI WAS A FIGHT IT WASN'T NO ON GOING VIOLENT ACT. IF IT WAS THEN TREAT IT LIKE THAT ON BOTH PARTIES BUT DON'T USE THEM FOR RATINGS AND YOUR SHOW DIDN'T HELP A DAMN PERSON.
I think that Hispanic teenager who disagreed with Oprah on her show yesterday put it really well -It seems like Rihanna may have attacked him first, nobody likes to be hit...sometimes you can push a guy really far...seems like Rihanna took him back because she felt guilty about something.
Cudos to that chick for actually being brave enough to disagree with Oprah and Tyra!
Oh - and Lifetime had the nerve to play the "What's Love Got To Do With It" movie last night???
I said it the other day - there's a media lynchmob forming around Chris Brown, and we STILL don't know the truth about what happened.
@ MicG87 Flag post @eyaku08
U GOT IT ALL WRONG. THATS NOT HOW I WAS PUTTING IT.
MOST SITUATIONS LIKE THE ONE CB IS IN NOW IS WHAT MAKE N*GGAS DATE WHITE WOMEN IN THE FIRST PLACE. MOST, NOT ALL, BUT MOST BLACK WOMEN ARE JUST LIKE RIHANNA AND ARE VERY CRAZY AND OVERPROTECTIVE AND ALL THAT OTHER SH*T. U DONT GET THAT FROM WHITE WOMEN. I GOT HOMEBOYS WHO HAVE MADE THE SAME MOVE. NOT SAYIN THAT I CONDONE THIS, BUT ITS THE TRUTH.
---------------- I'M A MAN AND WHAT U SAYING IS NOT TRUE. YES A BLACK WOMEN CAN BE STRONG AND OVER BEARING BUT THAT'S NOT A REASON TO GO TO WHITE WOMEN. ALL THAT IS SAYING THAT YOUR HOMEBOYS ARE WEAK AND CAN'T HANDLE A LADY DISAGREEING WITH THEM OR CHALLENGING THEM. NO ALL WHITE WOMEN BUT SOME ONLY ACCEPT SHIIT FROM A BLACK MAN CUZ DEEP DOWN THEY WANT TO BE A PART OF THE BLACK COMMUNITY AND THEY KNOW WHENEVER THEY GO SOMEWHERE THEY HAVE THAT ATTENTION THEY WOULDN'T HAVE IF THEY JUST WALKED IN WITH A WHITE GUY. SO I WOULDN'T FEEL SO SPECIAL ABOUT RUNNING TO A WHITE GIRL WHO IN THE LONG RUN WILL SET YO ASS UP ON RAPE CHARGES OR HELP U GET PAID THEN HAVE A CHILD JUST TO GET SUPPORT.BOTTOMLINE IS THIS, YOUR HOMEBOYS AND EVERY MAN ON THIS SITE NEED TO MAN UP AND STOP ACTING LIKE BITCHES AND THE WOMEN NEED TO STOP ACTING LIKE U HE-MAN DARING A MAN TO HIT YOU AND ALSO STOP HITTING MEN.
@DEEP_EAST_OAKLAND_P:
No, I am a young woman who is def not part of the the Oprah and Tyra lovefest
Oprah and Tyra looked bizarre yesterday trying to give young women dating advice.
Oprah can't figure out what the hell is wrong with her own relationship with miserable Stedman.
And Tyra is so silly that she can barely ever get a date!
OF COURSE SHES TO BLAME..BUT ITS O.K. CHRIS BROWN GON DO IT AGAIN AN AGAIN UNTIL RHIANNA DUMB ASS LEARN SOMETHING FOR A CHANGE..ITS TELLING TEENS WHO GET IN RELATIONSHIPS THAT THEY GON BE O.K. FOR MUTHAFUCKIN LOW LIFE DUDES TO HIT ON THEM....IT DOESNT SHOW A GOOD EXAMPLE BUT AT THE SAME TIME THAT THEIR [EXPLETIVE] ASS BUSINESS..BUT I DONT GIVE [EXPLETIVE] ABOUT RHIANNA OR CHRIS BROWN PUNK AZZ SO [EXPLETIVE] THIS SHYT ..
CUZ IMMA BEAST..NO MUTHAFUCKA EVER WILL PUT THEY HANDS ON ME...ILL CUT A DUDE DICK OFF BEFORE HE EVER THINK ABOUT HITTINME....
ITS BEEN REAL
YEAH THERE TEENS WHICH MEANS THERE SUPPOSED TO HAVE SPLIT DECISIONS AND BESIDES DO WE REALLY CARE ANYMORE SO MTO STOP [EXPLETIVE] DRAGGIN IT OUT TALK ABOUT SOMETHING BESIDES THE REMAKE OF IKE AND TINA [EXPLETIVE] MY BRAINHURTS. ARE THEY MARRIED IS SHE PREGNANT IS HE STILL PIMP SLAPPIN HER DOES HE HAVE ROID RAGE ITS TO MUCH GETOVER IT
wow...i don't respond often but i had to say something about this..when i read the title and the info about the survey i'm shaking my head thinking "that's a damn shame how messed up kids are"..but then i get to reading the comments and i'm even more shocked..people on here, GROWN A$$ MEN/WOMEN, saying things that i would expect an insecure child to say..some of yall sound like an abusive relationship is not far from ur future..
INSECURITY AND SELF HATE IS AN EPIDEMIC!!!
Lord help us
(to everybody else, not talking to u)
Its wrong to EVER hit a woman, but the MEDIA (as usual) is hyping this s&it up! Of course, you know they are going especially hard since he is BLACK, they use any chance they can to paint a negative picture of black men in the media so I think that is why they're going so hard on this.
In no way do I condone violence in any type of relationship but damn, kids are out here getting beaten and killed by their parents every day, kids are going "missing in action" everyday and they NEVER have talk shows dedicated to those topics. You never hear about that s&it for weeks so why is it that the nation is so adamant about "domestic abuse" now?? When are the talk show hosts and the cable news networks, and cable talk show like Larry King going to have whole shows dedicated to abused children and the demented parents who abuse them? Is anyone besides Nancy Grace listening?
I bet if the majority of kids getting beaten and killed were black they would!
Did anyone expect for Oprah's show NOT to be one sided? After Tyra's comment, which was the TRUTH, I turned the station.
Tyra said, Rihanna and Chris are paid to be SINGERS, not ROLE MODELS. For this she blamed the parents. She said, in this society, we MUST stop placing famous people on pedestals b/c they are normal people also. She said instead of blasting them, help them to do better, love them, teach them what's right.
It doesn't matter who started it 1st, even if she hit him 1st, the fact he hit her back put them both in the wrong. Howeva by him being a male, he left more visible damage. Neither one of them was responsible or practiced self control and because of this, Rhianna got her ass beat and Chris is in trouble with the law.
@MicG87 so I guess your forgetting OJ and Nicole Brown !!!He beat her and ended up killing her
and Oh yeah,she was white !!!so there goes your theory
There is no exscuse for domestic violence,you cannot hold the blame on black women !!!
Why is it the victims fault?
A lot of these black men or men should know you are stronger than women,and be a REAL man and walk away,or leave the woman and the relationship
Whether she hit you first or not,there is no exscuse to put her in hospital
I could very well as a black female say well we should date white guys or other races because black men are woman beaters or no good and Halle berry after all those black men did her wrong is happy with a white man
But unlike you,i'm not gonna blame all black men!for some black mens mistakes
and you should do the same here to ,don't put the blame on black women!!!
If the young people still support Chris, his career will be fine.
Even older people believe Rihanna was attempting to overly control Chris with extreme jealousy and agression. Chris put that bitch in her place.
Chris is a nice person in a very unhealthy, destructive relationship with a psycho nutcase. Chris is just using Rihanna at this point.
who is the vitime first. If it is the person who is on the receiving end of the first punch.. then he is the victim......
@blustarent.. you know better keep posting that ova and ova..
oprah and Tyra no man having self led a black male bashing party yesterday... dman shame. they don't care about no rihanna or anyone who has been abused at all. to all the ri-ri..
So if tyra does a show on crack cocain it should be called to all the Oprah!!!!
Oprah sould out for her white leaders!!!!!!
Black power stand united.
on theother hand.....
on a funny note. man ya'll alwys been talking about Ri-Ri star trek head. she probably get contusion putting on a hat or brushing her hair...puhlease!!!
No one has bought up her song about fighting a man on her CD. Like to seeit hear it goes:
Breakin' Dishes lyrics
I don't know who you think I am I don't know who you think I am I don't know who you think I am I don't know who you think I am
He been gone since 3:30 Been coming home lately at 3:30 I'm super cool, I've been a fool But now I'm hot and baby, you gon' get it
Now I ain't tripping, I ain't twisted I ain't demented, well, just a lil' bit I'm kicking ***, I'm taking names I'm on flame, don't come home, babe
I'm breaking dishes up in here, all night I ain't gon' stop until I see police lights I'ma fight a man tonight, I'ma fight a man tonight I'ma fight a man, a man, a m-a-n A man, a man, a m-a-n
I'm still waiting, come through the door I'm killing time, you know, bleaching your clothes I'm roasting marshmallows on the fire And what I'm burning is your attire
I'm getting restless, I'm getting tested And I can't believe he's always out every night and never checks in Is he cheating? Man, I don't know I'm looking 'round for something else to throw
I'm breaking dishes up in here, all night I ain't gon' stop until I see police lights I'ma fight a man tonight, I'ma fight a man tonight I'ma fight a man, a man, a m-a-n A man, a man, a m-a-n
I don't know who you think I am But I really don't give a damn right now If you don't come I'ma huff and puff and blow this, blow this, oh Blow this, blow this, I'ma blow this, blow this, oh Blow this, blow this, I'ma blow this, blow this, oh Blow this house, house down! Dishes breaking, dishes breaking, dishes
I'm breaking dishes up in here, all night I ain't gon' stop until I see police lights I'ma fight a man tonight, I'ma fight a man tonight I'ma fight a man, a man, a m-a-n A man, a man, a m-a-n A man, a man, a m-a-n A man, a man, a m-a-n
Breaking, breaking, breaking, breaking Dishes, dishes, dishes Breaking, breaking, breaking, breaking Dishes, dishes, dishes
Breaking, breaking, breaking, breaking Dishes, dishes, dishes Breaking, breaking, breaking, breaking Dishes, dishes, dishes
@TennisNutCase "Even young people understand -- KEEP YOUR HANDS TO YOURSELF and you won't have to fight and possibly get beat up.
Its about respect. Rihanna did not RESPECT Chris and got what she deserved -- a beatdown." ------------
Of course teens believe this--look at what GROWN people on this site are saying. These teens have grown up around people who constantly blame women for the bad behavior of men--rape, molestation and domestic abuse. I feel nothing but sorrow and pity for women who are so desperate to fit in with men they will defend their own abuse.
They should do this SAME survey in the Black community--they will be FLOORED at the support men who abuse Black women receive. Don't believe me? R. Kelly and Mike Tyson.
As a Black woman, I simply need to continue to keep myself mentally strong because if I allowed the Black mentality to raise me, I would believe a man could do whatever he wanted to me and I deserved it.
@ReEcYCuP Real talk, no he didnt have to take it that far but comeon now, every1 has a boiling point, u keep phucking with a man hitting him with shoes, embarassing him in front of people slapping him in the back of the head, u gonna raise ur hand to that man one day and that man gonna beat ur ass like a ni66a off the street (RIRI) @Lezmiranda, I feel u, but think about it like this, if ur dude is talking slick and u know he going to do dirt, then it's on u for choosing to stay. U cant get mad a ni66a for doing what u let him do, and slapping him is not going to make him quit doing dirt.
As for this poll, real spit, teens are not like they used to be when they were oblivious to what went on in the world, they could tell u more about Chris and Riri than I could, and it was one of my 16 year old nieces that showed me a youtube video of Chris about a year and a half ago talking about him and Riri fighting and her hot island girl temper, and how he usually just walks away. These kids arent saying this because they stupid they are saying this because of the facts given in this specific case. They watch the news and read the gossip sites, blogs, more than we do, they are experts on the subjects in question thats why they think Riri provoked him. Just a lil food for thought
@devilsadvocate07 - "As a Black woman, I simply need to continue to keep myself mentally strong because if I allowed the Black mentality to raise me, I would believe a man could do whatever he wanted to me and I deserved it." -------------
My point is about respect. You can't control your mate with violence and jealous attacks. He either wants to be with you or he doesn't.
If he doesn't, you can't act like a fool. Just leave him alone. Go find peace and love, elsewhere.
Never fight a man. Never. If he attacks you unprovoked, he deserves a hospital stay. Period.
Rihanna was clowning Chris. Everybody knows that. Just because she was older and Chris was so nice, she tried to treat him like a child.
Well, she got a child beatdown. Leave the man alone if you don't respect him. He will hurt you.
Even older people believe Rihanna was attempting to overly control Chris with extreme jealousy and agression. Chris put that bitch in her place.
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This may but true howeva Chris made the choice to stay in a relationship where he was being controlled & dealing with an overly jealous woman. He should've made a decision then, not after the situation escalated.
People see through this entire mess like glass. Rihanna disrespected Chris on more than one occassion. Chris got fed up and over-reacted like any human being would have.
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And who fault is this?! Rhianna is wrong but Chris still had the choice to end the relationship a long time ago. If he can't accept her behavior, he should have moved on. You cannot change people and you cannot make a person be who you want them to be.
@BlaminicanGoddess, what are you talking about?!
We're talking about respecting people. Not desire or wanting to be with Chris.
Listen to the young people. They give us all a barometer on important issues of today. That's why the teens were surveyed.
Anybody with half a brain knows to talk to teenagers about issues. Kids talk with their parents and other teens.
Kids matter. Respect them, too. Don't get angry and trash them. You're missing the ENTIRE point regarding RESPECT.
@ Tennis Nut Case
"@devilsadvocate07, act like a LADY and won't have to deal with unladylike crap." ---- As I said before and I will say it again, I make a GREAT effort to not allow the black mentality to overwhelm me. You have a very twisted and hateful logic in regards to male/female relationships.
I am sorry that you were not raised in a household where you experience REAL healthy relationships. I am sorry that no one raised you to understand men should NOT place their hands on women. I am sorry that no one raised you to understand that REAL MEN are fully capable of walking away and fully capable of taking RESPONSIBILITY for their actions.
It is people like you that raise Black men to believe that they are victims and can do whatever they want.
I have long ago given up on the Black community having healthy relationships. Black women are the only group of women that I know who INSIST on defending why it is ok for men to treat them like garbage. Then wonder why 70% of then are single, 70% of their marriages end in divorce and 75% are single mothers. You have enabled a race of males to believe something they do is ALWAYS someone else's fault and then you wonder why they cant have healthy relationships
Black America is in a VERY sad state when it comes to gender relations.
i was already iffy on the braud oprah but now i really wanna spit in her face! its 2009 , men and woman are suppose to be equals according to laws and alot of loud as woman! so why is it ok for a woman and man to do the same jobs, get paid the same, switch roles and one be the home maker and the other the bread winner but if a woman hits a man the woman gets a free pass?? oprah still living in her got damn color purple days and having flash backs of the movie! an unprovoked attack on a woman is not cool and should never go down....but if you got the balls to smack, kick, hit me with an object you must be ready to deal with the consequenses!! you dont know how many times she hit chris before he snapped?? you dont know if she damaged him in any way he didnt go to the police till the next day. all this judging and one sided womans rights bullshit is killing me!! no one should hit!just go to utube and type in how can you slap lol and that right there is womans problem!
@ Drayeon
Are you a Black male? I must admit this the FIRST time I have witnessed a Black male on a blog actually taking RESPONSIBILITY for his actions towards a woman. Your family did a good job
I always wondered how decent Black men felt about the typical Black woman who would make excuses for a Black man to beat, rape and molest a woman if he wanted. Does that disgust you or make you feel privileged?
Some of yal mufukaz on here are straight plain fukn stupid, simple, n fukn retarded.... Yes i agree that they are BOTH in the wrong but that still didnt give chris the right to put her IN THE MUFUKN HOSPITAL..... but i will let u no this when YOU,YOUR MOTHER, SISTER, COUSIN, BEST FRIEND, ANY FEMALE IN YOUR LIFE...get they azz beat til the white meat show or UNTIL U DEAD i want some of yal to say the same shyt yal sayin now ....OH HE WAS PROVOKED..... OH SHE DESERVED IT.... OH SHE STARTED IT...WHILE U BURYING YOUR BELOVED FEMALE...FUKN IDIOTS!!!!!
AND AGAIN NOT ONLY CHRIS .....THEY BBBOOOOTTTHH!!! NEED HELP......
@clara, you're always on point.
You know what bothers me more than anything? The media (C.NN & Extra, etc.) have clubbed Chris in with MikeT & O.J. As if black men are the only men with domestic violence issues.
What about Peterson and his ilk -- just kill your wife, girlfriend, and children so domestic violence doesn't apply?
This is not a black male issue, only.
@clara -- that Duke Lacrosse thing was an embarrassment for black women all over the world.
Those a$$holes hired black strippers, mistreated them, and got off scott-free. Why? Because the women were black and strippers. The men were students.
The strippers were paid to turn on one another to save those losers.
Gotta head to the courts. Here the thing...
Women ultimately control the dynamics of the relationship. He's there everyday, bringing the paycheck home, taking care of his children, cutting the grass, and maintaining the house.
Why fight him? About anything?
If he's hanging out all night or gambling his paycheck away or fighting you, TIME TO GO. Its not rocket science. He don't want you and then its time to get rid of him. Too easy.
@Tennis Nut Case
Once again, I apologize you were NOT raised to understand men should be accountable for their behavior. I am sorry that you were raised to believe that a woman has to be perfect to not be brutalized. I am sorry you were raised to believe that women deserve what they get depending upon whether or not their behavior is viewed as lady like. Black women unfortunately are a truly sad group who simply have not been raised to believe they deserve better.
I will not allow you or any other pitiful woman convince me that brutalizing a woman based on whether or not she is deemed respectable.
You are a sad and pitiful woman and your family did a horrible job at elevating your self esteem as a woman.
For all the women who think men are not suposed to hit a woman in any case. I was at a club a few years back and a women was throwing beer mugs and shot glasses at her man. For what reason I don't know but that isn't the point. Instead of letting her emotions get to her she should have calmed down. She could have argued, cussed and yelled, but throwing objects is a no no. Needless to say he caught her. Beat her. And left her. Was he wrong. Not in my eyes cause she should practice what Devil's adovocate is preaching. If a man just ups and beats a woman cause he is not getting his way is wrong. But if he feels like she is trying to fight him then Yes I think she is wrong. First punch says everything. If keeping my hands to myself is called being a gentleman then a woman who does the same is a classy lady. Period. So ALL the ppl on here talking like a women can swing and a man is supposed to duck is FULL of SH**. When someone is mad and you hit them (especially a man) it is a reflex to hit back. Just like in boxing if you throw a punch you better be ready for them counter punches or get knocked out. Do you remember in elemntary school when all you heard was "keep your hands to yourself" that isn't just for kids, Adults can benefit from this especially women.
@devilsadvocate07 R u really serious about "REAL MEN"? So only a man is responsible in a relationship? I dont condone violence of ANY kind. Your logic seems twisted and out of date, as a woman u expect men 2 b "REAL MEN" and excuse whatever shortcomings a woman has,but as a REAL MAN i expect the same respect that i give u. NOTHING MORE NOTHING LESS THAN FULL RESPECT. I'm not trying 2 argue with u iwould like 2 know when will REAL MEN get "REAL WOMEN" who know that relationships r a partnership not a "I can hit u and u better not say sh!t because i'm weaker than, so u better walk away crap" STOP BEING A VICTIM BE A REAL WOMAN AND STAND ON YOUR OWN ISSUES!
I think this is so sad. If Rihanna hit him first Chris had every right to self defend himself using the same force to stop her HOWEVER we know that Chris took it to the next level and used excessive force which was unnecessary that's why he's being charged with felonies. So I believe that the whole she hit him first she should accept the consequences is wrong. Teens need to wake up. It's not old school to say its not ok for a man to hit a woman to the point where she needs to be hospitalized. Yes he's human and people make mistakes and as a human he should own up to his mistakes and suffer the consequences of his actions.
@devilsadvocate07 - don't apologize for me. You're missing the point completely.
My mother is not perfect. She understands a simply fundamental -- IF YOU WANT RESPECT YOU MUST GIVE IT. And she does.
My father is respected in his home and in his community. My father behaved like a respectable man. My mother behaved like a respectable woman.
It is unfortunate that you just don't get it.
I think it's so disgusting how teens think that domestic violence is okay. These kids parents are not teaching them anything and if they are;they're not willing to listen.
I just turned 16 last month (February 8th) and I still haven't had my first boyfriend. My mom is very strict when it comes to dating at such a young age because of so many people being in abusive relationships. At first I hated it because she questioned me about everything when I met a boy. What's his name? How old is? Does he have job? Are his parents together? Does he get good grades? Where does he live? Is he a virgin? Is he involved in sports? Why does he like you? etc; She still questions me, all the time but I don't have problem with it anymore because in the end little information like that can tell you so much about a person. Instead of rushing into a relationship you need to get to know a person first. And that's something that I feel Rihanna and Chris did not do.
Their relationship is nothing more than lust, not love. They probably met a few times and gone out on a date or two and then decided that they were ready for a commitment but they went too fast. It takes time to understand a female/male, especially a male/female that has been in a home with abuse, whether it's emotional, physical, or verbal. When you go through something like that you have to get help because nine times out of ten you will end up carrying those traits into your relationships. It's obvious that neither one of them got the help that they needed or things wouldn't have gotten so explosive. But should that be an excuse for situations like this? Absolutely not.
Should Chris have put his hands on Rihanna? No, because she is a woman. A woman does not have the same strength as a man. So, yes he was wrong in every way possible. Should she have hit him first?(If it's true). No, because you are supposed to keep your hands to yourself unless someone is about to hit you. Therefore, it's self-defense. And of course half you are saying it's self-defense because she hit him first but you have to remember that when a woman hits a man it's not comparable to a man's punch. Men are bigger and have more energy than most women.One blow to the face could cause permanent damage whereas one blow to a man's face is very little. Think about it.
Either way, both were wrong but Chris went to far, he could have killed her. I've lost respect for both and hopefully Chris goes to jail. If not, Rihanna will end up dead. It's only a matter of time.
@ _Chelsea_ I just turned 16 last month (February 8th) and I still haven't had my first boyfriend. My mom is very strict when it comes to dating at such a young age because of so many people being in abusive relationships. At first I hated it because she questioned me about everything when I met a boy. What's his name? How old is? Does he have job? Are his parents together? Does he get good grades? Where does he live? Is he a virgin? Is he involved in sports? Why does he like you? etc; She still questions me, all the time but I don't have problem with it anymore because in the end little information like that can tell you so much about a person. Instead of rushing into a relationship you need to get to know a person first. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
You sound like an intelligent person; AND you just turned 16. Keep listening to your mom. Sound like she is raising you well.
The survey said 46% mto..not quite 50%. But none the less....teens are less informed and less objective than adults, in most cases.
They are likely to see Chris Brown the cute singer and dancer..and ignore or research all the actual facts. Most of them likely have not even read the police reports...(which do not mention her striking him at all)
Teens still need guidance.So the report is not surprising. However, parents have work to do if their child does not see the wrong in this beating. No one deserves to be beat to this level.. and that is the point!
@tennisnutcase
Women ultimately control the dynamics of the relationship. He's there everyday, bringing the paycheck home, taking care of his children, cutting the grass, and maintaining the house.
Why fight him? About anything? If he's hanging out all night or gambling his paycheck away or fighting you, TIME TO GO. Its not rocket science. He don't want you and then its time to get rid of him. Too easy. ******
I agree with that. Troubled men always give you SOME kind of inkling to their character early in the relationship and WE need to not hold on desperately just for the sake of HAVING A MAN.
Another clue women miss- Sometimes women find comfort when a man trash talks his ex's. 'Oh that bytch was this, that ho was that- i hate that bytch' etc....gives women comfort because they think 'well at least i don't have to worry about him creepin with his ex, or her getting in the way of our thang.' WRONG. If he carries hostility and anger over every woman he's been with and 'bitches and ho's' them all the time, don't think for a minute, he won't shape his lips to say the SAME THING ABOUT YOU. I don't know about y'all but I havent and won't be ANYBODYS bytch or ho. As soon as you hear that, let that be an indicator of the kind of man you fuccin with. Leave him to the bytches and ho's that love him for whatever reason. Don't feel threatened if he speaks well of past relationships(unless he talks too much about it! lol). Why would you want someone no one else does wants to be bothered with? Leave some of these niccas at the lost and found, don't bring em home with you. My opinion.
This Is Crazy...First Of All Rihanna Shouldnt Be Going Through His Phone Being Noisey Invading His Privacy If You Cant Trust Chris Then Why Are You With Him??Second Of All I Do Think She Started It First By Slapping The [EXPLETIVE] Out Of Him...Its Okay For Rihanna To Put Her Hands On Chris But When Chris Hit Her Its Not Okay???...Everybody Blaming Chris For The Whole Situation Yeah He's Wrong For Putting His Hands On Her But She Is To...So You Cant Really Blame Chris!!!
MTO Come on...we really need to stop teaching women and young girls that a man should never hit them back even if they hit him first...Chris is only human and any human being, whether male or female, is gonna hit u back if u hit them first and it pisses u off...u just snap!! All females need to learn that unless u can take being hit, dont hit a man because oneday he IS gonna hit u back because no one can just sit there and be hit on like some dog or something...and we all know she mustve hit him first!!! Alot of times people have to be hit back to learn that if u hit u can get hit back...why should us females be exempt to this?!
@ Tennis NUT
No honey, I GET IT and that is why I apologize for you. I really do get it. Women who don't behave like "ladies" deserve whatever punishment they receive...right?
See, I get it and I stand firm by my belief that you are pitiful and I feel sorry for the way you were raised and your twisted mentality.
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boo! That was a very nice try to portray me as some victim, really that was nice. No matter how much you try to fight it, males who beat up on women are NOT real men. PERIOD! As an educator, if I have a student who curses me out, do I curse back at them? NO, because I am an ADULT and I understand my mental ability and the influence my negative comment will have on my students and I take responsibility for it.
Men are and will always be physically stronger than women. You CANNOT claim self defense when you bust someone's face and nose. Abuse and aggression are NOT The same thing.
Typical Black male always trying to squeeze your way out of responsibility.
Violence in a relationship is wrong for BOTH males AND females. Any woman who hits a man first (and it is not in self defense) should expect to then be treated like a man. Ladies, keep your hands to yourself, because you might come across the type of guy that will kick yo azz.
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Dat's what I'm sayin'.
@alamsez
Another clue women miss- Sometimes women find comfort when a man trash talks his ex's. 'Oh that bytch was this, that ho was that- i hate that bytch' etc....gives women comfort because they think 'well at least i don't have to worry about him creepin with his ex, or her getting in the way of our thang.' WRONG. If he carries hostility and anger over every woman he's been with and 'bitches and ho's' them all the time, don't think for a minute, he won't shape his lips to say the SAME THING ABOUT YOU. I don't know about y'all but I havent and won't be ANYBODYS bytch or ho. As soon as you hear that, let that be an indicator of the kind of man you fuccin with. -------- Totally agree. For some strange reason women find comfort in seeing and hearing men disrespect other women because they convince them self that if they act, "like a lady" or "demand respect" this cant happen to them. The mentality is because women are raised (more like trained) to believe that they are responsible for a mans behavior and that somehow we control everything that happens in our relationships. So when men disrespect other women, they believe it is because those women deserved it and some how if they are "perfect women" this cant and wont happen to them. Sadly, if you look at the marriage statistics in our community that logic is clearly not holding up.
205_all
Violence in a relationship is wrong for BOTH males AND females. Any woman who hits a man first (and it is not in self defense) should expect to then be treated like a man. Ladies, keep your hands to yourself, because you might come across the type of guy that will kick yo azz. ----- I make it a priority to avoid people who think like you. I actually pack my bags and RUN!
Some one wrote this and I thought it was great.
"And serial women-beaters will tell you that their abusive ways usually started from retaliating against a woman hitting or slapping him first. Once some men get a taste of the power it has to beat up a woman, he’ll keep doing it." -----------------------------------------------
Where are u morons getting these “stats” and “reports” please direct me to this medical data supporting such nonsense that men are such victims of female brutality! How many “serial woman beaters” participated in this study? I wish u bit$hes would yank the titty out Chris Browns mouth, and stop pulling ish from your ass, to drum up some ass-backwards logic. I wish You’d stop acting like you broads are being tormented by the muffled cries of these “battered men”.
I have never heard such bullsh&t excuses until it involved some light skinned pretty boy, who make girls cry by dry humping the stage. How about when men mortality rates rival that of women as victims of domestic violence, u start your telethons, when it starts becoming the 2ND leading cause of death amongst AA men, as it is in women. THEN u can start the collections. Until then cease and desist, with your unfounded bullsh#t rhetoric, and cut the violins!
Some one wrote this and I thought it was great.
"And serial women-beaters will tell you that their abusive ways usually started from retaliating against a woman hitting or slapping him first. Once some men get a taste of the power it has to beat up a woman, he’ll keep doing it." -----------------------------------------------
Where are u morons getting these “stats” and “reports” please direct me to this medical data supporting such nonsense that men are such victims of female brutality! How many “serial woman beaters” participated in this study? I wish u bit$hes would yank the titty out Chris Browns mouth, and stop pulling ish from your ass, to drum up some ass-backwards logic. I wish You’d stop acting like you broads are being tormented by the muffled cries of these “battered men”.
I have never heard such bullsh&t excuses until it involved some light skinned pretty boy, who make girls cry by dry humping the stage. How about when men mortality rates rival that of women as victims of domestic violence, u start your telethons, when it starts becoming the 2ND leading cause of death amongst AA men, as it is in women. THEN u can start the collections. Until then cease and desist, with your unfounded bullsh#t rhetoric, and cut the violins!
@devilsadvocate07
First of all everyone who has an opinion that differs from yours in not a moron, that's why they're called opinions.
second her are some stats:
# National Family Violence Legislative Resource Center:
# Men are More Likely Than Women to Be Victims in Dating Violence:
A recent 32-nation study by the University of New Hampshire found female students initiate partner violence as often as male students and controlling behavior exists equally in perpetrators of both sexes.
# Women More Likely to be Perpetrators of Abuse as Well as Victims:
A University of Florida study recently found women are more likely than men to "stalk, attack and abuse" their partners. “We’re seeing women in relationships acting differently nowadays than we have in the past,” said Angela Gover, a UF criminologist who led the research. “The nature of criminality has been changing for females, and this change is reflected in intimate relationships as well.”
# Teenage Violence Linked To Later Domestic Violence:
A University of Washington study recently found women were nearly twice as likely as men to perpetrate domestic violence in the past year including kicking, biting or punching their partner, threatening to hit or throw something at their partner, and pushing, grabbing or shoving their partner.
# Assaults by Women on Their Spouses or Male Partners: Virtually all sociological data shows women initiate domestic violence as often as men, that women use weapons more than men, and that 38% of injured victims are men. California State University Professor Martin Fiebert summarizes almost 200 of these studies online. # Journal of Family Violence:
A recent study in the Journal of Family Violence found many male callers to a national hotline experienced high rates of severe violence from female partners who used violence to control them. # Intimate Partner Abuse Against Men:
Some scholars suggest that the motives for intimate partner abuse against men by women may differ from those for abuse against women by men, and that women suffer more severe injuries than men. Nonetheless, the occurrence of abuse by women against men, and its consequences, warrant attention. It is important for the victims of abuse, whether they be men or women, to know that they are not alone – that is, that such experience is not unique to their personal situation. It is also important for the perpetrators of intimate partner abuse – men or women – to recognize that violence in any form is both morally and legally wrong.
# Disabusing The Definition of Domestic Abuse:
A law review article by law Professor Linda Kelly that documents the long history of how battered men's statistics and plight have been intentionally covered up.
THERE YOU GO!!!
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CRAZY! SOME CRAZY DUDE PUT THAT SH!T OUT THAT ANYTIME HE BEATS A CHIC THEY DESERVE IT....
...AND HUNDREDS OF YEARS LATER SOME STUPID AZZ CHICS DON'T HAVE THE MIND TO THINK BEYOND A NOTION PUT IN WOMENS MINDS 100 YEARS AGO.
PLEASE!
HE BEAT HER AND IT'S ON HIM!
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blustarent
Y0U SOUND STUPID AS HELL!
NO FEMALE DESERVES BEING BEATEN DOWN!
HE KNEW HE WAS STRONG AND COULD BEAT HER AND GIVE HER PAIN THATS WHY HE BEAT HER!
PEOPLE WHO THINK IT'S HER FAULT SOUNDS LIKE THE EXCUSE CON'S GIVE WHEN THEY ARE ON THEIR WAY TO THE PEN!!!
IS IT WALMARTS FAULT WHEN SOMEONE STEALS???
OH BUT WALMART SHOULDN'T HAVE BEEN SELLING ITEMS THEY KNOW SOMEONE WAS NOT GOING TO HAVE THE MONEY TO BUY THAT STUFF!
WALMART IS AT FAULT FOR NOT TYING THAT STUFF DOWN!
LUDACRIS!!!!
I GUESS RIHANNA IS AT FAULT CUZ SHE WAS BORN!
THAT MEXICAN CHIC WAS WRONG!
SHE ASSUMED CUZ A FEMALE WAS HURT SHE DESERVES IT?
I BET SHE GETS BEAT DOWN ON THE REGULAR JUST FOR BELIEVING THAT STUPID SH!T!!!!
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