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Omg. another baby? she still hasnt learned yet huh? why doesnt she wait to see if her marriage will last before she starts making more babies. god forbid this one doesnt work like that last one, then she stuck raising more babies by herself. Im happy for her and all but i think she shoudlve waited a lil longer before she had another baby. Babies will not make your man stay with you neffe.
How the phuck are YOU paying for this? Does she look like she's on foodstamps or cash assistance???
Shes ON BET with a rich azz sister. Come the phuck on! HATERS.
And nobody says [EXPLETIVE] when Jon and Kate had 8. Most of yall came from families on cash assistance, or some of you are from section 8 housing, and your mad at NEFFE!! Sounds like Bullshyt to me.
OMG, OMG. SMH & frowning at some of these comments. Sooo, let me get this straight, we are gonna praise this woman who has several children BY DIFFERENT MEN??? Her oldest daughter (who knows who her father is), the 2 younger daughters are by her ex IN WHICH THE DIVORCE IS NOT FINAL!! Then while she was separated from her ex, she had the baby boy who is STILL IN DIAPERS by some random dude. She gets engaged to Soullow WITHOUT GETTING A DIVORCE first and pops out another baby. GTFOH, aint nobody judging this HOODRAT. We are calling it how we see it. Her track record speaks for itself (cont)
@KayJay508
THATS THE PROBLEM...YALL CAN'T call it how you see it, cus you can't SEE IT!!
My point is this shyt happens everyday, and from what i've seen on her show with her book and all, her marriage, and so on, she seems to have grown a lot. At the end of the day, she's pretty successful thru ALL of that shyt you speak of. TV show, Book, Media press...not too bad huh? We all make mistakes...ALOT of women have. And most don't end up like Neffe on BET. Get the phuck over it.
Wow, she is not even married to Soullow yet. And now that she went and had his baby BEFORE the wedding ever took place, I doubt it if it will ever take place now.
And let me not get on her parenting skills (if you watch the show, then the proof is in the pudding). She obviously has too much on her plate as it with all those kids, but she continues to keep poppin more out. Birth/motherhood is a beautiful thing dont get me wrong, but not under these cirumstances. And then you want to give her praise for being on TV?? Woopty phuckin doo, so BET pays while they EXPLOT THE HELL OUT HER AZZ??
LMAOOO about the book she is writing or if it is already in stores. Who wants to buy a book based on a hoodrat's story?? A lot of yall are screaming "we sit this kind of [EXPLETIVE] everyday". No shyt, so why in the hell would someone want to purchase her book.
She aint gonnaa be no damn inspiration to any of our sisters. IF you really want to overcome the hood, you damn sure don't need Neffe's help to do it, so she can save her sob story.
Sorry for the typos, but I am a little heated over here. Yea, say I am just downing my fellow sister or that I am "talking shyt", but I refuse to sit here and act like this is okay. Yes, there are ppl who do this everyday, but SHE IS ON TV, SHE IS IN THE MEDIA and she is yet another black women who is being EXPLOITED & RIDICULED.
I don't care if she is being paid for it. Wow, so I parade around being a hot ghetto mess on television and I receive money for it so I can keep poppin out more children??
WHAT A LIFE TO LEAD (extreme sarcasm)
IsabelAurora did your mother skip the birds & the bees talk?
504rumpshaker will her tying her tubes help you say "No" to Popeye's?
KayJay508 you've failed to point out how any of that affects your life. I doubt Neffie's on Section 8 or that she'll be asking you to babysit. And you know more than I do about Neffie! It'd be more productive to brainstorm solutions for young women who actually need assistance than to degrade someone who's (from what I've seen) at least attempting mental and spiritual growth.
@KayJay508
Just because she may not be an inspiration to you homie, doesnt mean she's not to her DAUGHTERS OR HER SONS, or HER SISTER, or to someone else. Last time I checked, her and Keyshia came from a home where Frankie was in PRISON, ON DRUGS, and raised by grandma. Maybe all she had to look too ARE THE MEN in her life like SOME WOMEN DO. Who knows? Its not an excuse but you have NO PHUCKIN idea how hard it is to be a black woman. Yea, she made mistakes, but that doesn't mean you should be defined by them.
I am trying to be happy for her but I cant
There is NOTHING cute about being a babymama. TOO MANY of OUR children do not have a two parent household and our race is dying because of it.
I am so DIGUSTED at Bamboozle Entertainment Television..er.. BET for allowing a reality show that allows for this to be shown to our youth. Just her being on TV and getting exposure is bad
Neffe has money (I guess) to support her children but the average single black female does not. Teen pregnancy is the LEADING CAUSE of POVERTY in the Black America.
Neffe is so pretty. Her man looks like a buster!. She deserves someone far better than him. I don't care what you say about frankie, she is still a mother and has some common sense left. I am a mother and I would not want my daughter dealing with a bum on any level!. And having kids by the joker?... hell no!. Get him to leave your daughter frankie.
@the_disputed_truth: So I am degrading someone who is "at least attempting mental and spiritual growth". LMAO. Are u serious right now?? I really hope not. So poppin out babies by different men is a form of growth?? Being portrayed as a ghetto hoodrat on BET is a form of growth?? Screaming/cussing at ur mother who struggles with drug addiction IN FRONT OF YOUR CHILDREN is a form of growth?? Please miss me w/ the bullshyt.
After reading all of the blogs...I am still sitting her with my mouth hanging over...she may be making lots of money (NOW) and I hope she is wise enough to ivest where the dividends can be a pay-off for her and the children...but having all those kids with a father in the household is not the smartest...I think she still needs loads of counseling, there seems to be lots of inside hurting going on..and feeling like its ok to have a baby by every Tom , Dick and Sowlow..give it a break and get yourself together so you can have healthy children
@Msjrabbit
No one is upset at John and Kate or the Duggars with their 19 because they are
1) A traditional family with two parents
2) Had stable respectble jobs before the children were born
People up here are mad because they are fed up with the "baby mama" hoodrats who keep popping out children and suck the tax payers dry and who do not care they are doing that. Just because it 'happens' every day does not make it cute or correct
@Msjrabbit: Neffe cannot blame her COUNTLESS mistakes on the fact that Frankie was absent due to prison and drug abuse. You can defend this hoodrat if you like. But Keyshia came out the same womb and she overcame all of that as opposed to Neffe who looks like she is continuing Frankie's cycle with all these different children fathered by different men. Yea, she may not be on drugs or she may know who fathered each of the children, but she seems to follow Frankie's path rather then to stray from it!!!
@malletdiva02
Your right. I agree. So how does this apply to Neffe? She's married to Solo, She has a "job". She may not be your traditional parent, but nowadays WHO IS? And She seems to be financially stable....
I never said it was CUTE or CORRECT. I'm saying that its REAL out here. Thats what I'm saying, and a lot of you don't understand the underlying issue. ALOT of these type of women are in pain, and who have came from the hood or who are looking for love in the wrong places which leads to making mistakes such as POPPIN babies from different men, or prostituting or whateva...
one more mouth for keisha cole to feed!!!
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one more mouth for keisha cole to feed!!!
one more mouth for keisha cole to feed!!!
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Honestly, it's not about the money and whether she's FINANCIALLY able to care for her children. I'm sure she is, but if you ever watched her on tv...she obviously has issues that she still needs to deal with before she starts poppin' out babies left and and right. She be cursing out people, spazzing out in front of her kids and it's really not a good look. Yeah sh!t happens and I hope for her children's sake she gets it together, but that's the thing. Build a respectable relationship, get yourself together then have all the babies you want. But oh well, her life...
Best wishes to both parents...their baby is beautiful. I'm so glad Neffe didn't give that baby a stupid, ghetto-azz name. Black people need to stop giving their children these ghetto sounding names...there's nothing cute about them. Shyt, just give them a traditional name - remember what I said, when your child can't get a job.
@KayJay508
Her countless mistakes? So when should she be forgiven? You tell me, Almighty. And if she is following Frankies Path, what Im saying is CAN YOU BLAME HER??? Did she have the tools to make better decisions growing up?? Have the judgement to CHOOSE BETTER MEN? (Look at her mother getting into relationships with 19 year olds) Probably not. So why blame her? I truly believe she's trying to grow. Keyshia and Neffe's show is VERY REAL in a lot of peoples life. IT MAY BE TOO REAL FOR SOME OF YOU, but its common.
@Msjrabbit: Hey, you can call it passing judgment. If that's what you call it, then so be it. I am simply frustrated with the fact that this does happen everyday in OUR community and what pisses me off even more is that you have NEFFE on tv making it appear as if it is the norm when this is FAAAAR FROM NORMAL!! Yes, everyone has a story (missing father-figures, parents who are absent due to drugs etc, or being raised in the hood all together). But there are sooo many other options for you to choose when it comes to success and being exploited on BET is not the smartest choice. (cont)
Call me a snob...but i'm sorry. I am no longer excusing ghetto foolery. All of this " well she was raised in the hood", she had no mother..blah blah. Honey please! Next..! At this point , you know right from wrong, up from down and left from right. And yes, you can do as you please. But please know that when you thrust yourself into the limelight..nosy bloggers like myself will let you have it.lol No more excuses for hood ratty single moms, who just out right choose to have 6 babies and no husband. Especially when your are loud , emotionally unstable and exhibit ghetto low class behaviour! Just a new generation of misguided children.I have not been able to watch the show. I certainly refuse to allow my 8 year old to watch.You darn near need a translator for ebonics to decipher what's being said. lol. BET is coon broadcasting
If Neffe was really focused on pursuing her dreams (whatever those are), she would not have time to keep having more children. What is it like a baby every 2-3 yrs. You can keep putting the blame on Frankie, but look at Keyshia. Yea, she was raised by the Coles and that is why she is who she is today. If Neffe wants to look up to anyone, it should be Keyshia & not Frankie!!
And yes, everyone makes mistakes, but she seems to keep making them. Yes, its her body and her choice when she chooses to have these children. But with her lifestyle, she definitely does not need to bring any more children into the world. She needs to work on SELF-IMPROVEMENT first and foremost. She may be taking baby/tiny steps with going to see that life-coach on the show, but she still isn't making any improvements in her life IMO. It seems like she takes 2 steps forward and then 6 steps backwards.
Kayjay508..i agree. great points.
And you are correct.She never married Solo. And they are not all that FINANCIALLY set. They live in a moderate middle class all black neighborhood on the south side of Atlanta...the last that i heard. My brother used to live near them... This is an unstable economy.Even Keisha Cole is not set for life...and knows how to utilize birth control.Not to mention people with stable heavy incomes !So no one is just pushing out babies the way that these irresponsible twirps are. The women on welfare and moderate incomes seem to want to have the most babies!
Oh yay! Ghetto Trash had a baby with her wanna be drug dealer jail bird looking baby daddy! Neffe, want more for yourself boo! Life is too short to keep popping out babies...there nothing cute about exploiting your ghetto-ness (on tv or otherwise)...thanks BET for keeping the bufoonery going...bunch of hypocrites if you ask me. That's why I don't watch that station...ugh...
@fire4u: Girl, my prayers were answered. I was waiting for you or guessjeans or Safari to visit this thread, because no one was tryna hear me out.
And I actually I told myself that this week was my LAST time tuning into that show. It really just sickens me to watch my fellow black sisters on television being exploited and making a fool of themselves. It's like can we break this cycle puh-leeeez. We have to do better than this!!
MalletDiva02 the Duggards have been the beneficiaries of food stamps and donations, Jon & Kate are divorcing.
KayJay you know as well as I do that Neffie has grown over the years b/c you obviously watch the show faithfully. You keep speaking on her past but the kids are here- now what? I think the focus should be on women who are high risk of continuing harmful family cycles (teen pregnancy, drugs, etc.) and how to assist single mothers in becoming independent but that's just me, I'm fully aware that some people would rather harp on other's mistakes to feel better about their own.
@nautysgirl: THANK YOU!!! And to think someone on here tried to tell me Neffe is:
"at least attempting mental and spiritual growth".
I didnt know whether I should blink repeatedly to make sure my vision was correct, fall out the chair from dying of laughter or to burst out crying. Anyone who watches that show and has positive feedback is delusional!!
I agree wit MSRABBIT! Neffe came from a broken home and most women that didnt have a father or mother look for men for love! she dont know how to love because it wasn't in her life as a child...she has alot of emotional issues about her mother..yes they are hood but one thing I like about her SHE GOT HER KIDS AND SHE RAISING HER KIDS!!! most bitches aint doin dat coming from dat background...uplift her instead of tearing her down..that's all she got all of her life was people tearing her down..and another thing stop faking people dont act like u perfect cuz perfect dont exist!
@the_disputed_truth: You are delusional sweetie and I refuse to debate with you bcuz I will not agree with any of ur comments and in ur case agreeing to disagree seems worthless.
What growth??? You mean from being on Keyshia Cole "The Way It Is" to getting her OWN show is considered growth?? So, you watched the episode this week and you mean to tell me, you sat through the episode and thought "Man, I tell ya. Neffe sure has come a long way and she has made improvements in her life"?? I think I will have to leave this thread if you even answer YES to that question I just asked.
kayjay, so many of us feel the same. lol If this were a sitcom, i think we would be more outraged. Because then, it would mean that the white man wrote it..and is depicting us in a bad light. But the irony is...this is worst. These fools are REAL. She comes on local radio here in Atlanta with the same GHETTO, loud, disfunctional foolery. And has the NERVE to brag that it is not scripted..their show is REAL!! omg! Girl, has no shame!From the Twittering, drinking, cursing,being loud, obnoxious, crying every 5 minutes, emotionally unstable, bad attitude,careless....last i checked.. it's cute to her. But. I've seen nothing really good that the children can YIELD as PRODUCTIVE life resources from her. Again, she claims that what you all SEE is REAL. The real her. lol So hearing that she wrote a book that she tries to plug is just laugbable. The type of audience that she attracts..DOES not even read. lol
@fire4u: I can't give Neffe a pad on the back or say "It's okay cuz she doesn't know any better" due to her upbringing and Frankie being absent and on drugs.
Oh, Neffe is FULLY AWARE of herself and all her actions as well. She just likes pretending like she wants to overcome and self-improve. You are so right.... I think we we all wish she were just acting and that this was scripted. Too bad it isn't. SMDH
KJ Can we not communicate any better than getting catty & calling each other names? You're displaying the same behavior you despise her for. I haven't asked you to agree with my views I'm simply stating them. By growth I mean acknowledgement of her faults and the energy she puts into changing. You watch the show much more than I do so I'm sure you may have seen some things I didn't to make you feel the way you do. Your signature is a quote from a show that's in my opinion not all that different from Frankie & Neffie- is depiction of AA women in a stereotypical manner not a problem??
And the radio personalties pacify her by saying.."well girl, there is a Frankie and Neffie" in every family. We all have one or two. Well got damnit , i don't! No one in my family behaves like Frankie. And again, I understand...but I just hate when black folks want to stereotype all of US into this group of hoodrats. No, i do NOT have FRANKIES..in my family. SORRY! lol Co-signing her behaviour is no more helpful to her than us speaking the cold hard facts. The more that her fans cheer her , the louder and more brazen that they get. HOLLA! HOLLA!! uggggh. I just want someone to slap, Frankie. These ladies clown because they want to. On any given day, Neffie and Frankie come on our radio stations trying to be philosophical and give advice..etc.... Five minutes later they are back in character as Shaniqua hood rats. They love being ignorant..to get an audience. Promoting ghetto bafoonery..rather than positive role model type behaviour. Crying every 5 minutes..then they go out and drink and act a fool anyway. Never really learning. So do NOT say that they don't know any better! Tired azz heffas! lol lol
First of all the show is stupid! They give anybody a damn reality show just to make a damn fool of their already stupid azz!
That baby looks nothing like dude period!
Nefee is such a jealous azz childish baby who feels the world owes her everything while she sits on her ugly azz and push out baby # 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8.....etc.......This woman is slow...I'm sick of her crying about stupid mess....Her loud voice wakes up the damn dead with all that scraming......
She is not a postitve role model and children should not be looking up to someone who abuse and use their family members
WHAT KIND OF NAME IS SOULOW???? bUT SHE REALLY SHOULD HAVE THOSE TUBES TIED! SHE ONLY HAS A LITTLE BIT OF MONEY NOW BECAUSE OF HER GHETTO REALITY SHOW, WHICH IS CONTRIBUTING TO THE BUFFOONERY THAT WHITES THINK OF US ANYWAY!!!SMDH (mAKE MONEY DOIG SOMETHING WORTH SOMETHING, ANYONE CAN ACT A FOOL ON TV AND HAVE A CAMERA CREW COME TO THEIR HOUSE.
@the_disputed_truth: If I am catty for calling you delusional then so be it. And I am NOTHING like Neffe so we won't even go there.
As far as my signature which says "Who gone' check me boo" which is quoted from Sheree on the RHOA. Yes I actually agree with you, that show doesn't go a great job of portraying black women either. But they're not the topic of discussion right now and furthermore, the RHOA may argue and bicker as all women do, but they are NOTHING like Frankie & Neffe. You know just as I do!! There are way more differences than similarities.
@ the disputed truth.. I think the focus should be on women who are high risk of continuing harmful family cycles (teen pregnancy, drugs, etc.) and how to assist single mothers in becoming independent but that's just me, I'm fully aware that some people would rather harp on other's mistakes to feel better about their own. ----------------- Good post. But don't forget that The other children were already here though.So how many more times will we say, "well the children are here." Which is our point.The cycle continues. Here we have yet another baby.
I agree that the focus should be on something else....but I promise you that I don't know what that should be. It certainly should not be about as you say "assisting single mothers..to become independant. That only makes room for baby 2,3 and 4. That is the problem! All of this "i'm a independant woman" mess teaches young girls that they can take care of 4 kids without a marriage.
We are only speaking the raw truth on Neffie and her mom...because these women only want to CLOWN for the camera..and BET loves it. There is no intent for healing and reconcilation. This is this girl's life. Not to mention Frankie. There is no advice or life lesson that they can offer my child., because they are repeat offenders
@the_disputed_truth: And my opinion of Neffe was pretty mild compared to some of those other comments. Let's see: "Another poor baby with a ghetto ass parent" "have a baby by EVERY DUDE YOU LAY DOWN WITH?NASTY!" "Ghetto ignorant trash is all she is" "She should be a shame of herself having all them dam kids & no food in her freezer. Nasty Bit**
CARE TO RESPOND TO ANY OF THOSE?? You act as if, I tore Neffe down to shreds. The I'm trying to convey is that she needs to do better!!
KayKay508 all your post are dead on it!! I knew eventually someone was gonna say something about your quote though, but youre right about that too. The RHOA are awful but they cant be compared to no dang Frankie and Neffie!! At least not in my opinion. At any rate, let em have it!! You make so much sense!!!
lol@ kayjay!...it's hilarious how they want ALL of us to RELATE to Frankie. No, sorry. WE do not have one in every family.
You actually have blacks on here debating this mess, when we should all be unified in setting up a petition to BET to remove this COON show off the air. DEMAND better broadcasting. Whites rallied together regarding the OXY mom for her selfish behaviour, yet blacks want to pity party, or either DEFEND irresponsible behaviour. Whites rallied so hard until she had to pitch her reality show to film in another country! I say lets get this ghetto mess off the air.Either way, i'm not tuning in this year. I barely watch BET anyway.
To the chick who said "the last time she checked, Neffe had money to take care of her kids."
Please, Who the hell are you, and do you have access to Neffe's bank account to check her financial status? There's nothing judgmental about calling a spade a spade or, in this instance, a hood rat a hood rat.
fire4u I didn't mean independent like "I-N-D-E-P-E-N-D-E-N-T do you know what that means" I meant independent from government assistance programs. It's unfortunately sometimes better for the father to be absent from the child's life in order for that child to grow into a stable,productive adult- and this is the mother's fault. I too feel negative depiction of AA women in the media is a huge problem.
@fire4u: Like I said, I refuse to watch that show. At first, I did give her the benefit of the doubt and said hey mayne this season she will make a change. But after seeing her screaming & cussing in front of those children and trying to hit someone with a broom/mop in front them etc?? I am all set. But as far as boycotting this show and BET as a whole for promoting this mess, I will sign that petition in a heart beat!!
Yall remeber that episode when Neffe was yelling at Keyshia Cole best friend because Keyshia and her friend were tight like sisters......So What Neffe??
Neffe made sure she ran that young girl out of Keyshia life and was number 1 she yelled and screamed at her until the girl was like "I'm done".......That is was crazy
KC I didn't see the point b/c some of those people can barely form complete sentences & some know they need to be in the gym so commenting on someone with a lot of kids makes them feel better about themselves. I thought you made valid points but strongly came off in a "BW ain't sh!+" type of way.
RHOA- BW poorly managing their finances for the sake of flossing only to later have their homes foreclosed. There is constant drinking, cursing, violence, partying.. shall I go on? I like that show (guilty!) but it does the same thing N&F does, which is promote the stereotypes of BW.
@the_disputed_truth: WOWWW. I "came off in a BW aint shyt kinda way"?? You totally took every comment I made and ran reaaal faaaarr away with it. I understand you and everyone else has an opinion, but you totally misintepreted EVERYTHING I said. I am actually very offended because I am a BLACKWOMAN so why the hell would I be ignorant or foolish enough to ever have a mentality where I feel as if all black women aint shyt especially when I am a BW?? ~Big Sigh~ Words cannot express how frustrated I am right now. Because YOU singled me out for stating the OBVIOUS and (cont)
@ kayjay...
You were targeted because your post was well written. The spill from the blogger about "spiritual growth" is baseless, because there is none. The cameras follow them HOME! lol And when they do..5 minutes later she is in full effect. They love being ghetto. Did you see the blog MTO posted the other day where she started a twitter battle with Kim from RHOA. She likes mess! Hood rat behaviour, that is uncontrolled and loud ! So at this point BET is exploiting Keisha's family for ratings. There is no INTENT to heal them or make them into LADIES. I'd like to see it..because it is so unlady like for Neffie to go off the way that she does. Like a caved street woman or something. So...showing her in a new light would be nice. But again..BET is coon broadcasting. and they are using these women for ratings. People cringe when NEFFIE or FRANKIE talk or are seen in public. Often times people are laughing AT you. ..when you think that they are laughing with you.
And why did she throw a mop at someone? huh? ! See, i can't watch.
then now you accuse me of coming across as someone who was tearing Neffe (my fellow black sister) down. When all I was doing, was pointing out her flaws and also being both honest and real by saying that she should make some improvements so she has more to offer HERSELF and THOSE CHILDREN!! Yes, she does need guidance, but she is doing a very poor job of seeking it!! That was the ONLY message I was conveying and none other than that FYI!!!
@fire4u: Frankie was babysitting ALL of her children in her condo which is not big enough for all of those children might I add. The kids were running all over the house eating junk-food, throwing things and out of control all together. Well Frankie has this young boyfriend (cant remember his name) but he is NO GOOD and he probably contributes to her drug abuse and that is why Neffe came over the house and spazzed out bcuz she doesn't like the dude and doesnt want him around her kids. She was cussing/yelling at Frankie telling her to make him leave. He wouldn't leave, so she tried to fight him
For 1 I will say the baby is cute, but Neffe is such a hoodrat poppin out kid after kid has this bitch ever heard of BIRTH CONTROL? Seriously she be screaming and cussing around those kids constantley and she loves to have pitty parties for herself, this ho needs to tie her tubes and take some etiquette classes cause she is just nasty and trifflin! Ugh I can't stand her or her mother
@ the disputed truth...
I don't think that the bloggers comment on NEFFIE to feel better about themselves.That's a stretch. (well, maybe a few.)lol! But bottom line, These are just FACTS. Not to mention, she makes herself an easy target. Did you get an opportunity to visit E or T M Z.. blog sites..during the time that the OXY MOM was being strutinized. People from all walks of life chimed in. lol. Sometimes things just infuriate people so much until they WILL chat about it. Either in the lunch room, break room, blogsite ,or hairsalon. Some things ya just can't ignore. Has NOTHING to do with feeling better about yourself.Hell, a latte and a bubble bath should do it. lol
She was cussing/yelling at Frankie telling her to make him leave. He wouldn't leave, so she tried to fight him ---- For real??? See KJ.. the same mess from last season then!! smdh. I'm over it. I still watch the ATL Housewives..but they are on THIN ice. lol! (kidding) I do LIKE them because at least they have nice homes , are articulate, and lead productive lives. And other than Sheree pulling folks wig, (lol) there is no violence or ghetto bafoonery around children to speak of. lol I see them as entertaining..i see NEFFIE and FRANKIE as embarrasing hoodrat foolery that feeds old stereotypes! BET needs to stop.
OK THE BABY IS TOOO CUTE CANT HATE ON THAT BUT DUDE IS SUCH A FREELOADER WHAT TYPE OF SUPPORT CAN HE PROVIDE FOR A KID WHEN HE CAN'T EVEN FEED HIMSELF!!! nEFFE GIRL I KNOW YOU GET ON mto ALL I WANT YOU TO THINK ABOUT IS.... hOW TO GET YOUIR SELF ESTEEM AND SELF RESPECT BACK SO YOU CAN STOP FVCKING ALL THESE GUYS AND MAKING KEEP A [EXPLETIVE] BABIES CUZ THESE FOOLS AREN'T STAYING .... GET YA SELF TOGETHER OR STAY A HOOD RAT IT IS UP TO YOU.
I don't blame her for kicking that n!gga out her mothers house though. She was raped as when she was a child and obviously her mother does not have the best of judgment. Dude look scary as hell. I make fun of them and their ghettoness but I don't want another Jennifer Hudson case with them and their family. A woman of Frankie's age should know better. She needs to grow up. It's not funny when you are 60 carrying on like you are a teenager. I wouldn't want that weirdo around my young children either.
@BrokenSilence: I agree. But if I were Neffie, I would not even allow my children to go to Frankie's place knowing there is even the slightest chance that ole dude may be there. Frankie def should have the right to spend time with her grandchildren, but I think the arrangement should be for Frankie to visit the children at Neffie's house (their home). Therefore, that would situtation could have been avoided!!
Has anyone noticed that MOST people with sense plan families around being functional, stable, having some kind of security with partners who hopefully plan on being around for the long haul. WE on the other hand, judge first how the baby will look. If a nicca got good hair, or pretty eyes or has the right complexion, WE start thinking FIRST, how CUTE the baby will be. CUTE doesnt feed them. CUTE doesnt raise them. CUTE doesnt get them into college. CUTE doesnt keep the daddy in their lives. WAKE UP
KayJay508 Flag post @fire4u: Yes girl. Did u see the RHOA of Atlanta last night??? If so, what did u think of Lisa's fashion show?? ---------------- I did. I agreed with Dwight Eubanks ( the hairstylist) 100 percent. The clothing was just ok.Nothing high end..or to just die for. And like he said, The props on stage were cheesy. I mean, to me it was kinda elementary. Like a fashion show that you see at your local community center as a fund raiser almost. Great effort, but she's definately not ready for New York fashion week type status. lol
What the f*ck... has this hoe ever heard of birth control.. some people just don't learn. She was just on the show crying about how she don't know if her and solow will make it. Does she think having a baby by these dead beats will keep them. I'm so sick of her having babies. She couldn't even afford to buy a table for her home how is she going to take care of another baby. And we all know she's taking care of his broke ass and his two oldest sons. Smh.. this girl needs to get her tubes tied. Having children is a beautiful thing but she needs to f*ckin stop... ughhh!
@Msjrabbit
I agree with you that everyone does make mistakes and should not be defined by them.And that this doesnt effect US personally,so why should anyone hate.
@kayjay508 you did make some valid points that do hold some weight,i also greee wit you.
But on the other hand you cant keeping doing the same thing and calling it a mistake or expect different results.I mean if u drive in to a wall once or twice it might be a mistake but anymore then that your either really clumsy or careless.
Although children are a blessing, I don't congratulate this. Don't get me wrong...that's a precious baby but, why the hell is Solo even here? what good is he? what is he actually doing for her? I understand she love him but, Neffe DAMN!! I don't watch the show but view clips on the internet. If you cry and have second thoughts about marrying him, then girl that should be a warning to you, go with your feelings. If you got a man and your kids got to eat on the floor, then hey!. Look at his azz, he don't look no better than the riff raff Frankie hangs out with. Drop this mothafuka quick!
@the_disputed_truth
I never know that about the Duggards. I googled that and could not find something to validate that but I will keep looking. Yes, John and Kate are divorced but the point is that they were legally married at one point. Regarding the Duggards, they may have received government help BUT NOW they are debt free, own commerical property around the state with a 7000square food home with two parents. The environment is better so they are not looked down upon
I see Neffie and Frankie as opportunists. What good have they done since their sister put them on and exposed them to something other than being ghetto?! I mean she keeps popping out babies and she's not to be compared to Jon & Kate. They had fertility problems and got a set of twins & sextuplets. She just likes getting pounded out, raw dog and exposes herself to diseases. She's pitiful and I bet that "Soulo" cat isn't gonna be around long. She's dumb as f*ck to keep having babies. Take out your urteus Neffe and burn it!
BOY 1 THING BOUT THAT NEFFE...SHE WILL HAVE A BABY BY A MAN...LIKE IT AIN'T NOTHING ...AND HER FAMILY HAVE SOME NERVE 2 BE TRIPP'N WITH SOULOW..SHIDD ANY MAN THAT TAKE ON ALL THOSE DA MN KIDS NEED TO BE COMMENDED...FRANKIE ACT LIKE SHE'S A ANGEL...WHEN SHE HAVE SCREW& HAD BABIES BY EVERY MAN IN OAKLAND HERSELF...NEFFE CHILD YOU NEED TO BE SPADED & NEUTERED CUZ IM SCARED U MIGHT GET PREGNANT ON THE WAY HOME FROM THE HOSPITAL...
SMH @ all the coon whores on here standing on their soap box calling themselves telling others off just because a few of us who have a problem with someone having more than one 'baby daddy' are saying so. Hmph, can't wait for the answers Neffe will give her Tribe Called Quest when they ask her 'Mama, how come we got different daddies?'.
AND 2 ALL THOSE SAY'N SHE CAN AFFORD THEM...HOW THE HELL DO YOU KNOW...TRUST ME IM TAKING CARE OF THOSE BABIES..CUZ HER BOOK IS NOT SELLING THAT MUCH & WE ALL KNOW BET DON'T PAY LIKE THAT...NEFFE REAL HOOD WITH IT TRUST ME SHE KNOW HOW TO WORK THE FOOD STAMP& SECTION 8 SYSTEM..SO LIKE I SAID IM SURE IM TAKING CARE OF THOSE BABIES..I LOVE ALL CHILDREN..BUT STOP HAVING BABIES BY EVERYMAN YOU MEET..FOR THOSE THAT GET MAD ABOUT WHAT IM SAYING...YOU PROLLY CAN RELATE CUZ UR STORY IS SIMULAR!
there was a petition going around to ban her show plus the Tiny Toya show, guess it didn't work...haven't watched either show but went on a BET blog and was Horrified at the bad spelling and mentality of some of the teens who watch both shows, and who feel a rich baby daddy is worth more than a degree...smh at what this all means for the future.
@ topic Congrats, i think?...another precious life brought into another dysfunctional family...sigh...pray Neffe gets it together.
Why is it that whenever someone has a difference of opinion you're 'judging'? Aren't you judging someone by labeling them as 'judgemental'? It's not called judging, it's called having an opinion and if we have a difference of opinion then we can be adult about it and agree to disagree. People make judgements all day everyday whether they are vocalized or not. Tsk at all the saintly self righteous supporters of this insidious buffoonery. Where's da_advocator?
@ Trulee: I'm far from a "coon whore", I don't even how many "baby daddies" she has. She's nobody special for having baby after baby. She just needs to sit down, keep her legs closed, and read a book. She's got an opportunity that she refuses to use except have millions of viewers look @ her like the ghetto trash cum receptical she is...end of story...
@kayjay508 @ fire4u..OMG THANK GOODNES FOR YOUR OUTLOOK ON THIS THREAD BECAUSE I CO-SIGN 100%
when is the FRANKIE blame going to end..NO ONE is contesting her life as a child and young adult..BUT WHEN WILL SHE ACCEPT responsibilty going forward..MOST PEOPLE take these trials as a learnign tool for a better stepping stone later in life..we cant keep applaudung this bull..PERIOD>> she is not MY KIDS ROLE MODEL but she needs to be one for hers is it okay for our young girls to think having babies MULITPLE babie by different men out of wedlock with just a a damn PROMISE RING>> he hasn't married
SHE BEAUTIFUL BUT AM I THE ONLY 1 TIRED OF NEFEE HAVING KIDS. IT SEEMS LIKE EVERYTIME I LOOK AROUND SHE PREGNANT LIKE REALLY. WHEN SHE WAS PREGNANT WIT JAYLYN I WAS ALSO PREGNANT I NOT 2 LONG CELEBRATED MY SON 1ST B'DAY && HERE SHE IS CELEBRATING ANOTHER BIRTH " LIKE SERIOUSLY NEFEE THAT'S ENOUGH" KISHA ARENT GOING 2 TAKE CARE OF YUH && 2MANY MORE BABIES.... GEESHA GIV YA BROTHER A CHANCE 2 HAV 1 OR ELITE 2 HAV ANOTHER [EXPLETIVE] MAYB EVEN FRANKIE BUT ENOUGH 4 YOU!!!
CON"T her yet so its a promise NOTHING MORE.. lets do better..If it is to be, it is up to you. If you want your life to get better, you must get better. If you want your life to change, you must change. If you want things to improve, you must improve. NO ONE IS COMING TO RESCUE YOU NEFFE.. be the change you are seeking..You are where you are and what you are because of yourself.STOP MAKING EXCUSES PLEASE...
BLACK EXPLOTATION TELEVISION IS DOING TO MUCH
i don't watch this show HARDLY or entertain BABY MOMMIES OF ATL ON BRAVO
There are enough negative role models surrounding our children - and much of the adult world, if not negative, is at best apathetic and mediocre. If we don't focus on positive role models, then these other ones can dampen our children's natural enthusiasm and optimism. SO AGAIN NEFFE if this is your life fine but should we not want better for OUR CHILDREN come on..
PLEASE STOP MAKING EXCUSES FOR THIS WOMEN, I GREW UP WITHOUT MY FATHER AND I DIDN'T GO SLEEPING WITH EVERY MAN SO PLEASE! WHAT KIND OF EXAMPLE IS SHE SETTING FOR HER DAUGHTERS. I DON'T FEEL SORRY FOR WEAK WOMEN, AND STOP BLAMING MEN. A MAN CAN'T DO NO MORE TO YOU THAN WHAT YOU ALLOW HIM TO DO.ANS SHE TALKING TRASH ABOUT KIM FROM THE ATLANTA HOUSE WIFES
Congrats on a healthy baby. Hopefully she gets fixed before she leaves the hospital. I mean even though kids are a blessing, someone whose in a happy marriage, financially secure, and has it all together can get stressed out with 4 children. Neffee need to get herself together in all aspects of her life and stop using her purpose for just being Keyshia's sister, letting men run through her, being ignorant/ghetto, and popping out babies. The sister need to get it together. And does the fiance even work, what does he do????
WELL GOOD LUCK AND CONGRATS...IT'S JUST NOT WISE FOR HER TO KEEP PROCREATING WITH THESE LOSERS..THEY MAY UP AND LEAVE WHENEVER THEY FEEL LIKE IT...THEN YOU'RE STUCK WITH A TRUCK LOAD OF KIDS, NO HUSBAND,AND NOTHING BUT PROBLEMS...IT'S HARD FOR A SINGLE WOMAN WITH JUST 1 OR 2 KIDS...IMAGINE 4 OR 5...
THAT BABY IS CUTE AND HAVING BABIES IS A BEAUTIFUL THING BUT CONSTANTLY HAVING KIDS BY MESSED UP MEN IS JUST BAD MAN..THESE MEN SHE'S BEEN WITH ARE NOT WORTH FATHERING ANYBODY..HER HUSBAND WAS DISRESPECTFUL, SHE SLEPT WITH A CRACKHEAD, AND NOW THE MOOCHER...IT'S SAD THAT THIS SISTER DOESN'T VALUE HERSELF ENOUGH TO NOT PROCREATE WITH TRASH..
@SPICEISLE..NOW THAT'S REAL TALK..AINT NOBODY JUDGING HER..I JUST THINK SOME OF US LIKE MYSELF KNOW HOW MESSED UP YOUR LIFE CAN BE WHEN YOU GROW UP IN A HOME WHERE THE KIDS HAVE DIFFERENT DADDIES, MAMA AINT MARRIED..THESE PEOPLE HARDLY EVER GROW UP TO BE NORMAL..THEY STRUGGLE IMMENSLY IN LIFE WITH ALL TYPE OF BULLCRAP ISSUES....WHY DO THAT TO AN INNOCENT BABY..IT'S SELFISH...
@TONYQUICK..FIRST OF ALL I SUGGEST YOU WATCH YOUR MOUTH...SECOND OF ALL, I'M NOT GHETTO AND NEVER HAVE BEEN...NOR DO I HAVE BABIES BY MULTIPLE MEN ALL OVER THE MAP...I'M DIVORCED AND MY KIDS HAVE THE SAME...DID YOU GET THAT RETARD...THE SAME...MAN...I GREW UP WITH SIBLINGS WITH DIFFERENT FATHERS..WHY WOULD I PURPOSELY CREATE THE SAME MESSED UP LIFE FOR MYSELF...SO YOU NEED TO RAISE UP..YOU COME ON HERE ALL THE TIME WITH A BUNCH OF IGNORANT PSEUDO-INTELLECUTAL BULLSHYT..LOL..
YA'LL NO DA MN WELL THAT'S NOT COOL ALL THOSE KIDS...SEE FRIENDS LIKE SOME OF YA'LL PEOPLE DON'T NEED..CUZ U WILL SIT BACK & WATCH YOUR HOME GIRL SELF DISTRUCT & ENCOURAGE HER TO KEEP HAVING BABIES GIRL!(DON'T WORRY ABOUT WHAT PEOPLE SAY) WHILE YOU LAUGHING & TALKING ABOUT HER TO OTHER PEOPLE...GTFAH!!
@TONQUICK...FIRST OF ALL, I DON'T HAVE ANY REASON TO FEAR "BECOMING" NEFFEE..MY MOTHER WAS NEVER A CRACKHEAD..MY MOTHER WAS A SINGLE MOTHER BUT HER AND MY GRANDMOTHER RAISED US TO HAVE SELF RESPECT, TO WORK HARD, AND TO HAVE DIGNITY...IF SOMEBODY INSTILLED THOSE TRAITS IN YOU FROM CHILDHOOD, YOU WOULD NEVER TURN OUT LIKE NEFFEE..I'M STRONG AND HAVE A SENSE OF SELF WORTH AND VALUE..SO SORRY TO DISAPPOINT YOU, BUT I COULD NEVER NOR WILL I EVER BE A "NEFFE"..
@GLASSDOLL..CO-SIGN..EVEN THOUGH ME AND MY SIBLINGS HAD STRICT RULES AND WE WERE RAISED, NOT HAVING A FATHER IN THE HOME STILL LEAVES SOME BAD MARKS ON YOUR PSYCHE...IT'S NOT THE MOST STABLE ENVIRONMENT WHETHER THE WOMAN IS STABLE OR NOT..BUT AT LEAST THERE ARE SINGLE MOTHERS OUT THERE WHO ARE TRYING TO DO THEIR BEST.NEFFE ISN'T TRYING TO CHANGE...SHE OBVIOUSLY LIKES HER MESSED UP LIFE..SO BE IT...
@TONYQUICK..NYGGAS LIKE YOU MAKE MY BLOOD BOIL..YOU ARE SELF HATING BASTARDS THAT CAN'T STAND TO A SISTER ACTUALLY MAKING IT OKAY IN LIFE WITH YALLS SORRY AZZES...YOU SEE, I COULD NEVER BE LIKE NEFFE...BECAUSE IF A MAN AINT WHAT I WANT, THEN I DON'T WANT NOBODY AT ALL..I'M DIVORCED, SINGLE AND CELIBATE HON..TRUST...BEING WITHOUT A MAN AINT GONNA KILL NOBODY..I CAN DO BAD BY MYSELF..I'M SANE...MAKING IT..MY TWINS ARE HAPPY AND EXCELLING...WITHOUT ONE OF YALL...CAUSE WHEN YOU BLACK MEN DON'T DO RIGHT...WHICH IS MOST OF THE TIME, WE BLACK WOMEN HAVE TO COUNT ON THE MOST HIGH..AND HE'S ALL I NEED
Ummm, I just wanna know how the brother makes a living? How does he intend on taking care of his newfound family; Neffie and her 4 other children???
Because let me tell you black men don't have patience for that sh*t. I've seen men call their girlfriends just to go over their house to get some sleep in a QUIET house! No lie.
I saw their show the other night for the first time,personally i think she needs to really start changing HOW she raises her kids.They should have Bed times,especially the smaller ones. Ok yeah they were at Granny's but she doesn't envelope structure ither.She was angery when frankie's FRIEND was over there...she kept hinting what he "did" to her. But I wouldn't want him or NONE of those young men around my eldest daughter like that...She needs to wake up,or she's gonna turn her head and her DAUGHTER is gonna end up pregnant!...GET PAST the PAST and tend to your kids!
You know what they say two ugly people make a cute baby but she having babies at keyshia coles expense. I wish they would tie these ladies tubes so they can stop ruining these kids lives but I guess she trying to be like franke and have 7 kids spread around hoping one would become famous like keyshia did.
@COFFEECOLOR..WELL...I HATE TO TELL YOU BUT THAT'S HOW IT IS IN MOST URBAN-GHETTO TYPE HOUSEHOLDS....THERE'S NO BED TIMES, NO MEAL TIMES, NO STRUCTURE...I THINK I'M SEEN AS A SQUARE IN THE URBAN TOWN I LIVE IN CAUSE I ACTUALLY IMPLEMENT THOSE THINGS....MY KIDS ARE GETTING READY FOR BED AT 8:00 WHEN OTHER KIDS ARE STILL OUTSIDE PLAYING UNSUPERVISED...I CAN'T LIVE IN A CHAOTIC HOUSEHOLD..I HAVE TO HAVE CONTROL..LOL
RedDragon....That's what i'm sayin...it boils down to the MOTHER figure!...I hear excuses about being a single mother...My sister was a single mother with 3 BOYS(all grown now with families of their own)...But still, she DID NOT PLAY!...There bed times were 8:00 also..the kids used to laugh at them..."ah ha-- yall gotta go in b4 the street lights come on!"...Some of those kids(young adults) are now DEAD!.That's real!..No structure!
@TONYQUICK..YOU ARE SICK INDIVIDUAL..I DONT KISS WHITE PEOPLE'S ASSES..NOR BLACK PEOPLE'S EITHER...I'M ABOUT AS PROUD A BLACK WOMAN AS ONE CAN BE..I'M BLACK THROUGH AND THROUGH AND I DON'T HAVE TO PROVE IT TO YOU OR ANYBODY ELSE..YOU HATE YOUR OWN PEOPLE WHO ARE NOT DARK LIKE YOU..WHEN LIGHT-SKINNED PEOPLE DON'T EVEN BE HATING DARK SKINNED PEOPLE..YOU NEED TO REDIRECT YOUR ANGER TO THE PEOPLE WHO ENSLAVED BOTH OUR PEOPLE...AT THE END OF THE DAY, LIGHT, DARK, MEDIUM BROWN, TO RACIST WHITES WE ALL ARE JUST NYGGERS!
@COFFEE COLOR..NOW THAT'S REAL TALK..THE MOTHER'S DON'T WANNA MAN UP AND TAKE ON THE ROLE ONCE THE RELATIONSHIP WITH THE FATHER DISSOLVES..BUT THAT'S LIFE IT'S NOT AND IT IS WHAT IT IS..MY BROTHER'S FATHER WAS A DIRTY MAN WHO WAS NEVER AROUND....HE ENDED UP LIVING THIRTY YEARS IN A WHEELCHAIR FROM POLIO..BUT HE WAS STILL RAISED RIGHT..HE'S BEEN A CHEF FOR TWENTY YEARS AND HAS A WIFE AND KIDS AND NEVER BEEN TO JAIL...
RedDragon-Girl all STRONG Single Mothers know the phrase.."One monkey don't stop no show!"...Your brother should be an inspiration to the ones that stand on the corner 24/7 and get nothin done in the mean time....Fathers are as Fathers do....it don't take a genius to walk away when the things get too hot too handle.But it takes a REAL man to stay!(I'm out my doggie has allergies-po baby)
If this aint a good case for forced sterilization I dont know what is. This negro sitting around Neffe justa grinnin. No job, no plans for a job, but he smilin. Stupid azz bitch. 30 with 5 kids already. Hate to see this broad at 40. How many babies will she have pushed out by then? Wtf is wrong with a damn condom? She is such a disgrace to all sisters trying hard to carry themselves with some respect and dignity, working hard every day to better themselves and then here comes a damn Neffe, representing all that is wrong with our community as far as sisters go. Damn, just damn...
I hope Soullow or whatever dude's name is . . Is telling this woman she need to get herself on multiple forms of birth control. Far be it from me to judge Neffe however she has quite a bit of kids with like 4 different dads. Time to concentrate on six or more she already! Do something for us MTO, since somewhere there is up Neffe's ass . . Suggest Tubal Ligation
THIS BITCH ALONG WITH THERE NASTY ASS CRAZY CRACK MOMMA IS PATHETIC NEFFE NEEDS TO GET HER LEGS SEWED CLOSED AND FRANKIE NEED TO SET HER OLD NASTY UGLY ASS DOWN SOMEWHERE BOTH OF THEM NOTS WOULD BE NOWHERE IF IT WASN'T FOR KEISHA I KNOW SHE HAS GOT TO BE SO ASHAMED OFHERSELF FOR EVEN BLOWING THEM UP LIKE THAT I MEAN REALLY WHO WOULD BE PROUD OF A MOTHER WHO IS A CRACK-HEAD/DRUNK/CHILD-MOLESTER. AND A SISTER WHO IS TRYING TO BE THE NEXT BLACK OCTO-MOM A DAM SHAME!
KJ I responded to your post b/c you seem MUCH more passionate & informed about Neffie's life than anyone else. I'm not surprised you're a female; BW are more hostile toward each other than necessary. I strongly agree for several reasons (which I won't state) that this should be the last child for Neffie but when it boils down to it how many kids she has simply doesn't have any effect on my life.
Neffee has 3 kids from her ex husband...1 from the dude she rebounded with...this one from Sollow...plus his 2 so they have 7 all together.
If they taking care of their kids then no one else should care. Its obvious they doing they thing so people need to get off her. Its far worst [EXPLETIVE] to be complaining about then how many children this woman has.
Love Neffe...Keep doing your thing girl.
Wow, everybody has a right to their opinions about this - but ultimately, she is the one who has to live this out and explain to her children about the choices she has made. Obviously. the consulation she had with Pastor Eddie Long did no good. I hope she does not think that that lame tv show she and her mother had is going to provide for her little family. And she certainly won't be asked to 'show up' at any celebs parties for $1500 like her mom. They really need to get a job, get a career and get off tv.
Congratsssss neffe on baby and everything girllll mad love from danville va..... ok now back to yall moth*****'s....how many paying out ya pockets for "ANY" of her "5" kids.... aint ya problem yall and she good so E.A.D.!!!!!!!aka EAT A DICK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! be mad i know i know like "JAY-Z" i know i know
For her to be so ooogly she has beautiful kids but this trick don't get on birth control is she [EXPLETIVE] dumb or what she had the nerve to be mad when she found out she was pregnant like she's not fertile and she has how many baby daddy's it like every time she scru a different dude she winds up pregnant she should use her brain for a chance.
