: MediaTakeOut.com just caught wind that Usher is finally talking openly about the feud between his mother and his wife. Here's what he said in a recent interview:
My mother made a decision not to come to my wedding because she didn't really agree with my decision,'' he explains, declining to specify whether she disagreed with his choice of wife or his decision to fire her. ''I don't know why,'' he offers simply. ''She's never told me and I've never asked her.'' Though he demurs when pressed further for details, he reveals: ''It hurt me very much not to see her there 'cause I would've liked for her to be there, not to mention that I paid so much money for her to be accommodated and her behind didn't show up. [Laughs] But just as she's made stands, so have I.'That was very grown of Usher to choose his wife over his mama. How many dudes out here would have done the exact opposite ...
I can be mad at Ush riding with Tameka, that's his "Mans and Dem"
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I think Usher made the right decision. Although parents have your best interests at heart, if more people listened to their parents instead of their hearts alot of us wouldnt be here right now. LOL. But whether I liked the person or not, I wouldve been at my child's wedding. I know that had 2 hurt Usher not seeing his mom there on one of the most important days of his life. I hope him & Tameka stay 2gether.
Well...we all know how moms are about their boys...they want to be the only woman in their lives but they will never be unless they are gay. She probably had other plans for his life. She was DEAD WRONG for not showing up at his wedding to support him. Now as a mother there is no excuse for that. He did what he was supposed to as a man and she will have to get over it. I think no matter who he married she would have a problem with because she controlled his life for so long but for the first time she had no control. He is a grown man and if it is a mistake, it's his not learn from not hers. It has a lot to do with her insecurities especially because his wife is so much older. As a husband and father he was supposed to choose his family. Mama will always be there is true but he has needs that MAMA cannot fulfill.
usher mom is cute. and fact that she didn't show up means she probably don't want usher marrying her. so it must be serious because they are/were close. but wtf did tameka do for everyone to hate her?! what sh.it she done in the past is the past. all people do is hear rumors and they ain't fact. she isn't even ugly, it's just a lot of you have self hatred. she ain't mixed or light and that kills you. liek your fat ass had a chacne with usher. she has nice skin and teeth, and a pretty smile, and she wears very little makeup. he is with a black girl, it's not good enough. who cares if she had kids before, 80 percent of you have kids, and i bet your asses ain't married. so if you talk sh.it, come right or don't come at all. if he was with a white girl, it aon't good. makeup up your dam minds!
It's a Biblical principal..you are supposed to cleve to your wife and not your Mother. However, that's not to say that you are supposed to CHOOSE between them, it's just that you are supposed to basically be a man and not depend on your Momma so much. I don't think it's wrong for a man to be close to him Mom when he becomes an adult, but once you're married you do have to set some boundries. I'm not a single Mom, but I'm sure it was hard for her to let him go seeing she was both Mom and Dad to him.
I agree with MissDatsu SO damn much. And to everyone else who's saying his mama will be there after the divorce, y'all sound so stupid. Who's to say they won't last, first of all? And they're MARRIED! Point blank: you're supposed to put your spouse first. Don't disregard your parents, but understand you're now spiritually bound to your partner.
SHE WASN'T HIS WIFE at the time, duh. And how many didn't question him marrying a woman who is divorced, way older than him, with three children already. And of course she was pregnant when he married her...yes, that would raise red flags to any sane MAN, let alone his momma! Always listen to your moms -- she's seen what you have yet to see. Even if you don't do what she thinks you should do, keep her advice in the back of your mind!!!
Let me tell everyone something.. Now i'm speaking from experience...
My father did the same thing, But instead of just his mother (my grandmother), He chose his wife (now ex wife) over his mother, sisters, brothers, and his children (me and my brothers). He MADE THE DECISION to choose between his own blood and some random a$$ chic with 3 kids by 3 men... My father has since left his ex wife due to legal issues, But it still has left that bad feeling in all of us..
Usher made the decision to choose his wife over his mother... When Tameka slams him down in court for financial reasons (which she will at some point), what you think Usher is gonna do??? He's gonna run right back to his mother...
What alot of people don't understand is this.... If your family DOES NOT like your significant other, It's because THEY ALL SEE the same thing that you don't, and it's not good... The problem is your so blinded by this emotion called "Love", Those little pieces that put together a bigger picture you overlook. Your looking at your relationship from an "inside out" perspective, While everyone around you is seeing from the "Outside in".
i think a lot of you are too far ahead of yourselves. tameka WAS NOT his wife when the feud began. yes, as his mother, she had a right to not like/want her son to wait to marry this girl b/c she DIDN'T/REFUSED to sign the pre-nup. this is what stalled the wedding in the hamptons. they ended up cancelling the affair. it had NOTHING to do with his mom being absent. but his mom was right about something. also, a story about her criminal record came out the day before and usher knew nothing of it. his mom admitted that.
usher and tameka exchanged vows in his lawyer's office in atlanta and his mom was present. later that week they had a 'wedding' at chateau elan.
Usher mom did attend the wedding this is a publicity stunt to sell albulms. All before Usher had nothing to say about his personal life and now that he has this CD coming out he has so much to talk about.
SORRY usher I am not buying this stunt that you are putting on. If anyone has been paying attention latley topics about him has been surfacing latley.
What alot of people don't understand is this.... If your family DOES NOT like your significant other, It's because THEY ALL SEE the same thing that you don't, and it's not good... The problem is your so blinded by this emotion called "Love", Those little pieces that put together a bigger picture you overlook. Your looking at your relationship from an "inside out" perspective, While everyone around you is seeing from the "Outside in". ***********************************************
PREACH!!!! you may not like them most of the time, but they are FAMILY for a reason.
I am coming to the conclusion that MTO is just full of something I like to call "Haters", especially the women and especially my sista's who is sitting up there hating on Tameka, simply because Usher chosed her to be his wife.... Stop being mad! Would you like her better if she was light-skin, hispanic, mixed or maybe even a white woman? Black people, STOP hating! Let the man be happy... Y'all are up here talking about Tameka as if you know her. "She's a criminal" or "She's a gold-digger"... Y'all do not know Tameka, and don't believe everything you hear on the radio or everyhing you read on the net (I.E. MTO) that they are saying about Tameka. And the final point is this: You all can sit here and talk sh*it about this woman all day long, but I bet deep down inside, you wish you were with Usher, or better yet, you wish you HAD A MAN, and for those of you who claim to have a man, you wish you had one that treated you better... So don't be mad at Usher and Tameka for being in love. They obviously don't give a damn what you think, so just shut the FUC-K up and let Usher and his wife (Who I think is beautiful by the way) live and stop HATING!!!!!
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With all due respect, Usher's mom had her opportunity to make her choice of mate at some point in life. Right or wrong it was a choice that resulted in Usher's creation and his amazing career. Usher deserves the same opportunity. We don't always have to like the decisions our loved ones make, we just have to respect them.
DO U NOT BE WITH SOMEONE THAT UR MAMA DOESNT APPROVE OF I THINK EVERYONE SHOULD LIVE THEIR OWN LIFE, A MOTHER WILL NOT STOP LOVING U IF U CHOSE TO BE WITH SOMEONE SHE DOESNT APPROVE OF WELL MY MAMA WOULDNT...IF HE HAS MADE A MISTAKE MARRYING TAMEKA THEN SO BE IT, THERE IS A CHILD INVOLVED NOT AND IT'S TOO MANY BROKEN HOMES AS IT IS SO LET HIM BE..ALL THAT MATTERS IS THAT HE LOVES TAMEKA AND THE WEDDING DIDNT STOP CUZ HIS MAMA DIDNT ATTEND, HE DID HIS THING AND HIS MAMA STILL LOVES HIM
Yes he choose Man face, but he needs to realize women (men) come and go, but his mother will always be his mother. When the whole world is against you, mama is always in your corner. He needs to do whatever it takes to mend his relationship with his mama. If something were to happen to her, his guilt will eat him up!
USHER'S MOM CLEARLY KNOW A SNAKE WHEN SHE SEE ONE. MANNNNEKA WAS A OLDER WOMAN WITH AN EX-HUSBAND AND KIDS WHEN USHER MET HER. THAT WAS TOO MUCH DAMN BAGGAGE RIGHT THERE. NO MOTHER WOULD WANT THAT FOR THEIR YOUNG TALENTED SON. SHE WILL PROBABLY END UP DESTROYING HIM AND HIS CAREER. AFTER EVERYTHING HIS MOM HAS DONE FOR HIM, HE TURNED HIS BACK ON HER, TRUST ME WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND.
To an extent I can understand mom's concern. At the same time, Usher is his own man. And by him marrying Tameka, he was making the decision he felt was best for him at that particular time, not to say that he was totally dissin' his mom.
After all, we can hear the pros and cons from all sides, but it's ultimately our decision as to what direction to take our lives in. So, if marrying Tameka is the direction that Usher chose, then his mom has no choice to either accept it or shut Usher out. and being that he has her grandson, I'm sure she doesn't want that.
Chokolate kiss, you're right on the money.....I said something on another Usher/Tameka story......folks, especially chickenhead catty women are pissed that Usher's finally settled down with a real, everyday woman. Her name isn't up in lights and yes, she has baggage, but who doesn't?
Eleven times out of ten, there wouldn't be nearly as much hatred on the board if Tameka looked more like Beyonce and didn't have any children......but we already know that the MTO writers worship Beyonce as a golden goddess anyhow.
Usher knows full well why his mother did not attend his wedding. And yes he will surely regret this decision. But sometimes one must learn a lesson the hard way. People are forgetting that Usher's mother has known Tameka a long time. JPat was not judging this woman based on hearsay, criminal records etc. She didn't approve of Tameka being married and dating her son at the same time. Ms. Patton trusted her and she betrayed that trust.
The issue is, Tameka has brought about nothing but negativity in Usher's life and with the media since jump. This is not about her skin color or her being an average women. That's an excuse people use to change the subject away from her ignorant behavior. There are plenty of ballers married to average women who don't keep up THIS MUCH DRAMA.
Now that Usher's mother is out of way (He FIRED her for Tameka) he should be living happily ever. Right? But that's not the case. Which shows that his mother was never the problem.
THAT IS WHAT HE WAS SUPPOSE TO DO ,WHEN YOU ARE GROWN AND CHOOSE YOUR SPOUSE NO ONE IS TOO COME BEFORE THEM , AT THIS POINT BLOOD IS NOT THICKER THAN WATER THE BIBLE AND THE KORAN AND OTHER BIBICAL BOOKS TELL YOU SO GOD FIRST , SPOUSE 2ND CHILDREN 3RD ALL THERS WAIT IN LINE(lol), BASCIALLY HE DID RIGHT MOM HAS TOO LET THAT BABY GO ,WE DON'T LIVE IN A COUNTRY WHERE YOUR PARENTS CHOSE YOUR SPOUSE. HE IS NOW A MAN. AND FOR ALL THAT SAYS HE IS GAY HOW THE FUK YOU KNOW
A GROWN MAN or WOMAN is SUPPOSED to stick by and build a (new) family with his/her SPOUSE!
Apron strings must be cut, and 'children' must grow up.
What's up with a mother missing her child's big day? He's going to marry her anyway. You may as well be there to support your CHILD--even if you don't support his decision.
Usher's mama is no sexy, young prize. But I'm sure even SHE feels entitled to love and marriage despite having two boys, a grandchild, and a past.
I think he wanted to do right by Tameka because he got her pregnant but if you watch his face when he refers to Tameka in interviews, he shows very little, if no excitment at all. I also heard that Tameka don't mind tellin' Ms. Jonetta Patton off. If Usher is standing back and lettin' that heffa tell his mother off, then that is something that he will pay for sooner or later.... that ain't right. You might be a grown man and married but you STILL owe ya momma the utmost respect... and you need ya tail whipped if you lettin anyone stand up a direspect ya mother homeboy!
and that's exactly why usher will not have success from this point no matter how hard he tries. It will be mediocre compared to his other successes. I for one will never be a fan of his again. I hope he's happy with that ugly as f/u/c/k man he married; she is one ugly a/s/s loose coochie whore. I have absolutely no respect and no love for this lemon-headed b/as/t/ar/d! He chose that THING over his mama, and when he was with his mama and her being his manager, he was at the height of his success. I'll bet that damn baby is probably ugly, that's why the still hiding it's face, usher is ugly and so is that she-grease monkey he married. He's not hiding that baby cause people are begging to see it, nobody offering him money to see that child, he's not michael jackson even though the bi/t/ch wish he was. Usher is an absolutely fat headed idiot. And i think Usher's gay, and tameka either is a hermaphadite, or she wears a strap on and f/u/ck/s him in the a/s/s, nasty ni/gg/a.
What i have a hard time understanding is this... Tameka Foster was ALREADY MARRIED WITH CHILDREN when she started messing around with Usher... And then she just up and leaves her ENTIRE FAMILY for a man who just so happens to be one of the most famous R&B singers on earth... NOBODY can't sit here and tell me that money didn't motivate her decision.
Alot of people on this post is missing the point. Usher's mother gave him life. What's bothering his mother isn't the fact that he got married... That doesn't bother her at all...It's the woman that he chose... Not all woman have baggage (Im one of them, Im 24 with no children, thank god), And there are alot of women that have their head on straight.
My younger brother is NBA bound... You really think me and my mother is gonna let some woman that's 15-20 years older than he is with 4 kids try to tie him up in something like this?? Are you crazy?? That right there screams "Gold Digger". Alot of women on this post is saying their happy that Usher choose his wife over his mother.. Well ok, that's fine. But put yourself in his mother's shoes and re evaluate your opinion.
I have to disagree about the comments of him being foolish not choosing his mom. His parent is his parent! Grown children have there own personal affairs and for a parent to say choose me or your spouse is very childish. Of coarse any good parent will always be around for there child while they are married or not and I think to doom someone's marriage is childish as well. I'm sure that if friend's or family said this about your relationship you would'nt like it. I think what he did was called HAVING A BACK BONE and not letting his mom run his life. I know a guy that's in his 40's and his mom is always in his love life and she feel's that any woman he see's is not good enough as one of his ex's which happens to be her favorite. See what I mean? The only advice I give him is to tell his mom to back off. I have a female friend and she goes through it with her mom as well.Parents need to back off and let there chidren live.
ANWAY...the couples I like to see are:
1. T.I & Tiny 2. Ush & Tameka 3. Will & Jada 4. J & B
The couples I CAN'T STAND TO SEE are:
1. Ugly ass DRO & Fantasia ( Fantasia should have been with Jammie Fox)
2. Diddy & whoever he's with 3. Reggie Bush & KK
The people/shows I just don't give a fock about:
1. Ray J 2. Flav of Love 3. Danity whatever/ Day 26 focking...whatever 4. Nick Cannon 5. Bow Wow
ANYWAY...the couples I like to see are:
1. T.I & Tiny 2. Ush & Tameka 3. Will & Jada 4. J & B
The couples I CAN'T STAND TO SEE are:
1. Ugly ass DRO & Fantasia ( Fantasia should have been with Jammie Fox)
2. Diddy & whoever he's with 3. Reggie Bush & KK
The people/shows I just don't give a fock about:
1. Ray J 2. Flav of Love 3. Danity whatever/ Day 26 focking...whatever 4. Nick Cannon 5. Bow Wow
If I was messing with a younger fella & had kids already I definitely would be more privy when it comes to contraception. I mean if I already had kids it would not happen unless I did it on PURPOSE!!! Not saying this is the case with Tameka but cmon she probably felt insecure and felt she could not keep him on her own merit so she bore him a child, just to secure her place in his life. As for his mom, being the spoilt diva Usher is why is everyone so shocked he treated her this way? Anyway at least it was Usher & not one of the cuter ones like Chris Brown.
I get so sick of black folks talking about people hatin on Tameka because she's black. lol You sound so damn stupid. I'm sure women who like Usher would hate on any woman and furthermore Tameka uses that sh!t as an excuse because she's insecure in her own skin. I'm darker than she is and I still don't like her because what sorry azz mother would leave her kids the way she did?
It's God first dumbazz!
Usher did the same thing Beyonce just did. She had to take a stand against her father with this one. Matthew was not for that union either but because they have this unified front he hand to show up. I'm sure Matthew is somewhere wishing he had put a little more time in with the other girls cause Jayz just took his spot. He just got bought out.
Mayne f^ck Usher and f^ck what you'll saying. Talking about oh he supposed to chose his wife, he wasn't supposed to choose his mom. WTF? I don't know how you'll live but I know how I live. I ain't marrying nobody that poses a threat to my mom. His mom had to take a restraining order out on Manmeka. No man comes before my mother. A threat to my mother is a threat to me and I don't play that $hit down for NO ONE.
I can understand where he's coming from far as making a choice from the heart, but you don't never put nobody before your mother. This woman gave you birth, led you through your entire career, never deceived you, nor stole from you and this is the thanks she gets. Had that been me, I think me and my guy would only still be dating.
I feel Like Usher did right. His mom cannot tell him who he can be with and not only that but if if were vice versa. Usher definately wouldn't have any say over who his mom could be with so, she should stand by her son's decision whether if it's right or wrong and accept it and be there for him. She needs to be a mother and be supportive.
It would have been different if his mother knew he was not ready to settle down and she wanted to protect her son but other than that she should have been supportive bottom line. Love you Usher
Ms Foxy is right!!! Will everyone tell it like it is! Tameka is ugly and has attitude problems! She left her family to be with Usher! (What gold digger wouldn’t) Nobody is Jealous of her. (for what) I am beautiful and happy so I am not hating and no one else is for being annoyed by his decision to marry her. Even their friends were reluctant (do your research!) She went to jail for writing bad checks! (WoW what a role model) Usher dissapointed his fans by chosing that thing and his own momma didn’t go to the wedding and that says alot.
