To Usher and Tameka Raymond,
I was shocked and saddened to hear news there might be a divorce in your futures. Since I am reading this on a blog page, I will not lend credibility to the story. However, if it is true I am truly sorry that you have decided to split from one another. I pray that you will find the strength, wisdom, and courage to challenge these trying times. I would hope your break up has nothing to do with all the naysayers, the skeptics, the haters, and everyone in between whom decided that your decision to become husband and wife was doomed from the start. In an effort to ensure you both that everyone was not against your marriage, I have taken the time to write you here.
Couples nowadays seem to be contemplating divorce before they even get married. "If things don't work out we can always get a divorce." More and more we bear witness to couples forsaking their marriage vows because it’s convenient at the time. I think people give up on each other too easy. Couples should learn to fight for a relationship they that they vowed to protect in all situations, from all ***, and to overcome all obstacles together.
In the presence of God you vowed "For better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, till death do us part". Is obvious that these worlds don't carry much weight in our society anymore. Forget the fact that your commitment to each other was made for in the presence of God. Marriage must not be undertaken carelessly, lightly, or selfishly, but reverently, responsibly, and after serious thought.
The fact that only after 2 years, and 2 children; at least 1 of you 2, or maybe both of you have decided to throw in the towel. No fuss, no fight, no foul. The only thing that people who divorce so quickly want is everything to be easy. The only thing that is important is one’s happiness, one’s fulfillment, and one’s self. How tragic!
And what about these two babies, not to speak of Tameka’s other children whom have come to think of this union as their family. Wouldn’t it be worth it, for the sake of your family to at least make an effort. An effort at least worthy of you both deciding it would ok to bring children into this cruel world. No amount of money, or celebrity will be able to protect these kids from the irreversible damage your selfish way will have on them. It’s sad and tragic what you guys are doing. Contrary to what you read on all these blogs, there are plenty of people praying for you success as a couple, and hoping that Tameka and Usher would prevail through the fire that is called celebrity life. Some of prayed you marriage would succeed. Some
“Marriage is given, that husband and wife may comfort and help each other, living faithfully together in need and in plenty, in sorrow and in joy. It is given, that with delight and tenderness they may know each other in love, and, through the joy of their bodily union, may strengthen the union of their hearts and lives. It is given as the foundation of family life in which children may be born and nurtured in accordance with God's will, to his praise and glory.”
God gave His concept of what marriage is to be when He brought the first man and woman together in the beginning. God declared that "a man shall leave his father and mother, and shall be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh" (Gen. 2:24). Man was not to separate what God had joined together.
Marriage one of the hardest undertakings that anyone can make. All relationships take work but marriage takes a tremendous amount of work. It must be consistent, and it must be constant. If you both, have truly done all you can to save your marriage, and all you can to fight for your marriage, and everything you can do protect your marriage, and it still has not worked, than you must do what you must do. But if you have attempted to fight, or given a good fight that I feel for you both for giving up so easily. Just know… the first time you give it up so quickly, you will give up the next even quicker.
Pray worries, please say a prayer for Usher and Tameka, and their family.
May God bless you both, and keep you in his eternal grace.
PS, not all fans are happy to hear this news.