I wish u would stop. it sounds like u r tryin' 2 pick my brain, it won't work. as far as me being a man (so u thought), it's the same thing like u pickin' your baby daddy you thought... I'm not big on women who make the excuses that you have made in your last couple of posting.
if i lost my job or him, well that's what happens you adapt. fortunately i have a college degree so things like that don't bother me, i didn't think at 1st it was necessary to obtain a degree, but after exhausting all of my possibilites (depending on a man, living with family, etc) i did what was best for myself. I don't use my child as an excuse, nor do I use her as a paycheck. the people in the courts don't care about you, all they are worried about is there % of your check. they don't care. how can u one minute look at that man in a loving, sexual way, then the next want his body delivered to the dept. of corrections? it sounds like you know u made a mistake and instead of standing up and being a woman and a mother, you in fact sound like a coward. this economy is one step from a recession, we all are facing something we aren't familiar with. welfare (it was originally called mother's pension during the war and they only received $11/month) and child support only re-gress the black family, not progress. but as long as we have individuals that use it as a crutch it will still exsist. i won't feel sorry just because i knew that i had other options and i refuse to lead my life the way that someone else wants me to. had u ever thought maybe he can't provide in a monetary way, but maybe its something or some other way he could? does he have a wife or another baby mama that he's with? its something 'cause you sound bitter and angry? how r u gone grow if u can't let go? if u do get support that's must b how u r coping with the fact, that he didn't want u but that doesn't say anything 4 your child. by know u should've found another companion and moved on. god didn't put u on this earth 2 punish your baby daddy, he hasn't given u anything u can't handle you just choose to believe it. maybe u should petition the court to have supervised visitation. just 'cause he hasn't been there, don't mean he can't now. don't put a question mark where god put a period. u need to put your feelings aside and worry about your child's. u got 2 know him (and now u don't), y can't your child get to know him. its gone back fire on you once that child is older and has his or her own family. u r the mother but eventually they are gone want to know the father, and wonder y u kept them from him.
after all is said and done, now they believe that sean may have been killed by the jailers. he ultimately may have lost his life over $$$$$. i hope that his family can find peace and cope with their loss. as far as his children goes, i just think that its not fair to them that now they will never b able 2 speak to him again, play with him, or experience something that money can't buy and that's the love of a father.
"1 slip or ignorance of the law could send them back to slavery" this is quote from a book in regards to free blacks during slavery that wanted to be free and either attend school or wanted to live their lives away from the slave master. they could b free but if they were caught w/o their free papers, or if the whites wanted to lie and say they wasn't free then they automatically was sent back to slavery. they didn't have options, but we do. we should stick together as a whole, because they way the economy is going we may be one step away from being like our ancestors. slaves were looked at as an economic gain, blacks worked hard for cheap, whites couldn't produce the amount supply like blacks, and the indians couldn't either or it would have exterminated their race. just 'cause they abolished slavery (well the president signed the bill to allow that for another 25 years), doesn't mean we aren't still feeling the effects. the black family back then had no choice but to stay together, it was either slavery, be sold and broke up, or death. (From Slavery to Freedom by John Franklin and Alfred Moss). u should pick up a copy and read it, when you get done and see how we were treated you may look at life in a different perspective.