: MediaTakeOut.com just got its hands on a recent interview with actress Nia Long - and she claims that she and her 9 year old son sleep in the same bed. Here's an excerpt from the interview:
Interviewer: We have a segment in our show called Being There. And it’s about the quality time that you spend with your child. I know you spend a lot of quality time with [Massai]. What would you say would be the one thing that represents that for you?We really hope that Massai's friends don’t see this interview . . .Nia: Well my son still sleeps in bed with me.
Interviewer: [Laughs] That’s quality time.
Nia: He does and I love it. Every now and then I get a foot in my neck or an elbow in my back. But you know when the whole day goes by and he’s busy being a boy and I can’t kiss him goodbye on the first day of school – cause [his girlfriend] Ella’s watching.
That’s my time. And we snuggle . . . and it's the best.
Ain't nothing wrong with that. My children slept with me for years. When they got tired of me knocking them in the head while I was sleep, and waking up from falling out of the bed, they left on their own. lol. I actually missed the little boogers when they first stopped sleeping in the bed with me.
MTO Yall stupid as hell and for the ones that thinks this is wrong yall dumb as hell also. I'm a 34yrs male, and my 7 and 11 yrs will come and get in bed with my wife and myself and sleep watch TV what ever.. hell those are our babies. and most of the blk on here grow up back in the day slept in bed with their moms to, cause the only TV in the house was in her room. Nia Big Daddy is on his way.. girl is looking GREAT!
That's not creepy [EXPLETIVE]! I am 34 with an 8yr old son and he still sleeps with me. He has his own bedroom ofcourse but I'm a single mom and he's my only child! Yes, he is a mama's boy-nothing wrong with that. They are the ones who turn out to be the good guys! My sons bedroom is at the opposite end of the house and we just feel more secure in each others presence. I love having my son in my bed. I play with his jaws when he's asleep and I wouldn't trade anything for the elbows and feet in my face. I LOVE YOU MALIK!! Go head Nia, that's a good mommy!!
To Insane Trumpet- you got a good point bru, what man would date a woman who still allows her 9 year old to sleep in her bed- believe me young dude will not except another man in his moms bed, i know from experience, i dated a woman who had a 10 year old and one night i stayed over after we dated for sometime and young dude cried like a baby when we close the door of her bedroom, he layed next to her door crying because he wanted to join us in the bed, and i was like no way, but he wouldn't stop crying so i went home and took a cold shower.....
so what. that's what wrong with our children today, everybody is so busy trying to have their children grow up hard, no one recognize the issues that can come from that. children needs to b taught to love, show affection, hell not everybody is a damn child molester. my little ones, 16mths and 10 love to crawl in bed with me and its the best, esp on rainy saturday morning when we can watch cartoon in bed and be silly and eat junk. get over yourselves ppl.
WOW MTO I can't fuc*#ng stand yall. Ya'll are so pitiful. WTF is wrong with her son sleeping with her. he is 11 he is not 16. he's only in the 6th grade. That's what is wrong with kids today. Growing up to damn fast not being kids. Quit hatin and get some real stories. ya'll fuc*#ng suck. I hate ya'll.
Nothing wrong with that. You're acting like he's 19 instead of 9. He'll grow out of it eventually. My brother slept in the same bed as my mom until he was like 11 yrs old. He was just afraid of the dark. I used to be the same way. Then as we got older, you couldn't pay us to NOT sleep in our own rooms. Now I can't sleep unless it's pitch black.
OK THERE MUST BE AN OVERLOAD OF IGNORANT PEOPLE ON MTO INCLUDING THE IDIOT WHO POSTED THIS STORY. MTO U A FALLING OFF SERIOUSLY. WHAT'S WRONG WITH SLEEPING WITH YOU'RE OWN CHILDREN? I MEAN COME ON SERIOUSLY.... DON'T BE STUPID. EVERYONE WHO THINKS SOMETHING IS WRONG WITH IT IS SERIOUSLY SMALL MINDED..... AND YET ANOTHER SPACE WASTED ON A WORTHLESS IMMATURE STORY.
Hate to say it, but I understand. I live in a big ass house with my 2 yr old daughter. And she sleeps with me. If a muf*cka break in MY sh1t.. they gettin US in MY room... No stops needed thankyouverymuch. And I dont give a f*ck WHAT nobody say. That's MY baby.
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When I was in St Lucia last year families slept in one room sometimes,this was the norm, reminded me of the time when my dad use to do night shift, my mum would ask me to sleep in her room, because she was scared of the dark,even when we as adults go Jam down, cotch anywhere, the fight are priceless but fun, only in western cultures this IS wrong, white folks have their children sleeping in separate rooms from they are a week old, where is the bonding
She shouldnt do that..... Plain and simple and she should know this. Thats all I can say. I kids were sleeping on their own for the most part straight out da crib. Every once in a while Id turn over and see one in our bed but off to their room they go. You just have to repeat this until they get the message thats all. I dont know why Nia finds this acceptable but thats her child.
It's her son and she can do whatever they are both comfortable with as long as they like, but personally because I know a woman who does this and her son is thirteen now I think it's unhealthy and that it will cause all kinds of emotional problems for the child later. Nia just wait until you decide you are ready for another man to come into your life and sleep in your bed and watch how the child forgets he's your son and starts acting like your man. I'm sure he has his own room,but THAT'S NOT COOL! 4u2.com
I feel men that are closer to their mother make better partners, I feel the reason why a lot of men become feminised is because of a sense of abandonment at an early age if they are shunned by their own mother how can they possibly feel connected to a woman, I have said this before, I work with disadvantage youths the mothers are usually cold towards their son or daughters, when they play up just a simple hug works wonders SOMETHING THAT SOME PARENTS DON'T PRACTICE
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You can try and spin this anyway you want but first of all everybody is not look at this from a nasty perspective. He should not be in the bed with his mother at nine, Point Blank. You have been watching way too much "Waiting to Exhale" sista. It takes a man to teach a boy how to be a man. How do you know how this young man is viewing this arrangement? What happens when he grows up and has a daughter and decides to do the same thing? I smell dysfunction. This is some "Jerry Springer" type Ish.
where is the cut off point?...next week...next year?...She has to begin making him aware of his independence as to sleeping alone. I could understand 5..even 6 years old becoz, you still have Monsters under the bed and clowns in the closets...but I feel by the time their 9 they should have sports figures on their bedroom walls and be able to start making their own beds kinna thing....mom's room is down the hall...JMO
I see yall lame bitches have been drinking that simple juice again!!!! First of all what is incestrious about sleeping in a bed with your mom? I thought in order for incest to occur you have to have SEX with someone you are kin to right? Where is that she had sex with her chile? Yall simple bitches need to look outside the [EXPLETIVE] box im like damn!!! We as a people really are at the bottom of the totem pole and yall stupid ass comments solidify that
Its her son so let her raise him they way she see fit.That seems like the trend anyway to raise boys and let them go gay! Then say well I love him no matter what he does. Like the mom and all the other female things u had the boy doing had nothing to do with it. I have no problem cuz the gays out here the women for me!lol so go ahead bring in more fruity pants in the world in the name of love..lol. By the way my son better not think about sleeping in the bed with me or his moms at 9.that's why he has a full size bed!
Well, I see nothing wrong with this. All three of my kids slept with me at some point in their infancy and my son who is also 9 yrs old slept with me and his father until he was 2. Now that we're divorced, my son and I have a weekly slumber party. Every saturday night when he is home and not spending the weekend with his dad, he sleeps with me. We bunk, watching tv, eating junk and enjoying each other. He has his own room, bed, and tv. Its our thing. Its limited to saturday nights, and there's nothing wrong with that !
Now, he shouldn't be sleeping in her bed EVERY night, but sometimes its good to bond with your child....Sometimes children have bad dreams and climb in...I wish my mother and I had the relationship to where I could have slept with her and felt her arm around me at that age....Because I knew I couldn't do things like sleep with her at night, we were very distant. I would have loved being "mommy's baby" every once in a while...its important for your child to feel that security.
billbixby300 Flag post BLACK WOMEN ARE TERRIBLE MOTHERS A NINE YEAR OLD BOY SHOULD NOT BE SLEEPING WITH HIS MOTHER THATSC WHY BLACK MALES TURN INTO [EXPLETIVE] I AM A BLACK MALE AND I WISH THE GOVERNMENT WOULD STERILIZE ALL BLACK WOMEN SHE EITHER PRODUCES THUGS ARE HAS HALF WHITE MESSED UP MULLATTOS ARE P. ------------------------------------------------- Yeah, black women are HORRIBLE mothers for doing that.....Because white women let their children sleep with dogs instead, what great mother's they are....gtfoh
I date this girl who still let's her 4 year old son sleep in the bed with her. Whenever I stay the night over there this lil nigg@ be wakin up in the middle of the night screamin out for his momma. Then he knocks and cries at the door if she doesn't let him in her bed. Usually I just get up and go home. Who can sleep with all that goin on?
Only hoes, and women that choose men over their children have a problem with her offspring sleeping with them....If you can eat together, you can sleep together...Most of you ignorant ass, ghetto, no father having asses let your whorish mammy's have you think that laying in the bed is only for lying on your back and having sex...IT'S FOR SLEEP..The bed is not an intimate ALL THE TIME. I guess you shouldn't ineract with your children at night time either....GTFOH....
He's probably sabotaging her relationships,Who said anything about incest?..I know I didn't...I just said it's time for him to know what it's like to sleep alone...and it is!...If this thread was about hood chick USA,"she know she wrong for that"..."Just a hot Ghetto mess"..blah blah fukken blah... but becoz it's a celebrity..the subject matter is different?..hell wit that...time for him to get his lil azz in his own room!
You know there is thin line between commenting and just getting all up in someone else's business. Now there is nothing wrong with a child sleeping with his or her parent. Now folk can make anything they want outta that but its just that simple in most homes. That parent and child is the one to decide when its "time". not a MTO forum for goodness sakes
There is nothing wrong with that she's a single mom. Natives say the reason why White people and Black people have their kid sall messed up is because they don't have that closeness. Black people and white people put their newborn in a crib on the other side of the house. Most don't breastfeed anymore. Too many Eminems and TIs out there...
I swear MTO readers are some of the most ignorant readers out there. My son is 8 yrs old and when I am not on the road and home with him he sleeps in my bed as well. Its called nurturing which is something black people lack in their families. Mothers need to bond w/ their children and since we are required to return to work just 6 weeks after we push them out some of us "good" mothers allow our "emotionally healthy" children sleep in our beds. Mothers do not wear sexy lingerie in bed w/ their children. And no boy wakes up w/ a woody because he is sleeping next to his mom.
It's obvious that BillBixby is uncomfortable w/ the idea because BillBixby is white and we all know how white men like to molest little kids. We don't play that in black families. If a child is molested in a black family is because someone is on drugs or you didn't keep a close eye on that cousin who just got out of jail. White men molest their daughters everyday and white moms drown their kids in the tub. All Nia does is allow her 9 year old son to spend some "QT" with her and you guys are up in arms about it. BillBixby was prolly molested and is very very bitter.
@ BillBixby: black mothers do not think that dressing their children up cute is being a good mom. We believe that providing emotional stability and a good education so they don't have to live in a trailer park next to you and your family is being a good mom. You really want to go their on an African American site? Trust, my duo degreed black a$$ will chew you up and spit you out. But of course, white people are cannibalistic like that anyway.
No one said anything FREAKY was going on and the reality is that mothers have issues of dependency they pass on to their son's. Boy's who sleep with their mother well into puberty are the same ones who grow up & marry and have girlfriends that feel they always have to compete with their partners MOTHER! I never understood when a woman would be jealous of a mans own mother,but it starts early and this is one of the main reasons for it and needy mothers who miss their son's fathers do this on purpose,because if BIG DADDY was there, there's no way a 9yr old boy would be in your bed. PERIOD!!
alot of people getting a 9 year old confused with a toddler. this boy is a couple years away from puberty and kids develop earlier these days, what happens if that boy wakes up at 11 and her bed is wet, how she gon explain he had a wet dream. i love nia long but sista tell that boy get his a$$ in his own bed, u can still cuddle with him but when its time to sleep he can ge in his own bed. Men definitely don't need to be sleeping with 9 year old daughters because men tend to get morning wood in the morning and it is not usually sexual in nature. Ya feel me.
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Single women understand what is going on more than those of us who are married or have live-in relationships....I feel what they're saying but....at a certain age...that Man/Child HAS to be encouraged to walk his own way. If he becomes too dependent on his mother to the point he can't SLEEP without her...there are going to be issues when he IS a full grown Man!..The complex is established by age 6...she's 3 years past..that's not good.Becoz suppose she DOES find a man that WILL stay,and he HAS to sleep alone..then what?...Turn him loose Now,he looks like a smart young man,he can handle it.
Maybe I just don't get it but I don't see anything normal about a 9 year old boy sleeping in the same bed as their mother. What if it was the other way around? A 9 year old girl sleeping in the same bed as her father? That's just weird. But whatever. I can see little kids like 2 or 3 year olds because they have a hard time being independent like that but 9?? Alright then.
EVERY BLACK FEMALE OR MALE that lets thier child sleep with them when they are NOT A BABY ANYMORE...clearly has ISSUES....AND YES THAT IS INCESTUOUS!!...BOTH MALE AND FEMALES CHILDREN can develop at a young age!!!...9 is TOO OLD to be sleeping with one or both your parents!!..
BY many of the posts on here its clear that all of you BLACK FEMALES OCTOPUSSY is in the need of any MALE PRESENCE...even if its your own child!!!...and its PATHETIC and NASTY!!!...And the BLACK MEN who sleep with thier children are just NASTY and INCESTUOUS TOO...
See how MTO writes a leading article and some ppl just buy right into it, like OMG that is so wrong!
Please! Have your own mind. She didn't say that he sleeps in her bed everynite. For ppl to assume that this may be inappropriate due to sexual reasons is sad. What this mom is doing is showing her child unconditional love.
What would the world be, if more ppl showed their kids unconditional love, instead of letting the media raise them?
Nia Long is super-GORGEOUS! Love her. Her son is too big to sleep in the same bed with her IF its done EVERYDAY. I see nothing wrong with him occassionally crawling into mommy's bed if he had for instance a bad day at school or just finished watching a horror film.
@Jaming876- Shut the hell up you sicko. Some of you black men are sooo damn PERVERTED its sickening. Then your dumb, over-sexualized selves wonder why Mr. Charlie dont want to hire you on the Job because you guys have nothing else on the brain except vagina and in alot of cases dikk. Nasty.
starlite Flag post Maybe I just don't get it but I don't see anything normal about a 9 year old boy sleeping in the same bed as their mother. What if it was the other way around? A 9 year old girl sleeping in the same bed as her father? That's just weird. But whatever. I can see little kids like 2 or 3 year olds because they have a hard time being independent like that but 9?? Alright then. --------------- It shouldn't be weird when it comes to your parents...If life cant be innocent with your parents, then who can it be innocent with...
121269 ... $hid my son 19, when i wake up he laying at the bottom of my bed snoring his a$$ off, i guess he cant geta goodnight sleep in that filhty a$$ room of hiz,lol ---------------------- This is funny. LOL. But some of these women say they are cuddling with their kids. In their cases it is more for them than it is the kids.
My best friend has a son in college and he comes home to visit for the weekend. SHe cries like crazy every time he goes. Poor thing.
We have to prepare the child the leave the nest some day. You don't want to be cold to the child but dang sleep in your own bed. LOL.
There are a million of other ways to show atention and love I am sure.
"Maybe I just don't get it but I don't see anything normal about a 9 year old boy sleeping in the same bed as their mother. What if it was the other way around? A 9 year old girl sleeping in the same bed as her father?"
Ummm unless your father is some kind of sick pervert, I don't see anything wrong with that. I can recall sleeping in the bed with my father as a little girl. No big deal.
It's really bad when a child can't even sleep in the bed wiith their parents without someone questioned it. What has society come to?
I THINK NIA JUST WANTS TO HOLD ON TO HER SON A LITTLE LONGER. HE'S NINE YEARS OLD ANDSHE PROBABLY SEE HIM GROWING UP SO FAST THAT IT MIGHT BE SCAREY TO HER. THAT'S UNDERSTANDIBLE. WHAT I HAVE A PROBLEM WITH IS HIM GETTING SO USED TO THIS ARRANGEMENT THAT IT'LL BE TOO HARD FOR HIM TO ABLE TO SLEEP ON HIS ON IN THE FUTURE.
She's opened up a can of worms for her son,and it sad.Becoz the innocence of it is gonna be overshadowed with the realism of the society we live in.His little classmates will express to him the ideals of THEIR parents reactions, once heard.Some kids are mean.she should have just kept her living arrangements private.
Doll1 & 121269. I can buy my own ticket now but if this economy doesn't pick up and I don't get more work, this brother is going to law school in 2010. So days of having disposable cash will be over. Then a sister would have to buy a brothers ticket. I assure you it would be a wise investment (wink) lol
No wonder so many young boys today, act like overly-emotional b!tches. No men around to teach them how to man up.
Nobody to teach them responsibility. How stay level-headed so you wont grab a gun everytime someone upsets you. How to keep your cool when your woman gets all emotional and starts acting up. Cause she will.
How to stand on your own 2 feet, and take care of yourself. Theres nothing wrong with a little male pride.
I betcha that sh!t would go down if I was around.
Thankyou Dad, for raising me.
Girls mature faster than boys.....Boys tend to cling..you HAVE to set them on their path early, or they'll need a wake up call when they're adults.It's too many women out there complaining that "He calls his momma for everything!"...as mothers we have to prepare them for the MATE in their lives.To get an education,to work hard ,be loving and caring etc,.We have to give them the life tools for success,then send them on their way...Becoz we can't be both Mom and wife/girlfriend .... It starts with knowing his boundaries,life lessons should have begin at age 7!.Boundary#1?.....His Room!
I know this girl, who I swear every month some pathetic, no job having, irresponsible a$$ nygga is beggin for something. A place to stay. A ride. Some food.
Sometimes its her own brothers and cousins. This girls gotta son to take care of.
I told her not to let this on dude move in and she told me that everything would fine cause she "made him get job". Why the hell would a girl have to make a grown man get a job so he can pay his rent. Shouldnt he wanna do that on his own.
She ended up kickin him out a month and half later. Found out he got fired. He never paid anything.
nubianqueen103 I have to agree with u. My son just turned 8 on Sunday and he still sleeps with me. He has his own bedroom down the hall and from time to time he may want to sleep in there. I live in the DC area and there have been way too many kidnappings for me. People are now breaking in your home even if you have security. They are able to bypass the the alarm and and take your children in their sleep. You all that say its creepy can say what you want. My son is my world and Ill be damned if someone takes him from me. I know he is safe beside me even with his foot in my back.
..Every Month?.wow...first off they know she's single!...She's probably a sweet person and some men would take advangtage of that.But that's not a good look on her to always draw guys with nothing to offer HER,her son is watching.what about the relationship between her son and the guy?..You can't just bring men in and out of your children's lives like that,She needs to move!..
@papamurf...families take advantage more than anybody on the planet,they somehow feel they have a right....wrong!...but then what kind of family member would you be if you HAVE the space,and know they're homeless?..but yeah he's a grown man..So he'll have to byte the bullet if he wasn't willing to help.See ya!...I'll bring a plate to your "spot" tomorrow!...Just like that!
The die is cast....To each his own. we are responsible for the learning stages...who's to say which is right or wrong...the child will eventually become an adult and the teachings will then reflect.Society will lend it's hand in his/her development whether we want it to or not.All we can do now is the best we can to love and guide them.and with that....
I slept in the bed with my mom at 9 and even beyond that.it wasnt like i didnt have my own i just liked to.some of u tramps got to many useless ass [EXPLETIVE] slipping in and out ya bed at night to spend time with your kids at night.watch a movie or sumthn stop sendn them to they room at night and making them lay in the dark and force themselves to sleep
The world is sick!!! Everything is about sex now. A mother can't even sleep in the bed with her 9 year old. Just like the parents that took pictures of their kids in the bathtub, took the film to Walmart to be developed, and ended up getting their kids taken away. Perception is all that matters in this world, reality is not given a chance anymore. Grow up World, get your mind out of the gutter!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You except gay marriage but you don't except a mother's bond with her own son.
I cant believe u dumbass people have somethin bad to say about nia sleepin with HER baby! ya he's 9 so the hell what? Thats HER child & she can do whatever she wants. For the people sayin thats sexual makin it seem like shes a child molester...u r some dumbass immature closed minded sick idiotic ignorant B****ES! u prolly dont have kids of yur own & if u do they prolly as F****D up as u r! All u need to grow the hell up!
BRUCEBANNER2000....why the hell u gotta say somethin about black women like it has anything to do with race u dumb piece of S***! I sure as hell aint black & i sleep with my 7yr old daughter & 10 yr old son whenever the hell they want to sleep with me. its called LOVE idiot! Abviously yur parents never showed u what the hell that is. See my kids 10 years from now...bet they'll turn out WAY better then yur ignorant ass! I know hella people that have slept with their parents whenever till they were around 10 & they never had no issues growin up & still dont now. Oh ya and THEY'RE NOT BLACK!
I understand NURTURING but his ASSS tooo BIG he got a "LIL GIRLFRIEND" why you Lil GROWN ass stilL IN THE bed wiTH mommaI STOPPED SLEEPING IN MY MARRiED PARENTS BED WHEN I WAS 1 or 2 bc that CAUSES RELATIONSHIP problems! Theo only time I would go in there is if I was SiCK< it was THUNDERING outside, or I was taking a NAP but NEVER EVEry NIGHT! LIKE IF THAT WAS A NiNE YEAR oLD GIRL WITH MOSQUITO BITeS (ie undershirt no training bra) Sleeping with her DADDY yall would be like WTF that
