: MediaTakeOut.com told you months ago that comedian Mo'Nique and her husband Sidney had an open marriage. But now she's the whole world about it.
Here's a quote that Mo'Nique gave the New York Times:
"When I said I had an open marriage, people automatically jumped to sex. They automatically went there. But I've been best friends with my husband since we were 14 years old. When we say open, we're very honest. There are no secrets. Oftentimes you have people that are married, but they're strangers, and we refuse to be those people."You know what - as crazy as this may sound - it actually works for some people. Wyclef and his wife have an open relationship and they've been together for more than 10 years. And look at the wonders that it's done for Bill and Hillary...[If Sydney had sex with another woman] it's not a deal breaker. It's not something that will make us say, 'Oh, we've got to go to divorce court,' because we're very real people and we understand what's for us. It doesn't work for everybody. I've had to sneak and I've had to lie, and I don't want to do that any more. But my husband is so awesome and so fine and so—oh, girl. … No other man can compare."
as much as I admire Mo'nique she's sounding very dumb right now. I guess everybody has their own opinion about what marriage means to them, and it's ok, but in the bible god delivers a wonderful testimony about marriage. Maybe Mo'nique and her husband ought to read it. My testimony is this: WHEN A MAN AND WOMAN COME TOGETHER AND EXCHANGE VOWS, THOSE VOWS SHOULD NOT BE BROKE UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES, BECAUSE THOSE VOWS COMES FROM GOD. AND ONCE THEY BECOME MARRIAGE THEY BECOME ONE. NO ONE SHOULD EXIT, OR ENTER THAT MARRIAGE BY ALL MEANS. HE HAS CHOSEN ONLY ONE WOMAN TO SPEND THE REST OF HIS LIFE WITH, AND SHE HAS CHOSEN ONE MAN TO SPEND THE REST OF HER LIFE WITH. WHATEVER GOES ON WITHIN THAT MARRIAGE IN BETWEEN THAT HUSBAND AND WIFE. THERE SHOULDN'T BE A THOUGHT OF ANOTHER MAN, OR WOMAN WHAT-SO-EVER. HIS LUST, WANTS, AND NEEDS SHOULD COME FROM HIS WIFE, AND HER LUST, WANTS, AND NEEDS SHOULD COME FROM HER HUSBAND. THE BIBLE SAYS THAT EVEN JUST THE THOUGHT OF CHEATING IS INDEED AN ACT OF COMMITTING ADULTERY. So I said all that to say that if you not gone commit fully to your spouse then why get married.
OK MO' HUN THAT'S SO NOT COOL. I LOVE MY MAN AND HE IF THOUGHT ABOUT HAVING A JUMP OFF HE AND HER WILL GET JUMPED OFF A NICE AZZ WOOPING. THAT'S SO NOT COOL US BLACK WOMEN NEED TO DEMAND THAT ARE MEN BE FAITHFUL OR LEAVE US ALONE THERE IS TO MANY DISEASES CLAIMING BLACK AMERICANS WE DON'T NEED THIS MESS.I DO HOPE THAT THERE IS STILL REAL LOVE OUT THERE FOR EVERYONE.
i might not necessarily agree with a relationship like that but i very much respect how Monique places her man at the pinnacle. alot of women have a problem doing that then us men go look for women that can provide that. i like that in her!
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I know that the other guys in here are saying,"Damn, how he pull that shyt off"? I bet Mo' sat him down from the jump and told him how its gonna be and if he's game, let's do this ('cause deep down inside she's really the freak). She's nasty-fat but she's caked-up so the good outweigh the bad(no pun intended). Hopefully, he's not one of those DL brothas and she's a fag-hag... But who knows? But this is what its starting to sound like...
This does not sound right for someone who is always saying that she respects and loves herself. Where is the love and respect if you are giving it to everyone? Why get married if you are going to just mess with everyone still? Guess their marriage is a bussiness arrangment! Very dissappointed in Monique'. This is not a good representation of how a big girl has good self esteem. She is fitting right into a stero-type that big girls are desperate and will let a guy do anything to say that she "gotta man"!Please love your self more and do better
MTO I think that was taken out of context, but the fact remains give some folk a inch and theyll take a mile. Thats not even a marriage when you can sleep with others and not risk your relationship. Yall just shackin up. There was no need for a covenant before God if you are just roommates with benefits.I respect Monique but that sounds like some insecure bull[EXPLETIVE]. If you set your expectations so low with other folk in the end you will find out they were just using you.
MONIQUE HE WILL LEAVE YO ASS WHEN HE FINDS REAL LOVE!!!
Now now, give Mo'Nique a break. When her last husband took half her money and got alimony, that really fúcked her up. I know women who say that cheating without sex is still cheating meaning emotional cheating. If thats her thing, thats her thing. Couldn't be me tho, I kidnap the pússy and hold it for ransom dammit!!!
------------------------------------------------ The preacher wants me buried,why? Cause I know he a liar, Have you ever seen a crackhead, thats eternal fire. Why you got these kids minds thinking that they evil, while the preacher gettin richer you say honor Gods people.
You kidding Shelly, right? I know you're kidding. C'mon...why be married, then? I've been cheated on before and it's the most painful experience ever. I refuse to be with someone who can't keep it in his pants. I'm so straight with that. I have never cheated, will not...and expect the same...otherwise why even have a commitment. At least with Monique everything is "open" & "honest"....I am not as understanding as she is. You can have a jumpoff, sure..but you will FOR DAMN SURE lose me.
and they had you doing charm school? she needs to go to marraige school. it is one thing to have an open relationship. but to accept a (3rd) person in a relationship. oh hellz no.
moe done drunk to much MOE and she is sick in the head. it don't have nothing to do w/ sex persay, just another 'person' period dot is not cool.
ummm - that's part of a quote that she said on the oprah winfrey show monday. she was basically saying that they are open enough with each other that if she or he felt like being with someone else they would tell the other and talk about it instead of lying about it. she also talked about how he satisfies her so there's no reason for her to cheat whereas before she had to because she wasn't being fulfilled.
HENNYDASHT: I don't need to expose my beliefs about my relationship to the world, what I did was expressed my opinion about what I think about what Mo'nique said just like everybody else on here did including yourself. I just expressed what I felt a marriage means to me now if that's something YOU disagree with then so be it.... but like I said at the end IF YOU NOT GONE MAKE A FULL COMMITTMENT TO ONLY YOUR SPOUSE THEN WHY GET MARRIED.
You know what the only thing Monique is doing is admitting that she allows her man to cheat if it comes down to it (most woman act like they don't know their man is out there cheating they pretend it doesn't happen), and yes she is half right you shouldn’t end a lifetime commitment if one person cheats but at the same time I wouldn’t give my man a open invitation to cheat, but I would give him an open a$$ whooping if he does I Don't play well with others. I would have an open relationship alright, the door will always be open for you to walk out if you ever cheat.
That is not what she meant when she made that statement. She actually made this statement when she appeared on the Oprah Winfrey Show (which aired on Monday, 1/28/08). Her exact words were "her and her husband has an open marriage (meaning that they're very honest with one another) she went on to say that in the past she did the lying and sneaking around and she's to old for those games and she's at a time in her life where she knows what she wants. She was surer to clarify what she meant when she said "open marriage" for this exact reason. People tend to hear what they want to and run with it. This is what's wrong with the world today...Quick to judge without having all of the facts. Whatever Monique and her husband tend to do (as well as everyone else) is there business. MTO this is why you will never be recognized for anything but stirring up trouble and printing half truth and lies...this is supposed to be a website for our people and everyday all I see you guys doing is taking half quotes that you've found else were and running with it...you're a liablility suit waiting to happen..just keep doing what you're doing.
@specialonemswee
I have to agree with you. When she made that statement she did not mean she will be ok with her Husband going out and sleeping with whoever he wants at any given time. She meant they have an open relatinship, no matter how rough times get they will be honest with each other and work through it. Monique is real and that's why I love her and I am happy for them.
@IMSTILLHERENICCA................
Grow the fucck up!!!!!!! Damn!!!!!!!!!!
Can someone get Mo a razor!!!!!! ELLLLLLLLLL!!!!
Look at his corny looking azz she knows that jump offs are going to be few and far in between! Who wants his corny looking azz!
I don't believe this story because Mo was threatening some of the women LaVert was dating and he wasn't even her man. So I know her fat azz is not going to make it that easy for her husband!
everyday we keep lowering our standards for everything....now the things that we'ren't anywhere near ok before, now they are?...wow....sorry but some things i can mend with & others are just ridiculous & may set yourself up for disappointment!!...I mean , seriously...is hse saying this because she truly feels it's best or because she's just got tired of her husband's infedelities, desperate-attempt not lose him & agreed to this?..come on now!
Of first, this fat heffer is no one to be proud of. She's not prideful because her act isn't complete without a diss to the "skinny bytches". This fat whale hates herself and she's sold a nation of fat women on "pride" when she's willing to accept her man cheating because she knows he wouldn't want her fat azz if she wasn't famous. This big cow has always been a fraud. I have no problem with fat people feeling good about themselves, as long as they don't have to rundown us in-shape people to make themselves feel better. I never liked her ignorant azz to begin with. That dude isn't stupid, he should get some benefits for having to lay in bed next to that big wildebeast.
Hey yall!! I understand that many people especially African American women may say oh i would never do that verbally but you are agreeing to the same thing when you get back with a man who has cheated on you. Dont point fingers until you evaluate yourself and their is not one person on here who has not "settled" so stop fronting on the web!!! And another thing, i am not a fat girl as so many people have said but i'm wondering why that's the first thing that comes out of someones mouth when they disapprove of a plus size person's actions? Alot of need to take notes because at the end of the day MO is probably more secure and happy with herself than half of us "skinny" women!!!!
I could be wrong but I do not think she was saying that she allows him to sleep with other women, but if infidelity did occur they are open enough to discuss matters so as not to be sneaking and hiding about it, i'm sure anyone would be hurt if you love someone and infidelity did occur, but because you love that person and as Monique said she knew him since they were 14, she would not automatically be ready to throw all those years away. Thats real talk because some are ready to end their marriage for lesser matters, why because not everybody marries for love, or are not mature enough to be willing to work at making it work....
@prettysowhat
Sorry, wrong again. (I'm sure you're used to it).
You must be fat, that would explain no pic.
Let me be clear for your dumb azz: I have a problem with fat people who need to bash thin people to feel good about themselves, which is exactly what MoNique is. If fat is so beautiful, why the need to bash models? I'm sure fatso is one of your heroes, yet look at what she accepts from her husband. I'm sure he accepts it too, because he has nothing to worry about, no one wants her fat azz.
it only didnt work for bill and hillary because Hillary was pissed that she didnt know about it and the world found out b/4 she did!!
it works for Jada and Will also. to each his own.
Most men will try to do it on the down low anyway. just because they dont want their wives doing it also. those selfish bastards....lol lol lol. the reality of it is.. temptation is a mother... and men and women have been cursed because of temptation going back to Adam and Eve days..its nature and we will all have a moment of weakness from time to time, after all we are only human... right?
HERE WE GO WITH THE "SHE'S FAT SO SHE HAS TO DEAL WITH IT", OR THE "SHE HAS NO SELF-ESTEEM, SO OF COURSE SHE WILL LET HER MAN CHEAT". I DON'T THINK SHE SAID THAT SHE THAT " IT'S OKAY THAT HE CHEATS". I BELIEVE THAT SHE SAID THAT IF HE CHEATS- SHE WOULDN'T DEFINITELY GET A DIVORCE OF THE RIP, SHE WOULD TRY TO WORK ON HER MARRIAGE. INFIDELITY IS NOT A DEAL BREAKER IN MOST MARRIAGES IF THE TRUTH IS TOLD- BUT THAT DOESN'T MEAN THAT THEY ARE OPEN TO HAVING OTHERS SEXUALLY INVOLVED IN THEIR RELATIONSHIP.
monique seem real hypocritical to me. When I read this in Essence magazine I came to the conclusion that she didnt have any self esteem. And then she had Charm School? Tryna help them girls gain some self-esteem? Oh hell naw! I dont care if you're a big girl, small girl, in-between girl- if your man is constantly steppin out on you & you stay with him you obviously have no self esteem! I couldn't do that, cuz I'm not one for sharing lol.
Infidelity is difficult to deal with in any long term, committed relationship and I agree with Monique that it shouldn't be a deal breaker, Most women(me included) would be extremely upset if their husband cheats but at the same time if they've had a relationship that spans many years and they've been through many trying situations together and actually want to stay together based on those things and forget about his cheating who are we to judge that decision. Besides there are different levels of cheating in a woman's eyes too...there are jump offs and then there is cheating that clearly involves both emotional as well as physical attachment, that type of cheating I believe warrants a vist to a divorce attorney because most women would not be able to live with that type of betrayal.
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I agree with Shelly. Monique has alot of self image issues, always hatin on skinny chicks. She know she look a hot trott mess!!! So she just letting everybody know now upfront, just incase the media get a hold of some pictures of her hubby leaving the hotel with his jump then yall already know she cool with it.
uhmm MTO you are sooooo taking monique's words out of context... HER QUOTE IS IN NO WAY SHAPE OR FORM SAYING THAT SHE HAS AN OPEN RELATIONSHIP!!!! ALL SHE IS SAYING IS THAT IF THERE IS INFIDELITY IN THE RELATIONSHIP THEY WILL TRY TO WORK IT OUT AND TALK ABOUT IT BC THEY HAVE BEEN CLOSE FRIENDS FOR QUITE SOME TIME..... MTO YOU GET ANOTHER "WOMP WOMP WOMP"
Monique is a fool , I think maybe she didnt get hit with the okey doke yet , homeboy probably hasn't takin her up on her offer , when he does she is going to jail, cause iv'e known my husband since i was 11yrs old , and i'll catch a case, i've invested all my years, to sit back and ok another woman to feel pleasure from what's mines,he didn't come to me like this ,I invested time i watched a brother grow from a child to a man ,nah im not sharing, that's my pleasure, Nah Monique is trippin.....
THAT IS A SHAMEFUL COMMENT BY MONIQUE. WE ALL MAKE OUR OWN CHOICES IN LIFE AND WE HAVE TO DEAL WITH THE CONSEQUENCES... BUT DON'T TRY TO FEED ME NO BULL-S!#T MO. YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS LIKE THAT BECAUSE YOU HAVE NO CHOICE. YOU GOTTA LET HIM ROAM...OR HE AINT GONNA STAY..NOT TO MANY MEN WANT A LOUD MOUTH FAT GIRL WITH CLEAR SELF-IMAGE PROBABLEMS...TRUTH BE TOLD..DONT LET HER "FAT IS BEAUTIFUL" CRAP FOOL YALL...IF A GENIE POPPED OUT OF A GALLON OF HAWIAN PUNCH SHE WAS DRINKING...THE FIRST THING SHE WOULD WISH FOR IS TO BE THIN...
Some of you are so reckless!!! Explain to me, ANYONE, why it is that you think that no one wants her because she is plus sized?????? Please I just have to her the ignorant ass responses to my question. I'm bored.
And at BrutallyHonest- you say that you have a problem with big people who bash smaller people to make themselves feel good, but your whole comment is full of negative references towards Monique concerning her size- wtf? Sounds like the pot calling the kettle black to me.
i never realized how judgmental people could be until i came on this site. why do any of you care. that's her man and if she wants to look like a fool then that's her business. what she's doing doesn't effect any of you. back the [EXPLETIVE] off. and p.s. stop putting pics up if they are not yours. and you know who you are.
G'head Mo Mo. She on her grown woman s/hit. I cosign with you Monique. My man having sex with another woman would not be the deal breaker for me either. Hell, under the right circumstances I might join them...lol. But seriously, notice she used the words "have sex with", not "have an affair with". There can be a difference. We are human and we make lapses in judgement sometimes. If i'm married to a good man and we got kids, a home, love, financial security...and I find out he boinked a 22 year old nympho one night when he was out with boys or whatever..as long as i know it was just that and he was careful... I'd just punish him a lil bit and maybe put his ass on [EXPLETIVE] probation but i'm not leaving him.
he hasn't left her for any of his skinny-sexy jumpoffs yet. has he? so, something must be working.. MO must be putting it on him better!! lol lol lol.
im sure she doesnt have him chained to the bed. he is a grown azz man. if he wanted to leave , he would have left a long time ago. obviously they have a strong bond. which many women dont realize is needed to keep a man in the first place..
Mind blowing Sex does not KEEP a man. After the mind-blowing sex, you dont have nothing in common or nothing to talk about (something to stimulate his mind) he will eventually be gone...poof !!
How long ago did Monique state this?! MTO IS SO LATE but anyway she is just huge as f*cks and is making excuses so when he does cheat and we find out she won't feel humiliated! WE AINT STUPID! If thats the case why get married? They should have just stayed boyfriend and girlfriend. Once your married it's just you and your partner - NO JUMPOFFS!
LADIVA9 Flag post She is just fat and insecure, go ahead and make an excuse for the man to sleep with what she say "other women" He probably sleeps with men too. Big women are always insecure, No sex appeal........
LADIVA9- to put it nicely- you are full of [EXPLETIVE]. Please don't get it twisted- I am not offeded- I just find it hella funny that you would say that big women are always insecure and have no sex appeal. WOW!!!! Ignorance at it's best.
Why people always bashing MTO, shoot MTO is like a cyber barbershop, while alot of the stories do be lame, its the boggers comments, debates and the like that make me keep coming back for more, I mean to see how everybody thinks and feels all across the U.S. is very enlightining because no matter what set or city you from we all think and feel the same, one of the things i like about us black folk is that we are not afraid to speak our minds even when we maybe politically incorrect. Man MTO aint goin nowhere...
lovelione Flag post Mind blowing Sex does not KEEP a man. After the mind-blowing sex, you dont have nothing in common or nothing to talk about (something to stimulate his mind) he will eventually be gone...poof !! ==============================================
Tru dat!! But it's a good fringe benefit...lol.
My feeling is that the key to a successful relationship is a good balancing act. If you can stimulate him in AND out of the bedroom he ain't goin' nowhere.
hennydasht - You need to shut the hell up! Good look on keeping up the "black man can't keep it in his pants" stereotype! Dumb ass! It has nothing to do with being close-minded! People who say they're "free" and "open" and believe in an "open relationship" are only making excuses for why they can't be comitted to one person.
lol this is funny!! why are some of you taking what she said personally? Must have lost a couple of men to a big girl!!!lol i mean real talk, nobody started throwing stones at Jada when she told everyone that her and Will were or are swingers!!!! I love my people but i think alot of this name calling is for one silly and shows a lack of security with yourself and you all are missing the point. she NEVER said anything about sex anyway and dont assume that she is insecure because of her size and if putting skinny women down makes you rich DO YOU i will be the first in line if i was a comedian!!! My motto in life: Mind your business!!!!! Go MO MO Go MO MO!!!! lol
@LADIVA-9...you're wrong. A big woman can have sex appeal. While i am nowhere near Mo's size i am certainly not skinny and it's days i literally have to beat the nuggas off..ya heard!!!
Plus my best friend is a perfect petite size 4, always in the gym, watching what she eat. Come to find out her husband was cheating on her with a woman of Monique size proportions...and the chick ain't close to being as put together and fly as Mo.
WHY ARE YOU WOMEN SUPRISED???????
MEN ARE NOT MADE TO BE MONOGOMOUS
MEN ARE TRAINED TO BE MONOGOMOUS
WHY HATE ON MO' IF HER AND HER HUSBAND HAVE AN UNDERSTANDING......WHO ARE WE TO JUDGE????????
SMH AT WOMEN WHO WOULD KICK THEIR MEN AZZES IF THEY CHEAT
IF YALL CAN TRULY KICK YALL MAN'S AZZ
THEN HE'S A PUNK
AINT NO WOMAN CAN KICK MY ASS
EXCEPT MY MAMA
HALF OF YOU WOMEN IN HERE HATING HAVE MEN THATS CHEATING ON YALL RIGHT NOW.....BUT BECAUSE YALL CANT UNDERSTAND THE BIOLOGICAL NATURE OF MEN THEY CHOOSE TO NOT BE OPEN ABOUT IT
HALF OF YOU ALL LIVE WITH YOUR BOYFRIENDS AFTER KNOWING THEM FOR LESS THEN A YEAR......MONIQUE AND HER HUSBAND WERE FRIENDS FOR 14 YEARS..........FRIENDS PEOPLE.....HOW MANY OF YALL CAN SAY THAT..........
IF SOME OF YOU WOMEN THAT JUDGE HAD REAL MALE FRIENDS THAT LONG THEN YALL WOULD TRULY KNOW HOW MEN ARE
MEN CAN SEPARATE THE MEANING BETWEEN SEX AND LOVE
JUST BECAUSE YOU F*CK SOMEONE ELSE DOESENT MEAN THAT YOU LOVE YOUR WIFE ANY LESS
LOVE IS NOT MONEY.....MEANING LOVE DOES NOT GET SPENT............YOU CANNOT RUN OUT OF LOVE LIKE YOU CAN RUN OUT OF MONEY
ON THE OTHER HAND THERE ARE WAYS TO DISRESPECT A RELATIONSHIP BY CHEATING
DONT BRING THE JUMP-OFF HOME
DONT F*CK YOUR PARTNERS FRIENDS AND FAMILY
DONT F*CK ANYBODY YOU OR YOUR PARTNER WORKS WITH
NO SPENDING THE NIGHT OUT
ALWAYS,, ALWAYS ALWAYS. USE PROTECTION
AND PLEASE DUMB PEOPLE.......IF YOU WORK A 9 TO 5 AND YOUR PARTNER EXPECTS YOU HOME BY 6 O'CLOCK......PLEASE DONT COME IN AT 12am
DO ALL YOUR DIRT BEFORE SHE EXPECTS YOU HOME.....DONT CHANGE YOUR ROUTINE IF YOU ARE GONNA CHEAT.....THATS HOW YOU GET CAUGHT DUMMY
I KNOW A BUNCHA FAT BROKE DUMB WOMEN WILL HATE ON THIS POST .....I UNDERSTAND THAT....BUT BEFORE YOU HATE ON MY POST.....GO AND DO SOME RESEARCH ON THE BIOLOGY OF MEN AND THE HISTORY OF MONOGOMY AND MARRIAGE AND YOU TOO WILL SEE THAT ITS NOT ALL OUR FAULT....ITS CALLED NATURE
This is all bogus... MoNique is a fat insecure woman affraid that if she lays down the rules, her sexy ass man will leave her. Big Girls, Medium Girls, and Skinny B!tcheZ need to know that aint nothing worth compromising your self dignity for a man or anything else.
MoNique is pretty to me i think she can have lots of dudes and also she needs to know that a man that is cool with cheating on her doesnt love her completely and doesnt respect her neither.
Like Katt Williams said..."B!tchez dont know how priceless their vagina's are"
Wow..i TiVo Oraph this week,and i just seen the show with her and martin and Cedric talkin about the new movie TODAY! like a hour ago lol DO YALL KNOW THAT SHE SAID THE SAME DAMN WORDS MTO IS SAYIN SHE SAID.. THE SAME DAMN WORDS.. WORD FOR WORD... HMMMMM LOL She didnt say yes or no about her and her husband, but she did say she was tired of lyin and stuff. Well....... But she made it seem like he was so good to her... if that is true, why does she need to cheat? I dont think they meant for it to get out like that!
DID YOU PEOPLE READ THIS , SHE DIDNOT SAY ANYTHING ABOUT SEX , OR HIM SLEEPING WITH OTHER WOMEN SHE SAID IF HE DID IT WOULD NOT BE A CAUSE FOR DIVORCE AT LEAST THEY ARE HONEST AND CAN TALK ABOUT THE ISSUE, READ PEOPLE. DON'T JUST READ THE TITLE MTO HAS A WAY OF MAKING THINGS DIFFERENT THAN WHAT THEY ARE
OPRAH HAD HER CLARIFY HER STATEMENT ON HER SHOW MO WAS ON THE OTHER DAY JUST SO THIS WOULDN'T HAPPEN---AND YET IT DID---I RESPECT WHAT SHE SAID ON OPRAH--IF SHE MEANT IT---SHE CAME OF MORE REAL BACK IN THE DAY BUT NOW SO MANY PEOPLE BEAT DOWN HER LOOKS AND SIZE SHE SEEMS "WORN OUT" BY BEING THE "BIG" WOMAN SPOKES PERSON....I LIKE MO BUT IN MY OPINION LATIFAH IS A BEAUTIFUL CONFIDENT "PLUS SIZE" WOMAN....SHE REALLY DOESN'T GO THREW THIS TYPE OF STUFF BECAUSE LATIFAH'S SELF ESTEEM SHYNES WHEN YOU SEE HER....MO HAS TO THROW HER "SELF ESTEEM" AT PEOPLE....AND I'M NOT SMALL......
Will Smith and Jada Pinkett
Ossie Davis and Rubi Dee
A lot more.....Seems like a lot of couples who make it long term are the couples who have this open arrangement. Maybe lifetime monogamy just isn't a realistic thing....And maybe some people are starting to be honest with themselves about that, and just keep it real.
If it works for them, I can't knock it.
see that's the problem with u black people. u look to the most uneducated rappers, fat actresses, crooked politicians, reckless pastors for inspiration... who the hell is monique anyway... she has too much money to be so damn big...she is just plain lazy and probably still ordering wings, feathers 'n chips all day every day....
look at oprah... she used her money to get herself a trainer, learn about foods and got on a health regimen...
just like the brother said above, she is a fat, wild beast who is paying that man and knows exactly what she is in for...
big, girls loose some weight, join a gym and get in shape.. you will sleep better, look better and feel better about yourselves..
quit listening to this syrup slurping, cholesterol loving chunk of funk and eat yourselves to an early grave, while your man bangs someone else with your OK...
its one thing to find out something about your spouse, but to give someone the okay to do it??!! she is a fool.
@ Shelly... you are better then me. I wouldnt have admitted that. I mean no offense in any way. Ive just always wondered why women stay when theyve been cheated on more then once. What keeps you together? How can you trust him? I've been cheated on once before (that I know of) and I walked away. I couldnt stay with someone who could betray me like that. The broken trust is something that can never be truly mended. I cant see myself staying if it happens in the future. But I do see couples trying to work through things because of the children. I have none so I just walk away. Is that why you stay? Seriously, how do you do it?
Ok so let's be more real about this...that's Mo'Nique. She got money. She's famous. And you mean to tell me I can enjoy the ride and get some on the side from others??? Cause to each his own but when she allowed that...if I was him I'd think I struck black oil. Power to that brotha... Stedman, time to get real with Oprah! The truth is awsome and it will set you free as opposed to lying and being depressed or caged.
@ SHELLY DIDN'T YOU SAY YOUR MAN CHEATED ON YOU FIVE TIMES. IF YOU'RE SO GREAT WHAT'S THE PROBLEM. MAYBE YOU NEED TO TAKE YOUR OWN ADVICE ABOUT LOSING WEIGHT OR SOMETHING. HE CHEATED ON YOU FIVE TIMES AND YOU'RE STILL WITH HIM. ONE MINUTE YOU PRAISE MONIQUE AND THE NEXT YOU RIDING HER. MAKE UP YOUR DAMN MIND
ALL I CAN SAY IS GO HEAD MO...IF IT WORKS FOR YALL AND YALL IN LOVE AND HAPPY DO YALL... BUT I DO HAVE TO BE WIT MO KINDA CUZ ABOUT 90% OF YALL IN HERE TALKIN OUT MY MAN THIS MY MAN THAT WHEN IN ALL ACTUALITY HE PROBALLY B WITH ANOTHER CHICK WHEN YALL WORKIN OR WHEN HE SAY HE WORKIN... IT'S '08 WE NEED TO BE REALISTIC STATISTICALLY IN AL,OST EVERY STATE THERE ARE 5 WOMEN TO EVERY MAN SO IF U REALLY BLEIEVE YOUR IS 100% FAITHFUL... GET REAL...UNLESS HE LOOK LIKE MIKE JACKSON OR BIZZARE OR SOMETHIN....
Uhh monique...do you know how retarded and insecure you sound? Remember when you had your show and you stated that some people are fat and happy? I knew that wasn't true and this confirms it. Sharing your man? Ahh just in case you wondered, you don't have a marriage. You are actually below the jumpoff. You are just some fat chick on the side that happens to have some loot. I admit, some fat chicks are as sexy was anybody. YOU ARE NOT ONE OF THEM! You are very cute buttttt.....so not sexy. That dude has hit the grazy train for real.
MAN THIS IS A TOUCHY ISSUE.. BUT I WONDER HOW MANY PEOPLE ON HERE ARE MARRIED, HAPPY AND OPEN WITH THERE PARTNER... LOL NOT MANY.. IM NOT SAYING ITS RIGHT TO HAVE AN OPEN RELATION, BUT IF YOU BEEN FRIENDS SINCE YOU WERE LIL, YOU PROBLBLY NEVER GOT A CHANCE TO GET OUT THERE.. TO EACH HIS OWN.. ALOT OF MY WHITE FRIENDS HAVE OPEN RELATIONSHIPS.. JUST GOTTA KNOW YOUR PARTNER.
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A MESSAGE TO THE WOMEN
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IT TAKES REAL GAME TO ALLOW A MAN TO STRAY AND TO HAVE CONFIDENCE THAT HE WILL COME BACK HOME
MOST OF YOU ALL IS JUST SCARED THAT HE WILL FIND SOMEONE BETTER
IF YOUR SH*T WAS TIGHT YOU WOULD NOT HAVE TO WORRY
A MAN WONT LEAVE A WOMAN WHO HAS HER SHYT TIGHT
HE MIGHT FUKK AROUND BUT HE DAMN SHO WONT LEAVE
AM I RIGHT FELLAS????????????????????????????
I WOULD NEVER LEAVE A WOMAN WHO IS A MIXTURE OF OPRAH WINFREY BUISNESS SENSE....MARTHA STEWARDS HOME MAKER SKILLS...AND LIL KIM'S FREAKY SENSE
THAT'D BE STUPID
YALL WOMEN CAN LEARN A THING OR TWO FROM MONIQUE
PLUS WHO SAID MONIQUE AINT GETTING D ON THE SIDE.. WHO SAID SHE NOT GETTIN IT IN.. SHE MIGHT LOOK LIKE THE VICTUM, BUT WOULD HE LEAVE IF THEY GOT A PRENUPT AND SHE GOT ALL THE MONEY.. SHE MAKES THE MONEY, SHE MAKES THE RULES.. THAT BREEZY HAS PLENTY SELF ESTEEM, I WOULD NOT BE SURPRISE IF SHE WAS GETTIN IN ALSO..
Shi zz like this is the reason our community is in the state it is in. He can have his jump offs, what about the diseases that come with this mo? You have men on the DL. Russian roulette is not a game for the faint.Take care of yourselves. You know where you have been, you do not know where the other person has been. This is not cool.
Everyone is entitled to their opinion! Everyone male and female on this site has been cheated on and have cheated. The difference is when you get to a point in your life and grow the hell up. If you are married then you took an oath before God and man to become one. Therefore, cheating in a marriage is not only a broken bond between the couple, but God. Repentence is the only way to mend that. If you are in a relationship and cheat, you have broken a promised bond of trust and commitment. I have never been married and have been cheated on and a cheater. Now that I am older and wiser, I have grown to know and understand that just because you have been cheated on does not mean you have to lower your standards and do the same thing. It is not a part of me--if I am going to be in a relationship or married--it is for the long haul and if they decide to cheat, then they must go. I can always do better!
@ Shelly. We all know Statistically that 80% of men has or will cheat. so where does that leave us women? we either stick to one cheater n work it out. or we leave him and go to another cheater, and another and another. and by that time we will be labled as "a whore". so because of this women stick around and probably pray abuot it..
we are left with the choice of being called a "fool" for staying with the cheater.. or a "whore" for going from cheater to cheater hoping to find mr faithful. when statistically our chances are slim.
Men, what would you do?
well, whatever floats her boat.....but to me why even get married if ur spouse isnt going to be the only person that ur with. that defeats the purpose, just stay boyfriend and girlfriend that way u wont be breaking the laws, values and morals of marriage u know....i never understood why people got married knowing that their not going to be faithful thats ridiculous.
Monique to me has always been on the annoying side, forget her weight, let's shut down that big mouth! There's a difference between being confident in yourself and overly cocky, of which Monique is the latter. Not to mention she pisses on skinny women because they're skinny. Maybe if she weren't so obnoxious, maybe she'd have a husband that wouldn't want to chubby-chase elsewhere.........
I know i had to sit down long and hard and think about what was i really going to do..my husband didn't have any long drawn out affairs.. he was home every night, he took care of his children, was at every event... he was not MIA, but there were little things that caused me to pause.. i would check his phone, blah, blah... i can't say for sure that he cheated 5 times, but i know definitely two of the times he really did... the last one was about 4 years ago, and we have been together 18 years..
LADIVA9 SAID "Glad you pulled out your dictionary and looked up o-f-f-e-n-d-e-d. Lack of education at its best.Love it"
I SAY " SUCK ONE BITCH- IT WAS A TYPO". BUT THANKS FOR THE COMMENT ANYWAY. I DIDN'T HAVE TO LOOK UP THE DEFINITION OF "HATER" TO FIGURE OUT THAT YOU WERE ONE THOUGH.
firstdc25- YOUR COMMENT WAS OFF BASE ONLY A LITTLE BIT. SOME PLUS SIZE WOMEN ( AND MEN) ARE VERY HAPPY. I AM A SIZE 18, I HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR ALMOST 8 YEARS, AND I AM PLEASED AS PUNCH WITH MY SIZE. I AM SHAPELY THOUGH NOT SLOPPY. I COULD STAND TO LOSE SOME WEIGHT, BUT IT'S NOT A PRESSING ISSUE WITH ME. I COULD NEVER BE SMALLER THAN A SIZE 12 OR 14 THOUGH BECAUSE BIG HEAD, LITTLE BODY AIN'T MY STYLE. MY HUSBAND ACTUALLY LOVES BIGGER WOMEN ( EVEN BIGGER THAN ME ) AND HE IS SUPER SEXY!!!! HE JUST PREFERS THE LARGER LADIES. WE JUST FOUND OUT THAT HIS LITTLE BROTHER IS INTO THE BIG GIRLS TOO. HE HAD BEEN TRYING TO HIDE IT FOR A WHILE, BUT HE SAID HE DON'T CARE WHAT PEEPS GOT TO SAY- HIS GIRL IS A DIME. sO SOME OF US ARE HAPPY. I HAVE NEVER WORRIED ABOUT MY MAN GOING SMALLER OR BIGGER BECAUSE HE LOVES ME AND I LOVE HIM. OF COURSE OR RELATIONSHIP ISN'T OPEN, MY HUBBY IS SO OLD SCHOOL AND TAKES HIS VOWS SO SERIOUSLY AND SO DO I. JUST WANTED TO ELABORATE ON THAT SOME.
SHELLY- YOU ARE CONFUSED- FOR REAL.
She's out of her mind.....Marriage is a union between two people and it's founded upon fidelity...Soooooo....Why even get married if you don't care who your husband smashes out? I smell insecurity on her part, and greed on his.... But that's just me, but I bet you it won't last.......Oh and Wyclef is a little manwhore, he was after a friend of mine LoL! That joker!
------------------- She has spoken............
U should have never gotten married if you both out there fukking other people.I can't believe you cosign on that that sh!t Mo,I thought you had more self-esteem than that. But then again your last husband played yo ass for a sucka so it looks like you been taking care of this one too. What he an actor I aint seen his ass in sh!t. First Angie Stone fukking married men, Jill Soctt gets divorced from her money grubbin husband and now Mo. The big girls aint got it going on like they want you to believe.
Some of you females have major self esteem issues. If a man cheats once, he'll do it again, Especially if you stay with him. A person will only do what you let them. A person will walk over you only if you let them. Now I know that you can't control a man from cheating but when you know about it and you still stay with him then that means you settling and you feel that you can't get anyone better. If a man really really loves a woman, he'd think twice before he cheats and if he has respect for YOU and himself he wouldn't cheat, BOTTOM LINE!!!!
quote from "shelly":
the fact is and at least she is being honest— is that if she finds out her man is cheating, she will take him back... men will cheat and it doesn't mean he is going to leave his wife...my husband cheated on me 5 times, and i am still with him..
FIRST OFF BYTCH U NOT A GOOD LOOK YA MAN STILL CHEATING ON YOU TILL THIS DAY... U CAN GO AHEAD AND DEGRADE THE BIG GIRLS ALL U WANT TOO BUT BEHIND ALL THAT MAKEUP AND CLOTHES U HAVE VERY LOW SELF ESTEEM INSTEAD OF YOU BEING ON MTO EVERY SINGLE DAY YOUR AZZ NEED TO HAVE A LIFE AND TAKE CARE OF HOME...YA MAN ONLY CHEATING ON YOU BECAUSE YOU ON THIS PIECE OF [EXPLETIVE] SITE EVERY SINGLE DAY JUST TO COMMENT AND TALK SHYT U MAKE NO [EXPLETIVE] TYPE OF SENSE....
MO'NIQUE WASNT TALKIN ABOUT JUMP OFF'S PEOPLE LETS GET 1 THING STR8...IF U KNOW HOW TO READ READ THE [EXPLETIVE] RIGHT! STOP JUMPING ON A BOAT AND PUTTIN LITTLE THINGS TOGETHER THATS NOT TRUE..I BET HALF OF YOU STUPID BYTCHES LET YA MAN CHEAT MORE THAN ONCE AND LET HIS ASS GET AWAY WITH IT LIKE THE STUPID SKANKS YOU ARE...BUT ANYWHOM THATS MO'NIQUE'S BUSINESS IF SHE WANNA LET HER MAN BE A HO...THEN LET HER BE SHE GOT MAN AND SHE'S BEAUTIFUL....
Thats why I dont care to much for her because she speaks so highly of being a sexy big girl, how a person should love you for you, when she's giving a man that chose to marry her a pass to cheat, she's not happy with her self. All the money in the world can't buy happiness so big ladies Monique is talling ya'll to settle, and ever worry about having a good man that loves you and all your curves and rolls. Monique is full of SH!T!!!!! Not my cup of tea
@i'm-chuck-dawg-bytch,
(excuse my joe moment but) U couldn't be more on point w/ everything u said. I thought I was the only one to feel that way. A book should be published to explain....
& all big women are not insecure, if your the type thats top heavy w/ some slim thuggin' a$$ legs & thighs then, yea, you may be insecure cause your walkin on stilts, but the one's who's a$$ is like beach balls w/ mutant turkey thighs are not insecure b/c they are accustomed to ni66as breakin they neck or causin a scene tryin' to holla @ them, big asses is in, & (some) big girl have even bigger asses so....thas my point of view probably pullin some of the skinny chicks men cause a ni66a want somethin to hold onto (stres reliever, lol). -B.
@im-chuck-dawg-bytch u said men are not made to be monogamous, but are trained to..i dont know if u believe in god or not but if u do, i dont think that god would make marriage to be between 1 man and 1 woman and specifally state INFINDELITY as bascially a NO, NO in marraige and then turn right around and create men that are incapable of being faithful, like i said on a thread a while ago cheating is a choice not an invlountary spasm like tourettes syndrome. thats all im sayin cause god is not a stupid person, i dont think that he'll contradict himself by creating unfaithful men and then stating infidelity as a sin.
shorty said "statistics show 80% of men have or will cheat..." what statistics? lol the last study that came out on infidelity stated that 55% of women are cheating and 60% of men are. stop making shyt up ma
"It's estimated that up to 55% of women and 60% of men cheat at some point during their marriages." [link to external website removed]
sierra714 @im-chuck-dawg-bytch u said men are not made to be monogamous, but are trained to..i dont know if u believe in god or not but if u do, i dont think that god would make marriage to be between 1 man and 1 woman and specifally state INFINDELITY as bascially a NO, NO in marraige and then turn right around and create men that are incapable of being faithful, like i said on a thread a while ago cheating is a choice not an invlountary spasm like tourettes syndrome. thats all im sayin cause god is not a stupid person, i dont think that he'll contradict himself by creating unfaithful men and then stating infidelity as a sin.
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MY DUDE, GOD HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH IT.. WE DID THAT.. MOST OF US LOOK AT THIS RAP VIDEO'S ALL DAY AND WATCH PORN ( DONT ACT LIKE IM THE ONLY ONE..LOL) AND THEN HAVE TO TURN AROUND AND DEAL WITH A PARTNER THAT WONT TRY THAT POSITION, OR TO TRIED AND LAZY TO GIVE YOU SOME HEAD..AND YOU GO TO WORK OR THE MALL AND CHICKS ARE GIVING U PLAY.. IT STARTS TO TAKE ITS TOLL ON YOU.. MEN CAN LIE BUT IF YOUR MAN IS HALF WAY GOOD LOOKING, HE HAS BEEN IN A SITUATION WERE HE COULD HAVE OR DID CHEAT..
I THINK SHELLY DID THE RIGHT THING.. YOU BEEN WITH SOMEONE THAT LONG ITS HARD TO MOVE ON.. SH*T HAPPENS, WHAT DONT KILL YOU ONLY MAKES YOU STRONGER...
I think everyone is taking what she said out of context. She stated "IF" her husband were to cheat, not that he did cheat. She saying if the relationship came to a point in where he cheated on her that It wouldn't be the end of the relationship (like most other celeb marriages/relationships), she's saying that they would work it out and make the relationship last, that's what you're REALLY supposed to do in marriage, work it out, not quit
I think MTO is getting confused by her use of the word "open". I'm not getting the vibe that she's saying he has a free pass to f#ck. If she meant that, they would be "swingers". Hell, she even said in her quote it's not about sex. It just sounds like she's saying that have a marriage where they can be up front and honest with one another, even if it came to an incident of infidelity. And I can respect the fact that she wouldn't automatically scrap her marriage over a one time fling. If they truly loved one another and took their vows seriously, they would owe it to themselves to explore why it happened and where to go from there. (I'd like to think I'd be that rational in the same situation, but I do have a touch of the crazy. It probably wouldn't be until after I burned some s#it and peed in all he's shoes that I'd have the sense to calm down and think about the situation in a rational manner.)
@ fattmatt im not a dude.its ok though.lol. idk... i just dont think that guys are trained to be monogamous. i believe they make a choice to be faithful or to not be faithful..in other words its controllable. im just wondering...all the guys who are saying that its ok to cheat... if u had a daughter and she came crying to u saying how her husband is cheating on her, would u tell her " honey thats the way men are, just accept it", or would u be ready to beat dudes ass for making u daughter cry?? just curious...
Some of you guys are so ignorant. You are not understanding what she said. She doesn't want her man to cheat..but if she found out he did..she wouldn't necessarily divorce him..she would try to work on her marriage....They have a strong foundation and can be open on how you feel.
Some of yall sharing your men and don't even know it. Now what!!
@Shelly: 5 times? You are a good one!. But I can understand how you feel in a way. I love Mo' I think she is the funniest female comedian in the business. Is she ghetto...hell yeah! That's what makes her real. She's a pretty girl. She's big but so are a lot of other women and some men like that. I've heard that the big girls have all the "walls" (if you know what I mean) while the the skinny girls are like the BIG deep blue sea! I don't know but it all boils down to what the individual want.
I was trying to find the person who made the comment about Oprah and her trainer. Have you seen Oprah lately? She must have fired the trainer cause' she's HUGE. I'm just sayin'.
I am a big girl and I'm fine in my skin. I would like to maybe lose 20-25 lbs. but I love my "big-bone" status!
I would say that for her to accept this in her marriage is more of a factor of self esteem vs. weight. I'm a big girl (not super sized but I'm 5'9" wear a size 16), excercise every day, have a wonderful man and we don't go for that in our household. People have preferences, so people knocking her for her weight sound really retarded. My husband has always liked larger women and he makes no apologies for it. The problem for Mo'Nique is she married a whorish man and instead of building her house up, she chose to tear it down by allowing him to have his jump-off's on the side.
@SIERRA714
IM NOT TRYING TO START NOTHING WITH YOU ......BUT MAN CREATED MARRIAGE NOT GOD......YES GOD DID CREATE ADAM AND EVE BUT NOWHERE IN THE BOOK OF GENESIS IS THE WORD MARRIAGE ....DO YOUR RESEARCH
AND ON YOUR POINT ABOUT GOD DID NOT CONTRADICT HIMSELF
THE BIBLE IS SO FULL OF CONTRADICTIONS THAT IT AINT FUNNY......
ANSWER THIS
IF GOD IS NOT CONTRADICTING HIMSELF.....THEN WHY WAS ABRAHAM KNOWN AS GOD'S SPECIAL FRIEND.....HE HAD TWO "WIVES" SARAH AND HAGAR
IN FACT SARAH GAVE HAGAR TO ABRAHAM SO THAT HE COULD HAVE A BABY...NAMED ISAAC
AND ISAAC WHEN HE GREW UP HE WORKED IN HIS FATHER-IN-LAWS FARM SO HE COULD MARRY REBECCA
NOT ONLY DID HE GET REBECCA.....HE GOT TWO OF HIS DAUGHTERS....DO YOUR BIBLICAL RESEARCH
DAVID WAS ALSO GOD'S SPECIAL FRIEND.......HE HAD MULTIPLE WIVES
HE DIDNT GET ON GOD'S BAD SIDE UNTIL HE KILLED HAD ANOTHER MAN KILLED SO THAT HE COULD TAKE HIS "WIFE"
SOLOMON HAD MANY WIVES.......HE DIDNT GET ON GOD'S BAD SIDE UNTIL HE TOOK WIVES FROM THE LAND OF CANAAN ...THEN STATRED TO WORSHIP OTHER GODS
THE POINT IS THE BIBLE IS FULL OF CONTRADICTIONS
ANOTHER POINT YOU SHOULD THINK ABOUT.....IF GOD WANTED MEN TO HAVE ONE WIFE .......WHY DOESENT THE BIBLE JUST SAY SO????????
ITS UP TO INTERPRETATION
THE BIBLE GETS STR8 TO THE POINT WHEN IT SAYS
THOU SHALT NOT KILL......THOU SHALT NOT STEAL...
THOU SHALT NOT LIE
BUT NOWHERE IN THE BIBLE DOES IT SAY THOU SHALT NOT HAVE TWO WIVES
DO YOUR RESEARCH......DONT LISTEN TO SOME MAN WHO GETS UP ON A PULPIT AND TELLS YOU WHAT HIS INTERPRETATION IS DO YOUR OWN RESEARCH
AND 2 THE PEOPLE WHO SAYS THAT THEIR VOW IS TO GOD
THEIR VOW IS TO EACH OTHER....THERE IS NO COOKIE-CUTTER VIEW OF WHAT MARRIAGE IS ....YOUR VOW CAN BE TO SLAP YOUR WIFE IN THE FACE IF YOU WANTED IT TO.....
THATS THEIR MARRIAGE NOT YOU HATERS
I find it funny how, in plain english, she said "I've had to sneak and I've had to lie, and I don't want to do that any more" which obvious hints at her creeping and indulging in dick on the side from time to time, yet ya'll are focusing on her husband like she's at home baking cookies and running his bath so he can have a snack while he washes the other chicks juices off his nuts
I wish my husband would cheat on me. I would have him thinking baby it's ok, we gone work through this et.. AND AS SOON AS HE SLEEP HE CAN " SAY HELLO TO MY LITTLE FRIEND" AKA HOT GRITS! Mo got it backwards, no woman should ever be ok sharing her husband with another home wrecker! Don't even get me started on what I would do to the chick, because she know dude is married, so she get it too!
LOL@I'mChuckDawgBytch: You made some valid points; love the "cheating rules" bit, but come on now you must admit that that argument, "it's in our nature", is TIR-EDDDDDDDDD!!!
You say don't disrespect what you have with someone at home, but CHEATING is already disrespectful no matter what rules you follow!!! If you really give a s**t, you could end the relationship before it even got to that point. But just like typical men, you want your cake and eat it too and that mentality leads to nothing but DRAMA!!
I do believe that to an extent, but the reality is (not the majority unfortunately) not all men are cheaters and you don't HAVE to be that way. Most men are f***king idiots anyway so they are going to use any excuse to cheat.
I can count on one hand how many men I've known for years that never cheated but it is possible. Bottom line, to my ladies, don't settle for that BS if a man comes at you like that. You deserve someone that you can truly call your own.
@ im-chuck-dawg-bytch You're annoying is hell with your long as posting...
@shelly i understand..somewhat...but first you said 5 times then you changed it to maybe more than 2 times...you just dont care you sticking by his cheating ass no matter what huh???
i hope you get tested for every disease out there on a regular basis.
honestly, most men will cheat, it is just the nature of the beast, so I can see a lil of where she coming from, however, if that was my my man, the philosophy would be, "talk to me first and let me know if there is a problem with our marriage, before you up and nut in another coochie and try to make it justifiable"!
@im-chuck-dawg-bytch i get ur point about that( even though i thought all that was in the old testament) but anywayz im not trying to get in a "bible battle" with you, im just sayin, why be in a relationship or marriage if ur not goin to be faithful save people the heartache. its in a wild animals nature to be aggressive, its not in a mans nature to be unfaithful its a choice that he makes. thats all im sayin...
@jlew911
you will never understand this nature because you are a woman
its the same as me trying to understand why dont women have as many one nite stands as men??
its in a woman's nature to not have sex with as many men as possible.....
i cant understand that.....so i wouldnt say that your nature is tired....dont say my nature is tired
men cannot stop thinking about sex
and you said it yourself.......you know about 5million men..........but you only know 5 that have not cheated
and you are right.....cheating is disrespectful..............but its hard to train yourself not to
********If you feel the need****** If you feel the need to have an open marriage where you can confide in someone outside of your marriage, then the 2 of you need to be DATING! Marriage is a vow between husband and wife not husband, wife and ol' girl from the job or dude that works on my car. Hollywood is so ridiculous and for everyone who is following this trend be careful for what you ask for because when ol hubby bring in some extra babies..and that extra child support...you cannot CLOSE that pocketbook! So to hell with all that nonsense. I also do not think it is because of low self esteem..sometimes people just want an outlet...so if you feel the need to have an outlet do not say I DO!
To all those who wish to inject religion into the concept of monagamy ought to read extensively on the history of King James, whose version of the Bible you hold so dear. For starters, he had a voracious appetite for young boys..yes, a homosexual pedophile.(Read the book entitled, God's Secretaries, The Making of the King James Bible, by Adam Nicolson) Monogamy is primarily a westernized concept. Concubines, multiple wives, etc. were and are a common practice ( the indigenous African ancestors thrive under the system as they originated it) for thousands of years. Woman are emotional beings, while men are physical beings. Once a woman truly loves a man most likely she has no inclination whatsoever to be with another man. With men it has nothing to do with love, as a man can have profound love for his wife (with no intention whatsoevr of leaving her) yet he can have a purely physical relationship with another woman. This is why woman become so devastated when she discovers her man has been "cheating," because she perceives him as not loving her anymore. Invariably this is not the case. We must acknowledge science, spirituality, and human nature, and detach ourselves from religious dogma, emotionalism, and spookism...and to all you women who say their men and husbands had better not lay with another woman...it's probably already happening.
Let me help you out girl.. There is absolutely nothing sexy about being fat. Stop overeating because it tastes good, put down the fried chicken and the pigfeet and try more fruits and vegetables. Im sure you won't think its sexy any longer when you get diagnosed with diabetes, high blood pressure or heartdisease. Change your eating habits and get your ass on a treadmill.
@DRIP...I AGRRE WITH YOU. WHAT WAS THE PURPOSE OF GETTING MARRIED?WE ALLON HERE HAVE OUR *own* OPINION ABOUT THINGS. TO STATE THAT BIG WOMEN WILL GET CHEATED ON IS IN MY OPINION GARBAGE.THERE ARE ALL TYPES OF SHAPES AND SIZES DEALING WITH COUPLES WHO ARE DIVORCED.I KNEW SOMEONE WHO WAS VERY ATTRACTIVE AND HER HUSBAND CHEATED ON HER. SO WHAT DOES THAT SAY AND SHE WAS A SIZE 4/6. THAT'S NOT BIG AT ALL. LOOK AT HALLE B..HER HUSBAND CHEATED ON HER. A MAN OR WOMAN WILL DO WHAT THEY WANT TO DO.AS SOMEONE STATED THAT IF UR PARTNER IS LOYAL THAT PERSON WILL THINK TWICE BEFORE THEY CHEAT.SOME PEOPLE TO STAY BEACUSE OF KIDS BUT IT HAPPENED TO ME AND ONE TIME IS ALL IT TOOK..I LEFT BECAUSE THE TRUST WAS LONGER THERE AND WE HAVE A CHILD 2GETHER. I FEEL THAT IF I OVERLOOKED THE SITUATION THEN HE MAY DO IT AGAIN..WHY..BECAUSE I GAVE HIM OPPORTUNITY TO DO IT AGAIN.I HEAR PEOPLE SAY THAT'S MY MAN OR THAT'S MY WOMAN. WE AS INDIVIDUALS REALLY DO NOT HAVE CLAIM ON ANYONE WHEN IT COMES TO ADULT RELATIONSHIPS.
I'M CONFUSED!!! WHERE IN THAT QUOTE DOES SHE SAY THAT SHE DOESN'T CARE IF HER HUSBAND CHEATS ON HER?? ALL OF THESE COMMENTS THAT EVERYONE IS LEAVING IS JUST ANOTHER EXAMPLE OF HOW PEOPLE TAKE THINGS AND TURN THEM INTO WHAT THEY WANT THEM TO BE. AGREEING ALONG WITH THE OTHER SENSIBLE PEOPLE ON HERE, I DON'T BELIEVE THAT'S WHAT SHE MEANT. IT SEEMS LIKE SHE'SS BASICALLY SAYING THAT IF HER HUSBAND DID CHEAT ON HER INSTEAD OF LEAVING HIM, SHE'D STICK BY HIM AND THEY'D WORK IT OUT, AND THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT. FOR ALL YALL THAT'S ON HERE TRYING TO QUOTE THE BIBLE AND TALK ABOUT GOD, YALL MUST'VE SKIPPER OVER THAT PART THAT TALKS ABOUT A WIFE IS SUPPOSED TO FORGIVE HER HUSCBAND AND VICE VERSA WHEN EITHER OF THEM HAS BEEN UNFAITHFUL. IT'S COOL THAT ALL YALL FEMALES AND SOME MALES MAY NOT AGREE WITH THIS, BUT THAT DOESN'T GIVE ANY OF US THE RIGHT TO JUDGE MONIQUE AND TO PUT WORDS IN HER MOUTH.
Yall are SLOW. All she is saying is that if her man cheated on her she believes that they have to work through it because that is what marriage is about. Sometime in the last 30 years, this country has told people that they do not have to stick by their committments and if someone crosses us once we have to shun them. If a woman cheats or a man cheats in a marriage, you have to work through it because those vows you took were serious. Get it together people
I'm just curious. Do any of you ladies think Coretta Scott King settled? Did Camille Cosby settle?
I don't know if Monique has a self-esteem issue or not. I don't think any of you know either. I'm not saying cheating in a marriage is great thing but I am agreeing with Monique that it shouldn't be an automatic reason for saying its over.
It's just interesting listening to you ladies talk like you're the exception to all the women who came before you who had to deal with this.
Why do men get married when they might cheat? Because, the woman you love and decide to build a family with might be in a different category from the woman who is extremely attractive or extremely good at sex. I have friends who love their wives but their wives aren't as interested in sex as they are. They take what the wife is willing to break-off and they go somewhere else to take care of the rest.
She is real desperate to have a man then, b/c if you allow him to cheat one time what's stopping him from doing it again? Now a damn thing. Now being open as in not keeping anything from each other that's cool, but don't get married if one person isn't good enough for you. But you just do you and watch me do me. :)
@ SHELLY Damn girl donèt you have anything to do with your life !
@ JAZZYBABEE what the hell is so jazzy about you
@ DRIP the only thing dripping is your curl drip
SO WHAT SOME BYATCHES DON NOT MIND BEING DISSRESPECTED BY THEIR MAN.
SOME WOMEN ARE WOMEN AND SOME ARE BITCHES ! SOME OF US KNOW BETTER THAN TO LET A MAN WALK ALL OVER US AND DISSRESPECT US.
THE ONLY REASON WHY MONIQUE PUTS UP WITH HIS BULLSHYT IS BECAUSE NO OTHER MAN WANTS HER PHAT ASS !
@ Candice1... YEAH NO DISRESPECT TO YOU BUT MAYBE EVERYBODY NOT MADE TO BE SKINNY SWEETIE. AND MONIQUE IS A LITTLE BIGGER THAN OTHER BUTT THAT DOES NOT MEAN THAT SHE HAS LOW SELF EESTEM BECAUSE SHE ALLOWS THAT IN HER RELATIONSHIP. BUT THEIR WAS NO NEED FOR THEM TO GET MARRIED IF AT ANY MOMENT ONE GOES AND CHEAT AND BE FORGIVIN JUST LIKE THAT. NEVER COOL!
I don't think that's what she's saying MTO. She even says at the begining..."When I said I had an open marriage, people automatically jumped to sex. They automatically went there." She meant like they don't tell lies or sneak around and do things behind each others back.[If Sydney had sex with another woman] it's not a deal breaker. It's not something that will make us say, 'Oh, we've got to go to divorce court,' and if he does cheat she would have a problem with it. Ya'll really can twist a sistah's words around.
Weight has nothing to do with this. Lots of people have open marriages whether it be swinging, dating outside of the marriage or having sex with other individuals. Not saying that shyt would ever be my cup of tea cuz as far as I'm concerned but it is how a lot of folk live. I have a cousin that married a man 15 years her senior and for a time now she's kept another lover. Now mind you her lover is in another country but it works for her husband. He is no longer interested in "sex" so he allows her to keep a lover. I've spoken to her about it and she was very candid. She will never leave her husband and is totally dedicated to caring for him and being with him...she just has needs that need to be met that he can't comply with. I think that's how Hillary and Bill have it set up as well. I'll kill my man dead first!
@Brutally_Honest, How can you bash "fat" people and at the same time say it's not meant for all "fat" people? Yes, I'm comfortable in my own skin, hell it's mine. I'm a big girl, have been all my life. Have I tried to change it? Yes, I'm a size 24 that would love to be a size 14, but only because I think it will only make me healthier, not sexier. My sexiness comes from within me. I know each to his own, but doesn't that apply to everyone. Not everyone prefers the same. I myself am attracted to the heart of a person. My partner happens to be slim and fit and does the workouts and is athletic, and just so you know I don't have money or anything else that he can benefit from, but my time and love.
Now, to everyone else that thinks Mo is crazy. What I read had nothing to do with sex. What I read is; here is a lady who will not throw away a relationship because of a mistake made by her or her husband. I didn't read anywhere in her statement that she wouldn't be upset or hurt, but that she is willing to NOT jump to a hasty decision when it comes to a their relationship. We are all human and we do make mistakes, but that doesn't mean we don't truly love the person we choose to share our lives with. I don't think anyone chooses to go into a committed relationship with intentions of cheating, but it does sometime happen. It's just good to know at the end of the day when a mistake is made, the two people that really matter did all they could to salvage their relationship.
what happened to the strong black woman stance...i mean wats the point of getttin married shes just gonna b paying him when they do divorce....and WTF i thought she was divorced anyway...shes full of [EXPLETIVE] and that was apparent after that charm school ish...she aint tell none of them hefas off
annnnd he looks gay...thats prolly why the marriage is "open" a lot of gay people do that to keep up the front of happy family man annnd to have kids but they still live their gay lives on the side w/e if it works for them...but i smell BS and monique sounds like she has the "no one else is gonna love me" syndrome
You all are idiots. She didn't say it was okay for him to sleep around nor is she giving him a pass to sleep around. She said she is not going to be quick to get a divorce. Not saying that she is not going to be pissed, angry or acceptable. Just that marriage is forever and stuff happens. ie.. Bill Clinton.
I'm not judging Mo for her lifestyle, however I will ask this question. What is the point of going to the alter before GOD and getting married if the man can go and screw around whenever with whoever? It seems like a waste of time to get married. They could have stand FUKK friends if this is how they are going to live.
I DONT LIKE HER FAT SELF SHE ALWAYS TALKING AGAINST THIN WOMEN LIKE ITS CUTE SHES SO ENVIOUS AND JEALOUS YET HER BLUBBER BUTT SELF SO BUSY ON A DIET AND STARVING HERSELF YET SHE STILL HAVE ROLLS AND WAVES OF FAT ALL OVER HER BODY...WHY DID SHE GET A FAT MAN? SHE HAS BECOME RICH ON MAKING OTHER WOMEN FEEL BAD ABOUT THEMSELVES BECAUSE THEY ARE THIN AND DONT WEAR A SIZE TO BE CONTINUED LIKE SHE DOES...FAT LARD A$$
MONIQUE I LOVE U TO DEATH. U ARE A BEAUTIFUL AFRICAN QUEEN AND I DO UNDERSTAND THAT WE HAVE BEEN INFLUENCED BY A WESTERN IDEAL OF WHAT LOVE AND RELATIONSHIPS IS ABOUT. I DO UNDERSTAND Y POLYGAMY IS OR WAS BIG IN AFRICA. BUT MONIQUE U R CRAZY. I AINT NEVER GONNA TAKE THAT [EXPLETIVE] FROM MY BOYRFRIEND OR FROM ANY MAN. I WILL FUK THAT BIIITCH UP SO BAD THAT THAT BIIIITCH WILL NEVER BE ABLE TO FUK AGAIN. THATS REAL.
MONIQUE IS A REALIST BECAUSE EVERY MAN CHEATS. EVEN ON THE SO CALLED PRETTIEST OF THE PRETTIEST. I MEAN HALLE BERRY IS SUPPOSEDLY AND I DO MEAN SUPPOSEDLY THE MOST BEAUTIFUL BLACK WOMAN EVER AND THAT BIIIITCH TRIK CANT KEEP A MAN TO SAVE HER LIFE. ERIC BENET CHEATED ON HER RANKY PUUUUUSSSSY LIKE CRAZY. AT LEAST MONIQUE IS A REALIST
MO'NIQUE DONE BOUGHT HERSELF A HUSBAND.
The first time I read about there marriage in Ebony, I took one look at him and one look at her and I knew this had nothing to do with love. He's either in for the money or he's gay.
He's a braver man than me, cause' I could'nt do it.
She's not even attractive enough to sneak off and hit it on the low. Even if you knew nobody would find out. If you did you would be so scared she come up to you in the club in front your homeboys, you'd do a circle around the spot every 30 minutes to just make sure she wasnt in there.
This is straight bullshit...Aids on the rise and she's a mother of twins; she STUPID! I bet if he just start [EXPLETIVE] skinny bitches she will get PISSED OFF...LMAO! He is handsome thought... He can get it...
****[EXPLETIVE] dat swinging [EXPLETIVE] MY DICK is gotta be MY DICK only; I am stingy with sharin'****
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@ SHELLY Damn girl donèt you have anything to do with your life !
@ JAZZYBABEE what the hell is so jazzy about you
@ DRIP the only thing dripping is your curl drip
SO WHAT SOME BYATCHES DON NOT MIND BEING DISSRESPECTED BY THEIR MAN.
SOME WOMEN ARE WOMEN AND SOME ARE BITCHES ! SOME OF US KNOW BETTER THAN TO LET A MAN WALK ALL OVER US AND DISSRESPECT US.
THE ONLY REASON WHY MONIQUE PUTS UP WITH HIS BULLSHYT IS BECAUSE NO OTHER MAN WANTS HER PHAT ASS ! --------------------------------------------------
lol WTF! What does that have anything to do with what I posted? I could get down and be very disrespectful but i'm not even going to do it. Just doesn't make any damn sense! Read my damn quote...EXACTLY!!! Some of you people on here are soo freaking pathetic, I swear! If they're not posting FAKE pictures, they being reckless blog gangters. What-the-fuk-ever!
You know what Monique, I had a chance to see you and your husband at one of your auditions for your show..In NYC. And what a shame these women cried to see you. They were more happy for you than they were for themselves. I believe this statement is more about the lack of respect you have for yourself. And you must be thinking he is to good for you. because your are a big girl and no matter how hard you preach that skinny women are evil. Look at what you are doing to yourself. You are teaching the other big women to let their men do whatever you must be CRAZY!! Next thing you know we will be hearing he was with you because of your money. and you will be saying you want a good man...So don't you dare talk about these rappers when they call women bit$$$ & H@@'s. because you are one of them women who make it possible to call women that. I thought you were a big girl with class. and I don't think hillary new about Bill afairs. or his but would be out if this was an everyday thing.....No respect. He should have stayed your boyfriend please tell me why you did you get married?
I aint buying this shyt Monique! If your husband has sex with another woman it's not a deal breaker? What the hell did you two get married for??!! That's being "real people"? Come on now baby girl, really think about what you're saying here-what's real is committing to someone who wants what you want and Monique I don't even know you but I'd bet my house that you're the type of woman that wants one man and one man only. You say you were lying and sneaking aroung, you were only doing that because whoever you were with at the time was doing the same thing. Demand respect, that's what's REAL!
neena Flag post 80% of the comments posted on here are proof that a large percentage of Americans have a reading comprehension problem. Lawd!
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LOL, I actually re-read it and I think she is saying whatever issue arrives, especially cheating, the marriage will likely remain intact. But I still believe marriage ain't [EXPLETIVE].
yanno this forum shows us how ignant black people are....we talk about each other's skin color, hair type, weight..anything! What does having a open-relationship have to do with her weight? I mean really? Why the [EXPLETIVE] are you wearing out the "skinny bitches are evil" bullshit? She has said several times that it is comedy, it's an act! Also who saids she can't get nobody else? There are plenty of men out there who prefer bigger women, so WTF is all the fat bashing for? When Jada and Will said the same shiat it wasn't a big deal....was it because she is slim?...smh...some of yall mothafuckaz on here are simple as [EXPLETIVE]!
i dont know where the new york times came into play but when i was watching oprah show that is the statement she gave and people are making it more than what it is all she said was her and her man have a friendship and realationship so real that they can tell each other anything and if he were to cheat that wouldnt mean they would part ways they would work it out something more of value would make the realtionship crumble not sex.
HELL HAVE OF THE PEOPLE ON THE PLANET HAVE A REALATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE WHO IS [EXPLETIVE] SOMEBODY ELSE AND THEY STILL ARE WITH THE CHEATER WHAT MAKES MONIQUE SO DIFFERENT!!! SHE KEEP [EXPLETIVE] REAL WITH HER MAN
This is how the world works. Unattractive chicks take what they can get. The more a chick has to offer, the better deal she can negotiate. However some chicks, like Mo'nique, could probably do better and just don't know it cause they have low self-esteem. But I don't even know if that's what she's really saying. She's not talking about a continuous situation of cheating, she's talking about isolated slipups that can happen with anybody. However, in general, some chicks can command a better situation than others. some chicks are lucky to have a man at all and they know it. A pretty chick with stuff going for her knows she can find somebody better, and whatever dude she's with knows it. People take what they can get in life. Beyonce is gorgeous and Jay Z has cheated on her, but he is a way richer than her, so he can get away with that crap. If he was just a regular dude or equal to her in money and status she would have left his azz a long time ago for that. It's all about who has the most leverage in the relationship. Ball players and rappers all cheat on their wives cause they know they have more status than their wives, so their wives ain't going nowhere. Whoever has the most status or leverage in the relationship wins. I say, don't marry too far above your own status. That crap will equalize in some way, shape, or form, usually in the form of cheating. Whoever feels they are bringing more to the table will feel entitled to get to do what they want. But as for Mo'Nique, she could do better. Then again, maybe she has had some jump-offs of her own.....
@EpitomeofFashion your pic was under the name Shelly for a while yesterday. that's why i wrote what i wrote. but i do apologize to you. i'm a grown man and can admit when i'm wrong. my bad. but if you read what i wrote after that i did address the issue. maybe they posted the wrong pic under the wrong name. that's a take out mistake.
If that works for them, so be it. The only problem is that open marriages rarely work out because eventually someone is going to find another person they either fall in love with or want to be with, sexually, all the time.
People in these types of relationships are definitely not a spiritual couple. More than two people in a relationship doesn't make for any kind of spiritual foundation upon which to build a marriage. This is an alternative lifestyle that suits them. What works for the goose, works for the gander.
@yeahright: No, Coretta or Camille didn't settle but they stayed in their marriages. It is well known of the affairs that Dr. King had while out on the road. Back in the 80s one woman even wrote a book about being with Dr. King the night before his death. That must've been so hurtful to Mrs. King. Hoover (FBI) sent tapes of Dr. King's phone conversations and bugged hotel rooms to Coretta's house! That woman endured a lot of pain behind the scenes too.
Camille Cosby spoke out only once about one of Bill's affairs and that was the one where the "fake" daughter came in. Several more women have come out since then.
It was a different era back then and women stayed. Read any book on Civil Rights and you'll see that even though Mrs. King had the dream too, when the men would come over for meetings, she was serving coffee and dessert because that's what women did back then. One guy said he could tell she wanted to be at the table with them but that was not her role at the time. Had Mrs. King lived in current times, she would've been a force to reckon with due to her knowledge, education and determination. She had the dream long before Dr. King but she was a female and couldn't take the front seat. I truly believe that's why so many women want Hillary for President. They remember not having a voice.
@ Focus
Wow... MLK f*cked around on Coretta? A LOT? I guess the saying is true... you DO learn something new every day.
@ Im-Chuck-Dawg-Bytch
I don't know whether to slap you or sit and listen to everything you have to say. I don't like what you have to say, but that doesn't mean what you're saying isn't true. Women don't like hearing or reading that sh*t, so you're gonna get attacked period. But I must admit, you ain't lied once...
Although I clearly see that many you are reading way too much into it, the concept presented is ridiculous and could never hold true in my household. All of you women saying that men cheat anyway are clearly selling yourselves short. Don't get it twisted, all men DON'T cheat. Some, maybe most, but not all. Stop accepting that crap and go find you a REAL man. Settling is a serious problem with African American women and it happens because stupid stereotypes like that one about all of our men.
@pinklici, if you put him on "[EXPLETIVE] probation" you won't have to worry about leaving him, he will leave YOU
quamesh 1, "unattractive chicks take what they can get"? I have a problem with that statement, because a lot of young women, girls, people in general visit this site and unfortunately some girls will believe that they are unattractive and therefore "take what they can get". No one and I mean NO ONE should just "take what they can get"! Do you settle for whatever wants you? It doesn't sound like it, so please don't encourage this thinking in women "some chicks are lucky to have a man a all"-it's like you have men on this high, very high pedestal and we as women should be honored to be with a man. DEAD WRONG quamesh 1!!!! We are queens and always will be, any man should be honored to have us. Also, for any young girl who is reading this, don't ever "take what you can get"-if it isn't what you want and need, keep going and know that you are beautiful inside and out and never think you should be happy to just have a man around. God Bless all.
I think a lot of you all are missing the point of what she actually said. She is not saying open as in bringing other people into her marriage or it being okay for her husband to cheat. She is referring to open as in being able to discuss issues that arise in the relationship.She was saying IF he cheated it would not be the end of the marriage no questions asked. She is simply saying she is able to forgive and is willing to work on her marriage.That is what marriage is about, being able to talk and forgive is very important. That is whats wrong with a lot of relationships, everyone wants to say "it's over" as soon as someone makes a mistake. I am not saying it is okay to cheat and you have to turn the other cheek,but in a REAL marriage there has to be room for forgiveness. People make mistakes all the time if the relationship is worth saving give it another shot. Monique's self esteem is in tact, she knows what it take to make a MATURE relationship last.
I think what she is saying is that sometimes sht happens. you may be seperated, you may be mad at your spouse. but what she wants is to keep her marriage honest. if he does cheat, she wants to know the truth and I can respect that. most of the people have cheated. and just will not admit it to their man or woman.
MTO she didnt say anything about him having a jup off like you are tryin to make it sound.
She said that on Oprah. And what lisha26 said is right. I watched the show and she was saying that her husband is so good that she don't need to creep. She creeped in her other marriage cuz she was in search of the oomph factor. But since her husband got the oomph factor she don't need nobody else. And if either one of them did creep, they would work it out rather than automatically break up. Yall need to stop pumping things up more than they are.
Damn yall know yall can HATE on this site! First of all Monique is a strong, intelligent, beautiful and SUCCESSFUL SISTA that anyone on here that is African American should be ashamed of insulting! Keep your people up not down. That's why our race is still jacked up. Just like crab's in a bucket always pulling one another down. And further more...at least she's being realistic and not expecting something from her man that will eventually have her on suicide watch or on death row for killing him like alot of women who put unrealistic expectations on their men and then believe they can handle it just because they say they can or the say I DO...they're the dummies not Mo!
DAMN PEOPLE.. YOU ALL TAKE [EXPLETIVE] AND RUN A F**KING MARATHON WITH IT.. SHE DID NOT SAY SHE IS OKAY WITH HIM HAVING JUMP OFF. SHE WAS JUST POINTING OUT THE FACT THAT INFIDELITY ISN'T GOING TO MAKE HER RUN TO DIVORCE COURT.. GET A F**KING GRIP PEOPLE. HOW DID THIS ARTICLE TURN OUT TO BE BECAUSE SHE IS FAT. I DON'T THINK SHE MADE THAT COMMENT BECAUSE SHE IS FAT. ONLY BECAUSE SHE IS SURE OF WHAT SHE WANTS IN LIFE.. 95% OF YOU UP HERE HAS HAD YOUR MAN OR MATE CHEAT ON YOU AND YOU STAYED WITH THEM SO CHILL WITH THE BASHING MO [EXPLETIVE]. THAT'S HER LIFE... ONE THING ABOUT OPINIONS!! THEY ARE JUST LIKE [EXPLETIVE]... EVERYONE HAS ONE....DAMN!!!
AND ONE MORE THING... FOR ALL OF YOU BASHING MO ABOUT HER WEIGHT IT IS OBVIOUS HER HUSBAND DOESN'T HAVE A PROBLEM WITH IT OR SHE WOULDN'T HAVE MADE IT TO THE ALTAR WITH HIM. ALSO SHE STATED THEY HAD BEEN FRIENDS FOR A LONG LONG TIME, SO HE HAD PLENTY OF TIME TO THINK ABOUT WHETHER OR NOT HE WANTED TO BE WITH THIS P H A T. HONEY.... I AM A SIZE 18. AND I FEEL DAMN GOOD ABOUT MY THICKNESS, FATNESS, WHATEVER YOU MFUKKAS WANT TO CALL IT... GETTING SOME DYCK HAS NEVER BEEN A PROBLEM FOR THIS PLUS SIZE HONEY.. I HAVE BEEN WITH MY MAN FOR 10YRS. WHEN I MET HIM HE HAD A LADY AND LEFT HER FOR ME AND WE HAVE BEEN STRONG SINCE. BEAUTY IS IN THE EYES OF THE BEHOLDER AND I KNOW I AM BEAUTIFUL... WITH OR WITHOUT CLOTHES ON. MY SELF ESTEEM IS STRETCHES BEYOND THE EMPIRE STATE BUILDING AND NO ONE CAN TAKE ME DOWN... MONIQUE CAN BUY ALL YOU BASHING MFUKKAS IF SHE WANTED TO..... CHILL THE FUKK OUT... MO GOT IT GOING ON....PLUS SIZE AND ALL.
Ok, im just gonna keep it real!..for those of you who dont know her story??..this is her 3rd married, and the last 2 were fags!..this guy looks like he plays for the pink team for sure..and he aint FINE!..attactive,but not fine!...Monique is a big girl and will always be, and sometimes they are insecure with who they are so they tend to settle for the guys that holla at them??.. and from what I hear, some guys are into that!..yuck!..you gotta be a freak about hygene to get wit a girl that big, lots of creases to clean..i have a big girl friend and she smells all the time!..can u imagine what the sex smells like??..im just sayin, ..ive been with my Husband or 13 years..and the thought of me being with someone else would drive him to tears, thats how much he is in to ME..and would never share me!..if you allow yourself regardless of weight to MARRY someone and be ok with him sleep with someone else and still be able to come back to you?..you are lacking something with in yourself!..monique is my girl, but thats some F*&^ Sh*&^...im just sayin!
it kills me when i hear stupid ass people talk about people they dont know.Stupid ass people kills me.Mo’ Mo has a very good self esteem about her self. She is PHAT but not and will never be FAT. If she was but she wasn’t talking about sex, I think she should be able to choose her own sex drive. Maybe she like different things and maybe he like different things but none of them are ready to do it for one another. I like her she cool everyone that disowns her from saying one thing needs to back off. Also, if she says her husband is fine then he is fine. That’s what she think is fine you can not pick her man. He is cute. Most of y’all are gold-digger’s any way. I bet if she would have said my husband bought me a new home y’all would have been jumping for joy. Do he have money yes he is one of the producers of her show look his name up you will find more his last name hicks.
