: We are SOOOOO sick of the mainstream media putting out another "study" showing that Black people hate each other. In the latest, ABC News interviewed 4 Black women who admit to NOT HAVING A RELATIONSHIP IN OVER A DECADE. And then they use them to prove that Black men ain’t NO GOOD!!!
Actually, we're pretty sure that NO ONE over at ABC News did any research WHATSOVER!!! If they did, they would have known that marriage rates among Black women are UP!! In fact, after reaching an all-time low of 46% in the mid 1990s - the Black marriage rate has GROWN STEADILY since then, and is now close to 50% for the first time since the 1970s. FYI, these statistics come from the US Census.
So if Black women are getting married at the highest rate in nearly 30 years, why don't you hear about this? That's a good question.
And SMDH at them having Steve Harvey as a marriage expert. Didn't his last wife accuse him of BEATING HER AZZ and then SWINDLING HER OUT OF MILLIONS????
Anyway, for those interested, check this out:
I hate it when ppl use that bullsh!t @ss excuse that there aren't any "good Black men to marry" That's absolutely stupid. I have an amazing Black man myself. And if you're not getting them, it's because you're not looking!! Either not in the right place or not @ the right time. Black women please be careful about what you say about your men...ON NATIONAL TELEVISION!!
If you're unmarried, don't take your frustrations out on the world and those who are happy in it. Deal with your bitterness, your anger on your own time and find what actually makes you happy. Might not be a man at all, but a new skill, a new job, going back to school. Seriously....get over yourself.
Those thirsty bitches don't speak for me. My mom, female relatives, friends and neighbors ALL have men, so I don't see this disparity between black men and black women in the real world. This garbage is just being perpetuated via the media.
And if you didn't know, this whole "black men/women ain't sh!t propaganda", is to promote interracial dating, something that truly gets under my f.ucking skin.
But, I digress.....
WELP, I HAVE A CAUCASION MAN SO I CAN'T HELP THEM.
HOWEVER, I DO SEE WHERE THERE ARE COMING FROM. HOW MANY HANDSOME, WELL-OFF, CHRISTIAN, YOUNG, BLACK MEN DO WE HAVE ANY MORE? I KNOW THERE ARE SOME BECAUSE MY DADDY IS ALL OF THAT, BUT YOU CAN HARDLY FIND THAT ANYMORE.
AND THEY ARE TOO BUSY SNIFFING UP THESE WHITE FEMALES SKIRTS. I MEAN COME ON NOW, AS MUCH AS THEY SHOULDN'T BLAME THE MEN FOR THEIR LONLINESS THEY DO HAVE A POINT.
Yall need to quit tryin to sugarcoat this shyt. the lack of good quality black men is a huge problem in black society. alot of yall brothas eitha locked up dont have any higher education and are marrying white or other non black women. this aint to say that there aint any good black men out there cuz there are, but alot of yall brothas need to step your game up. these women aint lyin. shyt im 35 and aint got no man. no black man eva proposed to me and i do wanna get married. im fine and educated shyt yall dont act like the problem aint there cuz it is. its hard out here for the sistahs
GaGaOohLaLa
shyt i hear that. i aint ever been attracted to the pink but because of slim pickings i done gotten over the fear of the pink. shyt i done expanded all my options. ill take a chinese white arab jew as long as they treat me right and they serious about settling down getting married. i aint about to wait no 90 years for a good black man. hey and if he come he come but for damn sure i aint limiting my options
the media isnt puttin us down their jus tellin the truth..nowadays black people are so worried about gettin a light skin, blasian, or white chick..we are the ONLY race that puts down our own!.. a black man would rather date a 300pound latino woman over a 300 pound black woman all cause their light or the kids can have nice hair...its ashame us black women are bein put thru this by our own kind!
I CAN'T STAND WHEN BLACK WOMEN SAY MOST BLACK MEN DATE WHITE GIRLS TRUTH IS THEY DON'T IF THEY DATED THEM SO MUCH WHY IS THERE 1.5.PERCENT OF BIRACIAL KIDS... AND IN THE BIRACIAL PERCENT IT'S INCLUDING WHITE AND ASIAN MIX, MEXICAN AND ASIAN MIX AND SO ON... IT'S A MYTH BLACK MEN DATE WHITE WOMEN.. SO PLEASE STFU....AND THERE'S 12 MILLION BLACKS HERE.. 12.5 MILLION AGAINST 1.5 BIRACIAL... WELL THE BLACK AND WHATEVER MIX IS 1 PERCENT.. SO PLEASE.
lottahead21
girl i feel you. i prefer a brotha of course but shyt these men be actin like straight up boys with they 'pimp' daddy shyt and baby mama drama. im too damn old to be playin games. wish i could just find a real nice educated and religious brotha with no baggage thats serious about settling down gettin married and startin a family. i aint gave up on them but i have expanded my options.
LOL AT THESE BLACK MEN GETTING SO DEFENSIVE. AND LOL AT THESE WOMEN GETTING SO DEFENSIVE BECAUSE THEY HAVE A BLACK MAN.
LET'S FACE IT. I AGREE WITH @JASMINE4U. ELIMINATE ALL THE BLACK MEN ON DRUGS, SELLING DRUGS, JAILBIRDS, BROKE, DON'T HAVE A JOB, SIMPLY UNNATTRACTIVE, HAVE A DIRTY MOUTH (BOTH WAYS), CAN'T RESPECT A WOMAN, HAS CHILDREN BY DIFFERENT LADIES, CHEATERS, AND STILL LIVING WITH THEIR MAMMA. HOW MANY BLACK MEN ARE LEFT IF WE DO THAT?
THE POINT IS, THESE LADIES ARE RIGHT. I MEAN, EVEN WHITE MEN TREAT BLACK WOMEN BETTER THAN THESE BLACK MEN.
This is not what those ladies were saying.. If you saw the whole special they were highlighting the availability of black men... The reporter went into other variables such as employment, prison, addiction, homosexuality and men dating outside their race.. because we all know black women are no in style(thats my observation). These women also highlighted the fact they wanted to date and marry BLACK men. They all said they would date white men but they noticed that white men would be apprehensive to take them home to meet the family. If you look around black women are single at alarming rates.
Jasmine4u
Please cut the crap. Listen you do have good black men out in the world. Why you got lames? Its because part of it is women fault as well. Y'all are confused. From the teenage years, y'all wanted the thugs. Then after ya got your butt whip and 2 or 3 kids on your behind, you wanna good man. Men direction is up and down. Women its up down left right upright leftdown downright upleft. Alot of y'all are confused. When alot of y'all don't know what y'all want until 30years old. Y'all think you grown, a lot of y'all disrespect old ppl when they try to give u some advice about things.
RaeRae - Not sure what land your living in... but white women marry around 25. Hell they are on their second marriage while some sisters are still waiting for the 1st. Its so obvious look at how many black kids are growing up in a single parent household. I know of two black men that just became engaged of the holidays and neither proposed to a black woman...
LAST TIME, anisha828
HOW CAN YOU SAY THAT THAT'S EITHER THIS OR THIS OF BLACK MEN.. HAVE YOU GUYS MET THE 8 MILLION BLACK GUYS IN AMERICA.... HELLLLL NAHHHHHHH! YOU GUYS ARE STEREOTYPING JUST LIKE WHITE PEOPLE YOU REMIND ME OF THEM, YOU GUYS HAVEN'T EVEN MET 1/4 OF BLACK MEN TO BE ASSUMING ANYTHING.. GET YOUR HEAD OUT YOUR ASSES.. QUIT STEREOTYPING.. YOU GUYS LOOK IGNORANT.
They're aren't any. Their all either married, drug dealers, married and cheating, in jail or prison, gay, only date white women, ( all my brothers date white women), homeless, no education, short, no morals, too many kids wether they take care of them or not, live with their mother, live with too many roommates, unemployed, too needy, gay, bisexual, too clingy, weird, anger problems, problems from childhood, the list goes on and on.
You got women saying they want a thug, so you got alot of guys wanted to be thugs. a lot of women will get tired of thugs afterwhile, he ain't tired because the group of next women want the thug too. So its an on going cycle. Women don't kno what they want. y'all say things to be liked but don't go by it. "I want a good man" but then say he is too nice. "I want a man" but then say I wanna be the head of the household. You do got some cornballs out there but some of the cornballs is the cause of women wanting a cornball. Mama and pap will tell you don't date the bad guy, but you will date him.
REASON 1.BLACK WOMEN YOU ALWAYS WANTED THE COOL BROTHER,YOU RAISED YOUR KIDS TO BE COOL AND NOW YOU ARE UPSET BECAUSE THAT COOL BROTHER DONT KNOW HOW TO BECOME A MAN. 2.A LARGE PORTION OF BLACK MALES HAVE NOT BEEN RAISED WITH A FATHER SO LIVING LIFE WITH BOTH PARENTS ISNT IMPORTANT UNLIKE OTHER RACES WHO GET MARRIED YOUNG AND SEE IT AS A IMPORTANT PART OF LIFE. 4.SUCCESSFUL SISTERS CRITERIA FOR A MATE IS ALL FANTASY, 6"4 ATHLETE, 400,000 YEAR, PHD SO ON AND SO ON, AND IF THEY DONT GET THAT THEY RATHER BE SINGLE.
There are alot of good black men out here. Its up to y'all to show them that y'all are good women. MEN WILL DO ANYTHING FOR A GOOD BLACK WOMAN. Stop acting GHETTO. Men want to be in a marriage with a good woman for 50+ years. Stop listening to Alicia Keys, MJB, Keyshia Coles on how to get a man. Listen to your grandma, grandpa, uncle. Listen to the ppl around you that has good common sense. IF YOU ARE WORTHY ENOUGH TO MARRY. A man will find you.
@JAYANDERSON07
LAME. AGAIN, YOU'RE GETTING DEFENSIVE BECAUSE YOUR A BLACK MAN. OBVIOUSLY NOT EVERY SINGLE BLACK MAN = A PIECE OF SH*T BUT THE MAJORITY QUALIFY. YOU MAY NOT SO LEAVE IT AT THAT.
I AM STILL YOUNG. I HAVE A BF BUT I AM TOO YOUNG TO BE MARRIED. I'VE ALWAYS KNOWN WHAT I WANTED SINCE I WAS AROUND 12/13 AND UP. I WANTED A SUCCESSFUL, HONEST, FUNNY, KIND, HELPFUL, AND JUST TREAT ME RIGHT KINDA MAN. AND I HAVE THAT NOW. IT DIDN'T MATTER WHAT RACE.
jayanderson07
please spare the bull. I aint never been attracted to no knuckle headed thugs. matter of fact all the black men i dated were either getting a trade or college educated. this was when i was in my 20s. but now at 35 the lack of good brothas out there is scary. dont sugarcoat shyt. how old are you and are you married? if not why not?
First of all why there are so many brothas in jail, on drugs, no college education, etc is because the white government set them up to fail by dropping drugs, guns, and high unemployment in the black community, then they try to turn us black women and black men against one another, we have allowed white society to brainwash us to hate one another without us even knowing it, a sista see a black brother with a white woman (especially in arizona) we get pissed at the black man, in return, black women called bitches and hoes on cds, in videos...I love black men and will only date/marry a black man
BLACK MEN ARE LIKE ALL MEN LOOKING FOR A FRIEND TO BUILD A LIFE WITH NOT A HIGH MAINTENACE PERSON HE GOTTA SPEND 24/7 TRYING TO IMPRESS. THOSE WOMEN ON THE VID I BET HAVE COME DOWN OFF THEIR HIGH HORSES BUT I GUARANTEE A COUPLE YEARS AGO THEY THOUGHT THEY WERE ALL THAT AND SEEN THEMSELVES WITH A ATHLETE, PROBALLY DATED ATHLETES IN COLLEGE BUT DROPPED THEM WHEN THEY DIDNT MAKE IT TO THE PROFESSIONALS. COME DOWN OFF YOUR HIGH HORSE AND YOU CAN MEET GOOD MEN
jayanderson07
your little rant about black sistahs wantin the thug type only got a bit of truth in it. but all young girls are stupid at 16 until 20. white girls be loving them rock punk type boys or them ass hole jocks but once they hit 25 white girls get married to white men. why black folks havin such a hard time findin one anotha. maybe we are brain dead as that one brotha said
Plus a lot of women are too material like. Y'all want a miracle and not a man. Get rid of that crappy list. "He gotta be 6'2, over 200lbs, great smile, built body, fade, make $500K a year, has a new car, 2 story house. etc." Ever heard of building a relationship. Every black man don't have that. We are building towards that. Ya want it now and thats the problem. Not tell you to settle for less but settle for a man who has a goal and a go getta attitude. PLUS have your own ish. We don't like GOLD DIGGERS
ITS GONNA BE HARD FOR BLACK WOMEN TO DATE OUTSIDE THEIR RACE LIKE BLACK MEN BECAUSE THEIR STEREOTYPE IS SO POWERFUL BEING LOUD AND OPINIONATED,AGGRESSIVE AND UNLADY LIKE AND NOW OVER WEIGHT. LET ME TELL YOU STRAIGHT UP FROM SPEAKING TO WHITE GUYS, THEY MAY HAVE SEX WITH SOMEONE THICK BUT THEY WILL NOT MARRY SOMEONE THICK. SO IF YOU FATE FORGET IT, NO MATTER HOW CUTE YOU ARE.
yall check what this brotha wrote. shyt maybe we just fukked up
allahuakbar Flag post What do you expect from a person who has been robbed of a knowledge of self. Made deaf, dumb, and blind. Out of her mind. Brainwashed with the white man's mind. Just 30-40 years ago before intergration we were poor as a people but we traded morals and values/family for the amerikkkan nightmare. Now our people will have to pay a HEAVY price
LADYGAGA SAID...ELIMINATE ALL THE BLACK MEN ON DRUGS, SELLING DRUGS, JAILBIRDS, BROKE, DON'T HAVE A JOB, SIMPLY UNNATTRACTIVE, HAVE A DIRTY MOUTH (BOTH WAYS), CAN'T RESPECT A WOMAN, HAS CHILDREN BY DIFFERENT LADIES, CHEATERS, AND STILL LIVING WITH THEIR MAMMA. HOW MANY BLACK MEN ARE LEFT IF WE DO THAT?
ay you know what they call that type of shyyt...... THE HOOD!!!!!!!! you got just as many broke asz, havin babies by different daddies asz, i want a baller 2 take care of me 4 life asz, the state take care of me but i call my self independent asz females who not about SHYYT!!
jayanderson07 Flag post Plus a lot of women are too material like. Y'all want a miracle and not a man. Get rid of that crappy list. "He gotta be 6'2, over 200lbs, great smile, built body, fade, make $500K a year, has a new car, 2 story house. etc." Ever heard of building a relationship. Every black man don't have that. We are building towards that. Ya want it now and thats the problem. Not tell you to settle for less but settle for a man who has a goal and a go getta attitude. PLUS have your own ish. We don't like GOLD DIGGERS
I hear you but you off brotha.
yeah bushwine it's very sad... but I know not all black women are like this..
and JASMINE4U... YOU'RE BEYOND IGNORANT... JUST TO LET YOU KNOW.
BLACK MEN ARE THUGS.... not ALL MAJORITY AREN'T LIKE I SAID DON'T ASSUME BECAUSE YOU GUYS HAVEN'T EVEN MET 1/4 OF BLACK MEN... WHITE MEN ARE BETTER? OH MY GOD.. MY BLACK FRIENDS BOTH ARE BLACK WOMEN THEY DATED WHITE GUYS SINCE SOME BLACK GIRLS WERE LIKE YEAH WHITE MEN TREAT YOU BETTER... SO, oops caps damn, so, they both were beat to death.. ONE OF THEM DIED, people always want to think white people are so nice, well NEWS flash they aren't any diff.
I'm 26 and single. Reason why is because I'm building something with my life first and I'm not ready to jump in. Plus you got some females who are not there in the head. Just like you say black men are. Can't expect to find a good man just 30miles in your area. Plus you probably wouldn't know a good brother if he fall on your face. You know what I know alot of good brothers out here NOW. ALOT of them. Guess what alot of them have been scooped up by a black woman who know they are good.
BROTHAS wtf is going on? if those stats are true we need to address it man, because the sistas are the ones who will always have our backs, one question for the African American women though, does it have to be an American brotha? what about the black latinos? what about the Africans and Carribeans? theres loads of them in the states so i'd say that widens the options, but what pisses me off is when sellout sistas say "go for a white man!! brothas are no good", what ever happened to UNITY? there's good and bad in every race but some people can't wait to turn their backs on thier own peeps.
jayanderson07 Flag post Plus a lot of women are too material like. Y'all want a miracle and not a man. Get rid of that crappy list. "He gotta be 6'2, over 200lbs, great smile, built body, fade, make $500K a year, has a new car, 2 story house. etc." Ever heard of building a relationship.
Yes a lot of women are picky but the same shyt go for black men. ‘ she gotta be light skin with long hair and a big booty but slim ass waist’.
Secondly sistahs realize it is important to build a relationship together but what you fail to mention is how the fukk we gonna do that when most black men don’t make it past sophomore year in college or university?
Every black man don't have that. We are building towards that.
Yall might be building towards that but what yall doing to provide for a sistah that been of gotten her degree and a good job? Don’t no woman wanna settle for a brotha makin way less than her ass. Don’t know woman wanna hear ‘im working towards it’. Brotha you best to have been built what you talking about.
Ya want it now and thats the problem. Not tell you to settle for less but settle for a man who has a goal and a go getta attitude. PLUS have your own ish. We don't like GOLD DIGGERS
You fail to realize that most sistahs got their own shyt but brotha yall gotta have more than a ‘go getta’ attitude. Yall got to be actively doin that damn thang.
I REMEMBER WHEN I WENT TO SCHOOL, A LOT OF THE BLACK BOYS WOULD DISRUPT CLASS, CURSE AT THE TEACHERS, CUT, SELL DRUGS, THEN WHEN THEY GOT CAUGHT THEY WOULD BLAME THE TEACHERS, THE POLICE, WHATEVER. I ALWAYS THOUGHT TO MYSELF WOW, THEY NEED HELP AND JAIL WON'T SOLVE IT. THERE IS OBVIOUSLY SOME ISSUES GOING ON INSIDE OF THEM. I BELIEVE BLACK MEN ARE STRONG AND SMART BUT A LOT OF THEM DON'T REALIZE THEIR POTENTIAL AND STRIVE TO BE IN ENTERTAINMENT OR DRUGS TO BECOME "RICH." WELL WHEN YOU GROW UP YOU REALIZE THAT NOT EVERYBODY IS GOING TO BE RICH. SOME PEOPLE ARE GOING TO BE AVERAGE JOES AND THAT'
I have 2 disagree, there R alot of us good Black men out here, however, IMO, the problem is some Black women R caught up in confusion in regards 2 what they want in a man, one minute I hear sisters saying they want a man in the church, the next they want a "bad boy" then when they don't get what they want, we as Black men, all get put in the same category as being lazy, shiftless & tired. I gotta co-sign sex-and-chocolate, it's propaganda 2 get our women 2 try "something new"
What I got from listening to those sisters is that they don't want to settle. For that i don't blame them, who wants to settle. But when your standards are too high then it will be difficult to find a great Black man. White people are playing chess and unfortunately we are playing checkers and they checked us a long time ago. Look throughout history and the Black woman was used as the "booty" throughout history. Look up the defintion of booty and you will see that all definitions are relevant today! What's sad is when things hit the fan and all these single Black women won't have protectors
First off Media your on point with this one.. Second Brutha's dont get mad the truth is the truth where are youll...And your not in the churches cause church [EXPLETIVE] is just as bad or worst so dont get excited there!!!
Third I loovveee you black men I really do but the truth be told if I ever get married I will probably will neva and I mean neva marry a BLACK MAN I TRULY WILL BE ON DEATH ROW SITTING NEXT TO CHARLIE MANSON HOW YOULL DOING!!!!
@macky I 100% agree with you! Most black men have issues with black women because they want a man to do everything for them they can't. Then when black women get there degrees or higher education they think there better then everyone.Another case with black women is yall look for these thug ni99as that don't want sh!t from yall. You walk right pass a man who works a job that doesnt work for you..Ive seen alot of brothers who want to marry a beautiful black women but because he picks trash up for a living or some other type of job you down him for not being your ideal mate!
THAT'S OK. I FEEL A LOT OF PEOPLE ARE STUCK ON THE AMERICAN DREAM AND FEEL THAT THEY'LL MAKE IT SOME WAY SOME HOW BUT DON'T WANT TO WORK FOR IT. YOU CAN BLAME EVERYONE ELSE AROUND YOU BUT AT THE END OF THE DAY IF YOU WANT SOMETHING YOU HAVE TO WORK FOR IT. DO GOOD IN SCHOOL AND WORK. I SWEAR OUT IN BROOKLYN WHEN I GET ON THE BUS THE BLACK KIDS ARE ALWAYS BUGGIN OUT. JUST BEING LOUD AND OBNOXIOUS. ONE TIME AN OLDER BLACK MAN CAME UP TO THEM AND SAID "YOU MAKE ME LOOK BAD,DO YOU NOT SEE WHAT YOU DO TO OUR RACE?" ANYWAY, MORE PEOPLE IN THE COMMUNITIES NEED TO TALK TO THE KIDS. BE MENTORS.
then it is open game on sisters when the rape keepers I mean peacekeepers invade our communities. Most of our women will perish due to a lack of knowledge. To think that most have surrendered to the white man and his history between you and him has been one of violence,rape, and pure hell. Some fools will never learn. It is impossible to be pro Black and marrying otherwise. I won't judge but don't be talking Black but sleeping white. It screams hypocrisy.
This is ridiculous. Okay yes some of those statistics may be true but to do all this on national television?! It's just making black people look bad and it's feeding into the stereotypes - like I don't think it was neccessary to eliminate all of the black men in prison, unemployed, etc .. that makes black men look horrible (cont'd) ..
jasmine4u: Yall might be building towards that but what yall doing to provide for a sistah that been of gotten her degree and a good job? Don’t no woman wanna settle for a brotha makin way less than her ass. Don’t know woman wanna hear ‘im working towards it’. Brotha you best to have been built what you talking about.
YOU GOT SOME MEN WHO SETTLE FOR LESS. You kno women right now who had a brother who wasn't making that much but build himself. Patience is not there no more? you can't be patience? Then you need help. Thats why I miss the old skool women because they SUPPORT their men.
@jayanderson07
there are many woman who arent materialistic or gold diggers, i being one of them, i dont care if a brotha is the manager of MCDONALDS can i just get one black man who doesnt LIE and CHEAT, doesnt want to have sex on the first date, that puts GOD 1st the rest we can work on together. thats all i want.
i didnt choose to be single 3 yrs it is society. you are BEING SOOOO DEFENSIVE THAT YOU ARE MISSING THE POINT @jayanderson07
@jasmine I don't F with thugs either. I think that since I'm an educated sister with no kids....I shouldn't have to settle for less. People always tell me my standards are too high, but you know how that go. I shouldn't have to settle for a thug out brother standing on that corner. Bad things can happen when you date a thug, you risk going to jail or even getting murdered.
TRUTH IS THE TRUTH....IF YOU ARE ALL THOSE GOOD THINGS BUT YOU STILL CANT FIND A MAN?????? ITS YOU!! LIKE STEVE SAID A WOMEN COULD MAKE 4 MILLION A YEAR. SHE GOT A DUDE SHE LIKE BUT SHE WONT MARRY HIM BECAUSE HE ONLY MAKE 100.000/YEAR. YOU SEE THAT ALL THE TIME BUT A DUDE DON'T CARE. HE COULD MAKE 100 A YEAR AND STR8 TELL HIS WIFE NOT 2 WORK ANYMORE. SIT A FEMALE IN A ROOM WITH 3 DUDES 9/10 SHE WILL PICK THE DUDE WITH MORE MONEY EVEN THO THE OTHER 2 ARE HUBBY TYPE!! WOMEN GO FOR MONEY MIGHT EVEN CARE FOR IT MORE THEN HER HUSBAND!!SO FOR THAT IM STAY SHOUTIN FUK B!TCES GET MONEY~LIL WAYNE
Since I work in a very diverse situation...I am only going off the almost 500+ women I work with. Most of white peers are married - while most of my black sisters are not. We also have to take in account that these women are in ATL. Were the rates are terrible like 10 to 1. But this is not a new phenomena this has been going on for years. The more accomplished u are the pickings are slimmer. All of these women have professional degrees. So if there white counterparts are married and didnt settle why does society ask us to settle. Look at how many blk wm are heading up single parent households
I am sick and tired of these corny ass fake gold diggin Ho's. There is something wrong with your ass if you can not find a man, have you ever thought about that. To your blind ass wantabee white girls additute fake sister. A man is a man black, white, red or yellow. its just that we as black men are consider not [EXPLETIVE] by the way yall treat us, you will show a white man a diffrent side of ass, but at least you can meet my parents LOL.............
Uh yeah not sure how LADYGAGA can say black men are going towards white women when she is dating a white man but okay whatever...obviously there's nothing wrong with that if you're doing it. I see both sides, i think women who dont settle for bullish end up being single for longer periods of time. I could be in a relationship right now with a black man, if i want to settle for less than I want. I've been single for 2 years and I love my black men to death... they are a part of me...right place at the right time with the right person, thats all jus t be patient
To hear y'all tell it, there's like 6 good black men left. I guess I've had all the ones left then. I wouldn't even know what to tell them because all the men I've date for the most part have been good. They all were african american, not blatino, carribean, or european. Keep trying and good luck cause they are definitely out there.
Crazy thing as u do got some brothas who don't wanna push themselves. I know some women who saw something in a man and push him towards it and that man who had that woman to support him, he gain that go getta attitude and took it. Sometimes some ppl need somebody to push them a little. You do got brothers who is still playing that "White man fault" thing and they got to stop that. You let somebody take your dream away HELL NO. I'm not saying settle for a jail brother. I'm saying get a brotha that HAS SOMETHING GOING and is really building towards something.
You got some sisters who took sometime off because they had a kid. You got some brothers who look at that and still see the woman pushing towards something. HE SETTLE. He didn't had to married that women with a kid but he did. He settle because she was a good woman who made a mistake with that one dude but is picking herself up. And he help boost her even more. Married 5 years now
SOLUTION WHAT DON'T I UNDERSTAND? WHEN DID I EVER SAY THAT ALLLL BLACK KIDS IN SCHOOL ACT LIKE THAT? DON'T PUT WORDS IN MY MOUTH. I SAID WHEN I WAS IN SCHOOL, *A LOT* *NOT* ALL OF THE BLACK KIDS WOULD BE DISRUPTIVE AND CRACK JOKES ON THE TEACHER AND OTHER KIDS, BE RUDE AND DISRESPECTFUL. THEN WHEN THE TEACHER TELLS THEM TO STOP OR LEAVE, THEY GET CURSED AT. I DON'T SEE HOW THAT MAKES IT THE TEACHER'S FAULT THAT THE KID IS BEING DISRUPTIVE. YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY RIGHT, THEY DO LEAVE SCHOOL AFTER A WHILE. WHICH IS EXACTLY THE PROBLEM. INSTEAD OF SITTING DOWN AND LEARNING, THEY JUST ACT STUPID
Sorry, but I have a GREAT Black man. How did I get him?
1) I never confused being a 'Strong Black Woman" with being a bitch
2) I was not concerned with his pockets, his whip, his crib, but his heart, his mind, and his soul
3) I was nice and didnt have a stank attitude when he approached me the first time but gave him a chance
Black women today are single because most of yall are evil as hell. This is coming from a fellow black woman.
"Educated' Black women are the worst and I am one! We are too stuck on "looking better" than our peers and keeping up with the Joneses
AND RESIST AUTHORITY. I TRULY BELIEVE IF THEY HAD APPLIED THEMSELVES THEY COULD HAVE BEEN HONOR ROLL STUDENTS. IT'S REALLY A SHAME AND I FEEL MORE NEEDS TO BE DONE TO HELP THEM. AND THAT'S FOR ALL KIDS NOT JUST BLACKS. I DON'T KNOW IF IT'S JUST ME, OR KIDS ARE GETTING MORE STUPID AND DISRESPECTFUL BY THE DAY.
lm sorry but there does come a time when u look in the mirror and ask urself wtf is wrong wit me....and i think it goes both ways as far as hard to find a good mate alot of blk men and women have issues these days...thats y its best to have a career on path and faith..just t8ke care of yaself and god will do the rest...
why the fukk sistahs always got to 'wait till yall get on ya feet' or 'settle'? white women dont settle for less. A white woman working as a dentist aint gonna settle for no redneck GED havin white man that needs her support to get ahead. why do people expect black women to always settle or wait till the black man 'get on his feet'? im tired of this shyt. im smart educated and 35 years old. im sick of this shyt
Jasmine4u thats y u single right now. you joking about the support word when it really means something to both men and women. All a child needs is a support from his mother or father. All a man and woman needs is a support from his woman/her man. Thats the thing when it comes to a relationship LOVE COMMUNICATION GOD SUPPORT. YOU need those. you say you 35. Seems like you got a 14 year old BRAIN. Even I knew alot of this at the age of 14. No WONDER YOU OLD AND SINGLE. LMFAO HA HA HA HA HA HA
1st off the interview didn't say "there aren't any good black men" The women in the interview just want a man preferably black. The segment just stated facts, We live in a society where its easier for a black dude to go to jail than to even get accepted to college. So I don't see anything wrong for some sistas wanting a dude with a degree or at least something going for himself. Just because some females lowered their standards to take any dude doesn't mean these females have to. This interview should have been a eye opener for all of us to get on our ish and step it up!
I'm still young but I've known what I've wanted. I AM a bit picky though when it comes to men (well I'm quite picky with just about everything) but to say he has to be at least like 250 lbs, 6 ft and make at least $100 000 a year is crazy. And I agree with what one of the guys said above, he doesn't have to be making $100 000 when I meet him (or at any point in our marriage/relationship) because obviously he's building towards a higher salary. Ladies with such extreme standards shouldn't complain - you overlook the good guys trying to find the "perfect" guy, no ones perfect.
very very interesting, but Steve Harvey stated it best, their generation did not teach the generation behind them the principles of being a good man, rappers and athletes etc have and are teaching this generation how the principles which means being a PIMP, and screwing as many hoes as possible etc...
Also there is the intimidation factor
bushwine
hey bush. I aint never been into thugs but some of my girlfriends were. shyt was cute when we were like 16 but what the fukk happened after we turn 25? seems like sistahs grew up and ni.ggas still stuck on thug stoopid. White girls went for the bad boys to when they were dumb teens but shyt when they grew up their white boyz grew up to makin it possible for white girls to get married to white men. what is our problem
malletdiva02
good for you and i bet you paying the bills up in your crib to. sorry i aint settlin for no man that aint got his shyt together. Money aint everythang but im for damn sure aint supportin no brotha for life. he betta bring something to the table and aint nothin wrong we me saying that shyt. shyt i gots mine why these brothas cant get theirs?
why are there so many baby mama's in the black community and hardly no wives? -------------- because women aren't demanding men marry them before opening their legs and not using sound judgement. In this case the women hold all the power, they are the ones who make it a go or no. They have the power over life and death. Men are to blame as well because like the old adage goes it takes two. But the buck stops with the female in regards to this situation. POINT BLANK.
Interesting stats there MTO...You don't state whether the so called increase in Black women getting married is due to Black women marrying outside their race, which I'm sure that could be a contributing factor. The bottom line is there are not a lot of "good" Black men left. The "educated, 100% straight, no criminal records, disease free, not having 6 kids by 6 different women and not supporting them...i could go on and on" men left. The "good" Black men typically want non-Black women to marry. Black women like me, like the ones profiled on the news segment, only chance of marriage is to marry
"Don’t no woman wanna settle for a brotha makin way less than her ass."
@ Jasmine4u,
if U're looking 4 someone 2 make U happy & bring some stablility 2 Ur life, what difference does that make? I feel that's another problem in regards 2 Black relationships, EGO & PRIDE, 2 of the biggest downfalls in the Black community, if she were working, I could care less if my wife were making more money than I am, as long as we keep each other happy & make the relationship work, that bulls#!t should'nt even matter.
Hey JASMINE! I co-sign with alot you have to say
But everybody lets just talk and try not to downgrade each other. I feel it is an epidemic. And for those up there sayn they know plenty of black relationships but are they healthy...is she leaving off to work in the mornings while he stays home and play video games? Is he fine and works hard but she turns her head to the 2 other women she shares him with. Please...I could be married with 5kids by now but should I settle for just anything? Just to say I gotta man? I can do bad all by myself.
NOBODY IS SAYING GO WITH A BROKE DUDE. PPL ARE SAYING ALOT OF TIME WOMEN GOALS ARE TOO EXTREME HIGH. My goal is to get a woman with no kids but if I find a good woman with a kid, I WOULD GO WITH HER. You got folks who are rich as hell and lose their money quickly. because of NO PERSONALITY NO ATTITUDE. So you will take a dude that has a million dollar but don't know how to keep it and build it.
TAKE IT FROM ME I'M AN OLD HEAD ON MY SECOND MARRIAGE TO A BLACK MAN.I'm BLACK.IF YOU ACT DESPERATE THEY SEE YO ASS COMING. STOP WORRYING ABOUT THESE MEN AND GET SELFISH. WHEN I DID THAT I GOT AND KEEP MY MEN. I DIVORCED MY FIRST HUSBAND AND IN LESS THEN 1 YEAR I WAS WALKING DOWN THE ISLE AGAIN.I HAVE A VERY GOOD LIFE, AND STABILITY, MY SECRET... STOP CATERING TO THESE MEN. I'M INDEPENDENT AND I TAKE CARE OF ME FIRST THEN MY FAMILY. IT'S TIGHT BUT IT'S RIGHT. MEN HATE NEEDY MAN SEEKERS. MY HUSBAND KNOWS I DON'T NEED HIM FINANCIALLY, OR EMOTIONALLY. I WANT HIM NOT NEED HIM.
Hey Jasmin4u you see what old dude wrote. Take that. allahuakbar:because women aren't demanding men marry them before opening their legs and not using sound judgement. In this case the women hold all the power, they are the ones who make it a go or no. They have the power over life and death. Men are to blame as well because like the old adage goes it takes two. But the buck stops with the female in regards to this situation. POINT BLANK.
And fukk what yall brothas talkin about. i know first hand something is wrong with yall asses. i got 5 brothas. two locked up, one on that mary jane, one a con man, and the other one is happily married with two children. So out of that 5 only 1 of my brothers is living a productive lifestyle. smh. And some of yall brothas know of similar situations so quit actin like this mess isnt real because it is. we got a problem in our community
Settling is a personal choice... and honestly... most of those marriages don't make it.. they lead to divorces. So why even bother?... don't get me wrong.. some are exceptions.
I don't think that women have to "lower" their standards but I do think that they have to have more realistic standards. I'm in a relationship with a black man and I don't think that my standards are low. Why are people attacking single black women though? Since when did it become a crime not to have a man? Just because they're choosing to wait, why does it bother you so much? are you lonely?
jayanderson07
He right i gotta admit it. Some sistahs are dumb and weak as hell to. alot of us are fukked up mentally same as yall. We a crazy people i tell you. Women open they legs havin all these chilens when they know that ni.gga aint about to wife they ass and ni.ggas be stoopid for leaving they flesh n blood behind for they woman to take care of by herself.
ya'll late m.t.o..ne/co/le bit/chie dot com,bo-ss-ip dot com as well as youtube ben posted this already....however sadly we live in a society where the media plays a huge role in portraying bm in a bad light & bw as being less desireable or only good for 1 thing(rappers & reality tv stars ft in FOL,etc)..from the tv,to the magazines to the ads trying to sell a product..Media/society make it seem like white/mixed is right & black is not what's up,no matter how many accomplished,attractive,nice black ppl there are out there
Hey JASMINE! I co-sign with alot you have to say
But everybody lets just talk and try not to downgrade each other. I feel it is an epidemic. And for those up there sayn they know plenty of black relationships but are they healthy...is she leaving off to work in the mornings while he stays home and play video games? Is he fine and works hard but she turns her head to the 2 other women she shares him with. Please...I could be married with 5kids by now but should I settle for just anything? Just to say I gotta man? I can do bad all by myself.
@7 lady i feel that shyt. this is what im
I agree with a lot of what jayanderson is saying.
There are so many wives out there who married their millionaire/billionaire husbands when the husbands had nothing .. supported him and then years later their man was making more than 6 figures.
I really don't think it matters if he makes 6+ figures, as long as he's making something to provide for/support us (of course I'd be working as well) then I'm fine.
I think support is important ..
TexasGlamourChic Flag post allahuakbar looks like I beat you to your response in my previous comment, it's always the woman's fault right.. ----- No it is not always the woman's fault. I will not say she is 100% responsible. Question: who opens their legs, who decides whether or not to keep or abort the baby, who even goes as far as to give the man her personal contact info? I said all that to say that in this arena women hold ALL THE CARDS. Now once the child is born then the man has obligations where alot are not pulling their wieght. no other way around it sister. PLAIN TRUTH.
Thats something women don't have to settle for less. If you know you ain't ready to take care of a kid why buff a dude? Thing is that Its so easy to get in women heads and play y'all like a PS2. They say women are more mature than men. So if women will claim that they want a man with a mature goal in life, education wise, etc. Men will do that. ITS THE POWER OF THE P-U-$$-Y. Its a easy game y'all are not making us PLAY HARD. If you want the ring, improve yourself FIRST. Improve yourself MONEY WISE, PERSONALITY, AND BECOME WIFEY MATERIAL.
@7 lady
talkin about. i aint settlin for shyt. shyt i worked HARD to get in and out of school and got my degree. why cant some of these brothas do the same? if i started college with they asses and i finished school and started workin why should i settle for that same brotha who decided to drop out of college after his freshman year -out of laziness- and support his grown ass? Shtyt i work hard for mine why cant brothas do the same
I don't know what yall ladies on here talking about but what does "settle" mean?
I see nothing wrong with a man who loves you and treats you right and just happens to be a custodian. What's wrong with that? Nothing. I'd rather have that than a rich man who cheats and treats me like sh*t. I make my own money so I don't look for that.
jayanderson07
Shyt i worked HARD for my shyt. I worked to get myself into and out of college by MYSELF. mommy and daddy didnt do it for me. i DID that shyt. I found a job by myself after 6 to 8 months from graduating. i gotta pay off my loans and balance my bills at home in shyt. I DO that shyt BY MYSELF. so i be damn im SUPPORTIN a GROWN ASS MAN who aint capable of gettin his shyt right
For all women who say there r no more gud black men out there...this might sound a little crazy to u, but my entire life I considered myself a gud man. But I was having problems finding a gud black woman...cause it seem like the better I treated her the worser she treated me. But as soon as I gave up tryin to be that gud man, it seem like women started respecting me more. So when women start pointing fingers sayin their r no more gud black men...as yourself this ladies is it really all the black mans fault.
They are not married because they are looking for the perfect man (which they are never going to find). They probably date dudes based on appearance alone and then slowly chip away at their imperfections until they begin to resent them and then subconsciously drive them away. BTW, I was LMAO @ her driving and singing single ladies.
Jasmine - hmm, not too sure if that's the kind of support jayanderson meant. I wouldn't support a man financially either - if he decided to drop out because of laziness or whatever. If he got laid off or something then of course I'd provide for the two of us.
I was thinkin' jayanderson meant support as in supporting his decisions/being there for him etc.
@ jayanderson07
if that is the case why (the women who dont give up the goods) get left in the dark. most men want you to give it up on the 1st or 2nd date and if you dont they stop callin texting etc SO where are all the REAL CHRISTIAN MEN that you are fighting so hard for. all i ever wanted was a man who puts God 1st - all else follows when you put God 1st
These women have a point. I was just reflecting on my cohort of African-American students that entered college when I did. Now that I'm a senior there are only about 10% of black men of have made it to this stage with me. Compare that to about 40% women. But that is no excuse.....These women are clearly bitter and have internal problems and issues they need to work on before the can be in a healthy relationship.
And I'm not lookin for a 6figure. I will take a mailman, firefighter, construction worker. Lets just put our lil money together and make it. But I do want to be at least a lil attracted to him ...damn. There was a marine diggin me yall. He's been in marines 12yrs now. VERY good man. Has is own home in hawaii, goes to church, opens every door, 34 no children, loves his momma, soft spoken sweet personality. My prob you ask? He is 5'5" 150lbs. I am 5'4 155 curvy love my heels. I was just not attracted to him. I love tall thick men. I like how I feel up under them. Am I stupid am I wrong?
Jasmine4u:
I'ma break it down to you. If a man doesn't get up to work and pay the bills and take care his family, then he is not a MAN. I'm not talking about getting some broke lazy dude and taking care of him. REAL BLACK MEN wants to take care of their woman, kids. WE ARE ABOUT THAT. We don't mind our woman making more money than us. What we don't want is the ATTITUDE and the EGO behind it. I'm not saying settle for a lazy dude.
It’s sad but true! Congratulation to the married women and the families with married women in them. In my family few women are married and it’s depressing. I'm trying to change that cycle but let’s be honest the selection is awful and unwilling to change! I'm not picky when it comes to looks but I ‘m picky about faith/belief, goals, & accomplishments. Who wants to marry a loser, not I? That's why I’m single at 27, 30 is approaching and I’m losing hope! Who wants to be single for the rest of their lives? And some people might say do this or change that but if a person can’t accept me at my worst then you sure as hell can’t have me at my best. What ever happened to having a family and building a future together? I’m sure I will meet my soul mate but not in America. So until that time I will continue to improve myself and work towards my new life in Africa.
This story was on many sites before this one and while I didn't care and don't care to keep hearing black women PROFESSIONALS or NOT complaining about the lack thereof, of good black men I say as a black woman just keep an open mind when dating. If we settle for less than our worth in a committed relationship that's what we will keep getting and so love GOD first,love yourself & be willing to date men of other races who knows you might find THE GREATEST LOVE OF ALL.... 4u2.com
I'm sayin if u both in out of college and he is working towards something great and got a good head on his shoulder but he is working at a factory making $15 per hour. You working at the hospital making $30 per hour. You get mad because he is not making more then you and you leave. thats crazy. it happen to my homeboy. he was in college work at Toys R Us. He baby mama cheated on him with some drug dealer dude. Now my boy is working at a big time company making $106K a year.
WHY IS A JUDGE OR LAWYER CHEERLEADING? SHE TRYING TO GRAB HER DREAM GUY A ATHLETE. WHY DOES THE OTHER LADY HAVE A 6'6 FANTASY MAN? SHE ALWAYS WANTED A ATHLETE.NOW THEY ARE TOO OLD AND ARE LOOKING FOR ANYONE ACCOMPLISHED IN THEIR FIELD, WELL THEY SHOULD OF DONE THAT WHEN THEY WERE LOOKING FOR ATHLETES
ARealWomanAlwyz - lol that is soo true. the amount of guys that have stopped talking to me because I wouldn't "give up the goods" .. and then they talk bad about the girls that DO give it up. psht.
7lady - yikes, I don't think you're stupid/wrong though. I'm 5'3 and I've had guys that were like 5'4/5'5 approach me but I don't really wear heels but if I'm getting dressed up to go somewhere I'll put 'em on and I don't want to be taller than the guy .. I'm just not used to that, majority of my guy friends are much taller than me
Man, this reminds me so much of the movie, "Daddy's Little Girls." Black men are also guilty of being particular. Are we overlooking good Black men and women because they are single parents, work blue collar jobs or are in a different income bracket? I meet men who don't know anything about me but simply like me because I don't have children and work an office job. I could be a serial killer for all they know. The woman of their dreams could very well be a single parent.
And at the same time it's not so bad, I guess. If God intended me to be married I would be. And if I was married I would not be able to move across seas. So in all everything has its place and time. I'm in no rush but it's discouraging! Especially when your peers and friends are having weddings left and right.
Also, black women and men especially take very different career paths. Black men usually go the military or trade school route while black women attend college. The black men in the military often marry women from foreign countries where they are stationed. Hence, one reason for the fact that more black men marry outside their race. If we could find ways to bridge that gap so the black men and women could mix and mingle more that could possibly have some impact on increasing the marriage rate.
Hell no JASMINE!
I'm with you I'm not INITIALLY supportin no man. Now if you been a go-getter and strong through our relationship and somethin goes wrong (cuz sh!t happens in life) I will be there for my man. Work two jobs to make sure we eat. But you got som stupid ass broads out here literally payin niccas to be with them. They take care of em like they 1 of they kids. Drive they car don't put gas in it, come and go as they please. That sh!t crazy. This cooch will dry out b4 I subject myself to som sh!t like that! I will b one lonely b!tch. Jus 2 say I gotta man lol!
Some of yall black hoes* are funny you say there aint no good black men there are good black man. yall not getten married cause we aint tryin to turn a ho*e into a house wife Im not goin to clubs to fine a wife im goin to get couchie. news flash we dont care if yall date white guys go right ahead in as far as the gay dudes there just as many dy*kes as it is fag*s
TO TELL U THE TRUTH THEY PROBABLY WILL NEVER FIND A "BLACK" MAN BECAUSE THERE TO INDEPEDENT AND SMART AND ALOT OF BLACK GUYS ARENT AND NEVER FEEL LIKE BEING WITH SUCCESSFUL BLACK WOMEN I GUESS BECAUSE THEY WILL FEEL LIKE THE BLACK WOMAN ARE SMARTER AND THOSE BLACK WOMEN SHOULDNT HAVE TO SETTLE FOR LOW LIFE GARBAGE MEN ON THE STREETS NIETHER
@ 7LADY
GIVE THE GUY A CHANCE. IF YOU ARE NOT ATTRACTED TO HIM INITIALLY STILL BE FRIENDS AND SEE IF HIS PERSONALITY STEALS YOUR HEART THEN HIS APPEARANCE WONT BE THAT IMPORTANT. STOP THINKING ABOUT HOW YOUR FRIENDS AND OTHER PERCIEVE YOU. YOU DONT HAVE TO PLAY THAT "DO WE LOOK GOOD TOGETHER". WHAT ARE TOM AND JERRY,BATMAN AND ROBIN.
Fist off what they are saying is bullshit. I'm a good black man who has been in a nearly 4 year relationship and I am going to marry my chick someday soon. These chicks are just lame and Bitter. They probably don't even know how to pick the right dude. They are probably the ones with the problem in their relationships.
@jayanderson07 women want a guy to make more because men have issues when women make more. I personally have experince that. Either the guy feels inadiquate (sp) or they try and live off you. A guy doesn't want a woman to mooch why can't women want the same thing. And I have seen guys who want a woman to make her own money. And I respect that.
So, when ABC, CBS or CN, Tyra and Oprah have their yearly series of state of black UNION in America and have a bunch of “successful” black woman explain to world why they are perfect and they can’t find a “good black man” , people on this site call it insightful journalism, they say it is true what these women are saying, many of them agree and are eager to post their similar experiences.
Ahhaaah!!!...Now, when I do the same thing, they call it women bashing…So, now I understand…I need to be a white or Jewish owned Network in order to have credibility…ahahahha!!!
You Negroes don’t understand the dire state that you are in…they are pulling out all of the pysch-op arsenals, and have engage in all out psychological warfare against you Negroes…and the beauty of it, they are using your own women to do it…(notice I said your woman).
Now…it is interesting to me…they love to report on how 60% of the Negro woman is single…but, yet never report of the 55% of black males who are single as well…So, why don’t they report this fact…what are they trying to insinuate by not reporting this fact..
are they insinuating that black women are the only ones who are searching, selecting, and having difficulty picking an opposing mate? Really? Don’t you think “successful” black man are facing the same issue…”baby daddy” drama…uncouth and ill-mannered black woman…drug fiends, unruly…poorly educated…?
Is the Negro woman that much better off than the Negro male in the USA…? Are the Negro women that much better than the Negro men to warrant talk shows, TV documentaries and ABC specials about their plight of finding a good black man….ahahaha!!!
You know what would be interesting…to put a panel of successful black man…I am sure of the 51% who are single, you can find three of them…and ask them, why can’t they find a good black woman….ahahahah!!!
Ahahahah!!!!!....You Kumbyah Nyggas are in for a rude awakening…I’ve told you before there is a dominant Female Energy cast over the Negroid Race…and it’s overpowering the masculine energy…it’s toxic…Nature seeks equilibrium and right now you Negroes are in a state of disequilibrium
Kumbyah…kumbyah…let’s all hold hands and sing Kumbyah….ahahahahah!!!
I am out…lol…oh…a customer is waiting for me to ask her is she wants paper or plastic…ahahahahahah!!!!!!!!!!!
MOCHA D LITE
Girl you are on point! So true! I'm not as educated as the ladies in the vid. I'm an LPN (workin on RN). I just want to make it with a good man! He doesn't have to be perfect hell I'm not. And I'm not knockin women that mess with other races of men. But they are not an option for me. I think men are jus spoiled. Women like myself and in the vid come a dime a dozen. Nice lookin, good job, clean house, decent personality. You aint nothin special he got 5 others jus like you dying for his attention.
@da_advocator
YOUR A IDIOT. SUCCESSFUL BLACK MEN ARE NOT HAVING A PROBLEM DATING, HELL UNSUCCESSFUL BLACK MEN ARE NOT HAVING A PROBLEM DATING. THE PROBLEM IS ALL OF THEM ARE NOT DATING EXCLUSIVE SISTERS BECAUSE OF THE OPTIONS BLACK MEN HAVE, BUT SISTERS DONT HAVE THOSE OPTION. BLACK WOMEN OUTNUMBER BLACK MEN 7 TO 1 SO NOT ALL BLACK WOMEN ARE GONNA GET MARRIED PERIOD
Hate to see sh!t like dis. One of da reasons I'm so good wit dudes is, cuz i LUV dose MFs! He can be 50, & i can still see dat lil boy. As women, our job is ta MAKE him be a betta man. U GOT ta nurture da baby in 'em (grab him by da face & kiss him on da nose, when he does good). Put em in time-out when he fukks up. U GOTS TO TRAIN HIM! *Smile* A trained Pitt, will be loyal, protect, & luv u til death... And u wanna give dat up?!
YOUR A IDIOT. SUCCESSFUL BLACK MEN ARE NOT HAVING A PROBLEM DATING, HELL UNSUCCESSFUL BLACK MEN ARE NOT HAVING A PROBLEM DATING
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If the issue was about dating...then, I can assure a successful black woman wouldn't have a problem finding a date... But, the issue is not dating...
i think the issue is finding a life's partner.... Yeah...I can assure you...as much as successful black men date...they do have difficultly finding a comparable life partner ( if they want to keep it within the race)
No my friend...you are a dumbass....clearly you have problem comprehending...typical of you fukking Negroes
I HAVE THE SOLUTION FOR BLACK WOMEN TO GET MARRIED
INSTEAD OF HAVING BABYS BY THUGS
SHARE THE FEW GOOD MEN THAT ARE OUT HERE
THAT WOULD FORCE THE COMMON BLACK MAN 2 STEP IT UP
ITS NOT IN A MANS NATURE 2 BE WITH ONLY 1 WOMAN
INSTEAD OF HAVING THUGS RAISE OUR YOUNG WE WOULD HAVE THE GOOD MEN RAISE OUR YOUNG
BUT IT WILL ONLY WORK IF YOU WOMEN LEARN TO SHARE
IM A GOOD MAN... IM IN MY 30'S... I HAVE NO KIDS
I HAVE A VERY GOOD JOB... BUT I HAVE LEARNED THAT
ITS HARD TO SETTLE WITH ONE WOMAN... NOW IF I HAD TWO WOMEN... I WOULD FEEL THAT I HAVE SOMETHING THAT MOST MEN DONT
I love black women. I can't go white or asian. yeah lation and Dominican. But Black is number 1. Couples of all race fuss and fight. I've been dawged by black women, you don't see me tapping out. Does men and women who tap out early are the ones with the problem. Everything my ma has personality wise, I want in a woman. A true woman, with no ghettoness in her, Clair Huxtable type attitude, smart, good wife and mother, COOK, COOK, COOK, COOK, COOK know how to support her man, TAKE CARE OF HOME. UNSELFISH. Somebody to make me stay with her for 50years plus and say NO WOMAN CANT MATCH MY WIFE.
I'm usually just a troll on this site but damn...you women are really [EXPLETIVE] me off today. No matter what you think there are lots of good black men out there...lots. Every one of my friends are good brothas, most college educated. Just because "you" are having a hard time finding a good black man doesn't mean they aren't out there. You need to check yourself to find out why you aren't attracting good men. Are you approachable, lady like, pleasant? Would you take the garbage man making 30-40k a year when you're making 60-70k? Would you put him down for making less? Are you willing to uphold the standards of what men expect out of their women just like you want a man to uphold the standards expected of men. Many women now a days have a hard time cooking & cleaning (thinking it's degrading) but still want their man to sweat and die for them. A man won't hesitate to sacrifice or die for his queen...but you have to hold up your end of the bargain...being bitter & independent isn't really going to attract the kind of man you want. Many women don't know what they want...you say you want a good man...buuuuuut when ya get one you don't know how to treat him. case in point...my ex thought the grass was greener on the other side so we divorced. She got with who she thought was this great guy but all he ended up doing was getting her knocked up and leaving...now she wants to patch things up lol, needless to say she's probably one of the women on here saying there isn't any good men.
These statistics conveniently ignored the divorce rates. Sure white people might rush to get married or just settle early in life but that simply doesn't last. That's why divorce numbers are through the roof.
Also, since this whole argument is presented as a race-based one you have to not only look at statistics as numbers but be able to apply some critical thinking as well...
@ the adv say it again man its crazy but people eyes r closed
==== @bushwine
These Negroes eyes have been shut for over 500 years now...
I call them the walking blind...most of them just concern about sniffing ass ( both male and female).
I say...leave them alone...
Again....my message is for the select few...all of you kumbyah Negroes, don't even attempt to decipher my rhetoric...It wasn't meant for you...
Ignore my post and stay on fukking topic.
@ bushwine, I agree man...the $hit pisses u off man. I myself come from generations of gud men. But today blk women making it harder and harder to be a gud man. The killing part is I understand women get mistreated today. But y is it always a racial thing. its just not black men that mistreat women. Blk men r always singled out.
omgoodness.
does the world really and truly base itself off the lives of black women? f*ck no, unless it's negative!
when sh*t like this comes out, I want to see a comparison to all women of every race Period.
Bottom line is Americans are not as smart and respectful any more, and it's declining.
I am not dating some classless punk who thinks he's a thug or a pimp, in this lifetime nor the next.
there aren't any quality men in the states.
To simplify things let's say that white people only marry white people and black people only marry black people. If blacks only make up about 12% of the us population - at any given time we're going to be surrounded by non-blacks. That means you have to look harder to find someone suitable for you. It's just as simple as that.
Meanwhile, for white people, anywhere they go they are the majority so if skin color is their main criteria - they're pretty much set and it's a lot easier for them to whittle it down from there.
t shouldnt be about what dollar amount he makes, as long as you and your man make enough combined to be secure, comfortable and have all you need even if you can't have everything you want when you want it. It shouldn't be about a set height your guy needs to be, as long as you are attracted to your man. Once you get past 30, it's likely most men you meet will have children. If he has children, is that really so bad as long as he can afford to care for them, as well as contribute to your shared household?
@ARealWomanAlwyz: Some stop calling because they see who you are. Some probably can't handle a good woman. Some can't handle a woman who is too deep into God and they feel they can't get the draws. If I knew about u I can really tell you. Some men have different reason. Caking. After the caking mode and they got u, its less calling to some men. Calling 6 six times and text crazy is about competing against the other dudes.
Also, some women need to look at where they go to meet single guys. Your future husband may not be at the club. There are black men that want to get married and do not have issues with "exclusivity". However black women need to learn that when a guy tells you he's not looking for anything serious, believe him! Don't get too invested in him, because the day may never come when he realizes how brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous you are, and how he can't live without you.
I have to be honest this might hurt a little but here it goes. Most of us come from brokens home and don't know what it's like to have a good man or to be 1. We purposely go for the bad men. We over look the good ones. We let the bad ones drive our car, moslest our kids, have kids out of wed lock by no good men, we have stuff stolen in our home, men with multiple women then we hit our 30's and say "WERE ARE THE GOOD MEN"
We done already f*cked it up. When the truth is we wouldn't know a good man if it bit us. We as women need to learn to eliminate the bad men and appreciate the GOOD one..
Just picture a room with 70 white people and 12 black people.
Chances are there are going to be a lot more potential white couples in that group than black ones since 1 out of 6 isn't good odds for anyone to find a match that meets all of their criteria and even if they do, that match has to be attracted to them as well, lessening the odds even further.
And what are you going to do cyber punch me... learn bit---ch.... GET OVER YOUR BITTERNESS.. and 35 and still talking ignorant come on.. it's people like you who fu--ck our race up...and you don't know who I am I'd fu---ck you up in words and beating... Don't start no shi---t it won't be no sh---it.
WOMEN USED TO SHARE MEN BACK IN THE TURN OF THE CENTURY
THEY LET THE CATHOLIC CHURCH TELL THEM THAT THEY CANT SHARE A MAN
THAT IS TOTAL BULLSH*T
WOMEN HAVE BEEN SHARING MEN SINCE BIBLE TIMES
NOW THEY WANNA LISTEN TO THE CATHOLIC CHURCH
WE CANT KEEP LISTENING TO THE CATHOLIC CHURCH
WE ARE IN DIRE STRAITS RIGHT NOW
ITS NOT THAT MANY ELIGIBLE BLACK MEN TO MARRY
SO YALL WOMEN NEED TO SHARE THE FEW GOOD MEN OUT HERE
STOP HAVING BABYS BY THUGS
DONT NO MAN WANT NO WOMAN WHO COOCHIE BEEN BLEW OUT BY A THUG
START GOING TO THE GYM INSTEAD OF THE CLUB
Everyone is making very good points regarding this topic...bottomline is that both black men and women have their own preferences. The 4 women that they showed were all beautiful and relatively successful but they have no husbands or "man"...has anyone stopped to think that they may be a cause for this? Just because a woman has her "own" does not make her a good person...It takes two mind two hearts and two wills to make a relationship work...if it's all about looks and if it's based off of someones income and personal belongings...what's the point?
WHY AM I NOT SURPRISED THAT SHES IN GEORGIA? GEORGIA BROTHERS ARE SCCCRRRUUUBBBSSSS! ESPECIALLY IN DECATUR! BROKE AS HELL AND DEPENDING ON A WOMAN... MAMA TO BE EXACT. IM IN GEORGIA AND I SEE IT ALL TOO OFTEN.....MAMA OR WIFEY KICKS HIM OUT AND HE'S HOMELESS! NO JOB...NO EDUCATION...CRIMINAL RECORD...AND WILLING TO CHEAT WITH DIRTY CHICKS CARRYING "WHO KNOWS WHAT" BETWEEN THEIR LEGS! HECK...IM LOOKING FOR A PAID "BILLY JONES" SO I CAN HAVE SOME ALICIA KEYS BABIES!
@jayanderson07- thanks for your insight on men and positive responses
so i guess i am just DOOMED right?
because i refuse to compromise my relationship with God for desires of the flesh.
GRANTED i am by no means perfect and i dont expect a man to be either but GOLLY there is nothing left!!!!! and i know all men cannot make it to church on sunday but there are some men that by the mere mention of God they run. Without putting God 1st all else fails.
so i have to compromise my Christianity to have a companion?
I feel we fail on both ends. Alot of black women need to have there stuff together as do black men. Brothers being locked up and sister having three baby dadies.We treat this as if it is normal. We as a people are all backwards and all self hating. your not cool if your smart? they say your trying to be white? Alot of things we do to each other hurts my heart because i know we can do so much bettet as soon at the wool is pulled from over our eyes. I'm 29 im married to a sister for the last 4 yrs. never been locked up and kept my job (USAF) for the last 10yrs. No kids.
IF I HAD TWO GOOD WOMEN TO COME HOME TO
I'D NEVER CHEAT
GETTING TWO GOOD WOMEN TO LOVE ME WOULD BE SOMETHING SPECIAL
GETTING ONE GOOD WOMAN TO LOVE ME IS EASY
I'D CHEAT MY AZZ OFF BECAUSE I KNOW THAT THERE IS ANOTHER 1 GOOD BLACK WOMAN SOMEWHERE
BUT IF I HAD 2 OR 3 GOOD WOMEN... I WOULD NEVER WANT TO MESS THAT UP
PLUS IT WOULD BE HARD TO CHEAT ON 2 OR 3 WOMEN
CAN YOU IMAGINE HAVE 2 OR 3 WOMEN CHECKING YOUR PHONE CALLS TEXT MESSGS OR EMAILS?????
YOU WOMEN NEED TO CONSIDER SHARING MEN
THAT WOULD SOLVE A LOT OF PROBLEMS IN THE BLACK COMMUNITY
@ look in the mirror, thank u...thank u. A sista with education and common sense.thanks for being 100, and please continue to teach and talk to our sistas on here, some of them need it. And they wonder y brothas act a dam fool, they always downing us instead of tryin to find a way to lift our spirit to make us stronger blk men.
Oh please..
I agree with most the women in here. All you men are getting so defensive all of a sudden.
Fact is, society has shaped these black men/boys to believe that having a WHITE or HIGH YELLOW woman makes them look good. That's why the majority of athletes have either of the two as a TROPHY WIFE. Most of them wife up BROKE, TRAILER PARK TRASH white woman who CAN'T DO SHYT but make them look good.
Do you notice the commercials? The black man is always linked to the BIRACIAL black woman or a HIGH YELLOW. You HARDLY if EVER see a legit black couple. And that's a problem.
Oh and my nephew had the AUDACITY to say "Statistics show that biracial children are the smartest" and I'm like OKAY AND WHAT? So are you looking for a white girl or something? He's like "Yeah". SMH
I have this question. If there were two women, one white and one black, they were both the SAME level of successful, they made the SAME amount of money, they were the SAME level of being attractive and had the same personality. WHICH WOULD THE BLACK MAN CHOSE? HMM?
@TexasGlamourChic
i am BY NO MEANS DESPERATE
but i have signed up for almost every dating site just to give it a chance- #FAIL- EVERY MAN ON THERE SAYS THEY ARE LOOKING FOR LONG TERM BUT WHEN YOU MEET THEM THEY ARE REALLY JUST LOOKING FOR A CHEAP DATE.
CHRISTIANSINGLES CHRISTIANDATINGFORFR EE PLENTYOFFISH EHARMONY ETC- THE LIST GOES ON
IF YOU WOMEN SHARED THE FEW GOOD MEN OUT HERE
AND STOP GIVING UP THE P*SSY TO WANKSTAS
THAT WOULD FORCE ALL THE BLACK MEN TO GET THEIR SHYT TIGHT
DONT NO MAN WANNA GO THRU LIFE WITHOUT GETTING HIS D*CK WET
IF ALL THE GOOD WOMEN WERE SHARING THE GOOD MEN
THUGS AND WANKSTAS WOULD WANNA BE A GOOD MAN TOO
BLACK WOMEN REWARD THUGS BY GIVING THEM P*SSY
SO WHY BE A SUCESSFUL PRODUCTIVE MAN???
IF A THUG IS STILL GETTING P*SSY WHY GO OUT AND GET A JOB???
ITS NOT IN A MANS NATURE TO BE WITH ONE WOMAN
WHY FORCE THEM TOO???
Now, I don't know about black women not being able to find good black men because I'm not a black woman. But I do know that as a black male, I could say the same about a good black woman. My first wife was black, and one of the most beautiful women that I have, to this day, ever laid eyes on. But she was batshyt crazy and evil. I have dated numerous black women since then, and have only a few that weren't racist against other groups of people (big turn off), so drama filled that it gave me a headache to deal with her, or so hard that at times you thought you were dating a man.
@ mythang I'm with you...everyone is so quick to say "you go gurl! there ain't no good men left" when nobody asked if they present themselves as the kind of woman a man "wants" to marry. Just because you have you own stuff and you're educated doesn't make you wifey material. Real men could care less about what a woman has materially. My GF always tells me about one of her friends making big money who constantly puts men down because she feels they are below her...then complains when she can't find anyone. I know that as a community we have let our women down...but women have to take responsibility for their own actions. It's not completely the man's fault if he beds you then leaves you...you decided to lay with someone who would do that, don't lump me or my people in with that. I have plenty of friends who want to marry and start a family but all they ever meet are women who lets say are not the kind of women they would bring home to mama. When I became single after over a decade (no I'm not old...got married in my early 20's)I was shocked at how many women came out of the wood work wanting nothing else but a few minutes of pleasure...it took a lot of hard work for me to find my current lady.
@TEXASGLAMOURCHICK
B*TCH DONT BE SO STUPID
WHO SAID SHARE A MAN WHO GOT A DISEASE?????
CAN YOU READ BYTCH???
I DIDNT SAY THAT
I SAID THAT YOU NEED TO SHARE THE GOOD MEN NOT THE DISEASED MAN
I HATE WHEN H*ES PUT WORDS IN MY MOUTH
YOU NEED TO PUT A D*CK IN YOUR MOUTH
MY WAY WOULD HELP UPLIFT THE COMMUNITTY NOT BRING IT DOWN
OR WE CAN KEEP DOING IT THE SAME WAY WE HAVE
THATS WHY WOMEN CANT FIND A GOOD MAN
MOST OF THEM ARE TAKEN
THE SOLUTION
START SHARING THOSE GOOD MEN
SMH, like others have stated of that 53% they stated in the vid of available black men, how many of those are heterosexual, truly??? and not DL, or just straight up gay???..thats would slash that 53% to around 15%..LORD help us, it makes me so sad to think so many of us who have ourselves together for the most part, but we have no counterpart, yet....I'mma stay encouraged in the LORD cause I refuse to share a man or settle for any ol warm body etc.
I personally love every race. I've been through phases. I remember when I only liked white men, and then it was the Asians, and not too long ago I had a THING for Italians. I've always liked all races but a certain race would stand out more. And it's not because I don't like black men.
I don't care about race. I just want a man who can support me, treat me right and love the Lord. The guy I'm seeing now is VERY attractive and so sweet. But he's not into the Church scene as much as I would like but we're working on it. And that makes a good relationship.
@Jasmin4 U- Girl you're always on here speaking the truth and getting people riled up, lol
Now, I am a young black woman and I hope and pray to find a good black man one day. I haven't come across any as of yet , but then again I have time to do so. However, it is a shame that I haven't heard of many. There are a few that's for sure ,but I would love for that few to become the majority. When I say "good", I don't mean having a lot of money. While that's all great there are other things that are important. I am hurt to see that many black men on here are saying that black women are gold
Both sides are at fault here. Don't crucify the black man, but the black woman is not saint either. Black women need to be able to work with black men. If you see a black man making strides, assist him, work with him, and vice-versa. Search outside your comfort zone. That thug in your neighborhood is not going to 'cut' it. The sex might be great but there is no future. I think I am a good black man, educated, law student, ambitious and well spoken. Black women tend to think I am gay or bisexual. Why? Because I am well spoken,educated, dress properly and my pants don't sag when I walk. CRAZY!!!
@macky_765
YES I HAVE MET A COUPLE GUYS FROM THE CHRISTIAN DATING WEBSITE AND WENT ON A DATE AND HE WANTED TO TAKE ME TO THE HOTEL ON THE FIRST DATE WHAT THE HECK!!!!! I WAS DRESSED APPROPRAITELY AND THE DINNER WENT FAIRLY WELL. I COULDNT BELIEVE IT. IT IS VERY DISHEARTENING TO ANYONE THAT SOCIETY IS LIKE THIS.
OH AND DATING OUTSIDE THE RACE IS NO BETTER.MEN ARE MEN. I HAVE WENT ON DATES WITH WHITE MEN AND LONG STORY SHORT IN SO MANY WORDS ALL THEY WANTED WAS SEX. THEY REEL YOU IN WITH THE "YEAH I WANT A FAMILY TOO" "YEAH IM LOOKING FOR LONG TERM" BUT THEY DONT
Women can say there are no good man all they want but lets be real. I want every woman to answer these questions. Can u handle a real man? Do u know what a real man is? Do u know how to be a wife? Can u handle the ups and downs? Can u be supportive if you man lose his job and he is depress? Can LISTEN to him and let him talk? Can u let him be a MAN? Can you let him be the head of the household like GOD say for him to be? Can you be a lady in the street and a freak in the bed? CAN U COOK? Do you mind cooking? CAN YOU RESPECT HIS WALLET?
I can say the same thing
Of the 61% who are single, how many of these women are undercover homosexuals..how many of them are bisexuals and not really pursuing a relationship…how many of them already have a partner and sleeping around…how many of them have 1 to 3 kids with different men…how many of them have nothing to offer instead of piece of ass.
If you think about…that would eliminate just about 55% of the available black female population
Yeh…I love playing devil’s advocate…Again..is the Negro Woman that much better off or worst off than the Negro Man….lol…ahahahaha!!! Some of you are in a state of delusion, the white man’s delusion
Ahahahaha….hey…I gotta go…the manager at Publix is watching me…ahahahahahh
diggers after we're the ones you pushed to the side if and when you finally got on your feet. It seems that black men view women outside of the race as an upgrade and it's a shame. Internalized racism and prejudice is breaking our community down.
Aside from the whole lack of love and respect for black women bit, There's a scare amount of men who are educated and even want to be educated. Plus, it seems that black men encourage each other to be worse rather than encouraging each other to be upright and outstanding men.
Lastly, I agree with Allahuakbar. It's time for sisters to take
People keep saying we gotta date outside of our race but what if you aren't attracted to other races of men, what if your prefernce is a black man, is that a crime??? I mean most white men just don't do it for me, outside of folk who are exceptions in the handsome dept like Hugh Jackman, Orlando Bloom,, and you don't see those kind of white men everyday LOL
SMH, like others have stated of that 53% they stated in the vid of available black men, how many of those are heterosexual, truly??? and not DL, or just straight up gay???..thats would slash that 53% to around 15%..LORD help us, it makes me so sad to think so many of us who have ourselves together for the most part, but we have no counterpart, yet....I'mma stay encouraged in the LORD cause I refuse to share a man or settle for any ol warm body etc.
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I can say the same thing
Of the 61% who are single, how many of these women are undercover homosexuals..how many of them are bisexuals and not really pursuing a relationship…how many of them already have a partner and sleeping around…how many of them have 1 to 3 kids with different men…how many of them have nothing to offer instead of piece of ass.
If you think about…that would eliminate just about 55% of the available black female population
Yeh…I love playing devil’s advocate…Again..is the Negro Woman that much better off or worst off than the Negro Man….lol…ahahahaha!!! Some of you are in a state of delusion, the white man’s delusion
Ahahahaha….hey…I gotta go…the manager at Publix is watching me…ahahahahahh!!!!!
@TEXASGLAMORCHICK
B*TCH YOU DONT KNOW MEN...
AND YOU DEFINATELY DONT KNOW WHO I BE F*CKING
IM A GOOD MAN THAT WANTS 2 OR 3 WOMEN AT LEAST I KNOW WHAT I WANT
YES I DO MEET HOODRATS
BUT I ONLY F*CK HOODRATS
IM NOT GONNA MARRY THEM H*ES
I WANT A GOOD WOMAN
I MEET THEM EVERY DAY
IM A MALE REGISTERED NURSE... SO IM SURROUNDED BY GOOD WOMEN
BUT I WANT 2 OR 3 GOOD WOMEN TO MARRY
AND ITS HARD CONVINCING THEM WOMEN TO SHARE ME THEY WANT ME ALL TO THEMSELVES
SO I CHEAT
BUT NOW IM TIRED OF CHEATING... AND I DID RESEARCH ON WHY REAL MEN CHEAT... IT IS NATURE
i definately dont believe that there are no good black men left. i think that the main problem is a lot of women especially black women either surround themselves with [EXPLETIVE] or they have these "standards" that are extremely rediculous. the statitstics were interesting though, but sense black men outnumber black women, shouldnt weeding out the loosers help the situation lol
For the women on here sittin their sayin there ain't no more gud men...STOP IT! If u keep running into the wrong men that means you're not doing your homework. All the signs is there if he's a real man or not... U just have to look for them. Women need to stop being so judge mental...for example, gud men can't approach women today without her thinking "hes up to know gud". Ladies do your homework, trust me its a lot of gud men left out here.
I KNOW IM RADICAL IN MY THINKING
BUT AT THIS POINT IN OUR SOCIETY
WE NEED RADICAL IDEAS
AND SHARING THE GOOD MEN (LIKE MYSELF)
IS A DAMN GOOD IDEA
SHARING MEN HAVE ADVANTAGES
LESS CHEATING LESS DISEASES LESS WANKSTAS HAVING BABYS MORE FATHERS IN THE HOUSEHOLD MORE HELP WITH THE KIDS MORE MONEY IN THE HOUSEHOLD MORE GOOD ROLE MODELS FOR OUR SONS
DID I MENTION MORE MONEY
A 3 INCOME HOUSEHOLD WOULD BE BETTER THEN A 2 INCOME HOUSEHOLD
AND DEFINATELY BETTER THEN A SINGLE MOM HOUSEHOLD
IF YOU PEOPLE CAN COME UP WITH A BETTER SOLUTION THEN MINE ... I WOULD LUV HEAR
I'm not bitter or angry, nor do I believe everything the media tells me.
From my own experience I can say, the last generation of Black Men did not do a good job passing down leadership or loyalty to this Young Generation of BLACKMEN.
While I agree, it's not ALL Blackmen and there are many good ones out here. I know men from every end of the spectrum, rich, poor, educated, to the blue collar and there is a PROBLEM.
Many black men are willing to glorify everything but a black woman. They don't seem to care how fake, superficial, money hungry or plastic she is. SMDH!! WE NEED YOU NOW!!
I see what these women are saying, being that they live in ATL. Thats the gift and the curse about that place..you can have a career good times, money, but you wont get a husband. This is fact I can speak on since I lived there for 11 years. It took me coming back home to meet someone to share the rest of my life with. And you know what? I had to look outside of what I was normally dating to find him. Women stop wearing next to nothing out to these clubs, stop partying 7 days a week,take care of your kids, be more positive in general and you will see a difference. I wasnt rushing into marriage
@Phoenix7
if your standards of dating a white man is hugh jackman, orlando bloom or other guys like that, lmao i dont know what to tell you. you are so far up in the air with your standards of men you may not can come back down. and i know your standards of all men of all races are about that high also
@jayanderson07- YOU GOT ME WRITING A BOOK! YOU BETTER BE MY HUSBAND TO BE AFTER THIS!
Can u handle a real man? YES- PEEP THE SCREEN NAME A REAL WOMAN CAN ONLY HANDLE A REAL MAN
Do u know what a real man is? A MAN WHO HAS GOALS WHO IS OPTOMISTIC POSITIVE AND HE LEAVES ROOM FOR BOTH OF YOU TO UPLIFT EACH OTHER.
Do u know how to be a wife? NEVER BEEN ONE BUT I AM PRETTY SURE I COULD I AM A DAMN GOOD WOMAN THO
Can u handle the ups and downs? OF COURSE WHAT IS A RELATIONSHIP IF IT DOESNT HAVE UPS AND DOWNS YOU WILL APPRECIATE EACH OTHER MORE
And to the Black Men on here saying Black Women need to defend them.......
I'm just wondering when have you defended us lately?????? DO TELL.
It isn't the other races runnin around bashing Black Women, it's mostly BLACK MEN. While most other races protect and defend their women and treat them as if they are sacred. Many black men will push a black woman down in a heartbeat and stand on her neck if they can get away with it.
OUR LEADERSHIP IS SUPPOSED TO COME FROM YOU! RECLAIM YOUR TITLE AS OUR BLACK KINGS, your REAL BLACK QUEENS WILL FOLLOW. Let's work together to rebuild UNITY.
either I let love find me...I had my lists.lol I realize now how silly it was, but let that [EXPLETIVE] fall to the wayside. Women can meet good brothers, but damn can u cook a meal? are you clean? can you be presented to their parents in a classy manner? do you curse every 5 minutes? is ur past a lil sketched w "smashin the homies?" all that is takin in consideration as well when meeting someone. Ive seen women do things in ATL for a dude i couldnt do for a million dollars. thats why a lot of the girls are single. Bet money one of them chicks in the video was a passtime whore. and dudes talk.
MTO these statistics are ACCURATE and not lies. Start listening b/c the truth will set you free. Look around, how many of the blk women u know are married? How many blk men r? I don't think blk women should settle at all. Those blk chics are beautiful and worked hard 4 their success!!! I think that they need 2 date outside the race! They cant find a blk man so find a white asian etc man!
This is an epidemic!!!1 Most blk mothers are single! Stop having babies out of wed-lock. get married 1st. Get an education b4 focusing on a man!
People are posting so much that my poor speech got broken to bits lol
@Jasmin4 U- Girl you're always on here speaking the truth and getting people riled up, lol
Now, I am a young black woman and I hope and pray to find a good black man one day. I haven't come across any as of yet , but then again I have time to do so. However, it is a shame that I haven't heard of many. There are a few that's for sure ,but I would love for that few to become the majority. When I say "good", I don't mean having a lot of money. While that's all great there are other things that are important.
or maybe they werent...but im sure the guys they are pursuing dont want them because they are too much of a challenge, or too deanding.My nose stayed clean in GA why? cuz I thought like a man. I stayed selfish, only worrying about my son and I. Dudes flocked to me, and I met some decent ones. But they werent marriage material either, so why waste my time? Black women really need to stop whining and keep it moving.
I am hurt to see that many black men on here are saying that black women are gold diggers after we're the ones you pushed to the side if and when you finally got on your feet. It seems that black men view women outside of the race as an upgrade and it's a shame. Internalized racism and prejudice is breaking our community down.
Aside from the whole lack of love and respect for black women bit, There's a scare amount of men who are educated and even want to be educated. Plus, it seems that black men encourage each other to be worse rather than encouraging each other to be upright and outstanding men.
Can u be supportive if you man lose his job and he is depress? YES MOST DEFINITELY- I CAN HOLD IT DOWN TIL U GET ON YOUR FEET BOO BUT THAT IS AS LONG AS HE TRIES AFTER THE DEPRESSION IS OVER AND HE IS NOT STUCK ON ME SUPPORTING HIM I DONT CARE WHO YOU ARE YOU CAN GETTIRED OF THAT Can LISTEN to him and let him talk? YES
Can u let him be a MAN? YES- THE BIBLE SAYS THE MAN IS THE HEAD OF THE HOUSE HOLD AND THE WIFE MUST BE SUBMISSIVE TO HIM
Can you be a lady in the street and a freak in the bed? HAHAHA THATS FOR ME TO KNOW AND U TO FIND OUT
Lastly, I agree with Allahuakbar. It's time for sisters to take responsibility for the way we are treated by black men. We need to raise our standards of self respect before we can be respected by our men. Especially because society teaches us that black women are all full of drama, baby mammas, ghetto, loud, ignorant sluts and ultimately not worthy of respect.
I haven't watched the video yet.
There are so many angles I can take on this subject; I’ll try to be brief. In my experience, I have never had trouble meeting black men in all their variety. Love my black men. But, something I have noticed since about 19, guys don’t care for women to have attained much on their own. I didn’t read much into it at the time when as I sat with a boyfriend of mine and he plainly told me I was too “self-reliant”. He was 25 college educated, not where he wanted to be career wise. I didn’t understand self-reliance as a problem and we broke up shortly thereafter. Nearly every boyfriend I had has said something to the effect of “you deserve better” and ended up breaking up shortly thereafter. These all were good dudes and they know I am a good woman. Ironically, these were educated guys and still reaching fulfillment. Or guys established in their careers and feeling as though it was not enough to fulfill my needs. I can only do so much ego stroking telling you, you are good enough before my own esteem takes a hit. Don’t do it.
I’ve always been a humble person. I’m not needy or flashing. Maybe, I should feel flattered that they think highly of me. Perhaps they picture me with a certified baller. I am ready for lasting love. I have to take my time to find someone who I KNOW fits the bill. Give me the “better” man now, rather than find out later he is not secure enough to fit the bill. What I have and want out of life does not work against you if you are my partner and working with me. Let’s work at it and build together. We can’t have a home if I am your competitor. I’d rather be a partner, lover and friend.
CAN U COOK? YES I CAN I MADE GUMBO FOR CHRISTMAS AND I MADE THE WHOLE THANKSGIVING DINNER AND IT WAS GOOD!
Do you mind cooking? LOVE IT
CAN YOU RESPECT HIS WALLET? YEAH I GOT MY OWN- AS LONG AS I HAVE BEEN ALIVE I HAVE NEVER ASKED A MAN FOR ANYTHING FINANCIALLY. IF HE OFFERS THATS DIFFERENT AND NO I AM NOT TOO HIGH ON MY HIGH HORSE TO ACCEPT IF NEED BE
LETS BE HONEST BLACK MEN ARE THE LOWEST OF THE LOW WHEN IT COMES TO FINANCIAL SUPPORT, LOVE, GOOD FATHERS, AMBITION, INDEPENDENCE, AND FIDELITY. THERE NO GOOD IN MY OPINION
THESE WOMEN ARE INDEPEDENT AND CAN HANDLE THEIR OWN AND THATS Y BLACK MEN DONT DATE BLACK WOMEN BECAUSE THEY CANT HOLD UP TO A WELL CLEANED BLACK WOMAN.
THESE WOMEN ARE BETTER OFF BEING ALONE OR WITH A NON BLACK MAN.
Da Advocator, I am none of those things, so??? We naturally outnumber ya'll, what is it by 1.8 million, so out of those numbers lets just say you factor out the rotten apples=women with severe issues etc and you will still have a rack of ripe beautiful apples left, alone
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Never said you were....Everyone thinks he/she are ripe beautiful apples...very few can provide and introspective look of themselves and their flaws...many believe they are God’s gift to whomever.
So, I am not surprise that any of you would you think highly of yourself…I don’t doubt that you think you are an ideal mate to someone…I just doubt that every man you encounter would think you are an ideal mate for him.
That’s the problem…you are dealing with idealism that were impregnated in your head since birth of what a perfect black woman or mate would be…in this list you would include, job, personal finances, beauty, nice car and homes…ahahahah!!!!
This is the Whiteman’s idea of success…this is not the concept of my ancestors…you Negros are trying to live up to the white man’s interpretation of success. They Whiteman’s civilization is crumbling in just 200 years..why would you want to imitate them…?
Egypt lasted for over 20 dynasties
Who should Negro emulate? Ahahaha!!!!
Man that’s a lot of work I have to do just for 6.50/hr…I hate being a bagboy…There goes my chance of finding a successful black woman…ahahahahah!!!!
Seriously..I am out…lol…business is calling….lol
Fundamental things like integrity and having sound character have fallen by the way side...SMH..., folks are liars, hoes (male and female), undercover homosexuals, derelicts, degenerates, ignorant, uncouth, users, selfish, trifling, know nothing about the LORD etc etc etc..you find these things without even looking, Lord have mercy.........be back after lunch...we gotta do better as a whole, so maybe the future generations
LMAO@ JaeCe! Dude, you're one of the main BM posters who put down BW on this site.
As for the topic, before I married my husband I went 3 years of not dating BM. I dated a Jewish man, an Irish man, and an Asian man, but never found a connection with them. I went to a black professional social party and found my hubby. The good BM will not simply fall in your lap---you have to look for them. I found one, but I will tell any sister to not limit themselves. Date other races, but don't give up hope on BM.
Now ALL MEN answer these questions: WHY DO YOU LIE? DONT SAY TO SPARE FEELINGS IT IS SO EASY TO TELL THE TRUTH SO WHY LIE?WHY DO MEN CHEAT? EVEN HALLE BERRY GOT CHEATED ON MORE THAN ONCE SO DONT SAY " SHE WAS LACKING SOMETHING"WHY IS IT HARD FOR MEN TO COMMIT?WHY CANT MEN WAIT MORE THAN 1 MONTH FOR SEX GOLLY IS IT THAT SERIOUS ACT LIKE U NEVER HAD NONE. YOU SHOULD APPRECIATE A WOMAN WHO WILL MAKE U WAIT? WHY DO MEN RUN THE STREETS TRYING TO BE PLAYERS WITH ALL KINDS OF WOMEN?WHY DO MEN WANT TO LIVE UNREALISTIC LIFESTYLES?WHATS WRONG WITH PUTTING GOD 1ST?TRY IT UR LIFE WILL BE SO MUCH BETTER
Just about every man calls himself a "good man" including some of the guys above yet are cursing and saying uneccessary things to the ladies here - when they didn't even say anything wrong to them.
Every woman thinks she's a good woman yet some are sloppy, lazy, messy, doesn't like to clean/won't clean, doesn't like to cook/won't cook etc. How many guys would want a woman who doesn't cook or clean? I do cook - don't like it that much but I would cook for my man, I don't mind cleaning.. you have to be willing to do some things you normally wouldn't want to do like cook or clean.
@ tjeanie, men don't look at women as an up grade outside our race. Here goes the secret to y black men date white women...blk men who date white women do it because of the support they give. Look at what the sistas is sayin about blk men on here. U don't here white women blasting r belittling their men. Listen I luv my blk women, u guys r the most beautiful creature on the face of this earth, but ya'll don't support ya'll blk men enough.
QUESTIONS CONTINUED: DO YOU LIKE TO COOK AND CLEAN? HOW BOUT A GOOD MEAL AND CLEAN HOUSE WHEN I COME HOME FOR A CHANGE? WHY DONT MEAN WANT TO SHARE RESPONSIBILITIES? WOMEN DO THIS MEN DO THATH NO NO NO EQUAL RESPONSIBILITIES. I AM A CHRSITIAN BUT YOU SAY YOU WANT A FREAK IN THE SHEETS WELL WHY DONT MEN STEP THERE GAME UP IN THE SHEETS AS WELL YOU KNOW WE NEED MORE THAN 30 SECONDS SO WHY WONT MEN SWALLOW THERE PRIDE AND TAKE VIAGRA TO PLEASE THERE WOMAN OR AT LEAST STEP THE TONGUE GAME UP. YOU TOO GOOD FOR VIAGRA? GOLLY.......NOW ANSWER MY QUESTIONS
IM A LATINA AND CAN SEE BLACK MEN HATE THEIR OWN WOMEN. EITHER THEIR LOCKED UP, ON DRUGS/SELLIN DRUGS, NO EDUCATION, GANG BANGIN, CHEATIN, OR NOT BEIN THERE FOR THEIR CHILDREN.
AND THEY ARE QUICK TO PUT MY KIND ON A HIGHER LIGHT. AND DISSING THEIR OWN KIND OF WOMEN. SO NO MATTER HOW MANY BLACK WOMEN THERE ARE IN THE WORLD AND HOW MANY BLACK MEN THERE ARE IN THE WORLD MAJORITY OF THEM WOULDNT MARRY A BLACK WOMAN ANYWAY. THEY WOULD RATHER HAVE SEX WITH A BLACK WOMAN FOR A PIECE OF ASS THAN TO MARRY HER. AND IF MARRIED TO A BLACK WOMAN THEY MOST LIKELY CHEAT ON THEM WITH OTHER RACE OF WOMEN AND NOT EVENTHAT BUT CHEAT PERIOD
@ Actusreus: I feel you on that one. In St. Louis it's especially bad for me because I wasn't born and raised around here and I don't have the accent ("hur" for "here"; "Thurr" for "there").
The only remedy I have for you is to travel. I have met some of the most beautiful black women in other parts of the country- NYC, LA, ATL, FL. Hell, I went to Britain and met one of the prettiest, and smartest black women that I have ever met. IMO, black people need to get out of this community mentality that we have.
emmettmays85 wrote yeah but most white men dont find y'all attractive truth be told. the reason most black women dont date outside they race not because of some bullshit commitment to black men, its because of lack of options, ya'll are the least preferred.
This is a lie! BM like you write this because you want BW to have low self-esteem about themselves. You want us to believe that no one want us, so you can keep us waiting for you. Well, wake up! BW are dating AND marrying outside their race. I for one could have married a WM and I know many BW who are dating/married to WM and HM.
@jabugy The women are on here going on black men because they have all obviously experienced black men not being all they can be.
I don't know any black women who haven't supported their man. We always stand by them even when they make us look like dummies by cheating and treating us like we're less than worthy.
And no, white women do not put white men on blast, BUT that's because they don't have the problem of their men not viewing them as queens like black women do. Even some men on here said we aren't princesses so why should we get a prince, smh
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Plus the chances that a white women would date yall when ur broke and living in the projects is???? Just about zer let's be honest. Black women will though and what do we get in exchange? I'm just saying.
I still love black men and I will continue to try and find the right black man for me. I will be honest though, every time I have a negative experience with one it opens me up to dating and marrying a man in another race. White men are so respectful to me. Black men approach me like a whore and then call me bourgeois when I reject the approach
IF THESE VERY BEAUTIFUL, SUCCESSFUL BLACK WOMEN CAN'T FIND A DECENT MAN TO ENTER INTO A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP WITH, THEN THEY SHOULD WAIT. THEY HAVE TOO MUCH GOING FOR THEMSELVES TO SETTLE FOR SOMEONE WHO IS NOT ON THEIR LEVEL.
DADDY WAS NOT HOME TO TEACH THE BOY HOW TO BE A MAN; AND HE IS NOT FIT FOR A REAL WOMAN. HE MEASURES HIS MANHOOD BY HOW MANY WOMEN HE CAN SEX.
BLACK MEN, YOU MUST BEGIN TO MAN UP, GET EDUCATED, GET HIV TESTED, RISE UP OUT OF IGNORANCE, AND MAKE A HOME FOR YOUR FAMILIES TO COME TOO :(
WAKE UP!!!!!!!
USE YOUR BRAIN NOT YOUR BODY
AND WHO SAID WHITE MEN DONT LIKE BLACK WOMEN IS ALIE. FIRST OFF ESPECIALLY COMING FROM A BLACK MAN WHO MADE THAT COMMENT YOU DONT KNOW WHAT WHITE MEN THINK. YOU RATHER SEE YOUR OWN BLACK WOMEN DOWN NOT HAPPY THAN SEE THEM WITH ANOTHER RACE OF MAN THAT YOU FEEL IS HIGHER THAN YOU ARE. IVE SEEN ASIAN MEN LATINO MAN AND WHITE MEN WITH BLACK WOMEN. THEIR THE FIRST TO ACTUALLY LIKE A BLACK WOMAN'S BEAUTY. I HAVE A GOOD FRIEND WHO IS BLACK WHO IS MARRIED TO A ASIAN MAN FOR 6 YEARS IN A WELL PUT TOGETHER FAMILY 2 KIDS NICE HOUSE, BOTH HAVE GREAT JOBS LIVIN THE LIFE. SO THATS DEFINITLY NOT TRUE ABOUT OTHER RACE OF MEN NOT LIKING BLACK WOMEN. DONT TALK FOR OTHER RACE OF MEN WHEN YOU DONT EVEN LIKE YOUR OWN KIND
blame the lames that made your life become the same. you cant put it on all black men cause you have bad taste and judgement shyyyyt ima good [EXPLETIVE] even if i do whats typical like evey other male doesnt mean i cant be good to a woman that shows the right qualaties im willing to settle for ...get a hard dick in ya life keep your bills paid and be happy..
I do think it was very naive for these women to participate in this new story where they basically are saying the majority of black men are sh*t. Honestly, our community knows our downfalls and we don’t need to broadcast them to the rest of the world. From the standpoint of a black woman, I agree there are slim pickings when it comes to finding a decent black man. I think it is unfortunate that successful black women feel the need to compromise to find an adequate man. I think a woman who has accomplished so much for herself should be able to find her equal not her lesser. Maybe I’ve been looking in the wrong places but I have yet to find a man who is God fearing, attractive, goal-oriented, drug-free (weed is a drug), college educated or beyond, child-free, job having, family oriented, financially secure, caring, and trustworthy. Typically I’ll find a man with a few of the qualities but not all of them. I believe once a woman or man begins compromising on their preferences in a partner . . .they are already heading on a downward spiral.
@ Kimpeach and chocoluv97 ya'll can exaggerate all ya'll want i did'nt say all whit men dont find yall attractive i just said 98% of white men dont find ya"ll attractive. i dont give a [EXPLETIVE] who black women date. it is very rare that i see a black woman with a white man and when i do its usually a nerdy white guy . i never seen a black woman with a tom cruise lookin white guy and thats the truth. chocoluv97 i wonder when a non black man beat yo ass who u gonna call? and dont think it wont happened cause i seen it happened. see there bitches on here were bashin da [EXPLETIVE] outta black men cont'd
@TJeanie- BEAUTIFULLY SAID- REGARDLESS OF MY HORRIBLE EXPERIENCES I KNOW THERE IS ONE OUT THERE FOR ME
Plus the chances that a white women would date yall when ur broke and living in the projects is???? Just about zer let's be honest. Black women will though and what do we get in exchange? I'm just saying.
I still love black men and I will continue to try and find the right black man for me. I will be honest though, every time I have a negative experience with one it opens me up to dating and marrying a man in another race. White men are so respectful to me. Black men approach me like a whore and then call me bourgeois when I reject the approach
@ Tjeanie, see u still not gettin it. Its not just blk men babie. Its not just black men that's no gud, u have a little bit of that in every race. See u may have had a lot of bad experience with blk men...but that's when u have to question yourself sweetheart. As yourself y u keep attracting all the wrong guys. I know of many white men that have cheated. The difference is white women put up with that $hit, sistas don't. So u here less about white men cheating, and more about brothas.
but when i stated that most white man dont find ya'll attractive u all wanna attack me. kimpeach lmao @ u saying im jealous jealous of what? aint [EXPLETIVE] to be jealous of . hell i see why [EXPLETIVE] date outside they race because non-black women appreciate a good black man more whereas the thug lovin black women diss him because he aint hood enuff
No, this story is entirely true. And MTO as far as you citing the US government a crediable source for statistics... Please remember it took them days to get water toe the Superdome. I don't think its too reliable. NPR has a broad cast about the same thing. In it they talk about how BLACK MEN are more likely to date or marry outside their race and BLACK WOMEN are more likely to date or marry outside their eduacation or income. So if these 50% black women are married its probably not to a man who is of the same socioeconomic level.
The BIGGER PICTURE is BLACK MEN BEING INCARCERATED. Not Black women not being able to find one for marriage. They system is setup against Blacks. Don't think we're not being thrown in prison because we're all criminals. Look at the way they charge for crimes that are statistically committed more by Blacks get more jail time. Blacks wakeup.
this topic as interesting as it is if very complex & it goes far beyond what's portrayed in this video footage....this vid is pretty much telling bw to lose all hope of finding a good black man because there aren't enough or any left,no matter how beautiful/accomplished/eduacted or financially stable they may be... as wel as pushing IR dating/intermixing...don't believe the hype ppl
@jabugy That whole white women deal with cheating is a very good point. But i never said that black men solely need to step up their game in the cheating department. I know that all men regardless of race will cheat. What I said was that black men have trouble valuing black women. White women deal with the cheating because the other parts of their lives are pretty secure. (and I have a lot of white friends and this is what they say) If you have a nice home, are financially stable, are treated every now and then, are put above the side chick, and your children are being taken care of it's not
Black Women tend to be less open to interracial dating and marriage then white women or even black men.So when you limit yourself to only one category of men, and those men open themselves to all possibilities, it is harder to find a good partner. There are good men out there, that are attractive and have compatable personalities. Black men are an option not the only option we have. You could find a man that embodies everything that essential to you except his skin tone.
Are all of you from the ghetto or something? Sorry, I just don't understand why all of you are saying most black men are drug dealers and in jail. Maybe I just see it differently because I'm not from the ghetto and never have been in the ghetto.I don't even know any drug dealers or barely anyone who has been in jail. Maybe you need to get out of the ghetto to find a decent black man.
@ Tennis baby keep dreaming thats how society views black women in fact society view black men as being more attractive hey thats how they view it not me. also i dont give a [EXPLETIVE] about sistas dating out but when they do it they usually diss the [EXPLETIVE] outta black men and that the problem i have with those bitches. also i see alot of bitches attacked me when i told them about how they slave master really views them they wanna crucify me but they did'nt say [EXPLETIVE] about those bitter ass bitches who were bashin black men hypocrites
But majority (NOT ALL) of black men are struggling in every department. That's when it's a problem.
And I know that I'm not the problem, I'm still young and I have time. I'm educated, I keep myself well,I'm talented, can cook, clean, I am very loyal and supportive, like to have fun, and if I have a good man I will definitely tend to him. I just haven't come across the right person YET, as I stated before. And what are the chances that all black women are choosing all the wrong men? The amount of wrong black men must be in abundance for the probability to be so high.
I'm a single black women. I've been in a relationship now for about 5 years. These women do not sound bitter. However, their standards are high, this is because they have taken the time to better themselves and would like to find a matching mate. The reality is...if they haven't found their mate in college. For these career women making 6 figures. It only gets harder with age. Yes, there are plenty of black women who are married. I don't think these women knocked any of the married black women. Listen again...they only spoke about their personal status.
FOR PEOPLE WHO ARE MARRIED THAT IS A GOOD THING. THE DISCUSSION IS CENTERED AROUND THE FACT THAT THERE ARE NOT ENOUGH GOOD ONES TO GO AROUND.
I AM NATURALLY ATTRACTED TO BLACK MEN. WHITE MEN DON'T TURN ME ON. BUT FOR THOSE WHO LIKE THAT, DO YOU.
AS FOR ME, THERE IS NOTHING FINER THAN A SEXY AZZ BLACK MAN, NOTHING; AND I WILL WAIT UNTIL THE RIGHT ONE ENTERS INTO MY LIFE.
USE YOUR BRAIN NOT YOUR BODY
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That video and my comments anyway were not about bashing black men at all. Comprehension skills are fundamental LOL Its about a shortage, a def shortage on quality black men who are heterosexual. I did state things like decency are on short supply, no bs..but that is in no ways an indictment of the entire race of black men. Some of you all are so sensitive, and ya'll are the ones with all the options right o_O
Here's my take if you haven't found a decent person to marry, you need to look at yourself. And that's the bottomline. People hate to admit that they are the problem. I have come across plenty of good men, so it makes me wonder what a woman is doing to not have found a good black man. First off, stop sleeping with so early and find out if you are on the same page. now that will be a good start.
People I hate it as much as the next person but we have to learn to face our own demons. There is a shortage of black men who want to step up and be husbands, I know plenty who want to be boyfriends and lovers, but will stay with a girl for 10 yrs and never marry her because they dont want to let go of their lifestyle, and some women are so desperate to have a man they allow it..
jabugy Flag post That's a great point rage 171. Blk men don't have a chance as u can see from these comments. As u know most race is against a blk man. But to here our blk women degrate us the way they've been doing on here is incendiary.
i know it is very disturbing to hear women of your own race bash da [EXPLETIVE] outta u. i see why [EXPLETIVE] date outside they race who wanna be with a bitch who think she better than u and dont think u are [EXPLETIVE]
@ Rage Black men don't support black women either so what are you saying? LOL Y'all throw shade on us out more than any other race does to their women.
Black people need to get it together all together. If we ALL work on being successful, honest, loyal and loving ourselves we'll all be suitable(MEN and WOMEN).
Let's get mad about this media portrayal(whether it's true or not) and prove them wrong instead of attacking eachother. POINT BLANK...Next I'm out.
Okay here are my experiences with men. I have dated two black men. One was controlling and confused and the other one was super horny and her predominately kept thinking about sex sex and sex and it was just too much. I am single now but I do have a nice friendship with a guy and he's white. I don't care who I date as long as he treats me like a queen. I think that those statistics that the woman was saying was wrong though and those women were a little too picky.
Now that I think about it. I have 5 aunts over the age of 40 who r not married & 2 of them never have. I remember growing up & saying men weren't nothing but dogs & fairy tales really r just fairy tales. So far they've been right but I think that there gas 2b a good 1 out there somewhere. My father is a good man but he dogged my step mom 4 nearly 15 yrs b4 he got his life right with God & changed.
Wow, perhaps I'm not reading all the comments. I missed the comments where we (black women) are degrading black men. Asking for a good, trust worthy, working and loving man is degrading? I have to listen to the video again. I don't remember anyone degrading black men. The point here is finding a good black man.
Find someone who likes you and you find someone you like.You can find 4 women who say there are no black men and 4 women who say the opposite and put that on tv all day.
Some people(men and women) do some wild s#$t for a long time and when they look up and go "Oh Damn, I'm not married yet." they try to act like they were looking the whole time.
I see more ppl wanting to be treated like princes and princesses because they have achieved a certain level of education or employment and don't have a drop of royal blood in their body. Nobody wants to grow together anymore, just plug and play.
That’s the problem…you are dealing with idealism that were impregnated in your head since birth of what a perfect black woman or mate would be…in this list you would include, job, personal finances, beauty, nice car and homes…ahahahah!!!!
This is the Whiteman’s idea of success…this is not the concept of my ancestors…you Negros are trying to live up to the white man’s interpretation of success. They Whiteman’s civilization is crumbling in just 200 years..why would you want to imitate them…?
Egypt lasted for over 20 dynasties
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Profound statement sir! Ever since that so-called "dream
IF YOU CANT FIND A GOOD BLACK MAN JUST GO TO ANOTHER RACE OF MAN. I MEAN YOU TRIED. FROM THE TRUTH ITS ALWAYS BLACK MEN WHO RATHER BE WITH ANOTHER RACE OF WOMAN EVEN WHEN BLACK WOMEN ARE THERE FOR BLACK MEN THROUGH THICK AND THIN
SOOOO YOU SHOULD JUST GO TO ANOTHER RACE OF MAN SINCE YOU KNOW YOUR OWN MEN DONT WANT YOU. CASE SOLVED
Why is it so hard for a lot of you men to believe this? It's the truth!!! They aren't saying there arent ANY good black men. They are saying the pickings are slim. Even Steve Harvey said that, so why call these black women bitter for telling their truth?? They OBVIOUSLY do not appear to be gold digging baby mama's that want thugs! I'm glad they did this interview. It's the Truth. I live it everyday. ESPECIALLY in the A.
"dream" was accepted to counter the message of the Most Honorable Elijah Muhammad and the Panther Party of going for self and seperating from the enemy then you had this grassroots movement of now wanting to intergrate. We control the economy because we are the consumers that is keeping our enemies paid and stable. The moment we wake up and unite it is over for the enemy. That is why they keep pitting us against each other to keep the machine rolling. The war is still ongoing and the white man has his "booty" see definition.
PUHLEEZE!!!!! Miss me with this bullshyt! There are plenty of GREAT brutha's out here. these same women are like the GIRLS I went to school with. My parents struggled like hell to make ends meet. we didn't have the new shoes and fancy cloths like others. However, we had faith, motivation, compassion, but most of all LOVE. When I was headed to the library in college on a friday night instead of the club women didn't notice me. When I was working 20 hours and sleeping six trying to get my business established instead of pledging (which I do not have a problem with) women didn't notice me.
I know I might get scolded for this comment,but I think its simple and has nothing to do with black women stereotypes or black women being “too independent” or all that other crazy mess men make up to try to justify why they don’t like black women.
Men,and particularly black men,aren’t attracted to black women. (Avg. black women).Unfortunately in this society,the more white you look,the more attractive you are and the more willing a guy will court and marry you. Lighter skin,longer hair,light eyes,skinny noses,etc.
I saw this interview on another site. The reality is you have to learn balance and stop eliminating men for superficial reasons. Shiit, I never had this problem for many reasons: I am smart and I love to smile. Men have told me plenty of times from all backgrounds. I wasn't pressed for a ring, but I knew that I could have it.
Even the black women who are considered beautiful in society have mostly white features. Physical attraction is what comes first when it comes to meeting a person. Physical attraction often makes a man and sometimes a woman look over other flaws such as if the woman is a w*****, is she nagging, if she is a golddigger, if she already has several children, and if her butt isn’t big enough.
Lastly, black women are now, not accepting any ol black man. We can’t! Unless you want to be just a girlfriend, a baby-moma,a homie/sympathetic to only his needs chick,a punching bag,etc. All the “good black men” with realistic goals barely want to be with an avg. looking (non-white features) black woman.
MIZGATOR---> I HAVE BEEN TRYING TO FIND OUT MYSELF WHERE DO BLACK FOLK LIVE WHEN THEY ARE YOUNG, SUCCESSFUL, AND SINGLE READY TO MINGLE.
AND YOU KNOW, WE REALLY DO NOT HAVE WHAT THE WHITE SINGLES HAVE. A COMMUNITY OF OUR OWN WHERE WE CAN MINGLE, AND DATE, AND ENJOY LIVING AROUND PUBS, AND EATERIES, AND EVENTS; SAD THAT WE DON'T HAVE THOSE COMMUNITIES FOR EVERY DAY BLACK FOLK.
Successful black women cannot lower their standards. They probably will have nothing in common with a guy “unsuccesful”. Lets be for real! Not only that,but why aren’t other non-black women asked to lower their standards? Why don’t black men have a strong work ethic and want to have a quality wife and family? Why do black women HAVE to settle?
I think there are many many black women who are willing to date outside the race,unlike we think,but what can you do if the other race isn’t willing to date you? Like the women in the video said, she had a great conversation with a white guy at a bar(somewhere), and he just got up and didn’t ask for her number. Just like black men have stereotypes for black women,unfortunately other men do too.
@ emmettmays85 - no there are too many post to read them all. I've seen people chatting about the women in the video being bitter and miserable, bashing black men (mostly the men comments) and shortage of black men. Point of fact, I do wear glasses. Forget about the women in the video (I personally feel their standards may be a bit too high). However, to each his own. If this is what will make them happy...keep on looking.
The point of the news story is there's a shortage of available good black men who actually want to get/be married.
The white man is using Black women as pawns in his game to elevate her but his society is crumbling as one brother so eloquently stated earlier. Most of you have took the bait but when his society does fall where will that leave you? I'll tell you with no man, no protection, open game for the enemy to do with you as he pleases. This day is coming very soon and unfortunately many Black women will pay a HEAVY price! It is sad because BW need to realize they are the key to this whole game the white man is playing. Black women don't deserve all the blame. any sane person will acknowledge this!
angelaheiressnyc Flag post @emmetmays85: hey biggest m.t.o flirt! lol...try not to get too worked up over this topic hun..how are you? ready for new year's eve? ..wonder what you look like? hehe
hey baby im not gonna get worked up now that u are here my guardian angel u saved my day my black queen . also ,im uploading a new pic of me soon it my mugshot
Steve Harvey gets on my last nerve, but what he said about ridiculous requirements is absolutely true. Why are so many ladies worried about a man being over 6 feet tall when the average American male is only 5'10"? That is ridiculous. Or if he doesn't drive a certain type of car. Or that he must work a white collar job. Hell, I know Fedex drivers that make 2 times what a lot of so-called "educated" women make and they get slept on all the time. My husband works in a factory, is exactly my height, makes less than I do, treats me like a queen and worships the ground that I walk on.
Loquasious, that's so untrue. I LOVE SISTA'S of all shades baby. it's the personality. I offered a woman a drink of WATER in a club one night after we finished dancing and she got offended because it wasn't PATRON. Last I checked EVERYONE drink water but not everyone drink PATRON. She clearly missed the point and looked down on me as cheap brutha!
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@ ToppaTop: Not so. Yes, all DNA traces back to Earth originals, Africans. Yet, there are significant differences in the DNA structure. Those of European descent have the least genetic variations, whereas those of African descent have the most. So, every other race are pretty much devolved versions of US.
@ chuck-dawg: That might work for you and a handful of desperate lonely girls, but not for everybody. True, a lot of women are sharing their men, knowingly or not, but as a long-term commitment, who wants to sleep alone a few nights out of the week waiting their turn?
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where are the GOOD Black WOMEN? cause all i ever meet is a bunch of GOLD-DIGGING, STUCK-UP, NASTY ATTITUDE HAVING, MATERIALISTIC, MENTAL SLAVES WITH 3 or 4 bastard children. who in their right mind wants a chick with all that b.s.
Black Women have and bring TOOO DAMN MUCH BAGGAGE with them. thats why alot of y'all are single.
Many black men and men in general seem to have some kind of unconscious hierachy of the type of women they want to "wife",f**k, or be cool with(usually an avg. looking chick that he knows has his back and caters to him emotionally). For example,girls who are avg looking,but have big booties,usually are on f**k list,and not the wife list. A woman can fit society's beauty standards (long hair,lighter skin,etc)and have no booty,and will be on the wife list,regardless of a bad attitude,slut reputation,golddigger,etc.
LMAO@ emmettmays85 Be quiet! you're the first to always bash BW. You're the one that's telling BW that no one wants her. You're the one that love to talk about why BM don't want BW. But when BW express an interest in dating outside their race, you want to cry and act insecure. Stop being schizophrenic! Most BW are over BM dating outside their race (we no longer care) and BW are beginning to explore their options.
@jabugy and rage171
Where are you when other BM bash BW? Both you need to understand blame goes BOTH ways.
A lot of "good black men" are unattractive, or have corny unappealing personalities. I find that a lot of charismatic, confident, physically appealing men are players that use their looks and "swag" to dog women out. I am not saying that attractive charming "good black men" don't exist, they are just are hard to find ; especially single one's. People initially are attracted to looks and personality, and then go deeper, that is probabally why lots of good men get overlooked, and thugs and players get chosen. It's hard to see a good man when he's wrapped in an unattactive package.
All of you sista's on hear complaining about GOOD black men have more than likely IGNORED 3 or 4 brutha's this month. When I met my girl she was boarderline obessed, we were FRIENDS first. Her personality outweighed her body fat. I explained my concern about her weight and asked her to start working out with me, at first, MAJOR ATTITUDE, I hung in there because I cared. most brutha's would have left. COMMUNICATION and FRIENDSHIP is the basis of relationship not money
@Ceece
I've been starting to date outside of my race. I can't hold my breath for the right BLACK man to come around. Especially when they aren't waiting for us! It's definitely different. If you're a black woman and have never dated a man outside of your race, give it a shot! Just be aware that a lot of them expect you to be a LOT more affectionate than usual. Has anyone else experienced this??? It seems that they expect u to make out with them and give it up on the 1st night??? I'm really not trying to stereotype but every white guy (4) I went out with had this expectation! Weird.
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5 STaRS @ allahuakbar!!
5 STaRS @ reelity: I'm with you. I am not attracted to anything but black men, and being that we only make up about 12% of the population, the pickings are far more slim.
And I LOVE your quote: USE YOUR BRAIN NOT YOUR BODY!!
I hope one day angelaheiressnyc & lottahead21 & RaeRae_17 & sexxyblack09 & Hazy & TJeanie & the likes take heed!!
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I don't know if this is a self-image issue with black men or is its just the laws of attraction/nature,esp of Western society. I think it may be a little of both because I believe there are many black men,unlike we think,that don't want "black" children and don't want their children to look like them. I know this is usually a black woman issue,but I think some black men have these issues too. When men (or women)complain about black women being too aggressive,too independent,too fat,too much weave,too promiscious,etc, I believe that is an excuse to justify why they don't like black women. I would rather one say that he is simply more attracted to another race woman because I know plenty of women,plenty, just like in the video, who don't fit the stereotypes,but remain single and childless.
angelaheiressnyc Flag post @emmettmays85:oh yeah? so I'll finally get too see the man behind the sn hehe
no not really i dont show my pictures on websites i be talking alot of [EXPLETIVE] on because i saw what happened to those who do . have u heard about those 6 girls that jumpe that girl for talkin [EXPLETIVE] on myspace?
@rage171
I guess you just ignore the black men negative comments about black women! We get no support. As soon as a man makes a lot of money...women are all over you. Not just black women...ALL RACES want you NOW. As soon as we climb up the corporate ladder we LOSE appeal. WTF? The more educated we become the less you want us. The more we do for ourselves, the less you desire you have to be there for us. I live this! I'm speaking MY truth. I LOVE BLACK MEN. They just don't love me.
That was like a slap in the face for Black Women...We KNOW we're on the bottom of the Black Man's Marriage list.As you can see it has NOTHING to do with our Class Status,the simple fact is Black Men get a couple of nickles to rub together and they want the.."OTHER" experience!...If not why is it that a State Court Judge who is a part time PRO Cheerleader can't find ANY Black Man Of substance?...She's has the criteria to find a professional Black man at WORK or PLAY!...It's not US!..
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Yes, what Lalah says is VERY true: if there is no initial attraction from jump, there will be no relationship developed there.
I've had a few good black male friends in my life that wanted to take it further, but they didn't appeal to me.
So yes of course there are good black men out there! But are we always going to be attracted to them or give them a chance even if we're not? Nope...
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no disrespect but this is why most succesful brothers don't date sisters. they want everything but to look at themelves in the mirror. look at men like taye diggs where w white woman was wth him when he wasn't working and helped push him through acting school. i am a police officer who just became elgible for the captains exam. if i pass my salary will almost double. after seeing this piece and reading comments here i refuse to marry a black woman who makes less than me. that type of bs should go both ways.
@ bezdenny
You strong faced hoe!!! Don't try me. It's called a modeling picture you lame. Should I be in flannel on the beach?? Clown. You stay hating on someone's picture. Focus on yourself. SO WACK!
And don't try and say you look good and have nothing to hate on because you describe yourself differently from post to post. Stop lying to us and yourself.
You don't know the character of any of the women on here so just because we don't have a glow in the dark headshot does not mean we use our bodies instead of our hearts...Stay clit riding get a life, ASAP
@MizGator
You asked:
"It seems that they expect u to make out with them and give it up on the 1st night??? I'm really not trying to stereotype but every white guy (4) I went out with had this expectation! Weird."
No, they were testing you to see how quickly you will give it up. They actually EXPECT you to say no. If you don't, they will treat you like a complete whore or suddenly you'll be in the "friendship" box. Like any race of man, they like the hunt and get bored easily, so basically it's a process of elimination they use.
@persian_princess:exactly! M.T.O is a prime example & have mastered this crap! just look @ the daily IR threads..look @ the daily threads on bw/bm ..well mainly bw doing the unthinkable?acting a fool/whore-ish in the club?images/reports of bm getting locked up on a daily.. coincidence much?NO!just look @ the ads they're displaying above this particular page...they have a particular agenda to push & sadly ppl feed into it!
reelity,
that is good to hear sister! History is best qualified to teach us the very nature of every individual group of people. The white man's history with BW has been nothing short of inhumane. How anyone can just disregard the past 454 years is beyond me. To think Black people will hold a grudge against a Black person who robbed them, sleep with their mate, disrespected them etc. But will forgive white people for the crimes that most people on this earth couldn't imagine or do on their worst day. T.H.E.M. said that the white man's every thought is of evil and how to get away with it.
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Please listen up to allahuakbar!! The problems in our black communities are deeply rooted, and mostly not any fault of our own. The media and society has twisted our minds & hearts in the wrong direction!! People have become too greedy, too materialistic and shallow!!!
This is how successful campaigns work, quoted from a man that worked in advertising & marketing:
-They target people's aspirations and spiritual desires and then create a reality in which those aspirations and desires can be satisfied with material goods.
This is how we are being manipulated, divided and overcome.
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also to the women that claim other races love black women so much don't fool yourself. some do but most don't,that why despite growing numbers the number of interracial marriage where the woman is black and the man is of another race is very low. this is not to dog out sisters it's the truth,and a big reason for that is they see how you treat your own kind. saying he has to be this tall or make this much. why would a white,asain or hispanic man who makes alot of money want to bring home a woman who says the men in her own community aren't worthy?
I HONESTLY BELIEVE EVERYONE IS UNDER A STAR SOME STARS R SHINIER THAN OTHERS BUT SOME PEOPLE WERE DESTINED TO FIND LOVE WHETHER UR BLACK, WHITE OR YELLOW, GOD HAS SOMEONE FOR EVERYONE MOST FIND IT LATER IN THEIR LIFETIME BUT SOMEWHERE DOWN THE ROAD THAT ONE SPECIAL PERSON WILL COME PPL BASE THINGS ON RACE WEN RACE ISNT THE ISSUE AT ALL JUS MEDIA ATTENTION THAT IGONARANT PPL BUILT UP ON DUE TO INSECURITIES THERE R GOOD MEN OUT THERE WIT FLAWS AND ALL NO ONE IS PERFECT N MOST R LOOKIN FOR THAT PERFECTION THAT DONT EXIST
jordyn83...You begin with no disrespect and end with you REFUSE to marry a Black woman that makes LESS than you?!...What if you get shot>?(God forbid)...you can't patrol anymore?.Pencil pusher!?...Your wife who makes the equivolent or better loses her job?...Then what?..ooOo and don't throw in a wheel chair!....think on that for a minute.
i say let the white man have sisters like these. they will be heading for a divorce sooner rather than later. a white man will not put up with alot of the nonsense and drama they bring. real sisters who hold it down i commend you,i know it's not easy,and you have alot of cards stacked against you,but if you feel thagt man is worth it,and he feels you are worth it hold own to that faith and watch God move.
jordyn83,
Spare me. Idk who said that other races love black women! I damn sure have rarely see it and statistics prove this isnt the case. Believe it or not other races ALSO have a height requirement and want their man to make more than them as well. It just doesn't matter because it's easier for THEM to find someone that meets their requiremnt. Because they are "more desirable" than a black woman. We apparently have to settle for a midget dopeboy with 5 baby mamas.
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@ TJeanie, you wouldn't be getting so upset if what I said wasn't true. I don't care what kind of photo it is. Obviously you post it for a certain type of attention.
That's not MY face, it's some black art I came across. I look just as good and better than MOST of the 'ladies' on here, but I don't need to display it to strangers. I have a man, and I am not insecure and looking for the type of attention that you and some of these other 'ladies' on MTO are.
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yall black women are ridicolous!..yall need to look in the fukkin mirror...>>>>
maybe the guys think ya croch stank or maybe its ya breathe maybe yall cant cook a bean! or cant clean maybe yall lay around the house watchin the soup operas or maybe the brother just got off work and ya ass didnt cook and you want the man to cook too after he just got off work or maybe yall got low self esteem thinkin the brother is cheating wit a lighter skinned woman with REAL hair!!
examine ya selves black women... brothers want good women too
@coffeecolor i don't mean any disrespect but why should i be any different than my so called sisters who make a little money? i keep myslef in great shape,have no kids out of wedlock. graduated from a four year college,come from a family where all my siblings are married(to other blacks),and my parents have been married for almost 40 years. i have turned down several women in my department of other races because of my love for sisters,but after knowing what they really think why should i continue?
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5 STaRS @ alei !!!!!
How rare on MTO, a smart girl with a true heart without a half-naked photo on display!!
5 STaRS @ reelity: LOVE this quote: USE YOUR BRAIN NOT YOUR BODY!!
I hope one day angelaheiressnyc & lottahead21 & RaeRae_17 & sexxyblack09 & Hazy & TJeanie & the likes take heed!!
5 STaRS @ allahuakbar !!! & i'm OUT!!!
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@miz_gator: that's sadly due to the way the media exploits us,pefect example:music videos,especially rap/hip hop genres...other sources such as porn & mens' magazines...I mean,the biggest & most popular bw women in entertainment are:Rihanna & Beyonce & they're either shaking their azz in videos in rather sexual girations while wearing extemely provocative/ultra-revealing attire..bw as well hispanic women as seen as the biggest sex objects..IMO
@bezsenny I'm sure we all know this isn't a dating site so stop. And I would get upset. What person sits back and is comfortable with someone speaking lies and throwing undeserved stones? Now you're on here talking about you want to uplift the black community, right? How about you start with respecting other black females instead of building up unnecessary tensions and divisions between black people. No one is judging you based on your picture, so you should give others the same respect. How about you focus on what we have to say in these posts than attack people that you don't know at all.
Yes! Anyone who doubts this, just go to any university. Black women go to college and graduate much more than our male counterparts, therefore are usually more successful.
Most professional black women that are married have to settle for way less or married non black men. With the exception of African men, yall american black men NEED TO STEP YOUR GAME UP! In a serious way.
Ladies do yourself a favor and date other races or nationalities of men
@rage
maturity has nothing to do with the difference of opinions. Everyone experiences something different. Aile thinks that there is someone for everybody. Not everyone believes this. If there was someone for everyone why do ppl die single? Oh I get it...there is someone for everyone u just NEVER MEET. lmao...whats the point of that? Oh are you do meet, but you weren't ready for it. Again...the point? What happens if your soul mate's on death row??? You just S.O.L?
You should continue the wonderful example your parents have set for you to follow!....Sometimes you have to look beyond what a woman can "bring to the table"...Will she go to the market Place?..That's the question you have to ask yourself when looking for a compliment to who YOU are!...I bet you Dollars to Donuts your parents have had rough patches in their financial history.But they stayed together.40 years?!...you need to talk to them ,coz they'll tell you. It's NOT about the dollar in a solid BLACK relationship/marriage!
jordyn83 Flag post @emmettmays85 while i won't call them bitches i do agree with you. yet these same women will marry a man of another race who makes less than them.
im sorry but if the shoot fits lace them muthafuckas up mto just open a floodgate and all the black men bashers just came out spewing they bullshit and throwin us [EXPLETIVE] under the bus all the times when black women bash black men they go extra hard
I happen to be a black man. I can say that our culture right now does not prioritize the qualities that are required to be a good husband or father. When you ask a black woman what she wants in a husband she will almost always talk about looks, swagger, and appearance of money. They aren't looking for respect, intelligence, wisdom, or integrity. If you look for the former without the latter your relationship will be doomed.
Meanwhile if those men who are worthy meet a woman of any other race who loves him for him, then he is labeled as "turning his back" on black women. I make it a point to try to talk to women while I'm in my work clothes. That's an easy way to weed out the shallow people. I may not be speaking about all demographics but I'm in the hood and this IS what its like.
I have always been into learning and expanding my brain along with my body. That classified me as geeky. Physical appearance aside, I am a nerd, just a very good looking nerd. I have had many women crush on me but I can count the black girls on one hand. I have always loved black women, from the high yellows to the chocolate bunnies. But I have little luck with them. I have been dissed, turned down, and outright insulted because I was "cute but corny". That means that I have dated outside my race a lot. I never go looking for non-black women but I refuse to front like I'm something I am not. I STILL WANT A BLACK FAMILY. Maybe its to show the world we can do it or maybe I want something that I never had.
All I'm saying is many black women want a man who is Nino Brown on the street and Cliff Huxtable at home. That is impossible. The compromised integrity that makes you hard on the street also allows you to make poor decisions like cheating and violence.
I am not saying the Black woman is 100% at fault but she can be 100% of the cure. STOP PUTTING UP WITH THE BS! Raise the bar and watch us raise ourselves to match you.
@allahuakbar
Im sara palin now..can i get ya vote in 2012? im very smart.people think im dumb and i dont know why.. i love my country alaska i got 5 kids..im that bytch for 2012 ask stormzoey she been on my pussie since barack took office
i told stormzoey im mad at her if she would of voted for my jump off john mccain i probably would of been your vice president now 1 vote does make a difference...
Question? How is there someone out there for everyone if there are way more women than men? And I would say some of us should be homosexual but there are also a lot of gay guys so that brings the numbers back to being uneven. While I believe that Alei's comment was lovely sounding to the ears or should I say a lovely vision to the eyes, it's not real. It's idealistic. But then again we all think like that before we are hipped to what's really going on in the world. She is obviously still drawing conclusion from disney movies. I do wish it was true tho
Men know that there is a shortage and treat women poorly because they know they have the upper hand. They know if you don't "act right" they can get someone the next day. I have had relationships mostly with younger guys, because they have less baggage. The older black guys in their late 30s all have baby mama drama and kids by more than one woman. The last guy that wanted to date me had 5 kids all by different women, three black and two white. Believe it or not, he kept telling me he was a "good man". So a lot of these black men seem to have a strange perception of what a "good man" is.
ILLtakeher4ugayz Flag post 1. Mto stop stealing from [SPAM]. 2.Black women need 2 date outside their race 3.Black men need 2 stop treating black women like 2nd class citizens 4. Black people need 2 fix our community b4 we become a memory
are u [EXPLETIVE] kidding me? clearly its the black women who treat black men like [EXPLETIVE] judging from these comments
Actually, we're pretty sure that NO ONE over at ABC News did any research WHATSOVER!!! If they did, they would have known that marriage rates among Black women are UP!! In fact, after reaching an all-time low of 46% in the mid 1990s - the Black marriage rate has GROWN STEADILY since then, and is now close to 50% for the first time since the 1970s. FYI, these statistics come from the US Census.
So if Black women are getting married at the highest rate in nearly 30 years, why don't you hear about this? That's a good question.
And SMDH at them having Steve Harvey as a marriage expert. Didn't his last wife accuse him of BEATING HER AZZ and then SWINDLING HER OUT OF MILLIONS???? –Fred & Them
That’s right Fred & Them. Besides, I felt Jasmine4U had a very valid point/question earlier. Black Men, if you are commenting and single, then why is that. Don’t give me that white-washed answer like JayAnderson either. He’s a coon. See Jay, anyone can have preconceived ideas. Just be real, you have probably over-looked good Black Women, too. Brother Allauakbar, always on point. It’s always best to start with the man in the mirror.
@rage, I was speaking about maturity having nothing to do with having a difference of opinions. If you're mature you can accept that someone has had different experiences and thus think differently. If you're mature you can debate without getting personal and name calling. Maturity is OBVIOUSLY important. But just because someone doesn't agree with u does not make them immature. It makes them an individual that can form their OWN opinion.
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UNLIKE YOUR BABY MAMA DRAMA HAVIN AZZ, I WAS SMART ENOUGH TO MARRY A MAN OF SUBSTANCE, AND EDUCATION. EVEN THOUGH WE ARE DIVORCED-
OUR BEAUTIFUL TEENAGE SON LIVES WITH HIS EDUCATED, FATHER- A MAN OF SUBSTANCE-- A REAL MAN. SINCE HE BECAME A TEEN, HIS DAD IS DOING WHAT I COULD NOT DO.. RAISING HIM TO BE A MAN; YOU CAN TAKE A LESSON FROM HIS DADDY
This is why I married a well educated African man. The lack of the Black American male in our society has caused too much pain for me. My husband treats me like a queen and I am very happy with him. White men was never, ever an option for me. I don't have respect for their role in the breaking of our familial relationships and I can't find myself in a marriage with someone with the slave master's mentality.
OH STOP IT!!!.....THERE ARE GOOD BLCK MAN ..BUT WE DONT KNW WHERE THERE ARE ??...AND PPL STOP IT WTH THE STREOTYPICAL SHYT....I DONT HAVE 3 DIFFRENT BABYS FATHERS..I DONT HAVE A KID.IM SINGLE AND DATING...I HAD CRUSHES AND DATED DIFFERENT RACES...AND THAT STATISTICS SAYING BLCK WOMAN ARE OBESE IS BULLSHIT!!!...ITS THE WHITE GOVERNMENT TRYING TO GET BLCK PPL AND SEPERATE BLCK PPL...DONT ACT LIKE U AINT SEEN A FAT WHITE,ASIAN,SPANISH CHICK...bLAK PPL NEED TO REALLY GET THERE SHYT TOGETHER BY 2010...OR ELSE...GENOCIDE!!..THE GOVERNMENT IS DOING THIS ON PURPOSE
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I DON'T KNOW WHAT KIND OF CHICKS YOU DEAL WITH, BUT IT IS OBVIOUS THAT YOU CAN'T BELIEVE A BLACK WOMAN IS CAPABLE OF HANDLING HER OWN BUSINESS AND PROVIDING FOR HERSELF.
ALL YOU KNOW IS CHILD SUPPORT, CHILD SUPPORT, CHILD SUPPORT;
YOU MUST BE BEHIND. IS THAT THE PROBLEM, YOU BEHIND ON YOUR CHILD SUPPORT? OH WELL, NOT MY PROBLEM.. PEACE, IT'S BEEN REAL
Ms Good,
Peace sister! I always look in the mirror first to self reflect. If everyone worked on themselves first then we would have a better chance at uniting. We have to recognize what and who the real "enemy" is. There is a common variable in all of the plights of the Black community. Remove that variable and then on only then will the condition start to improve.
I am a supportive black woman, I adore black men. I have a ton of black males friends and I do my best to uplift them. I am even friends with my exes because am I a good person and they love me. I am just trying keep it real, I am not stereotyping. I have a good supportive man in my life who is black. I was able to quit my job to go to school because he had my back. When he got laid off and his car broke down I had his back just the same.
@bipolar you and me gone ring the New Year in Washington D.C. in front of a minister. I can't wait to be fukcing sin free. You can call Mrs. Bipolar. See you black slores that's how simple it is to pull a husband. While y'all at it learn how to pull on a dyck to pull a husband. Those white bytches got y'all beat.
@spermmakeprettykids you know they are working on giving same sex people to make babies. I would love to have a baby by you cause you and I will have a pretty baby. The girl will look like that white girl Beyonce and that black boy Tiger Woods. I know you won't get tired of me humming on that dyck raw dog style.
Lloyd said:
"I have been dissed, turned down, and outright insulted because I was "cute but corny". "
I know what you mean Lloyd. Prior to marrying, I received the same treatment from men for being "different". Fortunately, my hubby (half Black/half Spanish) is "weird" just like me...he was dissed by Sistas for driving a beat up car, dressing "funny", and being a vegan, LOL. So I gained and they lost! LOL! Don't give up hope! There are people who appreciate uniqueness and will accept you the way you are!
‘I tell u what if there were more Michelle obamas out there, u would have more gud black men. Cause behind every strong successful man is a strong willing woman.” @jabugy If more black women are earning undergraduate and advanced degrees at a higher rate than their male counterparts, then that would suggest that there is no shortage of Michelle Obama type women. Like Michelle, the women in the video clip are all college educated and professional, and I’m sure most people watching the clip would agree that anyone of those women in the video is better looking than the First Lady, yet they are still unmarried. @loquacious You couldn’t be any more right. I was waiting for someone to throw out that “obese” statistic, and even if that projection is true, it doesn’t apply to any of the unmarried women in that video. They must still be unmarried because they can’t cook (sarcasm). I think the one with the height requirement is tall herself, and probably feels uncomfortable dating men shorter than she is. And the ones saying that the NFL cheerleader must only checking for ballers because she cheers for the Falcons . . . so ignorant.
Their just making their self fulfilling prophecy come true. Need to look in the mirror and examine themselves, having a good career doesn't make you wife material, Tiger ex was a nanny. When a man has his life together he cares very little about his mates acomplishment, instead hes looking for someone who compliments him spiritualy, emotionaly, not financialy. Millions of sisters who understand this have no problems at all attracting a husband. sisters like this spen to much time being superwoman which turns off a lot of good men, it works both ways for men who focus only on their careers.
This whole topic is dumb and stupid. You got 4 black educated messes for women in Atlanta talking about the shortage on good black men. Steve H giving advice. lmbao! Key Words to keep in mind are: 1) Atlanta - Reaping with gay men. (duh) 2)Educated Black Women - Biitches R N luv with selves and they don't know what they want. 3)Steve Harvey - Shiit load of kids and a shiit load women he has drug through the mudd. luv2screw advice: get the fucck outta ATL ladies. Education has nothing to do with being a good wifey and stop listening to Steve H's hypocritical propaganda. lonley hearts club
RFLMAO!! SOME NOT ALL BUT DEF. MOST BW ARE IN THE SEARCH FOR RICHES NOT A DAMN MAN!! WANT A BENTLEY ON A HONDA BUDGET, UNEMPLOYED SEEKING A MILLIONAIRE, MULTIPLE BABY DADDYS BUT YOU EXPECT FOR ANOTHER MAN TO CLEAN UP YOUR MESS, BLAMING THE WHITE/LIGHT SKIN WOMEN FOR TAKING "YOUR" BLK MAN...BOIII STOP HE WOULDN'T WANT YOU ANY DAMN WAY, OR YOU DON'T WANT HIM EITHER, YOUR JUST B!TCHIN'!! WHAT MOST BW DO...B!TCH B!TCH B!TCH!!! HOLDIN' YOUR SO CALLED "PLATINUM P$SSY" UP LIKE A TROPHY AS IF THAT'S ALL YOU HAVE TO BRING IN A RELATIONSHIP!! I CAN UNDERSTAND WHY BLACK MEN LOOK ELSEWHERE...RUN FELLAZZ!!
The woman in the video is correct in her assumptions, there are no GOOD quality good black men out here. They are either in prison, gay/bisexual/DL, married, in a relationship on/off w/BM, pimps, prostitutes; yes men can be prostitutes sleeping with 5-10 women at a time or just plain ignorant and uneducated. All they care about is themselves and getting with white women or half white or mixture. It is the truth, so therefore there are no Good quality black men left. For black men the in things is to have a white woman or mixed woman on their arms and have their children...Real Talk.
loquacious and mizgator i'm feeling your comments.
This whole issue is so tired. I'm sick of the media guiding us into beige as black racial ambiguity and we are too stupid to see it for what it is. I have known many women that are like the women in the vid. Yes there are good men out there, I have known a few. Most of them are race men that cherish and value BW. But they are also race men, and many of the women they have encountered have been like 'black men need to get over it' 'it aint the white ma-yen falut'- some called the MM march the 'Million Moron March-...
Guys, if you listened to the clip. They are absolutely right. I think a few of them have lowered their standards and some things they won't settle for and I agree. That's what's wrong today, we keep lowering standards...saying wrong is right and [EXPLETIVE]! Let's stop this. We have a BLACK President today. There are some good black men out here. If you are a single parent, raise'em right! We can raise our young black boys to be responsible, financially responsible, honest and loving parents. Who treat their Mothers, sisters, teachers, girlfriends and wives with respect and dignity.
On the flip note, Ive seen BM damn near jump over tables and go into deep trances, and will offer the sun the moon and the starts to chick who have 'the look' on the first date. A mixed chick i girl I knew once told me about a man that told her from jump street he'd pay her her rent. She told me matter of factly; 'Oh he knows what he has to bring to be with a woman like me.' She was average looking, functionally illiterate and had a bad attitude. Ive been to my sons elementary schools where the ONLY black fathers around walked around smiling tear to ear with their mixed kids and white wives.
these women have not realized that at some point in their life the guy who could have loved them and treated them right they simply overlooked. mostly this occurs in high school and in colledge, but then its too late. you cant blame one whole group for your missed chances in life. no selection where you are expand your horizions. but please dont use a cop out complaning has never solved any problems in life.
I like to go places to hear alternative music, see alternative films, eat differnet and interesting foods and I NEVER see black couples in these endeavors. The ONLY black people I see are in mixed unions. My man is stuck in the black box and always feels out of place, then he starts looking around at BM with these other chicks like he is missing something! lol. A gf me that if I wanted a man that was comfortable in ANY environment, would take me on vacations, to nice restaurants etc-I had better 'get a white man' cuz BM aint trying to live that life with a Black woman. Is this crazy of what?
A_Sez “....they complain openly and loudly about black men..they sing the virtues of LS and good hair, they chastise black male behaviour and THEN EXPECT BM LOYALTY TO US when someone else sashays there way and treats him like a MAN.”
Msgood response Black men are far more guilty
A_Sez: “On the flip note, Ive seen BM damn near jump over tables and go into deep trances, and will offer the sun the moon and the starts to chick who have 'the look' on the first date. A mixed chick i girl I knew once told me about a man that told her from jump street he'd pay her her rent. She told me matter of factly; 'Oh he knows what he has to bring to be with a woman like me.' She was average looking, functionally illiterate and had a bad attitude. Ive been to my sons elementary schools where the ONLY black fathers around walked around smiling tear to ear with their mixed kids and white wives.
Msgood Response I think a man will act the fool over any beautiful shade of woman, however your last analysis was right on. I’ve been a teacher’s aide and class parent and I saw this all the time. This type of black man entire demeanor is different. I saw a few black women who this applied to as well, but it was especially true for black men. My husband said the exact same thing. In fact, we have come across this on a few occasions and would shoot this sort of male a certain look, and he would almost put his head down or give off a nervous laugh. Very strange.
A_Sez: “There is a disconnect with both sides, and interviews like this only make it worse. BW we were given authority over our men by WHITE MEN. It went to our heads. We talk like we know how to be better men than they do. We 'son' them at every opportunity. Revisit the MJB story again.”
Msgood response
This type of woman often times is an extension of the type of woman who raised that Black man. I’m very observant and it’s absolutely true. This sort of man expects his woman to be just like his mother until he is scolded, then he cries foul. As a married woman, I can tell you that it isn’t as complicated as many are led to believe. You are correct that many blacks live and breathe the ideals of whites. It’s fukking them up royally!
A gf me that if I wanted a man that was comfortable in ANY environment, would take me on vacations, to nice restaurants etc-I had better 'get a white man' cuz BM aint trying to live that life with a Black woman. Is this crazy of what? -A_Sez
Yes, the answer is yes. I don't have ANY friends who would suggest anything remotely close to that! lol To each his own
msgood This type of woman often times is an extension of the type of woman who raised that Black man. I’m very observant and it’s absolutely true. This sort of man expects his woman to be just like his mother until he is scolded, then he cries foul. As a married woman, I can tell you that it isn’t as complicated as many are led to believe. You are correct that many blacks live and breathe the ideals of whites. It’s fukking them up royally! *** agreed. the my mama don't take no shiit thing***
A_Sez “....they complain openly and loudly about black men..they sing the virtues of LS and good hair, they chastise black male behaviour and THEN EXPECT BM LOYALTY TO US when someone else sashays there way and treats him like a MAN.”
Msgood response Black men are far more guilty *** we are DEF gonna have to agree to disagree on this one though. BM werent checkin fingertips and ears to determine a babies hue. Ive heard waaaaay more women doing this. Probably the mamas of some of these confused men. "Look ma! I bought u home some good haired babies!'
Msgood
She has been married to a white dude for 10 yrs. She is a die hard Republican and the only reason I put up with her is because Ive known her since kindergarten. She also says if i wanted to REALLY understand what was going on in the middle east, i should watch 'Black Hawk Down' with Bruce Willis. lol lol !!!
we are DEF gonna have to agree to disagree on this one though. BM werent checkin fingertips and ears to determine a babies hue. Ive heard waaaaay more women doing this. Probably the mamas of some of these confused men. "Look ma! I bought u home some good haired babies!'
I can respect that although I stand by my original statement lol
I understand what these women are saying i posted this on facebook last night and all my friend commented. I go to a mostly white university and for one there is more black women then men in college and graduate. There are not that many black couples people just "talk" and those black men who do have a girlfriend none of them are black. Its sad because I look around at my campus this will be half of us.
Just to comment on what someone said that these guys want to have sex on the 1st and 2nd night and when it doesn't happen they stop calling and texting is sooo true.
Msgood
She has been married to a white dude for 10 yrs. She is a die hard Republican and the only reason I put up with her is because Ive known her since kindergarten. She also says if i wanted to REALLY understand what was going on in the middle east, i should watch 'Black Hawk Down' with Bruce Willis. lol lol !!!--A_Sez
LMBAO, now that was funny! Does she have "good-haired babies? :/
Let me tell how to get a man ladies...Not a foreign black dude an American. First of all we know u making all of the money these days and alot of us not on ur level because of Low education, drugs and jail. Find u a man who has a regular 9-5 and who would treat u right, we out here we just working to survive. Don't look down on the brother because he not making the doe u making, he has a check comming in. Take ur money and the little money he has saved and open up a business then he and u would be on the same level and everybody happy. With that nobody will know u lowered ur standards.
A Black woman who is positive and spread LOVE without lookin' to get something outta a man will attract and receive the same in return. It's not so much about findin' a good man, it's about a man accepting you for who you are and ur good qualities. It's important for men and women to stay positive otherwise you'll start attracting the wrong kinda people. If ur a good woman, don't ever change this to have a man. Same goes for good men as well.
THIS IS TRUTH!!!! ME AN MY GIRLFRIENDS LIVE IN GEORGIA AND THE LACK OF QUALITY MEN IS EMBARASSING. THE 2% OF QUALITY ONES (QUALITY MEANING EMPLOYED, NOT GAY, NOT RUNNING AROUND LIKE TRAMPS, NOR IN JAIL, OR OTHER DRAMAS GOING ON) DON'T EVEN LOOK AT BLACK WOMEN, (THEY WILL SLEEP WITH BLK WOMEN HOWEVER) BUT WHEN OTHER RACES COME BY THEY CAN'T STOP CHEESING.
THEY BEND OVER BACKWARDS ITS CRAAZZYY! BLACK MEN HAVE BECOME JUST A BUNCH OF PHONEY SELL OUTS!!!!! AND I SEE IT EVERYDAY AT WORK, AT THE GYM, OUT AN ABOUT. THOSE WHO FOUND THAT NEEDLE IN THE HAY STACK CONGRATS B/C U-R THE EXCEPTION...
These ladies are not lying and its a shame that us younger black woman cant admit the truth. Good black men with higher education and respectful is SLIM, simple. Like Steve said its the older generation fault for not schooling them on how to better themselves. Unlike men us woman are just naturally born with the mind of wanted to do better ourselves. I am not putting down black men but the facts are there, and by the way there are some good black men out there. Alot of black men are in jail, uneducate, cant hold down a job and abuse woman. They r showing us not to depend on a man to get ahead.
this is more whitey propaganda designed to denigrate black males. the shame is that so many black women are not astute enough to understand that there is a psych ops/psych war that has been ongoing since the 1960's. at that time black men were considered the greatest threat to national security. they understand when brothers get motivated and mobilized we're a formitable force that must be neutralized. they attacked us with physical force, chemical & biological agents but what has been most effective is the psych ops. force fed images and stereotypes of black males through the media have(cont)
these women r not bitter, just telling the truth. My sis is a doctor and I have listened to her countless stories about how black men treat her as well. She is 32 as well, down to earth, and only wants to be treated right. All the black successful brothers don't want to marry a black woman anymore, they start dating outside their race, when they reach the top of the ladder..something I'm not understanding. Im college educated in nursing school and when black men learn that, they automatically think im "uppity" or "act stuck-up"..like wtf..I need to move to the uk and find me a foreign guy!!
left black males with a distorted and perverse image of manhood within our own minds along with the way rest of the world perceives us. the most disheartening consequence of this tactic has been how the got fat too many black women to buy into the bullsh!t. black women have been duped into propagating their lies and distortions, such as, most black men are criminals, drug addicts, gangbangers, fags or undercover fags. all lies!! used to create a justification by their judicial system to mistreat black men. the end game of all their bullsh!t is the extermination of black people by (cont.)
getting rid of the black man first. cuz once you eliminate the male muscle mass (the natural protector of women, elderly, and children) it is easier to conquer said people. black women do not believe the lies. black men do suffer from at a dispropotionate rate from many social ills that many black women suffer from. in other words were trapped in the same sinking ship called the USA. we need to pull together and know our only means of survival is if we love and help each other to be better people. if we don't we will lose this war. be cool ya'll.
To all the people saying to 'work with a brother who's working towards some goals': I know of a man who is 35, getting his bachelors in Business Admin, does jujitsu, boxing, just started a distribution company with 2 longtime friends and wants to open up his own gym BUT has 6 kids with 3 different women, never been married and his two youngest are within a year apart with two of the baby mommas (ages 3 and 2)and has never had his own place and currently living with b.m #3 and has what he himself refers to as a 'mistress'. Talking about he should've been with me many moons ago. (hmph)
the reason why "successful blackwomen" are not married is becasue they forget they're places as women. Not to say women are not important but we are more important then we think.What is successful in todays world? 6 figures salary big houses etc. etc. etc. how do God fearing people define Success? White people dont have to worry about half the crap black people do. They have a knowledge of self so the male female thing is easy for them. God fearing people cant live in a devils world and expect for them to find peace and happiness,It just anit going to happen.We need the true knowledge of self.
What blk men and women need to do is stop holding on to the pain. Black men hold it against all black women b/c some GIRLS (note i said GIRLS not WOMEN) couldn't see that they were a diamond in the rough in High School. White men don't hold it against all white women b/c they wanted the cool guy/jock when they were young. Do you think Bill Gates got alot of play in HIGH School or College? He probably didn't but he didn't hold it against all white women why do black men do that? Black women need to stop downing all black men because she got played on by one.
Also both sexes need to be honest with each other when dating. If its not working out don't blame it on him or her being black...if the person is an a-hole its just because THAT person is an ahole not black women or every black men. We also need to stop going by looks so much. The men that are complaining that women don't want them are usually talking about the flyest girl in their school/neighborhood/job..no she doesn't want yo broke a$$ extreme beauty/fineness whateva is a diminishing quality and the person possessing it has to parlay that quickly she can't wait on you to finish school
Okay, the problem that I am having with some of the comments on here is that 90% of the brotha's responses are nonsense. Brothas, let's just pretend for a second that the stats are wrong (as many of you are suggesting.) There is one fact that can not be disputed........there are more black men than black women. That ratio alone means that there some level of truth to what these ladies are saying. Let's face it - some black women will NEVER marry.
Why do some of you brothas readily accept & promote the negative stereotypes about black women, then cry like little babies when the table turns?
Con't-or get a promotion. Guys why don't you look at the girl that doesn't have the biggest a$$ have weave all down her back or is the lightest skinned cause you best believe she is messing with the baller/rapper/athlete because she has to parlay what she has to offer (beauty) for what he has to offer (money) quick before she gets too old. so stop trying to get a video bimbo and check out the regular chicks with regular jobs and stop being mad at the girls that you went to school with who were immature. there is a whole world of women you haven't even met yet don't write them b/c they're blk
correction: there IS some level of truth...
I can provide a different angle. For those of you who are Christians and frequently attend church, (you should already know where I am going with this) where are the eligible brothas? Most of our churches have predominantly female congregations. I look forward to getting married someday, and I feel that I have prepared myself. I know that I have a lot to offer. Why should I have to settle? Why am I a golddigger simply because I want to marry a man who is a saved, God-fearing man, and mentally, emotionally, and yes...financially stable?
Some of you all need to back off of these ladies. Especially since they WANT to marry brothas. I could see if they were on the documentary dogging black men out, and using stereotypes as an excue as to why they will NEVER marry a black man, but I did not see that at all. I just saw 4 beautiful, successful sistas talking about their experiences in the dating arena. I felt what they were saying...100%
great segment. blk people shut the fck up with that it makes all blk people look bad. does it really...is what they're saying not the truth? lots of blk men are in jail, unemployed, DL...wtf? yeah...they can get A man...but they don't want just someone to be saying I have a man. then he's got a bunch of women on the side. not all blk men are like that...and yes...they outlined that in the segment...blk people stop hiding sh*t. the truth is the truth. if people are that ignorant to think ALL blk people feel that way...then they have an issue. but the segment is definitely shedding light.
