: MediaTakeOut.com just learned that soul singer Erykah Badu is on the market again. After having her THIRD child from her THIRD baby's father (all of whom are rappers BTW), Erykah has decided on the single life.
That's right y'all, Erykah and her latest baby father Jay Electronica have officially called it quits. Erykah is now raising three children (the youngest of which is 2 months) as a single mother.
We know things happen ... but three times Erykah????
I hope she doesn't get a pass. If this was any other woman from the hood, who wasn't famous or as well known as Erykah, she would be slatted and called a bottom feeding dirty hood rat.
Granted, from what she expresses in her music and in her interviews, she seems like a reasonably intelligent woman, but 3 kids by three different fathers out of wedlock? No excuse what so ever. I can't respect a woman like that.
I wonder if she enjoys playing with stones in her glass house. Hoodrat personified.
I had to open up an account just to say something about this....
Ok....granted birth control is definitely something that needs to be taken advantage of ...BY A LOT OF PEOPLE that just seem to forget that it exists....
but
there is no reason that a woman should be forced to stay with a man because she has a baby with him.... ok..she broke it off with a 3rd guy...that just happened to be the father of her 3rd child.... but how the heck does that make her a hood rat? We don't know what went on in their relationship....we don't know if their relationship was a healthy one....or one that the children should even be exposed to....
And because she made up her mind to stop something that may not have been going anywhere, she is a hood rat?
I am completely against people getting pregnant every five seconds... and against having children out of wedlock.... but crap happens. ... you take what you have been given,and you move on to bigger and better things. Does this make her a hoodrat? No. It makes her human.
I can't understand people saying 'it's her choice, she has the money' blah blah. Granted, all of the above are true, having said that though, any respect I had for this woman has now gone.
She was one of my favourite artists because she defied the stereotype of a black woman in America. She preached about afro-centricism in her music, the need for unity etc.
It's not a matter of whether or not she should stay with her partner because they have a child together, it's a matter of birth control, not having children out of wedlock, an issue that plights our community way too often.
She's a hoodrat, plain an simple. It'll be hard to look at her in the same way again.
One child is understandable, two is questionable BUT THREE out of wedlock? Nuh uh, I ain't buying it. She's not a freespirit or any other crap her fans will come out with to defend her. She's proven no matter how much money, fame or status you may have, a hoodrat is a hoodrat.
Like I said, she should rename herself 'kettle' for obvious reasons.
she better be happy kids is all she got! STds are no Joke miss badu! lets start using condoms! and MTO u are right just casue she got money dont mean nothing she a hood rat... she personafies hood rat... u already know every man in the hood claim to be an up and comming rapper and she had babies by each one but we only really heard Andre's songs... keep messing around she will be on maury
This makes you think that it has to be HER as to why she continues to have babies and then ends up single. My sister did the same thing..I won't call Ms. Badu a hood rat, but a woman who maybe needs to step back and do some soul searching as why she is continuing a vicious cycle. It is not fair to her nor her children. :(
I really liked her music and her style when she dropped her first CD but now forget it. She needs to get her life together.
I am sure I am stepping on toes because some of the people posting here are in the same situation but three children by three different men it's tacky! She needs to get a grip!
We are not living in the 18th century birth control is available anywhere and everywhere!
TRUTH!
@Handsome Stallion You are correct. Truth may sting or hurt, but there is an order to things. Any single parents on this thread? You tell me, how hard it is to raise a child? Even if the father swings by everyday, he chooses that. How old is this baby? Bottles or breast means getting up to feed on demand, change diapers, etc. What if the baby is colicky? I won't declare her a "hoodrat" but she certainly knows better.
I wonder if the comments would be different if it were a regular chick who was pushing out babies by different men.....but who could also take care of them financially being a single mother?
I doubt it. She would probably be called all types of names.
But because it Erykah Badu we should play nice and say "who cares". Nah, [EXPLETIVE] that. Her actions are making her seem like a true bird.
This happens in hoods all day everyday, and those b*tches are birds too. I dont care if you have albums under your belt or your music is about socially-conscious rhetoric....you are acting like a whore. All your kids have 3 different fathers. What do you guys call these females on your hoods?
Okay then.
I mean, I know mistakes happen. Normally, once and then you learn from them. But if you find that you keep running into men who are not on your level......maybe, just MAYBE you should hold off on giving him the p*ssy. And by the way things are looking for her.....hold off on giving him the p*ssy without a condom.
This goes for regular females too......
WHO ARE WE TO JUDGE HER ??????
Aint none of yall laid down with Erika or that JAY ELECTRONICA dude so for all you know he could have been a real jerk.
People trip me out on this site sometimes trying to be holier than thou when their own personal lives are just as fuked up as the people they pass judgment on.
Let Erika live her life the way she wants to .
Oh & MTO should be the last ones to pass moral judgment on anyone considering all of the scandalous sh!t that they post everyday.
first of all , for those who didn't know....Dre left Badu. 2nd of all, Badu is not a hood chick...just because she has 3 kids by 3 different men doesn't equate hood chick.
I noticed people in here are talking about she needs to get it together.That sister is a very conscious sister who has her [EXPLETIVE] together...Uhuru
Dayum, really?! Why it always seem like as soon as a couple have a baby, they break up?! I'm not gonna jude her for having 3 babies by 3 different men, that's her life and her business, but I don't know if she's considering tying her tubes or what, but hopefully she'll find the right man for her someday...
good_downsouth, MielzGyal, well said. I'm glad you two see what I'm saying.
It's not a question of whether or not you can provide financially for her children. I doubt that question was ever disputed.
The point is (and I direct this especially at BIGDADDYMIX) when she chose to put her music out their to the public, she allowed herself to be subject to public scrutiny.
This is the same woman who 'apparently' doesn't condone the hoodrat mentality, but this is exactly what she is doing. I'm not saying she is/will be a bad mother, that I do not know and cannot answer.
What I am saying though, there is a generation of single mothers and I hoped she would set an example of a strong black family that she likes to preach.
Alas though, she has THREE children out of wedlock. THREE?! I mean come on, if this was anyone other woman, the words 'hoodrat' and 'skank' would frequent this thread. Why should she get a pass?
Like I said, once she put herself out there in the public mainstream, she was aware she would be subject to public scrutiny.
SHE NEEDS TO CALL TYRONE TO TAKE HER TO PLANNED PARENTHOOD SO SHE CAN STOP HAVING CHILDREN THAT'S PROBABLY GONNA SUFFER IN THE LONG RUN. THINK ABOUT YOUR KIDS AND HOW MANY MEN THEY HAVE TO GO THROUGH BEFORE THEY CAN SEE ONE STICK AROUND LONG ENOUGH TO FEEL LIKE THEY CAN CALL HIM DADDY.I KNOW THEY HAVE THEIR OWN FATHER BUT ONE NEED TO STICK AROUND TO BE CALLED DADDY. YEAH I THINK YOU DO NEED TO GET IT TOGETHER ERYKAH. SET AN EXAMPLE AND DON'T WONDER IF YOUR DAUGHTER GROW UP DOING THE SAME THING.
Um, how do we know that Miss Africa can take care of her children?? We don't know what's in her bank account. Just because she sold some records 12 years ago, don't mean that she's still rolling in that dough.
Truth is, she is on her 3rd baby daddy. We don't know why any of the relationships ended. We can't say "she's a strong woman and walked away from a bad situation"....We don't know the situation! He could've walked away. She's on a road that doesn't look good or bright. It's not like she's making hit music anymore; she could possibly be looking for child support and a bridgecard pretty soon.
Maybe she should concentrate on making music instead of making babies with every rapper she hooks up with. I bet Common is glad he dodged that bullet!
@Handsome Stallion:
You're right...its not just about whether or not you can provide financially for the children. Since when does money raise a child? It helps only to provide neccessities for your child in order to nurture them. Thats it.
Children NEED fathers. Period.
Now, I'm not judging her personal relationships with these men because in all fairness these men could have been a**holes. And we ladies know all too well those stories. BUT....this is why you TAKE YOUR TIME TO GET TO KNOW SOMEONE.
Andn not just speaking on Ms. Badu. In "real life" females meet guys and they sleep with them WITHOUT knowing much about them. Sorry.....knowing only where they work, and what they drive doesnt equate to "knowing them". It's serious when you bring a man's child into this world. And its serious when he makes one with you.
Its not a game. These children are the ones that suffer because they either grow up not knowing their brothers or sisters. They grow up not knowing who their father is and they are already born into the world lost. So......money will make this up?
And yes, it is a hoodrat mentality to keep pushing out babies when you cannot afford to take care of the ones you already have. Because if you could, Section 8 wouldnt be paying ANY portion of your rent or mortgage, and you would be buying your OWN groceries; not getting a voucher.
I wish her well, but after this, I truly hope that she is "conscious" of the next man that comes into her life and maybe instead of the green light.....it will be on yellow for a little while.
Caution.
She should wait till she is married before she and her new dude deside to have a baby. Now all her kids has diffrent fathers. Just because you think your in love dosen't mean you let him slide in you and do as he please, USE BIRTH CONTROL! because this will happen again with the next man in her life...
HandsomeStallion
So I guess in your eyes every women that has a child by a man AND GETS LEFT BY THAT MAN is a HOODRAT right??
Because Erika's 1st two baby's fathers left her she didnt leave them.
But hey you have already passed jugment on her so i cxant change your mind.
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Nope, a woman who is stupid enough to a) Not take the necessary precautions to not pregnant out of wedlock, b) to do it three times is a hoodrat to me.
I understand there are those in relationships who may believe that they will be together with kids for a long time, but marriage in my opinion is necessity if you're going to involve kids. I wouldn't say those who have a child out of wedlock are hoodrats... it's the fact she has THREE and has yet to marry any of them.
I never said the men in her relationship are not at fault either, but as a woman, she has the final decision on who has access to her body, when they have access and how.
Plain and simple, whatever way you want to dress it up, she's a hoodrat.
And yes, she chose to put herself in the spotlight and preach this black family unity stuff, yet she cannot lead by example? It's my job to ride her hypocrisy like a vietcong whore. So I will judge.
And to the people who are stating that..."its her business how many kids she has" shouldnt have had any negative comment about Octo-Mom.
You know.
The woman who chose to have 8 kids on top of the kids that she already had. I mean....she's a single mother too.
And again, its none of our business how many kids SHE either, right?
Most of you "stick" with your babies daddies (that are not helping with raising them) because you don't have the ambition, education OR money to leave and provide a STABLE ENVIRONMENT. Then you turn around and have another baby by another man thinking you've landed some security from his income and the fact you have a man (bragging purposes only. THAT MAKES YOU A HOODRAT
good_downsouth, I've read your posts in the past. You're a shining example of a strong black woman. I'm not trying to put down Badu, I'm just calling her out on her hypocrisy.
I myself am in a long term relationship, but me and my S/O have already discussed that we will not have kids until we get married. It is a decision we made together. Others choose not to and that's their business, but I'm only calling out Badu because a) She's in the spotlight. b). I assumed she wouldn't be a hypocrite in this way.
But she has proven me wrong, unfortunately.
I don't think Erykah is a hood rat. But I do think that people who live in the spot light and even those who do not have a responsibility to the community at large. It is important to teach young girls not to have unprotected sex. Black women are being diagnosed with the HIV at very high numbers. USA has the highest rate of teen pregnancy in all of the industrialized world and this statistic is very high for black teens. All you strong black women who believe you can raise children without a father thats cute but not true. Children need fathers. Children need two committed and dedicated parents. A women can not teach a boy to be a man. A girl learns how a man should behave by knowing the first man in her life, her father. Its that simple. If this bond is not made, a women can spend her life searching going from man to man. A man can spend his life disrespecting women and community if he lacks a strong male role model. (ie, Gangs, one man 6 babys mommas ect.....). There is nothing wrong with a married black family if that can be done. The family is the bases of any good community and any good nation. We must do better.
She is a psycho chick. And she is a immoral skeezer. These ho's don't think about what they are going to tell their children when they ask the question 'Mommy howcome we don't have the same daddies?'. And what happened to them where are they? I would be ashamed to inadvertantly tell my children that I'm a whore and let any man run up in me raw dog. Who knows how many other men she let up raw dog in that snatch of hers. I don't care from the hood to Hollywood, women like that are unscrupulous whores.
@MielzGyal
Hey Ma!!! Yeah I missed you yesterday...I had to cut out too. *SMDH*
send me some contact info pronto...lol do you have a Gmail? we have a lot to build on.
@topic DING DING DING... ROUND THREE!
Im gonna say this...She as many other women in the world maybe have some deep seated issues that they may need to come to terms with I don't know. Hell, we all do in the end. Personally I knew that her and Jay wouldn't last...on the strength of who he is. I think she said in her note that she has a different view on "institutional" marriage and that is her right, so does Angelina and Brad and so many others. She and she alone has to deal with her decisions she has made and obviously she has made a decision to do this alone and take responsibility for HER actions. She may have to reevaluate her choices in men and most of all herself. So I won't get off too deep today because we all know that we do not distribute the same judgment across the board when it comes to this issue. But everyone has their opinion and some good points whether you are for or against it.
My main issue as it stands with any woman in this place is get yourself together for the sake of those babies. and this woman as with all mothers need our loving support raising these children so do the fathers. Married or not. Even if we gotta get in your ass every now and again we have to do it out of love. Anyone can tear down but can you BUILD?
Those children need love and support and that's the bottom line.
I have my personal feelings about this but, I won't make a judgment call because we will have to do this with Badu and all the other single/divorced mothers with multiple children of all races and creeds.
There is a deeper problem with the male/female relationship as we constantly see on this site. and we have to get to the bottom of that first.
And I don't have the time today.
when you have money, you dont have to suffer like an ordinary person who is single with 3 kids. thats why these celebs run around and have kids with different people, they dont care, theyre not going to face the normal scrutiny and consequence a non-celeb would face in that situation. shes not right in the head also. I dont know if its all the weed she smokes, the X she pops or if its all just an act so she can appear to be eccentric. at some point she has to stop the bs and behave like a responsible woman. she advocates for peace and love and being strong and proud, yet she wasnt proud when she gave birth to her second child. the media found out way after the fact and she has been so reluctant is naming the father. why is that? if youre proud of your decision to have multiple kids with multiple men, be proud all the way. dont show any shame. she needs to go on some good birth control and get back in the studio and make some good music.
@Bigdaddymix
I agree totally.
For the ones who are calling E.Badu a "hoodrat" some of ya'll hoes probably in the same damn boat or worse. Having children by different men is not different than not having kids at all & allowing men to dog you out on a daily basis. And its definitely no worse than sleeping with 3 different men @ the same time (as I am sure some of you hoes are) so leave Erykah alone.
Sweep around your own front doe 1st
lol. (yea i took it back with that one)!
3 strikes your out...LMAO someone told me thats how it is sometimes when it comes to men. The best thing for her to do is just focus on her kids and just live life. Real Life is realizing, that everyone wont have that happily ever after marriage with a picket fence house.... I've realized that and I'm only 27, if it happens cool, if it doesnt, cool....LOL
@good_downsouth:
Thats a good question! I myself, dont have any kids because I want to wait until I am married to have them. I believe in a strong family foundation because of what my parents instilled in me. They have been married for 30 years (and counting). Oh, what beautiful black love looks like!
My brother and his wife talk to me all the time about the certain stuggles even with both parents in the home, so what would make it easier for a single mother? Its not. Its 10x as hard. And I know this because I watch my friends stuggle and try to raise a 3 or 4 year old while working full-time (some are in school), then have to tend to the day-to-day duties of being a mother. I mean, it can be done, dont get me wrong. But why not make pre-determined decisions to at least try and avoid being in this scenario?
And if we are not creating these family foundations now, then the children who come from this environment will not have the opportunity to see what a marriage between man and woman consist of. Or even, having role models that around them that showcase this. It doesnt happen because our families are so broken.....and one of the reasons is this...."I dont need a man mentality" from women and "woman aint sh*t" mentality from men.
These thoughts come from people not taking time in feeling out a person, but feeling ON the person and then boom....here is a child. You never know how the person really is because you didnt let time reveal it. Then after the fact, when you have brought 1 or 2 kids in the world by him....then you have ill feelings when it essence, its your fault.
Now situations differ and you can have all kinds of scenarios. What I am speaking of is for the majority (not the exceptions...i.e, people who had good intentions but things sometimes dont work out). That happens.
I get to know men before I decide on whether to get serious with them, let alone sleep with them. You can find out alot about a person if you let time take its course and dont rush things. You can tell if you want someone to be the father of your kids, and can tell if they are good material to be so.
@Handsome Good luck to you and your significant other. For me, my husband has always been a hands on father. (we have 2 teens and one in elementary) They are respectful because they know to respect authority. They make good grades because it is their job Ours, is to love and provide for them. My daughter, being the oldest and in high school, has to overcome to dress like the others, avoid gangs, drugs, etc. But she knows to keep her "eyes on the prize" and has been accepted in the Honors Society. My husband & I are trying to be their role-models. The good book says to "train your kids" They may get off course sometimes, but they won't stray to far. all positive figures. Children often mimic our behavior.
Erykah might be a little off, but thats the burden of being enlightened when the rest of the world is as lost as a white bytch getting but implants & black broads getting botox. Thats what consciousness is faced up against, so sure you can't share what you know. So that makes life a little more challenging when bytches like the ones on this website all they do is judge but dont know anything outside of Homosexual ridden asss christianity, Zane books & 1 hour of 60+ credit hours within their degree.
Square bytches always talkin as if they're better when they either come from a permiscuous mother or either they are permiscuous or their own daughters will be so watch who you judge, pork chop useless women. On MTO all damn day & know nothing cultural nor conscious.
Erykah is too hardbody for the brothers she choose. She teaches ALL of them, they learn more from her. When she learns from men its in groups because one just aint enuff. I love my brothers but get out of the patriachal thinkin then it would be understood why she is just "too much". Her babies are more trained than the many on this message board collectively. But I gave the description for the dummies who prescribe to ignorance so we know why that is.
AND Andre 3000 don't count because he left her. He didnt need her teaching services anymore, wanted to move on and explore women. He was younger than her, understandable, but obviously it scorned her....
Common, D.O.C. and Jay...more than likely just like Dre? STUDENTS. But they respect her and I respect all of them for it.
Stay up Mother of Civilization (and the Brothers/Fathers)
PEACE!
@Miezl, my hubby & I have been married for 14 years, together 16. It's hard work molding children into good citizens. I've done volunteer work in the community with youth and I've had personal conversations and yes they do long for both parents to be involved. Alot of issues can be traced to childhood.
ITS 2009... AINT NOBODY GOT THE TIME OR ENERGY 2 B WASTING ON A NI**A THAT AINT ABOUT [EXPLETIVE]...WHEN UR ON THE OUTSIDE LOOKIN IN, ITZ EASY 4 1 2 MAKE ASSUMPTIONS, WHEN THEY DON'T KNOW THE/HER STORY...CARRY ON BADU...I DON'T BLAME HER ONE IOTA...NI**A JUST WASN'T ON HER LEVEL, THOUGHT HE WUZ & ENDED UP GETTIN LOST N THA SAUCE..OH WELL..SOME FOLKS JUST NEED 2 LEARN NOT 2 B SO HYPOCRITICAL...SHE DOESNT CONFORM 2 WHAT R SOCIETIES STANDARDS & THATS FINE!!INDIVIDUALITY IS COOL!!! WE R ALL SISTAS N THE STRUGGLE, WE R ALL 1 N THE SAME.... & WITH THAT BEING SAID...I LUV ALL OF U..(THIS IS MY GIRL 4 LYFE)
Wow its a darn shame that we as people still don't have it togehter in our Minds....
God loves us all, and Only he can Judge. So why you take the time to speak on Erykah's Personal life, remember that!
Now For years Black women have been having kids out of wedlock and by diffrent Men. Better they be brought into the world out of love then aborted, like some of you discraceful women must have done then to sit her and cast judement on the next.... Surely she loved each guy that touched her heart, and yes it may seem irresponsibe to bring children into the world, but what about these Men that promise you everything under the sun and don't deliver? And us as women we surely endure more than the weak mind of a Man, when we are fed up we are. So there you have it, her kids are taken care of the Men are in their lives so why is it any of your concern to post these negative comments agains your fellow sister. She not wrong for the choices SHE made. She is dealing with the consequences of her actions So Believe that what you say makes he no nevermind. Why waiste your time..... Go educate someone dont hate on them!
Later Lovelees!
Yall some haters! Why is she a hood-rat? She may be one of the best mothers out there and that's the point. If you don't know her personally - don't judge her as a mother. While you're posting hate you may want to holla at ya cousin who got 3 baby daddies, lives in the projects, doesn't work and spends all her money on LRG women's, Kush,m Newports, and ignores her kids while she posts hate about Erykah Badu on MTO : ). We can talk a lot of sh*t on MTO... but leave the mothers out of the loop.
@MielzGyal & HandsomeStallion High 5's to you both. People tickle me pink when getting indignant about someone having children with numerous daddies and ain't married 'nar one of them. I don't know what's wrong with taking time dating someone, courtship, engagement, marriage and then children. I guess that makes too much sense.
OH PLEASE!!!YALL KNOW YALL BOGUS. HOW IS IT HER FAULT THAT THOSE MEN DIDNT TURN OUT TO BE RIGHT FOR HER? EVERYONE KNOW THEY BEEN IN A RELATIONSHIP WHERE THEY FELT IT WOULD LAST FOREVER AND IT SIMPLY DIDNT. WELL ITS THE SAME THING IN THISE CASE EXCEPT SHE TOOK IT A STEP FURTHER AND DECIEDED TO BLESS A SWEET BABY WITH LIFE. YALL GET IT TOGETHER AND SHOW HER SOME RESPECT IM SURE SHE DIDNT SEE THIS LIFESTYLE COMING
THREE KIDS WITH THREE DIFFERENT DADDIES, HOW NASTY & SHITTY IS THAT,,,SNANK, SELFISH HOE! I HOPE THOSE KIDS GROW UP & KICK HER OLD AZZ! IAM SO TIRED OF CRAZY, SELFISH HOES TRYING TO BE A MOTHER! A MOTHER STARTS WITH HAVING SOME LOVE & RESPECT FOR YOURSELF! BITCHH GET SOME SISSORS & CLIP YOUR OWN TUBES!
@RighteousMadame-WHAT EXACTLY IS A 'SQUARE BITCH?' SOMEONE LIKE MYSELF WITH NO KIDS A JOB AND AN EDUCATION? HOW DO YOU KNOE ERYKAH IS ENLIGHTENED? MY FRIEND WENT TO GRAMBLING WITH HER AND SHE WAS WEAVED UP AND HOEING AROUND LIKE MANY REGULAR GIRLS DO, WHICH IS FUNNY BECAUSE COLLEGE IS USUALLY WHEN PEOPLE BECOME ENLIGHTENED. WHEN EXACTLY DID IT HAPPEN FOR HER, WHENSHE CHANGED THE SPELLING OF HER NAME. ALL THE STUFF SHE'S POPPIN I AND MY FRIENDS IN COLLEGE WERE TALKING ABOUT AT 18 AND 19 AND YOU CAN BET NONE OF US HAVE 3 OOW KIDS BY 3 DIFFERENT MEN. DOESN'T ENLIGHTENMENT INCLUDE RESPECT FOR ONE'S SELF? SHE DIDN'T EVEN CARE ENUFF AFTER THE FIRST CHILD TO USE PROTECTION JUST IN CASE SHE GOT SOMETHING OTHER THAN PREGNANT.(AND SINCE WHEN THE HELL IS THE DOC ANYTHING OTHER THAN GOOD LOOKING?)WHAT EXACTLY DID SHE TEACH THESE MEN EXCEPT HOW TO LEAVE?GOOD LUCK FINDING A MAN WHO WANTS ANYTHING OTHER THAN HER MONEY(IF SHE STILL HAS ANY) NOW. THERE ARE TOO MANY GIRLS WITH NICE ASSES WHO DON'T HAVE 3 KIDS BY 3 DIFFERENT MEN. AND LET'S BE TRUTHFUL, THAT GIRL HAS PROBABLY HAD A FEW DISEASES TOO. SHE DOES NOT MAKE THE BEST CHOICES IN MEN. COMMON WAS A GOOD ONE BUT THE REST WHATEVER. DRE BECAME A GOOD CHOICE 'AFTER' HE LEFT HER-IMHO.
OK, Maybe Hoodrat May sorta kinda be strong. BUT just because she has the money to take care of the kids doesn't mean she should
NO ONE SAID FOR HER TO STAY W? SOMEONE JUST BECAUSE SHE HAD A BABY FOR THEM
What we ARE saying is when you get in a relationship you learn each other, fall in love, and make moves. If you want to take it to the next level and get married and have kids then do that.
We, as black people, are having entirely too many kids outside of wedlock
Yeah she has money.. No she doesn't need to stay with anyone she's not happy...Yes, she can take of her kids... but do we need to have kids with all of them??
She's a very afro-centric talented lady. She sooo smart.
My thing is, we are taught by our history in this country, How are family unit was torn apart to the point that strinig male father figure was not there. Our strong black family units have been undermined sooo much. Its time we get back to that standard that we get our education, date ( but not necessary freak EVERYONE & IF WE ARE GOING TO FREAK EVERYONE, BE RESPONSIBLE AND GET RELIABLE BIRTH CONTROL) , Settle ..get married and have kids.
If marriage is not your "thing" then at least be in a long term committed relationship with someone and both you make the decision to bring a child into the world. ( LONG TERM MEANING LONGER THAN 3 MTHS OR EVEN 3 YRS)
I dont necessarily believe in the long term thing but I do know people that have been together as common law for 7, 10 yrs and they have families and committed.
We as a people have to get out of this crazy behavior, i mean come on people...
AND YES< I KNOW WHITE PEOPLE AND EVERY OTHER CULTURE OUT THERE HAS THE SAME THING GOING ON. BUT it doesn't make it right and it still doesn't need to be celebrated
The reason, she isn't committing is because she said herself, she did not want to be married or in her words she doesn't believe in belonging to someone. She doesn't want to be tied down or owned, and honestly I don't blame her. If you don't believe me, check out her essence magazine appearance from either 2007 or 2008
THAT'S THE PROBLEM WITH THE WORLD PEOPLE ARE DOING WHAT THEY SEE OTHER PEOPLE DO ESPECIALLY CELEBRITIES...I DON'T THINK NOONE ON THIS WEBSITE IS LIKE A MADONNA, CHRISTY BRINKLEY OR ANGELINA JOLIE AND ERIKA BADU DON'T HAVE FAT POCKETS HER DAMN SELF. YOU ARE ABUSING YOUR CHILDREN WHEN THIS IS WHAT THEY HAVE TO LOOK UP TO, NOTHING BUT TRASH! SUPPORT STOPPING CHILD ABUSE!
I think people should be allowed to run their own lives. While I don't agree to making babies w/diff folks...it's still her right to do it.
And to the people talking about why should she stay in a relationship w/a man she's not happy with...how about women and men just stop reproducing and take the time to learn about each other first before making some d@mn babies??? If she held out a little longer, she woulda found out that he wasn't the man for her and wouldn't have a baby in the mix. Now they're bonded for life. That's the problem w/people now days. They meet each other and within a few months or year of being together, start reproducing!! The people who are making an excuse for Erykah are probably sitting @ home w/a cpl kids themselves by diff folkz. It's a shame that something like that has desensitized (sp?) America. I still believe in holding out for kids until marriage...or atleast 2-3 years of having been w/that person!!! not after knowing them for 2 wks...
Erykah could never keep a man. Maybe she should try women next??
Wow,I remember reading the story of her having another baby with another man right here and I wrote then that it wouldn't last more than 6 months(check the archives). It's very sad to me considering my belief system but her morals and beliefs aren't the same obviously. BTW, it's NOT judgement when you point out and stand up for what you've read and taught and believe to be right. There's nothing wrong with letting people know that you believe her actions are wrong even though we all have sin in our lives. We need more people to stand up for what's right but it can be expressed in a nice way. I definitely wish her and her family the best but at the same time, she needs to get her life right in my humble opinion just as I'm striving to get mine right.
I don't agree on calling her a hood rat but this is a prime example of what and whom you think you know. I love her music and what she stands for but you don't knoiw a person until you live with them. So my point is that SHE can be the difficult one. Three baby daddys; seem like you could start looking at yourself instead of the men on some of the issues. I hope the children and their fathers have a relationship together.
I'm sorry sisters but Erykah need to be shot for this one. She ought to KNOW by now NOT to fool with RapPERs. Most of them led lifestyles of debauchery, fornication, adultery, and partying 24/7. She already know the deal, so why FOOL with not the second but THIRD rap artist?! It makes no sense. Now she husbandless, manless and got three different baby daddies. I'm sorry but she need a sticking for this. I'm not even going to blame the men for this one.
LOL at the holier than thou muh fukkaz talking [EXPLETIVE]!! she got more bank than you *itches. yes, 3 different fathers is too much but she's not the first and i doubt she'll be the last. she's not poverty stricken and i'm sure that her kids are more than comfortable so as long as they aren't suffering and she's being the BEST mother and woman she can be then why the *uk is it such a big deal to you losers?
YEAH LIVE YOUR LIFE HOES BUT KEEP INNOCENT CHILDREN OUT OF IT THAT DESERVES ONE LOVING MOTHER & ONE LOVING FATHER OR A COUPLE THAT IS TRYING TO BE ONE LOVING MOTHER & ONE LOVING FATHER! STOP REPRODUCING SELFISH HOES! YOU ARE NOT MOTHERLY! SUPPORT STOPPING CHILD ABUSE! WEAR CONDOMS & GET YOUR TUBES TIED! & THE HOES OUT THERE WHO ARE HAVING CHILDREN IN ORDER TO COLLECT A CHECK-THE REAL PAYDAY IS COMING FOR YOUR AZZ!
JUST BECAUSE YOU WENT TO COLLEGE DON'T MEAN [EXPLETIVE], THERE ARE TOO MANY EDUCATED FOOLS WALKING AROUND! AND TODAY, THEY ARE GIVING ANYBODY & EVERYBODY A DEGREE ESPECIALLY THIS ONLINE EDUCATION CRAP! THERE ARE MUTHERFUCKEERS THAT CAN'T SPELL FIRST GRADE AS LONG AS THEY HAND OVER THE CASH! YOU CAN'T BUY COMMON SENSE & SELF RESPECT! THAT'S PRICELESS!
I'm not defending E.Badu but some of yall are taking this way too serious and none of us know this woman and her situation personally. But what we do know is these are not "domino" babies...meaning they didnt come right after ea. other. She was with each man for several years in serious relationships that happened to produce children. We know Dre and DOC have the utmost respect for her still to this day and they take care of their kids! There are no absent dead beat dads in her life. We know she makes more money than any of us do therefore, she's not on welfare using our tax dollars to care for her kids. Until those kids end up on Celebrity Rehab with Dr. Dru telling the world their childhoods were miserable b/c they all had different daddy's, be easy people. Stop being so judgemental. None of this affects us. And quite frankly, its none of our business.
Love her music and style but for this to happen a 3rd time she must be doing it on purpose. Maybe she only wants children and not interested in a relationship. Just because she's rich doesn't make her decisions any better than the poorer women who do this, the only difference is she can afford to take care of the kids but to me it still isn't right.
@V105- It's not a question of being holier than thou. It's a question of those kids and their future. It's not a good look for them. Three different baby daddies and she's never been married to any of them?! I'm sorry it makes Erykah look like a loose woman who doesnt have a lick of sense, self-respect, or self-esteem. I feel bad for her.
Of course she should let someone go if they are mistreating her. But she should have investigated the character traits of her mate(s) before giving birth. People make mistakes, and usually learn from them. Ms. Badu is acting as ignorant, which is typical hoodrat behavior. Money is great, but isn't a replacement for having two loving parents in the home. She needs to stop having babies by Tyrone(s).
ALL I HAVE TO ASK IS WHY DO WE JUDGE? OTHER THAN MUSIC NONE OF US CAN SAY THAT WE KNOW HER PERSONALLY. IT KILLS ME THAT PEOPLE ARE SO QUICK TO SAY WHAT THEY WILL AND WON'T DO. I THINK THAT SHE IS A STRONGER WOMAN FOR NOT STAYING IN SOMETHING THAT COULD BE UNHEALTHY, JUST BECAUSE THEY HAVE A CHILD TOGETHER. AND WHY IS THE WOMAN TO BLAME? SHE DID NOT MAKE THE CHILDREN BY HERSELF. AND IF THE MEN ARE STEPPING UP AND DOING THERE PART WITH THEIR CHILDREN THEN THAT IS ALL THAT MATTERS. SO IS IT BETTER TO HAVE THREE KIDS BY THE SAME MAN AND HE IS A WOMAN BEATER AND CHEATER?, OR TO HAVE KIDS BY DIFFERENT MEN AND THEY ARE GREAT FATHERS? THE MORAL OF THIS STORY IS THAT WE DO NOT LIVE IN HER HOUSEHOLD, AND I PROMISE HALF OF YOU WHO ARE JUDGING HER ARE THE SAME ONES WHOS MEN ARE DOGGING YOU OUT, BUT YOU STAY WHY, BECAUSE YOU LOVE HIM. OR GOING OUT ON THE WEEKENDS AND SLEEPING WITH DIFFERENT MEN AND NOT KNOWING JACK ABOUT HIM, BUT I GUESS THAT'S BEING LIBERATED. PLEASE STOP! AND UNTIL WE ARE IN HER SITUATION THEN WE SHOULD NOT HAVE NOTHING NEGATIVE TO SAY. WE ARE A SAD GROUP OF PEOPLE. ONLY GOD CAN JUDGE HER. NEGATIVE WORDS EQUALS A NEGATIVE LIFE. LEAVE THAT ISH ALONE!
I never said Erykah was rich, I said she has money. Im sure shes living comfortably. thats why she doesnt feel the pressure of consequences that a regular person would feel. she may not have mansions and Bentleys and servants, but Im sure she has a nice home and decent ride and a nanny to help her out. Plus Andre 3000 has tons of money and you know hes giving her a good cut of child support. these celebs get very comfortable living non traditional lives and feel that they are above the common folk, so they live their lives without worries of consequence. if I had 3 babbies daddies, I would be the disgrace of my family and comminity. if she has 3 babbies daddies, its not a big deal because shes a star, has money and her family friends and community all praise her for being a celeb. they will accept her with 10 babbies daddies because shes Erykah Badu. if she was your cousin Kiki, you would be talking a lotta sh*t about her popping out kids from different men. but if shes your cousin Erykah Badu, all you wanna know is when you can get some concert tickets, when you can meet Andree 3000 and can your friends get some autographs. we give Celebs passes all the time and its not right. their mistakes shouldnt be excused
Hmmmm...let me see...
...with so many white women out here gettin' married, gettin' pregnant...and getting divorced...and repeating the cycle many times...we wanna clown Erykah.
I understand both sides of the argument...she could make better decisions. She could choose to wait until she get's married...yeah, she definately could. I agree with this reasoning totally...she has some issues. Money isn't the all answer here...both parents should be involved...so her money isn't a question, she could probably have 9 babies and be alright.
Now...I don't hear this much comotion when it's one of those old ass white women who had 9 husbands, 6 kids, and 8 divorces...that's just as bad, even worse. So far as ghetto...I don't know Ms. Badu personally, but from what i've seen...she's not "ghetto"...whatever YOUR definition of that is. She's conscious, and intelligent...and makes better music, IMO, than Beyonce. This woman is DEEP...I hope she does find the King that is compatible with her...seems like that is what she's really struggling with.
No excuses...just my 2 cents.
@Tasha Fierce
You said:: "TS 2009... AINT NOBODY GOT THE TIME OR ENERGY 2 B WASTING ON A NI**A THAT AINT ABOUT [EXPLETIVE]."
And I s[SPAM][SPAM]oooooo agree with you.. nad with a lot of other posters on this blog BUT
Can't she do this WITHOUT bringing another life into the realtionship??
Why can't we chill with someone, kick it and see if we like them .. if you choose to sleep with them that your call too!! OK, you were 2gether and he "wasn't on her level" but you have a kid by him? And yes, many people have been in that relationship that you knew would last 4ever, but the decision to bring a life in this world should be taken seriously.
WHY??? I dont have anything against single moms or dads, I grew up in a single parent home.
No one has anything against her
No one is saying stay in a "bad relationship"
No one says she can't make mistakes
And your right she's grown and can do what she wants but we got to start loving each other enough to grab some and hug and say stop.
This is more that she's grown enough to do it. This is something deeper than than.
@gigi2007- Well said gigi ^^. If Erykah was a "common" everyday working woman, she'd be called every "hoe", "trick" in the book. However her popularity, fame, and money allows her to be in a position to live a comfortable lifstyle with her three children. I don't care who she is, the fact remains as it is: She got three kids by THREE DIFFERENT men and NONE of them WIFED her up. This doesn't look good nor is it socially acceptable. It makes her look loose (I'm not saying she's a loose woman) but its a bad look for her.
WHY WE AS BLACK PEOPLE ARE SO HARD ON EACHOTHER? THE WHITE PEOPLE CAN JUST SIT BACK AND LAUGH AT US, BECAUSE WE ARE DOING THERE JOB FOR THEM AND WITH EASE. THIS IS SO SAD THAT WE WILL GO THROUGH GRAVE LENGHTS TO TEAR OUR OWN PEOPL DOWN, JUST TO FEEL BETTER ABOUT OURSELVES I GUESS. I LOVE BEING BLACK, BUT I AM SADDENED WE HATE OURSELVES AS MUCH. WE ARE WILLING TO KILL, STEAL, AND HURT ONE ANOTHER, AND FOR WHAT? BLACK PEOPLE: THE NEW KKK! YEAH I SAID IT. OTHER RACES STICK TOGETHER, BUT NOT US.
ANGELINA IS WITH THE FATHER OF HER KIDS(ALL 3 OF WHOM HAVE THE SAME FATHER). BUT I DON'T CARE ABOUT HER OR OCTOMOM(WHO I THINK IS INSANE,BUT ALL THE KIDS HAVE THE SAME DONOR,BTW), I CARE ABOUT MY PEOPLE. ERYKAH IS A PISS POOR REPRESENTATIVE OF BLACK WOMEN.
WHY BRING A NON-BLACK WOMAN INTO THE CONVO? AMERICA CONSIDERS US THE LOWEST RUNG ON THE LADDER SO FAMOUS BLACKS NEED TO KEEP IT TOGETHER! STOP DEFENDING HER ASS JUST BECAUSE YOU MADE THE SAME DAMN MISTAKE. I'M SURE MOST OF YOU SINGLE MOTHERS THOUGHT OR HOPED THE MAN WOULD STAY WITH YOU(UNLESS YOU'RE TRULY A SKANK WHO HAD KIDS FOR A PAYCHECK).
I DON'T CONDONE THIS MESSED UP BEHAIVIOR WITH ANY BLACK MAN OR WOMAN. I DON'T HAVE A PROBLEM WITH PEOPLE SCREWING EVERYONE THEY SEE AS LONG AS THEY PROTECT THEMSELVES AND KEEP KIDS OUT OF IT. THAT'S THE WHOLE POINT. HOW THE HELL WILL HER BOYS EVER RESPECT A BLACK WOMAN! A NEW MAN EVERY TIME THEY TURN AROUND AND HERE COMES ANOTHER DAMN BABY. HER YOUNGEST IS 2 MONTHS! THAT MAN DIDN'T EVEN STICK AOUND TO SEE THE BABY SIT UP ON IT'S ON. I THINK ERICA IS OFF AND MEN RUN FROM HER ASS(SHE'S PROBABLY GOOD IN BED, THOUGH).
I see people are saying the relationship with these men didn't work out. I just wonder did she know that (and all women who do this more than once)before she had sex with him probably multiple times without a condom or birth control pills. I always wonder if someone is not a good person for a relationship (especially marriage) why is that person good enough to create a human being with?
@BLackgold- We talking about Erykah NOT white women and besides I don't know too many white women who have different baby daddies and if they are any, they hella sneaky with it because you don't hear about it. Most white people value traditional family and family roles and manage to keep their families in tact. This is not to say that they remain faithful in their marriage, but the white men seldomly gets divorced from his wife if she were to bith his 3 to 4 kids. He might hate her guts but due to their committment to family values, the white family doesn't divorce too often.
...that whole mother earth, conscious black female who knows her worth....commited to the growth of the community, uplifting of brothers and siters, family etc...blah, blah blah....she's just "REGULAR"
Sorry if this offends anyone...just my opinion!
Sidebar: I wish I would allow 3 men to use me as a vehicle to claim me as a "baby mama"....I'd smack the shyt out of my damn self!!
Erica, (oops..that would be a normal spelling) is someone who mto gives much credibility to. Why? Beats me? Ummm just in case yall didn't know, if you are not married.....you are a single! Single + children = single parent. Erica (oops there I go again), is conscious? Of what? Child development? She is a ignorant, crazy, chick that always trys to put a "deep" spin on being a rat.
Erykah Badu is a 5 percenter and rocks an ankh, not to mention other Egyptian idols/Art!
She THINKS she's a GODdess.
So, with that being said, she could care less about marriage or how ever many baby fathers she has, which is a CLEAR indication that something is innately wrong here.
Self-righteous folk do what THEY want, whether it pleases GOD or not!! PRIDE is the focus here.
I'm gonna roll with MielzGyal & HandsomeStallion.
However, I don't think "hood-rat" is befitting of Ms. Badu or any woman. If you KNOW a "hood-rat", then talk to her, tell her different, pray for her, but don't label her and NOT do anything to help change the perception she has on life. Alot of women can't SEE past their issues, so if YOU feel you have your head on straight and are BEARING GOOD FRUIT, approach her correct, and she'll take heed.
It's Erykah's responsibility to restrain herself from negative energy (bad men). I'm surprised that someone who is always on that SPIRITUAL tip isn't more careful about the forces/energies she passes onto her children and herself.
WHY ARE THESE MEN LEAVING HER? Are they unequally yoked? Did she CHANGE after the babies were born? What is it?
@Guessjeans I agree with you 100%. White women should have never been brought into the conversation. They are not perfect, but they do do things different. They usually start with a marriage. Which is a good foundation to start a family with. They may not stay together forever, but at least their children had the benefit of having a fther figure in the HOME for their formalitive years.
HEY ZEXY! THESE MEN ARE AT FAULT TOO, BUT SERIOUSLY I THINK SHE RUNS THEM OFF. MEN SHOULD ALSO MAKE SURE NO DAMN BABY IS CONCEIVED UNTIL THEY KNOW THEY WANT TO HAVE A LIFE WITH THIS PERSON. BUT THE THING IS, WOMEN HAVE TO CHOOSE WISELY.
WHEN IT COMES TO SEX, MEN VERY OFTEN DON'T USE THEIR BRAINS(YOU KNOW IT'S TRUE), SO WOMEN HAVE TO STEP UP AND SAY, NO RING NO BABY. I THINK IT'S UP TO ADULTS TO TRY TO MAKE A RELATIONSHIP WORK BEFORE BRINGING ANOTHER PARTY INTO IT. THIS BABY HAS BARELY BEEN BORN AND THEY'RE OVER? WHY DIDN'T SHE WAIT AND USE SOME PROTECTION? I SEEM TO BE THE ONLY WOMEN ON THE EARTH ANYMORE WHO MAKES MEN USE CONDOMS SO I DON'T EVEN PUT THAT IN THE EQUATION.
DON'T THINK I'M NOT PRO-WOMAN, ZEXY, I AM, BUT WHEN WOMEN MAKE BAD CHOICES, THEN PUT A BABY IN THE MIX, WHO'S LEFT TO RAISE IT? TODAY WOMEN ARE LUCKY IF THEY EVEN GET CHILD SUPPORT. I THINK WOMEN SHOULD BE SMARTER AND FROM THE WAY SHE TALKS, YOU'D THINK ERYKAH WOULD BE SMARTER TOO.
2tastysista- You're right. White families understand the value of sticking it out for the children's sake. Black folks are so STUCK onto the self-gratifying things of NOW, TODAY. We never think or prepare for the TOMORROW or the FUTURE. This is why we continue to fall behind in these competitive times.
@BLKGOLD
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@Tastysista Madonna's 1st BABY DADDY was her Gay backup dancer. she had kids with Guy and adopted David.. now divorce...
so she is a SINGLE mother just like Badu.
and many others...from every socioeconomic position. Like I said before...everyone has an OPINION and I respect that. I have my various opinions on this subject too.
If you read my first post I stated that BADU has do deal with her OWN issues that maybe unbeknown to us. All mothers and fathers...whatever race or creed married or not needs loving support because they have a responsibility to these babies FIRST because in the end it's about the children and supporting them to make the right decisions even if WE HAVE FAILED. I will withold my personal judgment because we don't display the same judgment across the board THAT IS WHY I REFERRED YOU TO THE MADONNA THREAD IN THE FIRST PLACE so you can peep both sides OF THE DOUBLE STANDARD.
BTW...SHOULDNT YALL BE IN CHURCH THIS SUNDAY MORNING/AFTERNOON?
I see a few Black people got that white complex...LOL.
Tell me something...even with all of these "institutionalized marriages"...why do their kids STAY doing some crazy shyt?
I don't give a DAMN what institution you have...if it ain't real, it will come through.
You mean to tell me that ALL of the different fathers, whether boyfriend or husband, walking through the "turnstyle" doesn't have an effect??
You Black folk are phukkin' sleep. I'm not excusing Erykah Badu whatsoever...i'm just being real. All these white kids on drugs, committing suicide, running up in schools shooting up classmates...seems like their situation is worse...married or not.
That's the problem with some of ya'll...SLEEP. So what they were married? It ain't a FOUNDATION unless the marriage is REAL.
I can build a house on a unlevel and phukked up foundation...will it last? No. As a matter of fact, if I don't know how to properly build a house yet, I should RENT a phukking "apartment".
Marinate on that a while...I know it will take SOME of you forever to figure it out...but that's what I expect.
I dont know whats wrong with black america !! wake up !! It doesn't matter if she can afford the kids what matters is that shes a single mom who keeps having kids in a illegitmate manner by the boyfriend of the moment and that's irresponsible. Hopefully black people will take a cue from Obama and start getting to know people GET MARRIED and THEN start a family !! SHEESH !!
AGAIN WHAT MAKES HER A HOODRAT??? HAVING DIFFERENT FATHERS FOR YOU KIDS DOESNT MAKE YOU A HOODRAT AT ALL.... THE DEFINITION FOR A HOODRAT IS A FEMALE THAT HAS BEEN WITH EVERY [EXPLETIVE] IN THE HOOD AND DEPENDS ON THE GOVERNMENT TO ASSIST HERE WITH HER KIDS INSTEAD TAKING RESPONSIBILTY... AND IN MY EYES SHE ISNT HOOD AT ALL... SHE'S JUST A WOMAN THAT HAS GOTTEN INTO A COUPLE BAD RELATIONSHIPS THAT ENDED WITH A GREAT BLESSING(REFERING TO HER KIDS) AND SOME OF YALL FEMALES WHO RESPONDING NEGATIVELY TO THIS TOPIC HAVE PROBABLY SLEPT WITH MORE MEN AND HAVE MORE BABY FATHERS THEN SHE DOES???? INSTEAD OF TRYING TO TEAR HER DOWN... WE BLACK WOMAN SHOULD BE UPLIFTING HER INSTEAD OF HATING.... IN MY EYES IT SHOWS THAT SHE IS STRONG ENOUGH TO REALIZE WHEN THINGS ARE GOING WRONG AND THAT THE BEST OPTION FOR HER AND HER CHILDREN IS TO JUST MOVE ON.... INSTEAD OF BEING LIKE MOST FEMALES AND STAYING JUST BECAUSE YOU HAVE KIDS WITH SOMEONE, YOU AFRAID TO START OVER FRESH, OR JUST TO INSECURE TO BE ALONE....
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DONDIVA22 Flag post AGAIN WHAT MAKES HER A HOODRAT???
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It doesn't. mto is using backwards psychology. THEY KNOW THE MAJORITY OF BLACK WOMEN WHO BLOG ON HERE ARE SINGLE MOTHERS. they also know if they can get you to feel bad about yourself you will continue to come back. it's called STOCKHOLM SYDROME. look it up ladies!!! mto means you NO GOOD!
ilovepurple7 Flag post I dont know whats wrong with black america !! wake up !! It doesn't matter if she can afford the kids what matters is that shes a single mom who keeps having kids in a illegitmate manner by the boyfriend of the moment and that's irresponsible. [SPAM]_____________ *applause* Tell em'
BlakGold Flag post I see a few Black people got that white complex...LOL.
Tell me something...even with all of these "institutionalized marriages"...why do their kids STAY doing some crazy shyt?
I don't give a DAMN what institution you have...if it ain't real, it will come through.
You mean to tell me that ALL of the different fathers, whether boyfriend or husband, walking through the "turnstyle" doesn't have an effect??
You Black folk are phukkin' sleep. I'm not excusing Erykah Badu whatsoever...i'm just being real. All these white kids on drugs, committing suicide, running up in schools shooting up classmates...seems like their situation is worse...married or not.
That's the problem with some of ya'll...SLEEP. So what they were married? It ain't a FOUNDATION unless the marriage is REAL.
I can build a house on a unlevel and phukked up foundation...will it last? No. As a matter of fact, if I don't know how to properly build a house yet, I should RENT a phukking "apartment".
Marinate on that a while...I know it will take SOME of you forever to figure it out...but that's what I expect. --------------- Deprogramming Sequence...Initiated...
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DEPROGRAM 'EM GIRL!!!!!!!!!!!
@Blakgold It could be the lack of discipline those kids aren't getting, again that "training factor" (lol) I don't advocate marriage if you aren't mature enough to handle it. (many are not, but I know alot who are). I love your foundation reference too. (oh so true) And just to add, it took training or at least a blue-print to learn that too.
carmel666 Flag post
WHEN IT COMES TO SEX, MEN VERY OFTEN DON'T USE THEIR BRAINS(YOU KNOW IT'S TRUE), SO WOMEN HAVE TO STEP UP AND SAY, NO RING NO BABY. I THINK IT'S UP TO ADULTS TO TRY TO MAKE A RELATIONSHIP WORK BEFORE BRINGING ANOTHER PARTY INTO IT. THIS BABY HAS BARELY BEEN BORN AND THEY'RE OVER? WHY DIDN'T SHE WAIT AND USE SOME PROTECTION? I SEEM TO BE THE ONLY WOMEN ON THE EARTH ANYMORE WHO MAKES MEN USE CONDOMS SO I DON'T EVEN PUT THAT IN THE EQUATION. -------------------------------------------------- Your last sentence is contradicting with the FIRST one. What do you need condemns for if you're married? And then you use MEN, not 'my man! A RING is still not good enough. Ppl are engaged FOREVER. He needs to marry you first.
Double-minded. SMH
@BlackGold no one is saying that White people as a race are perfect. Everyone knows that there are "White" crimes and "Black" crimes. But the Black on Black murders are happening daily in some cities. I live in the Bay Area of California and in some cities thet shooting occur so much they don't even make the headlines. Sure White folks are more likely to do "crazy" crimes, but how often do the occur? In general White folks get married,raise children, many of them go off to college, and become professionals. I can't make that blanket statement for Black people. Which is sad, but it's the truth.
@leftee- Yep. White folks are willing to forgo their 'pleasures' and interest for the sake of investing in their children's future. Case in point. I have a white neighbor who lives in a 2900 square foot home, is a teacher, husband is a doctor, and she has two kids in middle school. They own a 2000 nissan civix and wear name less brand wall-mart clothes. Her son is smart as a whip and wants to be a doctor like his dad. Now I know a sister and her husband (he's a store manager and she's a stay at home mom) who live in roughly 2300 square foot home with two kids. She drives an 2008 Escalade and he drives a brand new lexus. They wear expensive clothing and travel all the damn time and her kids are sweet. Now although I don't know either families personal financial business, I wonder which family will be able to afford their children's tuition for college some 6-8 years down the road.
WTF? where in the world is Guess Jeans living? White family don't get divorce as much as black? 95% or more white people in hollywood that we know of are divorced so imgaine the ones we don't know about. Does it matter if white people is mentioned, the article is about Erykahs behavior and decision and pointing out others whether black or white is even to me. Also, what does it say that Erykah, who is NOT on government assistance compare to the millions of dollars paid to Octomon for her slefish arrogant decision to have so many kids - that is OK? give me a darn break like someone say, black people are their own worse enemy. White people not only divorce more time over than blacks, the only difference is they remarried very quickly which is the same as jumping from man/woman to the next - black will stay single and not a dam*n thing wrong with that. Back in the day we lived in the myth that only black people had children out of wed lock. That number has since jump higher to include whites and now what they call it? a decision to not married younger, everytime or anything a black person does compare to white is seen diffrenetly and sad that some black people will buy into it. therefore whether it be white, black or other - behavior, decision is the same darn thing. BTW if you look at older generation of black couple, they have been together longer than their counterpart - thats a fact.
@ zexy1...Who is jealous of her? I don't have 3 children by 3 different fathers, so I have anything to be jealous of! LOL!
Anyway, in regards to someone further up who stated that white families rarely divorce....You must not get out much. White people get divorced all the time. Look at Elizabeth Taylor.....'nuff said.
This isn't really a black or white issue, but since Miss Africa (Erykah) always sings about strong black families and all the crap, it's very ironic that she is in the situation that she's in. I guess she's trying to build her own little village, but she should find a husband to produce with, not every rapper she gets her hands on. If this were Paris Hilton or Lindsay Lohan, I would feel the same way: Ghetto, nasty and triflin. Find a husband! Don't have a baby with EVERY DUDE YOU FCUK!
I don't see why ANYONE would be jealous of someone who can't keep a man, but is as fertile as myrtle. That's smells of disaster. It's not cute or worthy of applause. Are we supposed to be like "well, she's a strong black woman and she's gonna take care of her kids"??? Well, that's what she should be doing REGARDLESS. My thought is this, " You are stupid if you have 3 kids by 3 different men and none of them married you!" Period. End of story. Fin.
@Blackgold- Why are you talking about white folks? We are well aware that white folks got issues to but they can AFFORD to have some SETBACKS since its THEIR country, their institutions, THEIR LAWS, their land. We as BLACK people aren't awarded this luxury.
It's amazing that when we discussing problems in our races, FOLKS always throwing in OTHER RACES problems as a BUFFER to counter-balance our own problems. Well I'm not WHITE and I would like to address issues that PLAGUE US not them! They don't give a damn about our issues so why when we're discussing our issues, we got to mix other races in the bunch?! It doesn't make sense.
@Carmel666- I too refer to single women as women with children who have never been married. So I get you
TheFashionista Flag post @ zexy1...Who is jealous of her? I don't have 3 children by 3 different fathers, so I have anything to be jealous of! LOL!
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no, you are worse. you are one of those who enjoy putting others down in order to feel better about yourself. if you were truly concerned you would be offering love and support rather than a foot to kick her down
if Erykah had to work a regular job to support all 3 kids, as a common single mother, you better believe she wouldnt be so flippant about popping out kids. since she has money in the bank and money flowing in from Andre, she doesnt have to worry about getting up at 5am, getting the kids dressed, taking them to daycare and school, then going to work a full day. the picking them up from the babysitter, making dinner, giving them baths, putting them to bed, and starting that process all over the next day. she doesnt have to worry about making enough money so that she has a babysitter, daycare services, food, clothes, a big enough home to fit 3 kids, health insurance and all the other expenses that go along with having kids. she doesnt have to worry about making ends meet so that her kids have the basic necessities and still have money for little extras. I know some parents who work 2 jobs and still struggle. if Erykah and other celebs lived a REAL single mothers life, she would have stopped at the second kid, maybe even the first. my guess is that shes not going to stop at this 3rd child. shes 38 years old and should know better. this is not the example she wants to set for her 2 daughters
I'm also tired of black people using white people as some type of measurement standard. Having self respect and morals should have nothing to do with that. That's why it's called 'self' respect. I think it's borderline psychotic that people think it's ok to have children with someone but avoid marriage like the plague or AIDS. How twisted is that? People just carelessly have children like it's nothing and I'm tired of it. You would think people would shut that down considering the alarming AIDs rate among other social diseases in this country.
It ain't a FOUNDATION unless the marriage is REAL. -------------------------------------------------- I agree.
I can't STAND Black women who like to throw their marriage in unmarried women faces, when their homes are in disarray.
The sad thing is that no one is marrying for love or the LOVE OF GOD anymore. Just convenience and security.
And the MEN are a trip as well. They get GULLIBLE financially stable/set women pregnant all the time so that she can take care of him. She doesn't mind either. As long as she's not single anymore and has HIS baby -- the universal facade!
A DUMB woman with low self worth and money is a LAZY/SNEAKY Black man's dream. LOL!
Uh oh.
@ lefteee
Your favorite radio personality...Howard Stern? Tells me alot about you already...especially you being Black.
But you don't have to make a blanket statement about Black families...that's YOUR reality...and that's fine. But my reality tells me that there are ALOT of Black people in college...alot.
I can't get deep with you because just looking at the posts you've made, it wouldn't be of any use.
@ good_downsouth
And some say that us "Young Black Males" are lost, lol.
Oh, I had a General for a mother...whew! It was rough...damn it was rough, lol.
HOW DID THIS BECOME A BLACK OR WHITE ISSUE???? AND FOR YOU ALL TO SAY THAT MOST BLACK PEOPLE DONT PREPARE FOR THERE KIDS FUTURE AS WELL AS TEACH THEIR KIDS GOOD MORALS AND VALUES IS A CRAZY WAY OF VIEWING THINGS... SOCIETY AND THE MEDIA HAVE CREATED SUCH NEGATIVE PERSPECTIVES ON BLACKS IN THE AMERICAN SOCIETY THAT YOU ALL NO LONGER LOOK OUTSIDE THE BOX OR THINK FOR YOURSELVES... IF YOU DID YOU WOULD SEE THAT THERE ARE PLENTY OF BLACK PEOPLE WHO LAY THE FOUNDATION FOR THERE CHILDREN TO BECOME SUCCESSFUL AND PRODUCTIVE ADULTS....
LEAVE ERYKAH ALONE. SHE SHOULD NOT STAY WHERE SHE IS NOT HAPPY...PERIOD. THOSE TALKING ABOUT SHE SHOULD STAY FOR THE KIDS...UM,NO! IF SHE'S NOT HAPPY AND STAYS IN THAT RELATIONSHIP,SHE WILL BE MISERABLE. THEREFORE HER CHILDREN WILL BE MISERABLE. BECAUSE IF MAMA AIN'T RIGHT MENTALLY AND EMOTIONALLY THEN SHE NEEDS TO BE OUT. BEING MARRIED DON'T GUARANTEE YOU NO PERFECT CHILDREN,EITHER. NOW,I'M ALL FOR MARRIAGE. I THINK IT'S A WONDERFUL THING,BUT ONLY IF YOU KNOW IT'S THE RIGHT ONE. CLEARLY,SHE FEELS OTHERWISE. STAYING IN A RELATIONSHIP WHERE YOU ARE NOT HAPPY IS JUST PLAIN STUPID.
The unmitigated gall of you miscreants! You sit and judge this woman for what? Being a great mother to her children? Lets get something straight, when a child comes into this realm it is never by "accident" we choose who will be our parents while still in the spirit world. So its never a mistake when a child is concieved. Gets much deeper but im not even gonna go there on this site. Not once have we heard anything about Ms. Badu that would have me believe she is ghetto or a hoodrat or anything other than a Black Queen. I bet alot of you have had more abortions thans she has had children. How about getting out of her business and take care of your own problems.
MTO...why Erykah got to be a damn hood rat? Yall act as if she is the only woman on earth who have had kids for more than one man. Shyyyt happens. We don't even know if they really have broken up. Could be a rumor. And if their relationship didn't work out...oh well. As long as those men are in their kids life...that is all that matters. Some times relationships fail. It is what it is. I just wish Erykah the best in what ever decisions she makes. I will always support Erykah...even if I don't agree with some of the decisions she makes. But it's her life and she is a GROWN AZZ WOMAN!
@ GuessJeans
On the contrary...I don't care about white folks issues, I just know how they are.
And imma say this ONE MO' AGAIN...I ain't makin' excuses, or "buffering" for anybody. I just notice how SOME Black people have this mindset. I understand you wanna address Black people...focus on their problems.
Anyway...how in the hell can you be so concerned about Black people, as "white" as you are?
I can't keep going back and forth...imma hit up ifekat...suppose to pass me some links to topics that REALLY matter.
I'm not here to judge Erykah's situation, why single her out when there are many others in the same situation?! I see this as a serious epidemic that is shredding our family structure into pieces. I mean, I understand everyone has their faults however there is nothing wrong with bringing awareness. Erykah cannot get upset because people are speaking on her situation. Does she not speak on things affecting African Americans or society?! It's simple, the truth is a bitter pill to swallow but the truth also expose negative situations that constantly keep us down.
@ Tastysista
"It is statistically proven that blacks, amongst any racial group have lower rates of marriage, than any other ethnic or racial group but have higher incidence or poverty, STDS, and HIV. Could there be a correlation? Defintalty. I also become upset while looking at the facts, but it is what it is, and that is why I have these issues with this topic!" *********************************************
I really have to leave this thread after this.
But why do you think that all of this is RUMORED to be going on with the Black community? There had to have been a starting point to this situation. Get to the root of the problem...just don't tug at the branch. If you know REAL history, you would see why this is...even more importantly, you would see that it STILL goes on today.
Marinate on it tastysista...seen a couple of your posts, you seem bright enough.
@ Black Gold you judging me by who I listen to on the radio, shows me that your are into making "blanket" statments too. I listen to Howard for entertainment during my long commute. He is entertaining, and that doesn't mean I agree with everything that comes out of his mouth. I am mature and know that it is ok to disagree with someone respectfully.
I also seen a lot of Black people in college. How many Black people get educations is not what this post is about. It's about Ms. Badu and how broken homes have been a problem that has been crippling the Black community for the past few decades.
I am glad you are not going to address me, I didn't come here to debate someone who is in some sort of denial about reality.
@ lefteee
Hey...if you can make blanket statements...then so can I...so I made a blanket statement. Anybody that listens to Howard Stern, and supports that garbage, is a clown in my opinion...and if you're Black...you're lost. You make a sweeping statement about Black people...be prepared to get "swept" yourself.
I WILL SAY THIS ONE MO' MUTHAPHUKKIN' TIME...
I didn't deny a phukkin' thing...I said that shyt a million GOT-Damn times already...but obviously you have selective hearing...or reading. This will be my last post to you because of THAT alone.
Read the post that I wrote to tastysista...she made good points that I addressed. If you don't know your REAL history...you're lost. Pick up a book and turn Howard Stern off...smdh.
Why she got to be a hood rat? Do what you do. I am sure she got this under control. And how we know she is not the one telling them to bounce? She seems like a free spirit who can't be tied down. As long she taken care of her children who cares. It is when oyu have 3 kids by three different mofos and you on welfare and ish at home chillin. that is the problem. If you take care of your children and educate them properly they should be fine. Although this type of behavior may be looked at by her children as the way it should be...and honestly I guess who is anyone to tell somebody else how it should be. Get in where you fit in and are happy.
You guys are crazy. It's not like she had her kids back to back just popping them out. Mind your own business. I wouldn't even call a chick in the streets a hoodrat for having three kids and being a single mom. Everyone has a story and y'all do not know hers. Who is to say the fathers aren't involved in the kids lives? Y'all don't know. Wow. People are so judgmental.... Regardless of how y'all feel Erykah is still going to do Erykah. Y'all need to re-evaluate yourselves and why you think the way you do.
@BlakGold
Marriage does not automactially equate success. No one said that it did. But come on. Her logic is ghetto! GHETTO is bad because it is related to ignorance and being uninformed. White children shooting up there schools happens how often? How many times do you hear about a drive by, due to gang violence, or a robbery, or just a flat out murder? And guess what, we do it to eachother. Black kids also due drugs, and commit suicide or attempt to.
I know cause I work with the mentally ill population and sadly blacks are more prone to mental illness then whites and we only make up 13% of the population. Why is that.? Is it because of oppression, missing parents, poverty? I don't have that answer.
I grew up in a semi-single parent home (living with both parents alternatively), and ill tell you if my parents would have worked together and stuck at it I and my brother and sister would have benefited from it greatly.
It is statistically proven that blacks, amongst any racial group have lower rates of marriage, than any other ethnic or racial group but have higher incidence or poverty, STDS, and HIV. Could there be a correlation? Defintalty. I also become upset while looking at the facts, but it is what it is, and that is why I have these issues with this topic!
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@Tastysista- I believe these statistics. They are based on sound, credible, and valid measuring accessments done by the department of Health and State departments of health. It's sad but I'm willing to admit we as a black folks got alot of mess to deal with.
Thank you Leftee and Carmel666 for those truthful comments! Its a shame that black folks can't stand to hear nor see the truth even when they KNOW it exists just by looking in our communities at those heart-wrenching situations.
I don't know why Blakgold has decided to play the "well this race does it too..." card but he should know that every race of folks got issues and just because some of us are brave enough to address these BLACK issues, don't mean we "white" acting, "sell-outs", or what have you.
@ BlackGold I see your a typical coon who is into name calling when someone disagrees with you. I am aware that these problems that plague our community are a result of years of institutionalized racism, but, whatever the cause this problem still exists in OUR community. I say put down the history books and lets start working together to repair our families and communities. If we deny that a problem exists, and point the finger at other races we will never get anywhere.
Last post for REAL this time...LOL.
For the record...I DID NOT CONDONE MS. BADU NOT USING CONDOMS. I SAID THAT ALREADY...SHE COULD MAKE BETTER DECISIONS.
Damn...it's a sad muthaphukkin' day when you have to make a disclaimer for your opinion. But you better believe...
...I won't make many disclaimers. So if you don't understand what i'm sayin', you might wanna ask me.
Because if you come from left field, i'm knockin' you out of the park.
thats the scary thing is that so many people think this is ok. that we need to just mind our business and look the other way. this is the reason why our families are in shambles. too many of us have the mentality that if it doesnt affect us, why should we care? let people do them. but we have to care about eachother, as a whole, as a community. if you see a young sista going down the path that Erykah went, talk to her, mentor her, befriend her. let her know there is more for her out there. theres school, a career, activities, traveling. these celebs get bored and sit on their asses in between projects or dont have anything lined up so they have time to pop out kids. the average woman doesnt ahve the time or money to do what Erykah is doing. there are too many people on here who dont see anything wrong with what shes doing and thats disturbing. I know people cant help certain circumstances, but you DONT add to the situation and make it more complex, you have to try to change it for the better. someone above said something so true. Erykah has always been preaching self worth, being strong, the power of love and the power of the black woman. blah blah blah. yet she hasnt been able to maintain her own strong black love. she hasnt been able to build and foundation of her own. this whole Badu sh*t has always been an act to me. the head scarves and the inscents, and the peace and love stuff. it was a way for her to stand out from the rest of the R&B singers of the 1990's and spear head the neo-soul movement. her management and record company wanted a different sound and image, and they got it. and it worked. dont get me wrong, shes talented as hell, but this whole mother earth thing she has going on is all hypocritical. she needs to represent black power a little better
OK BEIN FROM DALLAS LET ME JUST BE THA FIRST TO SAY, "WHO GIVEZ A FLYIN F*CK?" DAMN! IF SHE WANT 3 KIDS BY 3 DIFFERENT NEGROS, THEN BY ALL MEANS LET HER DO HER!!!!!!!!!!!
ALL YALL DAT GOT SOME NEGATIVE TO SAY BOUT MA GIRL, LET ME JUST ASK YALL THIS ONE QUESTION?????
"DO YALL MONEY COMPARE TO DIS CHICKS?" "ARE YALL MAD CUZ YALL CANT SUPPORT 3 KIDS BY YALL DAMN SELF"
ERYKAH BADU TOLD ME TELL YALL HOEZ
GETTTTT CHAAAAAAA BREADDDDD UPPPPPPPPPPP!!!!!!!!!
P.S. SHE STILL DA SHYT, AND LOOKS BEAUTIFUL SHITTIN ON U HATAZ!
I think that reason so many people have comments is that when Ms. Badu came out she was all about knowledge and stuff. I agree with some of the other posters who stated that the first time in excusable. In my opinion, after that first time of being a single mother she needs to step back and evaluate what she wants. My mother told me and I quote "You do not have to have a baby with every man you go with!"
NOW I LOVE ME SOME ERYKAH BADU GOD KNOWS I DO.......
BUT ANY OTHER CHICK WITH 3 KIDS BY 3 DIFFRENT BABY DADDIES WOULD BE LABELED A SCANDALOUS WOMAN A.K.A "HO"
I CAN'T THINK OF WHY ANYONE WOULD CHOOSE FOR IT TO GO DOWN LIKE THIS, BUT HEY...TO EACH HIS OWN
MISS BADU IS A BIT OF A FREE SPIRIT SO SHE AIN'T ONE FOR CONVENTIONAL METHODS OF ANYTHING.
I SAY, SHE PAID AND GOT MONEY TO TAKE CARE OF HER KIDS. WHAT SHE DO IS HER BID-NESS!
Why is OCTOMOM even part of this discussion? It isn't her fault she was blessed to have 14 children! There was a .000000000001 % chance for multiple pregnancies and she did. She isn't the issue here. The issue is Erykah and WHY WE as WOMEN are so complacent with having multiple kids by DIFFERENT baby DADDIES?! There is nothing RESPECTABLE or SELF-MOTIVATING about that. It's a PROBLEM and I don't care if the woman is white, black, asian, or brown. If any woman is going to have children by different daddies they need to be checked. This isn't passing judgement as nobody is perfect but ITS A HUGE PROBLEM in our COMMUNITIES. White women got this problem too but come on ya'll keep it real. BLACK WOMEN are plagued by the BABY DADDY issues WAY MORE often than WHITE WOMEN.
Not everybody are the same. WHITE MEN are more likely to be SERIAL killers than BLACK men. That isn't to say ALL are bad. Black women more likely to deal with this BABY DADDY drama than WHITE Women. That isn't to say ALL black women are triffling. Damn some of you need to think logically and QUIT letting your emotions pollute this discussion!
@zebretete (you may alreadly be hip to this) G. Craige Lewis(exministries)is a pastor out of texas that is getting alot of national attention for exposing the music business. This includes gospel music. If you are a popular artist and has the attention of the youth today, he is putting the truth about you out there. Ms Badu was one his touched on. Her self-goddess and 5 percent crap. Most blk folks don't know the real story behind the ankh. Thats why I ask!
BlackGold I see your a typical coon who is into name calling when someone disagrees with you. I am aware that these problems that plague our community are a result of years of institutionalized racism, but, whatever the cause this problem still exists in OUR community. I say put down the history books and lets start working together to repair our families and communities. If we deny that a problem exists, and point the finger at other races we will never get anywhere. ************************************************
MOST RaTIONAl and IDEALISTIC COMMENT on this THREaD today! Thank you sister couldn't have stated it any better.
She makes good music. As far as I am concerned, she can have all the babies she wants to have. She is well able to take care of them. I just hope she doesn't end up with HIV or something. That's all I am worried about. Take the babies out of the equation. There are a lot of famous people having sex with different people. Just because she is having babies, gives noone a reason talk about her. It is not the babies, it is the unprotected sex that I would be worried about. I want the very best for her. At least she is really talented and not around her selling sex. At least she sings with all her clothes on and is not popping her p like you know who. Erykah keep singing and making your money.
JUST AN OBSERVATION....
WHY IS ALL THE "CONSCIOUS" CHICKS HAVING MAD BABIES
1ST LAURYN HILL
NOW ERYKAH BADU
AT LEAST LAURYN HAS 1 BABY DADDY....HE WON'T MARRY HER THOUGH, WHICH IS PHUCKED UP.
THEY BOTH SEEM LIKE HIGHLY EDUCATED WOMEN, SO I GUESS THERE SITUATIONS COME AS A SHOCK TO US.
TRUTH IS THEY ARE HUMAN BEINGS.
MAYBE THEY JUST WANT ALOT OF KIDS...MORE POWER TO'EM.
@ good_downsouth
And some say that us "Young Black Males" are lost, lol.
Oh, I had a General for a mother...whew! It was rough...damn it was rough, lol.--Blakgold ************************************************* Blakgold I know exactly what you mean. My mother could give you an "eye of death" that would make your soul quiver!
I am sure Ms. Badu is a great mother, but women should not downplay the males role & vice/vesa.
Ok, this is a touchy subject for me ESPECIALLY Since I have four children By Three diffrent Men, One of which I was Married to for eight years>
I am no hoodrat! I work a fulltime job and attend college, I am since divorced and I am blessed to say that I am able to provide food and shelter for them without the governments hand outs NO VOUCHER OR FOODSTAMPS NO SECTION 8 we are not rich but they have most things a child should have. I attend sports with them, they have been subjected to a good life. I left there dads Because we had unhealthy relationships which is why people break up right? RIGHT...So when the child was made there was love, a sense of knowing the person I was with....thinking that we would work things out..... Both agrreing to have a Child togehter.... LIFE DOESN"T WORK LIKE THAT, nothing last forever, but having a child and by whom and when in life you do it or how many times is supposed to be exempt from that? COME ON READERS
Men are not holding their position in high esteem. I sometimes wonder if they even have a full comprehension of what that position entails (?). Men are to be heads of the family unit. What kind of self esteem can a man truly have if he just drops his seed anywhere? Shouldn't he truly love himself to say I want a worthy woman of virute to take my last name and birth my legacy? It's clearly evident no one thinks like that anymore.
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@zebretete (you may alreadly be hip to this) G. Craige Lewis(exministries)is a pastor out of texas that is getting alot of national attention for exposing the music business. This includes gospel music. If you are a popular artist and has the attention of the youth today, he is putting the truth about you out there. Ms Badu was one his touched on. Her self-goddess and 5 percent crap. Most blk folks don't know the real story behind the ankh. Thats why I ask! ---------------------------------------------- I figured that's why you asked. ;-)
I love G. Craige Lewis. I own the Power Of One dvd.
He really knows how to feed the spirit.
I was a social worker for several years. I saw the damage that was done to kids who were born out of broken homes. mothers who had multiple babies with multiple men, who couldnt offer their kids the things they deserved because there was no money or little resources. lets be real. when a man impregnates a woman hes not married to or in a committed relationship with, the chances of him being there for his kid wholeheartedly reduces. when you have more than one father theres often a situation where one child is left feeling hurt and worthless because their father never comes around to see them yet they have a little sister who has a daddy that always comes around, gives her gifts, takes her to the movies and so on. this does major psychological damage to the children who have deadbeat fathers. our bad choices most definitely affect others. some of these single mothers are forced to go on public assistance. thats tax payers money theyre using right there. so yes it affects others in the end. dont get it twisted, having money and resources to take care of kids doesnt make it ok to have them. you have to make sure youre situation is conducive to raising happy, healthy, well adjusted kids. will all 3 of her babys fathers be equally attentive and involved? I can almost bet that wont be the case.theres a reason why shes not with any of them.
Flag post @Dreayonn... SHUT THE PHUCK UP BITCH!
You want to state your opinion, but then you attacked me on the Madonna thread for no reason. GROW THE PHUCK UP JACKAZZ!
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It's official, YOU ARE CRAZY! I attacked you not because you stated ur opinion but because you attacked others for stating their opinion against Madonna you dumb broad. Where in this post did I attack anyone for stating their opinion?! STFU Get 'em my level before you think about comin' at me or else get dat ass embarrassed every time. Bitch you lightweight.
I´M SURE MISS BADU HAS HER REASONS. RELATIONSHIPS CAN BE COMPLICATED, WHICH IS PRECISELY WHY A REASONABLE PERSON DOES NOT DECIDE TO PROCREATE (OR HAVE UNPROTECTED SEX) WITH SOMEONE TILL AFTER THE HONEYMOON PERIOD IS OVER.ONLY WHEN THE ROSE COLORED GLASSES COME OFF CAN YOU TRULY GAUGE WHO YOU ARE WITH AND WHERE IT IS REALLY GOING.
@Complexity31, Your argument was the best to me, from the opposing view, I have read today. Guess what else? We all know someone or at least no of someone in your situation. I don't think the issue of mothering is what we're against. It's the whole "revolving door"-thing which causes an uproar. Sometimes the males in our community will think that this type of behavior is "normal" and will go on and repeat it. Maybe they won't. Erykah blogs about this because she wanted the public to know and we are resonding, that's all. I have personally helped single family members and friends so that they can go to school as you've mentioned about yourself. I was happy to because they were trying to do something/make something of themselves. I'm not one to complain without doing my part, too. You are to be commended as well because it is alot to do all the things you mentioned.
@IFEKAT<<<
"Even if we gotta get in your ass every now and again we have to do it out of love. Anyone can tear down but can you BUILD?
Those children need love and support and that's the bottom line." ----------------------
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CO-SIGN...GOOD POINT SISTA.
@BLAKGOLD<<<
"You Black folk are phukkin' sleep. I'm not excusing Erykah Badu whatsoever...i'm just being real. All these white kids on drugs, committing suicide, running up in schools shooting up classmates...seems like their situation is worse...married or not.
That's the problem with some of ya'll...SLEEP. So what they were married? It ain't a FOUNDATION unless the marriage is REAL." ---------------
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MAN PREACH! LIKE U, I DON'T AGREE WITH HAVING A LITTER OF BABIES WITH A GAZILLION DUDES EITHER, BUT THE FACT OF THE MATTER IS, SEEMS LIKE FOLKS UP IN HERE ON THEIR PULPIT TALKING ABOUT FAMILY VALUES ARE DOING SO MORE FOR "APPEARANCES" VS REAL CONCERN FOR THESE CHILDREN (AND I DOUBT BADU'S CHILDREN ARE IN ANY DANGER ANYWAY). IT'S LIKE, OH, GAWWWDDDD IT JUST "LOOKS SOOOO HORRIBLE" TO SEE A WOMAN WITH SOOOO MANY KIDS AND BLAH BLAH BLAH, *ROLLS EYES* YET THESE SAME "MTO DEACONS" ARE RELISHING BEING ABLE TO ATTACK THIS WOMAN WHILE NOT TRYING TO GET TO THE BOTTOM OF THE PSYCHOLOGICAL ISSUES THAT MANY YOUNG BLACK WOMEN ARE OBVIOUSLY FACING, WHICH IN TURN RESULTS IN UNWISE, BIZARRE AND NEUROTIC BEHAVIOR LIKE THIS. NOT AN "EXCUSE", JUST TRUTH.
AGAIN, I REPEAT, I DO NOT FIND ERYKAH BADU'S METHODS OF CHILD BEARING "IDEAL", IN FACT, IT IS QUITE SAD, SIMILAR TO KEYSHA COLE'S SISTER NEFFE (BUT NEFFE IS WAY WORSE AND DISGUSTING IMO, BEING THAT SHE CANNOT EVEN SUPPORT HERSELF OR HER CHILDREN W/O HER SISTER'S HELP), YET I FIND IT DISHEARTENING HOW WE OFTEN WANT TO "STOMP ALL THE LIFE" OUT OF OUR LOST SISTERS IN THESE PREDICAMENTS INSTEAD OF "CORRECTING THEM IN LOVE" AND HELPING TO GUIDE THEM ON A DIFFERENT PATH.
@Violetta5 YES! That's exactly what I said. I will enjoy and continue to get to know my husband for the first few (2,3,4) years of our marriage before trying to conceive and I don't care if I'm 34 years of age. If I decide 'I don't like you' we will not bring any children in this world and we can just part ways. I try to make things as cut and dry as possible!!
Okay all you people that come on here and leave long as messages, no one give a damn. Just leave a quick comment and keep it movin'.
Now on Erykah, love her music, but this is not a good look even if you don't agree. No one wants her to stay with someone it is not workin out with but damn, to keep having babies by all of them seems to me like she is trying to secure her future. The reason I think her relationships don't work is because she is the cheater in the relationship and she really wants to be with Common, thats if you ask me for my 2 cents.
@Gigi2007 You are on point! Absent fathers most definitly effect children in a negative way. I know people who are quick to say "he takes care of his kids", unless you are capable of being in more than one place at a time I don't know how that's possible. Visiting a child every other weekend is not taking care of them, sending a monthly check is great support, but it doesn't equate with daily care and emotional support. If you aren't involved with your child on a daily basis (or almost daily) your not raising them.
I don't care how much money a person has it doesn't replace a family. You would think people would not have child(ren) out of wedlock Every child deserves a mother and father together, not separate. You can't explain it any other way.
Stop trying to justify having child(ren and being able to support them without a man. It took a man to create a baby and he should be there for his child(ren), There is no excuse for this type of behavior.
bad idea to break up at this point with such a young child.its time we women recognize that its not just about money and being independent and strong and the "i can do this by myself, [EXPLETIVE]".. being strong also means admitting the need for a father in the home, and realizing that its DIFFICULT raising a child on your own. try to work on your problems because its only the children that suffer. she needs to find a man and get married and be an positive example to her young fans.
@Antidumb
You're last post was the truth. African Americans do not discuss any of this in our communities. Everything bad happening in our community is swept under the rug yet we are the main one's talkin' about keepin it real. Ain't too many people keepin' it real up in here today. Sad. People are scared of the truth or any form of criticism. Then people want to quote the bible were it says 'Don't Judge' but don't wanna follow the part we're GOD is telling us how we as people should live. Wassup with that...
I couldn't let this one get by without a response, so I finally bit the bullet and signed up.
What is so conscious about this chick have three out of wedlock babies with three different men. 'Cause what it sounds like I'm hearing from some on the thread is that it's all good as long as Badu can take care of them.
I don't want to judge either but we all do, even if we don't want to admit it out loud. I don't care if you were married five times with one child by each husband, there's still a problem.
With all the broken homes in the black community, with all the absentee fathers, with all the mixed signals these kids are receiving today (it's not okay to have a baby out of wedlock, it's not okay to be a teen mother if your aren't Bristol Palin but both of these things are morally correct if you have money and are not a drain on the tax payer's dollar, give me a mutha'fckIN break), it's alright for Badu because she is a celeb and can afford to take care of her children. She's a HOODrat just like Shaniqua Jenkins down the street.
I am not downing all single mother's (not by far), people make mistakes, things don't work and you sometimes end up single because husbands, fiancees and boyfriends die but Erykah the type a chick that will leave the worst impression when single mother's come to mind. People like her will be the excuse that other people will use when they talk about single mothers. They won't talk about the ones who work hard and take care of their children and are careful not to make the same mistake twice, they'll people like Erykah to say that's what they all do just lay on their backs breeding like animals for man after man.
What Badu does with her life is her business but she needs to stop acting all holier than down like none of you all have not reached the level of consciousness that I have, where I am elevated above all this foolishness because clearly, she is part of the foolishness.
ONE LAST POINT...
THERE IS NO PROBLEM WITH BRINGING "AWARENESS" TO THIS CRUCIAL ISSUE IN OUR COMMUNITY, IT IS INDEED A SERIOUS PROBLEM, ESPECIALLY FOR THE YOUNG GIRLS OUT HERE...BUT IS ALSO IMPORTANT TO BRING LOVE, PATIENCE AND COMPASSION WHEN IMPARTING WISDOM...
IF I WAS IN A BAD SITUATION AND HAD CHILDREN BY DIFFERENT MEN, I SINCERELY DOUBT CALLING ME A BUNCH OF "HOES", "SKANKS", "LOWLIFES" AND "GOOD-FOR-NOTHINGS" WOULD HELP ME HEAR YOUR MESSAGE, NO MATER HOW MUCH SENSE YOU WERE MAKING. REAL TALK.
THE KEY IS BEING ABLE TO "REACH" THESE PEOPLE AND MAKE THEM UNDERSTAND THE DIRE CONSEQUENCES OF THEIR ACTIONS..."FIRE AND BRIMSTONE" CONDEMNATION IS NOT ALWAYS THE MOST CONDUCIVE TACTIC TO TOUCH THE LOST SOULS WE WANT TO SAVE. YOU CAN BE STERN AND ABOUT SERIOUS BUSINESS WITHOUT BEING "CRUEL".
I would not call Erykah a "hoodrat". I wouldn't call anyone that because that is such a strong, derogatory word to me.
Erykah does need to use some form of contraceptive if she choose to continue to have sex with every man she dates.
To those thinking she need to get or should have gotten married: Lets say Erykah (thinking she was in love) married the father of her kids (Andre, DOC and Jay) and did not produce those kids until after she was married to each of them. The fact is, Andre and DOC still left her (divoiced in this married senerio) and Jay may have left her too. She now would be considered a single, divorced mother with three kids that have different fathers. POINT: Marriage is not the solution in her case.
Now, lets say Erykah married Andre, and they were still married to this day (because they decided to stay married for the kid's sake). Mind you, they are not in love anymore; just married for the sake of the kid(s). What will stop Erykah from having extramarital affairs and becoming pregnant by the men she sleep with? She would now be a married woman with kids by different men. POINT: Marriage is not the solution in her case.
Erykah need to get her MIND right and if she choose to continue down the same path she is taking, then she need to use contraceptives.
good_downsouth thank you for the comment. I try to talk to people that may end up like myself. I am not trying to say that it's ok to have Children by multiple Men not at all. What I am saying is for myself and for Erykah is that life gives us all choices, no one is perfect. I was a single Mom,A Married Woman and now a single Mother again. So Saying that kids need to be raised in a family is just half the battle. Kids that come from a mother and father household don't always have the best lives, tension in the home, domestic abuse, emotional barriers to break through is Hard on children, also we as people change and grow in diffrent directions, sometimes its in the same direction then it is times when they grow apart. My situaiton is working for me, My kids are happy they don't have to see mommy crying, arguing or lashing out.....Isn't that whats important. I know I can not change the world, I'm just doing my part as a citizen, thats what you al should do.... Stop Judging people. Pull together.....
Nobody is judging the situation. People are entitled to express their point of view whether you agree or not. Who's judging?
Relationships should be build on a foundation, meaning that certain things should happen before the final step. You don't marry without finances, you don't marry someone who never finishes what they start. You evaluate the situation.
Control is a problem is some relationships because of a lack of trust. If you are married, a man should be the head of house, not saying he should control everything, but work with his wife making decisions. Control is not establish when you are not legally a couple.
This is why people are living together. It's okay to have a baby without being married. It's not okay. Every man you meet has questions about the baby's father and what happen.
Having children by different men harm the child(ren), You should be concern a person could spread std sleeping with various partners.
ONE LAST POINT...
THERE IS NO PROBLEM WITH BRINGING "AWARENESS" TO THIS CRUCIAL ISSUE IN OUR COMMUNITY, IT IS INDEED A SERIOUS PROBLEM, ESPECIALLY FOR THE YOUNG GIRLS OUT HERE...BUT IS ALSO IMPORTANT TO BRING LOVE, PATIENCE AND COMPASSION WHEN IMPARTING WISDOM...
IF I WAS IN A BAD SITUATION AND HAD CHILDREN BY DIFFERENT MEN, I SINCERELY DOUBT CALLING ME A BUNCH OF "HOES", "SKANKS", "LOWLIFES" AND "GOOD-FOR-NOTHINGS" WOULD HELP ME HEAR YOUR MESSAGE, NO MATER HOW MUCH SENSE YOU WERE MAKING. REAL TALK.
THE KEY IS BEING ABLE TO "REACH" THESE PEOPLE AND MAKE THEM UNDERSTAND THE DIRE CONSEQUENCES OF THEIR ACTIONS..."FIRE AND BRIMSTONE" CONDEMNATION IS NOT ALWAYS THE MOST CONDUCIVE TACTIC TO TOUCH THE LOST SOULS WE WANT TO SAVE. YOU CAN BE STERN AND ABOUT SERIOUS BUSINESS WITHOUT BEING "CRUEL".
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Yes! Agree 100%
I am not going to say the being a single mom of three is a good thing or ideal, but some folks need to really fall back...Erykah does not deserve to be called all out of her name.
One thing I will say for her is that she may not be with the father's of her children, but she the fathers of her children are all involved in the kids lives. From what I have read and understand, she is not one of those women who excludes father's from their kids lives. Just the opposite, she understands that although the romantic relationship may not last, that two individuals still have a joint duty to be involved in the raising of the child. And THAT is what is most important. As long as the fathers continue to take an active role with their children, I really don't care much if they are together.
Baby mama/daddy drama occurs when the parents fight, bring negativity to their interaction that trickles down to the children. If parents split up but still maintain a mature and civil interaction for the children, then it doesn't fit into that stereotype.
I don't make as big of a deal in two parent's not being together as others do. If two people cannot get along and display a loving and positive relationship for the child then they need to go their seperate ways. Children need to see their parents happy and they need to see positive relationship behavior modeled. A child is better off living in two happy homes than in one very dysfunctional one. Trust, there are plenty of children who grow up in a married home who end up with plenty of therapy bills from seeing all their parent's crazy shyt....That "staying together for the kids" stuff doesn't always make things better.
by the Way I am focused on my kids Happiness I lived Many years thinking that life is about me, so I made my mistakes The Job of raising them still has to be done.......My tubes are now tied! and I do value my body more. I learned from the choices I made. I am giving my babies the best life. the Best nuturing and care, attention and that is important. None of you said anything about the children. So Lets Get it together.
I'm out!
You guys keep speaking the truth. Our race need this kinda positive discussion. Young and old, especially the young because they are the future. If we're breeding a bunch of lost kids, how do we expect them to create a healthy positive society/environment?! Think about this people real long and hard. The world doesn't get bad, it's the people in it.
@ZEBRAWHEN IT COMES TO SEX, MEN VERY OFTEN DON'T USE THEIR BRAINS(YOU KNOW IT'S TRUE), SO WOMEN HAVE TO STEP UP AND SAY, NO RING NO BABY. I THINK IT'S UP TO ADULTS TO TRY TO MAKE A RELATIONSHIP WORK BEFORE BRINGING ANOTHER PARTY INTO IT. THIS BABY HAS BARELY BEEN BORN AND THEY'RE OVER? WHY DIDN'T SHE WAIT AND USE SOME PROTECTION? I SEEM TO BE THE ONLY WOMEN ON THE EARTH ANYMORE WHO MAKES MEN USE CONDOMS SO I DON'T EVEN PUT THAT IN THE EQUATION. -WHERE IS THE CONTRADICTION? I DON'T GET YOU.
ALSO I THINK YEARS LONG ENGAGEMENTS ARE JUST COWARDS WAY OF STRINGING SOMEONE ALONG. THAT IS SOME BULL. SO FORGET THE RING I MEAN MARRIAGE, SWEETHEART.
@complexity31, You are correct. I feel that the whole domestic violence thing is another issue traced to upbringing. I don't know you or your situation beyond what you've written. If nothing else, at least there is a dialogue going about these ongoing issues today. Alot of the youth are angry behind adult choices. They go around calling females "bitches" and all sorts of stuff. Females dogging men. I would knock my sons clean the (beep) out for such disrespect. Hillary C. spoke of a "village to raise a child'' is oh so true. I grew up that way. Elders in the community had to be respected or had the green-light to whoopa$$, and you might get it again later on. Teachers had that power, too. I'm just saying.......
The sad thing is that no one is marrying for love or the LOVE OF GOD anymore. Just convenience and security.
And the MEN are a trip as well. They get GULLIBLE financially stable/set women pregnant all the time so that she can take care of him. She doesn't mind either. As long as she's not single anymore and has HIS baby -- the universal facade!
A DUMB woman with low self worth and money is a LAZY/SNEAKY Black man's dream. LOL!
ZEBRA-IT SEEMS THE YOU AND I SEE THINGS THE SAME WAY-I DON'T KNOW WHAT YOU DIDN'T UNDERSTAND ABOUT MY POSTS.
BTW-I WILL NEVER USE WHITE PEOPLE AS THE REPRESENTATION OF A GOOD MARRIAGE OR HOW THINGS SHOULD BE. WHITE MEN KILL THEIR PREGNANT GIRLFRIENDS AND WIVES IN A SECOND. WHITE PEOPLE AS A WHOLE CAN BE PRETTY MESSED UP.
THIS IS WHY I HATE WHEN BLACK PEOPLE MESS UP. OUR ROLE MODELS NEED TO KEEP THEIR DAMN NOSES CLEAN BECAUSE THIS IS HOW THE WORLD SEES US. I'M SO GLAD BARACK MARRIED A BLACK, EDUCATED SISTA AND ONLY HAS KIDSONLY WITH HER. HOW HARD IS THAT TO DO?
I'M SORRY BUT IT COMES DOWN TO THIS, IF YOU JUST LOVE TO PHUCK, DO YOU. BUT PROTECT YOURSELVES AND YOUR PARTNERS AND KEEP KIDS OUT OF IT UNTIL YOU FIND SOMEONE YOU CAN BUILD A LIFE WITH. THAT'S JUST COMMON SENSE TO ME.
Well I'm thinking that she was in love with all three men for different reasons, she had a connection with them....she's on another level with hers, this is pretty much seeing the bigger picture spiritually....all three men represented something esoteric to her and she birth their seeds.
She knows what she's doing......and to some of the people that's commenting take another journey your so predictable!
I think calling her a hootrat is taking it too far and it isnt necessary. but my problem is, after the second time it didnt work out with her childs father, she should have really evaluated her situation. Im sorry but I just dont believe that all 3 men are equally involved in their kids lives. Andre 3000 has been a busy dude for many years. recording, touring, doing movies, tv shows. I know he missed a big chunk of his sons growing up.theres no way he has the time to sufficiently be there for consistent visits and contact. The D.O.C. has had serious medical problems for many years from his car accident that put him in state of depression and unable to rap. Im sure he had a lot of his own issues to contend with. she didnt even want to tell the media that he was the father of her daughter. she kept that a secret for a long time. that was an issue in itself. I dont know who Jay Electronica is, but she left him very shortly after the birth of their daughter, there had to have been some issues with him too for her to do that. taking care of your kids financially and being willing to see them and take them every so often does NOT mean you are raising them responsibly. it doesnt make you any better of a parent. I know when I was young, I wanted to see BOTH of my parents every morning when I woke up and before I went to bed. seeing my dad every other weekend for a visit to the park wouldnt cut it. again, I know there are situations where the parents dont get along and its best for them to split-BUT THIS HAPPENED TO HER 3 TIMES!!!!! is anyone who supports her understanding that? thats 3 babies fathers. 3 child support checks, 3 different schedules to work out for visitation. 3 children who wont wake up and go to sleep with their daddy in the home. thats just pushing it too far. put some responsibility on HER. her choice of men and her decision to have children from men shes not committed to. she said in many interviews that shes not the monogomous type that likes to be in relationships. thats cool, nothing wrong with that, but dont bring kids into the mix. how long did she stay with any of these fathers? she was willing to have their baby but not work on having a relationship with them? thats backwards. those children might be raised in privilege, but they will be raised with a shakey foundation and will be at a greater risk of continuing that cycle. especially her daughters. if she wants to be mother earth and have 15 kids, thats cool too, but be like a true mother earth and put down some roots so you can have a strong family
@PLAYROUSHAS...THANKS FOR ENLIGHTENING THESE BLACK WOMEN...CAUSE "HAPPILY EVER AFTER" DOESN'T EXIST FOR THE BLACK WOMAN 99.999% OF THE TIME...REALISTS ACCEPT THAT..BUT DUMB FANTASY CHASERS CAN'T...AND THEY KEEP POPPING BABIES OUT BY EVERY LOSER THINK "HAPPILY EVER AFTER" IS GONNA COME...AND GUESS WHAT..IT NEVER DOES!!!
MissDaniBaby2 THE KEY IS BEING ABLE TO "REACH" THESE PEOPLE AND MAKE THEM UNDERSTAND THE DIRE CONSEQUENCES OF THEIR ACTIONS..."FIRE AND BRIMSTONE" CONDEMNATION IS NOT ALWAYS THE MOST CONDUCIVE TACTIC TO TOUCH THE LOST SOULS WE WANT TO SAVE. YOU CAN BE STERN AND ABOUT SERIOUS BUSINESS WITHOUT BEING "CRUEL".
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WE ARE ALL "EDUCATED" RIGHT? WELL THE LEFT AND THE RIGHT BRAIN WORK TOGETHER.
LOGIC+WISDOM...
THEY WORK TOGETHER...SOME ONE CAN HAVE AN OPINION BUT DON'T LIVE IN A BUBBLE... THERE ARE CIRCUMSTANCES THAT SURROUND SITUATIONS THAT NO ONE KNOWS...IF YOU WANT TO HELP SOMEONE AND MOST OF ALL HELP THIS COMMUNITY GET TO THE BOTTLOM LINE OF WHAT HAS CONTRIBUTED TO THESE CIRCUMSTANCES AND ISSUES THAT WE HAVE.
WHAT WAS THE PURPOSE OF THE SO-CALLED TALENTED TENTH? WAS IT TO "GET THEIRS" AND EMULATE THEIR OPRESSOR...NO
IT WAS TO GET AS MUCH KNOWLEDGE, INFORMATION, AND RESOURCES YOU CAN SO YOU CAN COME AND UPLIFT OTHERS TO DO THE SAME SO THEY CAN SUSTAIN THEIR LIVES PRODUCTIVELY.
WERE DID THESE PEOPLE GO?...
DID THEY COME BACK HOME AND BUILD?...ARE YOU COMING HOME TO BUILD...
THE ONLY THING "SHAQUISHA", "TAMIKA" AND "JUNEBUG" HAVE TO LOOK UP TO IS....THAT'S RIGHT NOTHING...WHERE WERE THEIR EXAMPLES? WERE WERE THE DOCTORS, LAYERS AND DENTISTS THAT HAD PRATICES IN THE NEIGHBORHOODS? WHERE DID THEY GO...AND PLEASE DON'T GIVE ME SOME BULLSH!T ABOUT "WELL DRUGS CAME IN"
WHO PUT THEM THERE? WHO EXTRACTED THE JOBS AND VOCATIONS OUT OF OUR COMMUNITES? WHO CLOSED DOWN THE SCHOOLS?
AND DONT YOU SO CALLED EDUMACATED PEOPLE START WITH THAT "DON'T BLAME THE WHITE MAN" BULLSH!T BECAUSE YOU KNOW WHAT?...I DON'T BLAME THEM I BLAME YOU!!!
WE WHO ARE BLESSED WITH EDUCATION AND KNOWLEDGE HAVE THE RESPONSIBILITY TO BECOME TEACHERS AND NURTURERS OF OUR COMMUNITIES...WE ARE THE EXAMPLES TO THESE BABIES..AND IF WE F*CK UP, THEN WE HAVE TO STAND ACCOUNTABLE. THAT IS A TRUE LIVING EXAMPLE OF A HUMAN BEING. IF YOU AREN'T DOING THAT PLEASE MISS ME WITH THIS "I'M A UPSTANDING CITIZEN" FOOLISHNESS...
YOU BETTER KEEP WORSHIPING THAT "GOD-MEDIA" OF YOURS WHO KEEP FEEDING YOU THIS BULLSH!T AND COME IN HERE AND TALK SLICK...YOU MY FRIENDS WILL BE THE FIRST TO GO..
AND THEN YOU WANT TO GET UPSET WHEN YOU GET EXPOSED ABOUT YOUR DOUBLE STANDARDS?
BTW, I NEED TO BE OUT OF HERE TOO BUT I REALLY THINK IT'S SAD THAT MANY OF US THINK BECAUSE SHE HAS MONEY(OR CAN GET IT FROM THE FATHERS) THAT'S IT'S OKAY TO HAVE ALL THE OOW BABIES SHE WANTS.
THAT KIND OF THINKING EXPLAINS WHY SO MANY WOMEN HAVE BABIES BY DRUG DEALERSAND WE KNOW HOW STABLE THEY ARE. SMDH, I'M OUT.
@COMPLEXITY31...I'M NOT FOR ABORTION..BUT WHEN I SEE THESE PHUCKED UP KIDS FROM THESE PHUCKED UP HOMES, I KNOW A LOT OF THEM ARE PROBABLY BETTER OFF DEAD....WHO COULD BE SO SELFISH AS TO CONTINUALLY BRING LIFE INTO YOUR OWN PHUCKED UP..BRINING MORE PHUCKED UP PEOPLE INTO THE WORLD? TO LIVE IN MISERY....
I SEEM TO BE THE ONLY WOMEN ON THE EARTH ANYMORE WHO MAKES MEN USE CONDOMS SO I DON'T EVEN PUT THAT IN THE EQUATION.
@caramel
I don't get it either. What does that statement mean? If you clarify then I'll stand correct or admit I may have misunderstood you. But, I doubt I did.
[Makes] is PRESENT TENSE.
You say no ring, no baby.
So, you ALLOW pre-marital sex (hence: you MAKE YOUR MEN WEAR CONDOMS), but you need a RING to have his baby?
That's ASS BACKWARDS.
someone said earlier that we are all educated and can all use our brains together. lets try to do that. theres no need for fighting and cursing anyone out. MTO has acutally opened up a great subject for us to discuss. we have all dealt with or knows someone dealing with this situation, so instead of cussin and carrying on, I want to see your point of view.
Doing the same thing and expecting different results, isn't that the definition of insanity? She seems to be drawn to the rebellious types. These types of men are not looking to get married or raise a family on a full-time basis. I know I was attracted to the bad boy type, but I grew up and thank God I did.
I don't agree with people who constantly have babies out-of-wedlock. Everybody makes mistakes, but to make a pattern of this is insane. I don't agree with men who constantly have babies with different women or women who constantly have babies with different men. It's stressful on the parents and the children.
@GIGI2007...SPEAK THAT TRUTH...PEOPLE DON'T REALIZE HOW PHUCKED UP THESE KIDS ARE WHEN THEY GROW UP LIKE THIS..I COULDN'T EVEN INVITE KIDS TO MY SON AND DAUGHTERS BIRTHDAY PARTY CAUSE THEY WERE JUST TOO DAMN BAD! THEY'RE MAMAS GOT A HOUSE FULL OF KIDS BY A MILLION DUDES AND THEY LIVE IN CHAOS..THE CLASSMATES THINK MY KIDS ARE WIERD BECAUSE THEY HAVE THE SAME FATHER!!!!
girlygirl Make that 3 different fathers, 3 rappers! Jay raps too.
It'll be 4 by 4 shortly.
I lost it for her after the second child by DOC! DOC? You can't be serious! -------------------------------------
Thank you. DOC???? I was like what the hell? Erykah been a hood rat, the only difference with her is she found a gimmick and ran with it to make money. This chick can't even sing. She's horrible. Unfortunately she's relevent because she's considered a pioneer in Neo-Soul and she has much seniority in the game. Otherwise, who is really checking for this wacked out chick? And I don't think she's "crazy" either. That's just part of her gimmick. Erykah has more sense than we realize, just not enough sense to stop letting random, D list rappers nut in her and make all these out of wed lock babies.
Erykah, sit down somewhere, your time should have been up.
This chick got 3 kids by 3 different men and she don't even have an Ex-husband, let alone a husband. And she the first one to speak on Africa or spirituality, get the hell on with that. This chick ain't no better than Shaquonita in the projects with 3 baby daddies. Why is Erykah special because she's famous and attempts to sing? GTFOH with all that there.
@COMPLEXITY31..WELL I'M SORRY YOU FEEL THAT WAY. BUT YOU DON'T LIVE IN AN URBAN CITY AND YOU DON'T SEE WHAT I SEE EVERYDAMN DAY!!THIS MULTIPLE BABY DADDY BULLSHYT IS RUINING LIVES!! I'M SORRY, SOME OF THESE KIDS DON'T HAVE A LIFE THAT'S EVEN WORTH LIVING. THEY LIVE IN TOTAL MISERY...AND IF THAT'S CRUEL...TOO DAMN BAD!! CAUSE I SEE SOME OF THESE KIDS AND IF I HAD THEIR PHUCKED UP LIFE, I SURE AS HELL WOUDLN'T WANT TO LIVE THAT WAY!! JUST KEEPING IT REAL!!!
phatazz407 Flag post If she can afford to take care of them, what's the problem?? This is nothing uncommon within our community...this is so not news!! ===============================
Well maybe that's the problem. When is this going to stop being so common in the community? And money can't fix everything. It's not always about the Benjamins. Now of course I rather see someone with money in this situation, but lets not fool ourselves into thinking that all is well just because she can keep the mortgage paid, keep designer clothes on their backs, and she's not on the system.
OKAY ZEBRA-I DIDN'T KNOW I WAS IN CHURCH. SINCE YOU'RE SO HOLIER THAN THOU, YES I HAVE HAD PREMARITAL SEX, PLENTY OF TIMES (ONLY A FEW BOYFRIENDS THOUGH) I HAVE NEVER BEEN PREGNANT OR HAD A DISEASE, BECAUSE I ALWAYS USE CONDOMS-AND NO ONE HAS COMPLAINED ABOUT IT AS A MATTER OF FACT THEY ALWAYS HAD THEIR OWN BECAUSE I DON'T DATE LOSERS.
I AM NOT A CHILD, PROBABLY OLDER THAN YOU ARE BUT I WAS IN MY 20'S WHEN I STARTED HAVING SEX AND I HAVE ONLY WHEN I WANT AND HOW I WANT. I KNOW HOW TO OPEN MY MOUTH AND SAY STRAP IT UP OR NO.
I WAS SAYING I DIDN'T PUT CONDOMS IN THE EQUATION(AS OPPOSED TO OTHER METHODS OF BIRTH CONTROL) BECAUSE NO ONE SEEMS TO USE THEM AND ALL THE RESPONSIBILITY SEEMS TO FALL ON THE WOMAN(NOT WOMEN). THAT'S WHAT I MEANT AND I THOUGHT WE WERE ON THE SAME WAVELENGTH, BUT SINCE YOU'RE APPARENTLY A 'NUN' NO NEED TO ADDRESS ME ANYMORE.
PEACE TO YOU.
@ RED DRAGON, NO NEED TO APOLOGIZE FOR YOUR OPINION.... I AM NOT TAKING IT PERSONAL, AND HUN.. I LIVE IN CLEVELAND, OHIO. (CITY) AND mY KIDS ARE FORTUNATE TO GO TO A GOOD SCHOOL, MAKE GOOD GRADES MY 13 YEAR OLD IS A BEAST AT BASKETBALL AND FOOTBALL AND BASEBALL, MY KIDS FATHERS AND I HAVE GREAT RELATIONSHIPS, ONE IS A SCHOOL TEACHER, THE PROBLEM WAS WE WERE YOUNG, AND NAIVE. NONE THE LESS ANY SITUATION IS WHAT YOU MAKE IT. JUST BECAUSE YOU COME FROM A PHUCKED UP SITUATION DOESN'T MEAN YOU WILL BE PHUCKED UP!!!!!!! i AIN'T GETTING TO PERSONAL HERE BUT I AM A TESTIMONY, NO ONE TAUGHT ME VALUES.... I HAD TO LEARN THROUGH TRIAL AND ERROR.... THAT REAL [EXPLETIVE] AND REAL LIFE..... I GET SO SICK OF COP OUTS AND FAKE PEOPLE RIDING HIGH HORSES....MAN I DON'T WAISTE MY PRECIOUS TIME ON IGNORANCE.
Why can't we strive for more and do better. And this is not just about Erykah, it's also about Andre 3000 (who i can't stand, he mistreated Erykah) it's about D.O.C. and it's about Jay Electronica. These no good men were not even men enough to marry Erykah, but they had no problem putting their seed in her and producing a baby. Shame on these men. Men are supposed to be the backbone of the family, and all they are doing is leaving behind their DNA and leaving Erykah to raise babies alone. I'm disgusted with these men. And she doesn't even date these men long before she's all knocked up with their babies. What the hell? Her baby with DOC was only about 3 years old if that before she got all pumped up with Jay Electronicas nut. Give her 6 months, she'll be pregnant by another low budget rapper.
She's no role model at all, never was and never will be for who ever is looking up to this crazy, quick to spread her legs and have a baby chick.
THE CLASSMATES THINK MY KIDS ARE WIERD BECAUSE THEY HAVE THE SAME FATHER!!!! ************************************************* Reddragon, I'm going to need you to cut out all the comedy.(lol) As crazy as your recent post sounds, you are correct on some level. Much of the youth living in extreme circumstances do not value life, so it's easy to take one. Offer some of those kids a hand-up. My family's watching old Joe Clark on TV now......
yall are stupid MTO and ppl with all the negative comments! Screw yall! okay! she is one of the realest MC's, artist whatever! how many of yall are taking care of your children? i bet she isnt just having kids and getting some food stamps or whatever! i get food stamps but i'm in school so whatever. either way food stamps are good but not because the only reason you get them is because you have alot of kids and dont want to work. yall are so lame to talk badly about her. talk about these floozys on here that yall glorify because they let all there titties and bootys hang out like kim kardashian who is famous because she made a ssex tape and she has a big butt and she acts ditzy. put a pre-plastic surgery no make up kim kardashian to a no makeup just chilling erykah badu! erykah badu is way more beautiful and has way more substance than kim kardashian. now what about angel lola luv? yall worship her just because she has a big butt! what are we coming to black people???
@ ifekat
HIT 'EM AGAIN!!!! They don't wanna hear that though...they would rather sit in the congregation on SUNday and "catch the Holy Ghost"...talkin' about how good THEIR God has been to them.
The whole while, THEIR God (The White Media) is feeding them BullSPIT.
It's like this...
...you can say i'm avoiding accountability (which is a lie), but the truth is that this is what they do to CONSCIOUS Black People like Erykah Badu.
It's no different than Isaiah Washington...he made a "boo-boo" and they crucified him for it. But you know what...he ain't one of those dudes that need a whole lot of extra attention...and has a Black Woman...he knows WHO HE IS. Far worse things have been said by white people, and they've gotten their jobs right back...and alot made EVEN MORE MONEY.
But since Erykah is a CONSCIOUS BLACK WOMAN, they wanna run this into the ground. I'm not excusing her actions...but it is what it is.
WHEN HAS MTO EVER PUT A ERYKAH IN THE TOP SPOT ABOUT SOMETHING POSITIVE? Or any conscious Black person to be exact...probably not many times.
But since, and this is MY OPINION, this site is frequented by Sunday Morning Warriors, she'll get the "royal" treatment. Because SOME of you are sleep and want to remain that way. You need to get off that "Jesus Juice" and stop praying to that FAKE AZZ WHITE JEZUS and bring yo Black Azz to reality.
A conscious person like Erykah or Isaiah will be ripped in the white media...if the average Black person reads a story like this, they will dismiss the whole idea of BEING CONSCIOUS...because the average Black person is still sleep, that's just the way it is. So the next time a conscious person drops some jewels on you, you'll say "Why should I listen to you...just look at Erykah Badu, one of your conscious sistas." That's the psycology behind the madness. That's the way alot of people think...and the white media knows this. That's why they can put certain ads in certain places and make a phukkin' killing...because they know how people think and they bank on you taking the bait...just like you did with this story right here about Ms. Badu.
Don't get mad at the conscious people for seeing through the bullshyt and you not being able to. It's been said before...LOOK AT THE ROOT OF THE PROBLEM. Erykah has her problems...but I can pretty much bet that she's gonna be alright...she's awake...that's why she don't get much shine in the media...she don't portray the slutty "Beyonce" personas...*waiting for the Beyonce Stans*.
There are so many white "baby daddies", it aint even funny. But you ain't gonna hear about that...the media will downplay that [EXPLETIVE].
Just like the media downplays white girls who get abortions. They'll be quick to let you know how many Black Women get abortions...but you'll rarely find how many white girls get abortions. Same thing with going to jail...Black people constantly get harsher sentences that white people who do the SAME CRIMES.
SOME of you Black People better WAKE THE PHUKK UP! You'll see after a while...but for some of you, it will be too late. Can't see the train until it's 2 feet in front of you.
Whoever in here defends this trifling woman to have as many kids as she wants because she can purportedly take care of them alone; don't be mad when the media, non-black people, and responsible black people continue to categorize black women as having 8 babies with 8 babydaddies. All you are doing is FORTIFYING the stereotype about you/us. So don't EVER get offended when whites make jokes about black women being on welfare and popping out babies. Badu might not be on welfare, but most black women in this country aren't entertainers either, so even if you have your master degree or whatever, you're only Plaxing yourself(shooting yourself in the leg, FYI). This is so prevalent in the black community and I'm sick of being lumped in with ignorant people like BADU. Just because someone is an entertainer and makes a good song does not mean that they aren't accountable for their REAL LIFE actions.
Also, The stitches in her cooch haven't even been dissolved yet and dude is ALREADY out the door. WTF!! That's not respectable at all. At least OCTOMOM had all 14 of her kids with the same man. When will this retarded train of thought stop is real question? Again, for those that condone this behavior, be just as proud when white people continue to believe that blacks love to have as many kids with different people in life as they can and call it NORMALCY. You and your ilk make me sick.
Also on judging, if a black dude was having babies all over the place while on the downlow spreading aids, women would call him a no good n!gga, n1ggaz ain't sh!t and every epithet in the book. That is a classic example of JUDGING. So yes, I am judging her based on her actions and patterns of living. I am not the final judge,(God is) but the example she setting for black women is atrocious. And lets not even get into the hypocrisy of her being this STRONG BLACK QUEEN when her @ss never been married. Queens are MARRIED to Kings. Her behind is just another baby momma of 3 with 3 daddies that just so happens to be well known.
THIS CHICK BETTER HOP ON HER BLACKBERRY AND CALL BONEQUEEESHA.
carmel Flag post
OKAY ZEBRA-I DIDN'T KNOW I WAS IN CHURCH. SINCE YOU'RE SO HOLIER THAN THOU
THAT'S WHAT I MEANT AND I THOUGHT WE WERE ON THE SAME WAVELENGTH, BUT SINCE YOU'RE APPARENTLY A 'NUN' NO NEED TO ADDRESS ME ANYMORE. -------------------------------------------- Thank you! It's a compliment that you get that type of vibe from me.
NO, we are NOT on the same wavelength. I like to walk in alignment with God. So, if that makes me a "NUN" or "Holier than thou, so be it.
And I can't STAND to type or look @ your SN either.
It's like sleep paralysis trying avoid those 3#'s...
who cares what white people think? are we not in 2009? Are there poverty sticken white women with more that one baby daddy? Of course there is.... I don't think we give a damn, Look at the tabloids, any way Erykah is not the only celebrity making real life mistakes in the public eye, look at charlie sheen, look at your facts, Kimora lee, damn Her girls are probably confused? No... their happy, taken care of.. enjoying mom and dad... so why is this any diffrent? I am going to be leaving work.... take care beautiful people
@BLAKGOLD A conscious person like Erykah or Isaiah will be ripped in the white media...if the average Black person reads a story like this, they will dismiss the whole idea of BEING CONSCIOUS...because the average Black person is still sleep, that's just the way it is. So the next time a conscious person drops some jewels on you, you'll say "Why should I listen to you...just look at Erykah Badu, one of your conscious sistas." That's the psycology behind the madness. That's the way alot of people think...and the white media knows this. That's why they can put certain ads in certain places and make a phukkin' killing...because they know how people think and they bank on you taking the bait...just like you did with this story right here about Ms. Badu.
Don't get mad at the conscious people for seeing through the bullshyt and you not being able to. It's been said before...LOOK AT THE ROOT OF THE PROBLEM. Erykah has her problems...but I can pretty much bet that she's gonna be alright...she's awake...that's why she don't get much shine in the media...she don't portray the slutty "Beyonce" personas..
========== SHOOT THE MESSENGER... DAMN THE MESSAGE... WE FOCUSED ON THE WRONG SH!T... DIVIDE AND CONQUER... EXCELLENT POST...BOTTOM LINE!
@ ifekat
They'll learn one way or the other.
As white people get more desperate, and the sell-out negros (who push their propaganda on their own *ahem*) following them, the more desperate the attempts on Black People will get.
It's already looked desperate to me...I seen this [EXPLETIVE] a while back...it's just getting worse. It only lets me know that it's about that time...and that there are enough Black People awake...all we need is enough of the right ones.
Check this out!
Ain't nobody mad at this sister's consciousness. She spit fire....(even though lately all we hear about are her measurements....)....but there is SOMETHING WRONG with her ability to maintain interpersonal relationships.
Why is it that the brotha's dip whenever she drop kids? Jay was with her for a minute prior to having a baby. Wouldn't it have been more logical, I mean, for a CONSCIOUS sista such as this to wed prior to conceiving if she didn't want to repeat the same pattern she followed TWICE before. I mean, they WERE engaged!
CONSCIOUS or no, there's something WRONG here!
I think that it is BS that she is being calle a hoodrat, because of her situation, It is ALWAYS better to be without that person that brings out the worst in you. It is 2009 for the love of god. People always want to point out others faults, but refuse to look at themselves. People needs to learn not to judge so damn much. As long as everyone is being adults and taking care of business, It is whatever
I don't know her character, so I can't judge her as a person, but what bothers me about her and a lot of people (men and women) of our generation is that they don't give any thought towards the potential life they will create together. It seems like folks don't really take the time to develop a real bond or truly get to know a person before they're popping out kids, only to realize after the fact that they aren't compatible. That's something you're supposed to figure out BEFORE you have children.
I LOVE ERYKAH TO DEATH...I'VE READ A MAJORITY OF THE COMMENTS. ERYKAH CAN SING HER AZZ OFF! SHE IS ONE OF THE MOST BRILLIANT AND CREATIVE MINDS TO EVER PICK UP A MICROPHONE. YOU CAN'T FRONT HER ON THAT. DON'T TRY.
HOWEVER, SHE IS GOING AGAINST THE GRAIN HARD BY HAVING 3 KIDS BY 3 DIFFRENT FATHERS. SHE IS NOT A CHRISTIAN AND DOES NOT HAVE THE SAME SET OF BELIEFS THAT MYSELF AND A MAJORITY OF THESE POSTERS DO. IF YOU ASK ME THAT IS WHAT HAS HERE CONFUSED. THERE IS ONLY ONE WAY AND THATS GOD'S. THATS WHAT I HAVE FOUND TO BE TRUE FROM PERSONAL EXPERIENCE. THERE IS NO OTHER WAY THAT WILL STAND.
I PRAY FOR HER AND HOPE THAT ONE DAY SHE WILL SEE THAT. INSTEAD OF CASTING JUDGEMENT AND NEGATIVE COMMENTS ABOUT HER. PRAY FOR HER. I CAN STAY HERE ALL DAY AND RANT ABOUT HOW WRONG SHE IS BUT I AM SURE SHE KNOWS THAT AND NEVER PLANNED FOR IT TO HAPPEN THIS WAY. IT SEEMS SHE IS SEEKING HAPPINESS FROM EARTHLY MEN INSTEAD OF THE MAN ABOVE. MANY OF YOU HAVE MADE AND ARE STILL MAKING THE SAME MISTAKE.
AT LEAST ERYKAH HAD THE BALLS TO SEE THE PREGNANCIES THROUGH AND NOT "KILL" AND ABORT INNOCENT CHILDREN THAT HAD NO SAY SO IN HOW THEY GOT HERE OR WHO BY.
GOD HAS A PURPOSE FOR EACH OF THERE LIVES JUST LIKE HE HAS A PURPOSE FOR MINE AND THE LIVES OF ALL HIS CHILDREN. THERE ARE MEN WITH JUST AS MANY IF NOT MORE CHILDREN BY JUST AS MANY MOTHERS. LOOK AT PUFF DADDY, HE STILL AIN'T MARRIED KIM AND HE GALAVANTING AROUND WITH HIS JUMP OFF CASSIE. FOLKS STILL LOOKING UP TO HIM. IT'S A DOUBLE STANDARD IN THIS SOCIETY.
SHE HAS A DIFFICULT TASK AHEAD OF HER NO DOUBT RAISING 3 KIDS. I TRULY HOPE THE CHILDREN DON'T GROW UP CONFUSED BUT WHO SAID NONE OF THE FATHERS ARE IN THE LIVES OF THE CHILDREN? THEY MAY NOT BE IN THE HOME, IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH ERYKAH BUT HOW THE HELL DOES ANYONE KNOW THEY ARE NOT TAKING CARE OF THERE RESPONSIBILITIES?
I KEEP READING HOW ERYKAH IS NOT A GOOD EXAMPLE. TRUTH IS SHE IS A HUMAN BEING AND SHE OWES NO ONE ANY KIND OF EXPLANATION FOR SHYT THAT SHE DOES. NOR IS IT ANY OF OUR PLACES TO JUDGE HER. STOP LOOKING TO CELEBRITIES TO SAVE YOU AND SHOW YOU THE PATH TO WALK. WE ALREADY HAD A MAN THAT WAS SENT BY GOD HIMSELF FOR THAT SPECIFIC PURPOSE. HE LEFT BEHIND A GOOD BOOK, I SUGGEST SOME OF YA'LL GET OFF THE COMPUTER AND COP ASAP. HIS NAME WAS JESUS AND THE BOOK IS ENTITLED THE HOLY BIBLE.
GET OFF ERYKAH'S NUTS AND LET HER LIVE HER LIFE. WE ALL GOT OUR ISSUES AND CROSSES TO BEAR. LET HE WHO IS WITHOUT SIN CAST THE FIRST STONE.
I COULD HAVE MAD KIDS BY DIFFRENT WOMEN RIGHT NOW MYSELF HAD IT NOT BEEN FOR GOD'S GRACE AND I AM SURE THE SAME IS TRUE FOR MOST OF YA'LL.
STOP WORSHIPPING HUMANS AND LOOKING TO THEM TO SAVE YOU. WE ALL MAKE MISTAKES.
No...
...her being conscious doesn't go out of the window. Conscious is being aware...she's aware of Black People's position. She needs work on her personal issues, very true.
But there are WHITE people who are CONSCIOUS of who BlACK PEOPLE REALLY ARE, and these people are in positions of "power" and looking to destroy the whole population. Does this make their consciousness go out of the window? No...because they are AWARE OF WHO BLACK PEOPLE REALLY ARE.
So no, Erykah's consciousness doesn't just go out of the window like that. But I do agree, she has to work on her personal life and decisions about men. But we all have something we need to work on.
BLACK PEOPLE AS A WHOLE NEED TO WORK ON WAKING THE PHUKK UP!
"The World Is A Ghetto" Listen at yawll talkin [EXPLETIVE]- "get it together" "need help takin care of her kids" key word HER half of you hoes talkin [EXPLETIVE] about her CANNOT KEEP A MAN she dont need those figgas to try and validate her she got her bread can yawll say that? y a hood rat? define that definition for me? MALES , (black/white etc) u mf'ers dont no [EXPLETIVE] women ur mom/granny/aunt or who ever raised u did that u will not respect women or the women that raised you so it will b difficult for you to respect the true meaning of the word **********BREIFLY*********** YAWLL NEED TO TO GET IT TOGETHER
Well I'll be da*ned. So without personally knowing her, many have named her a hoodrat, hoe, slut, etc.... Who in the hell are we to judge anybody. Last time I checked that was God's job. So Ms. Badu did some things that you all didn't agree with? That don't give none of yall the right to make the degrading remarks. I was always taught that a sin is a sin. There where no big I's and little u's. So in other words, ya'll ain't no better than her for placing judgement on another individual. Then some have the nerve to state white women rarely do these types of acts....I won't even get into that subject. Now while I don't agree with some of her choices, I am not in her shoes. Yes, children do need their fathers and I don't remember reading that the father's weren't in their children's life. I chose to have kids after I was married, but I will not turn my nose up at someone who didn't. Work on evaluating yourselves instead of calling "names" to others.
@Dreayonn says... STFU Get 'em my level before you think about comin' at me or else get dat ass embarrassed every time. Bitch you lightweight. ************************* Thanks for letting the world see just how UGLY and hateful you really are. You've had a problem with me ever since I stated my OPINION on Obama. You even said it was ok for people to wish death on me. See how very IGNORANT YOU ARE. Day after day you attack me. For the most part, I ignore your HOODRAT ass because you mean nothing to me.
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Cry me a River LOL
You attacked me on a thread yesterday that didn't have shyt to do with Obama.
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Kinda like what ur doing now, Hmm! What does Obama have to do with this topic?! Hypocrite!
YOU AND THE REST OF THE OBAMANUTS CAN KISS MY MUTHAPHUCKIN AZZ. YOU MADE ME DISLIKE OBAMA EVEN MORE. IF HE HAS HATEFUL RADICAL ATTACKING BITCHES LIKE YOU SUPPORTING HIM...OF COURSE I DON'T WANT HIM IN THE WHITE HOUSE AND I WILL JOIN FORCES WITH "ANYONE" FOCUSED ON GETTING HIM THE PHUCK OUT.
SO ALL YOUR CUSSING AND ATTACKING HASN'T ACHIEVED ONE GOTDMAN THING. ALL YOU DID WAS CREATE ONE MORE ENEMY AGAINST YOUR MESSIAH!
NOW THAT I'VE SPOKEN MY MIND, I LEAVE YOU WITH ONE MORE THING.
KISS MY BALCK AZZ AND DIRECT YOUR STUPID ASS POST TOWARDS SOMEONE ELSE.
BYE BITCHBOY!
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StormZoe, Get Help! Seriously. It's really sad that ur talking about ish that happened yesterday and months before. You don't seem to let ish go and you damn sure can't stop talking about Obama yet we're the Obamanuts?! If you must know, the only reason I brought Obama's name up yesterday was to make a statement. If you can have ur opinion against Obama, surely people can have their opinion against Madonna without all the bad mouthing. Unfortunately, You are too stupid to understand this.
SMH!
Yeah we need our Women 2 emulate that Image,right there have a child at all costs.And while you at it mix em up a bit to ensure strength and diversity offspring.hahaha,all b.s. aside,this is america.... who gives a (flying fornification)about how many children and their different fathers,but the fanatics who are obsessing with this healthy young black queen of child bearing years!
Also, It is understandable that the children do suffer, but the mothers in that type of situation suffer as well. Do yo really think that they don't think that they are not enough? Do you think that all women that this happens to or with don't feel some sort of shame? Well maybe not all of them, but I mean the ones that really did try to make it work w/ these men who lie cheat and steal. It is not always the womans fault that ish does not work out. You have to look at some of the men around these days.Who wants to take care of children and a grown ass man. Everyone is granted an opinion, but ish, if it were you????
@girlygirl
JUST GOING BY WHAT I HAVE BEEN TAUGHT AND WHAT I BELEIVE TO BE TRUE.
GOD MADE MAN IN HIS IMAGE...ADAM WAS MADE FIRST AND NAMED MAN SO I TAKE THAT TO BE A REPRESENTATION OF WHO GOD HIMSELF IS, EVE WAS MADE AFTERWARDS.
EXCELLENT POINT YOU MADE...... GOD VERY WELL COULD BE A FEMALE. HE IS GOD HE IS ALL THINGS. I THINK OF HIM MORE AS A SPIRITUAL BEING WITHOUT A RACE OR A SEX.
Flag post @Dreayonn.... Yet in your world everyone has to walk in a straight line and believe all the same things or they're attacked by you. If a child chooses to be Republican and not support Obama, well then they don't fit into your little narrow-minded world do they?
I can't stand n@ggers like you. You are one of those crabs who sits around tearing people apart for living their own lives and following their own rules.
YOU'RE A MUTHAPHUCKING HYPOCRITE. YOU STINK OF IGNORANCE AND ANGER TOWARDS ANYONE WHO DOESN'T FIT INTO YOUR PITIFUL ASS BOX.
PEOPLE LIKE YOU MAKE ME SICK AND I SPIT UPON YOU.
PHUCK YOU AND PHUCK OBAMA!
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STFU!
Now I'm really showing the world just how UGLY and hateful I am, ain't I?! LOL
Even though I don't agree with her having multiple children out of wedlock, it's not like the sista committed a heinous crime. I have a question and I think blakgold posed it earlier, what about the divorcees who re marry and have multiple children by different men? and this is common! (no pun intended). Everything happens for a reason and her problems (which a lot of sistas suffer from) can't just be painted with a broad brush and labeled "hoodrat", things happen and she has to be held accountable for her actions but it's already done so ain't no looking back now. There are a lot of great people born to single mothers in this world. Is it ideal,NO, but until we start getting some awareness and knowledge of self this cycle will continue to perpetuate.
And to the people who are stating that..."its her business how many kids she has" shouldnt have had any negative comment about Octo-Mom. ===== People shouldn't have had any negative comments? Please. People aren't attacking Octo-mom because she has a bunch of kids. They are attacking her because she knew her situation and still choose to have those embryos implanted in her. Have as many kids as you want. Hell, have 20 but don't look to other people to take care of them. If you CHOOSE to have 14 kids, CHOOSE to get off you ass and get a damn job to support them. She was on wel-fare which meant the citizens of Cali were supporting her and her army of kids. That woman is clearly doing this for publicity.
@ aWake,
If you thought of "HIM" as a spiritual being without race or sex, why would you refer to IT as "HE".
Giving IT a gender gives it a sex. I'm not riding on you, but that is my common next question when I get that answer.
If you truly believe that GOD is a spirit you WILL have to ,one day, lean away from denoting a gender. I understand what you were taught, I was taught the same thing....don't make it true. I really don't think the people who taught us that were into teaching us the truth. I am inclined to believe the opposite of everything they say.
@Trulee
THANKS!
@girlygirl
I FEEL WHAT YOU SAYING BUT I THOUGHT I ALREADY EXPLAINED WHY I REFER TO GOD AS "HE" GOD IS A SPIRIT FORM TO ME. HE IS WHAT EVER YOU WANT HIM TO BE. MAN, WOMAN, ALL THINGS.
RELIGION IS A PERSONAL WALK, THERE IS NO WAY YOU CAN TELL ANYONE WHO AND WHAT TO CALL HIM OR HOW TO SEE HIM BECAUSE EACH EXPERIENCE WITH HIM IS DIFFRENT BECAUSE IT IS DIFFRENT FOR EACH PERSON.
I AM A CHRISTIAN AND I STUDY THE BIBLE. GOD MADE MAN IN HIS IMAGE...ADAM WAS MADE FIRST AND NAMED MAN SO I TAKE THAT TO BE A REPRESENTATION OF WHO GOD HIMSELF IS, EVE WAS MADE AFTERWARDS.
THE BIBLE REFERS TO HIM AS FATHER, ABBA, A MAN.
THAT IS JUST MY PERSONAL KNOWLEDGE OF WHO HE IS. MORE & MORE ABOUT HIM IS REVELED AS I CONTINUE MY WALK WITH HIM. YOU MAY REFER TO HIM AS HER OR IT.
AT THE END OF THE DAY IT IS THE SAME BEING. GOD TAKES ON MANY FORMS. I WON'T KNOCK YOU FOR REFERRING TO GOD AS SUCH BUT I FEEL LIKE I SHOULD BE ABLE TO CALL GOD WHAT I WANT BECAUSE IT IS MY PERSONAL CHOICE. YOU DON'T GET A LOT OF THINGS IN LIFE THAT IS YOURS BUT A RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD IS ONE THING THAT IS YOURS AND PERSONAL.
YOU FEEL ME?
@ prissy3
"The real questions should be why every time a black person's decision or behavior is in questions its always white people don't do this or they don't do that only black people? example of back then it was: White young girls weren't getting pregnant only blacks - now that number is up to include whites its a national crisis. It was only until Madonna, Angie and others having babies out of wed lock that the media's view point has changed to even glamorizing single parenting. If that trend had stayed with blacks or minorities it would have been a different story." **********************************************
YO...YOU are on the money prissy3...YOU are on the $$$$!!!!
I tried to tell some people here...Black People need to start looking deeper.
I wish I had a Master Remote for all of Black People's TVs...
...you KNEEGROWS would be TV-less for a while.
My question is why do so many "strong black women" defend EVERYTHING that EVERY black woman does? Some things are just wrong and need to be spoken on. The black community is in horrible shape. I don't know any other country in the world, or any other community in this country, where there would even be a debate about this.
CHILDREN NEED FATHERS!!! I know you strong black women don't want to admit that, but when you look out in these wild a*s hoods you live in, you will see what happens when you have a generation of children raised with no father around.
@ aWaKe
According to the bible man was made first but according to science HE was not!
Science, unlike religion is testable and not driven by....feelings.
If you care, if you are really want to know the truth, do a little research on the X and Y chromosomes. These chromosomes determine SEX.
Never stop seeking answers!
One!
For those posters who brought up G. Craig Lewis, thanks. I just went to the site, and was glued to my computer screen. It opened my eyes to many things that i paid no atention to. What he was saying about Mega Churches, in my personal experience is on point. I left one about a year ago because i saw what was going on.
Some of you are so damn sanctimonious and judgemental. Oh, she had three kids out of wedlock. This witch hunt isn't necessary. There are people on here talking about how long they have been married. People who think their life is so together are the main ones to judge other people, so I am not that surprised. What is marriage? I am not married and don't ever plan to be. Being married won't guarantee you a stable life. Will your marriage keep your partner from cheating on you or from leaving you? Will your marriage guarantee your kids two good parents. Hell, no. Marriage won't give you anything but people put so much on it like it will give you the world. I don't understand why people feel they need a ring on their fingers and a contract between them to prove how much their partner loves them. Ridiculous. I have been with my guy since freshman year of HS. Basically, for 7 yrs and people are always asking when will we get married. Our relationship isn't any less than anybody's because we aren't married.
I won't pass judgement on her but I do agree you shouldn't have kids with every man you meet.
i guess this is the answer to my question from 6 days ago. "why do some many black people have brothers and sisters that look nothing like them?"
Momma had sloppy puss and she slang it all over the ghetto rat hood. Now all her kids are barely related and look like strangers. And each kid has to influenced by a bunch of different men coming in and out of the house.
No wonder this young generation is so screwed up.
@prissy3 You enlightened me and made a valid point! You are right about now that all these white celebrities are having children out of wedlock it seems to be glamorized, and if blacks were the only ones doing it, it would be deemed as taboo. I never thought having children out of wedlock was cute, especially having been a product of that and missing out on a lot.
CHILDREN NEED FATHERS!!! I know you strong black women don't want to admit that, but when you look out in these wild a*s hoods you live in, you will see what happens when you have a generation of children raised with no father around. ================================================== I do agree kids need a father. But, just because a child grow up w/o their father in the picture doesn't mean they will turn into juvenile delinquents. If that is the case, then what is the reason for all these wild ass kids around here who not only have their fathers but also have their parents still together.
It's the PARENTING that makes the difference. This is a upper middle class neighborhood and most of these people work constantly and don't have anytime for their children, therefore; they run wild. Kids growing up in the hood are surrounding by constant violence, foul language, drugs and gangs. That is the reason they turn out to be the way they are. Not simply because a father isn't in the picture.
@ aWaKe,
I have faith that my shoes will be in the bottom of my closet...the same place I put them in the night before. Anything beyond that will have to stand up to a series of test. Your belief in the bible and the HE God forbids you to question it....there's a difference between faith and blind-faith! Besides, the bible was written by jews for jews...and it has nothing to do with blacks.
I believe that your HE God will be revealing a whole lot of truth to you shortly.
And I agree....Life is a learning process!
@ aWaKe....
I KNEW you would bring that up...and I'm so glad you did.
Yes it does....and it's true. There is both genetic and fossil proof of this.
The good thing for blacks about the theory of evolution is that it states that all mankind derived from the black man.
Now the black man (when I say man, I mean human) wants to believe that he is somehow superior and closer to God....well this is how. You (we) were the first humans....out of Africa.
So the next time you see or hear a white person calling a black person a monkey kindly let them know that....Yes, early man evolved from primates...and all mankind evolved from blacks....(i.e. I evolved from monkeys and you evolved from me)so show your daddy some respect. Believe me, they will STFU! (They hate that!)
i became a member just to say this...
by who's damn standards is she a hoodrat? she doesnt have to answer to none of you, period. if she is such a bad person to you guys dont buy her music and move on with your life. @mielzgyal- you could know someone for 30 years and they can possibly turn their back on you in THESE days and times, i witnessed it with my godmom. people are subject to change and its their god given right. tell me if she had married this dude for a couple of months had a baby then they divorced would she still be a hoodrat? no. everyone does not believe in the same things! HELLO! If she does not desire to get married who the hell are you to tell her what she should do and how do you know those kids daddies are not in their life? its HER life and when she die she can only reflect on HER life. @aprilm - i feel you 100% black people always doing something to tear black people down. by the way we're are number one killer. Badu have as many kids as you can take of. if you have to have five kids to find your soulmate so be it. and for all of you anti- children before marriage just make sure YOU dont mess around and have none because those are YOUR morals.
Ok, I like Erykah's music, but as a person I don't like her decisions. She is human but I really think she should slow down with the kids and get to know the guy before you have them. Learn that man, be with him for a WHILE, to see what he is like. What many women fail to understand is that kids won't keep the man around. That is my best advice!
Mmmaaaannnnnn, it's because she's got money! Although there are girls out there in the same predicatment, but most of them really struggle. Miss Badu ain't struggling to say the least. However, I do question her reasoning. What if she gets involved with these dudes for the sole pupose of having a baby with them? Maybe it's all about the genes, the "stock".
@ Fender59 Don't forget to tell the black women to avoid deadbeat men. That statement you made was unfair. Don't put all single black mothers in the same catergory because of a few bad ones. That would be no different than me warning black women to stay away from all black fathers because they are deadbeats. I understand that even though there are some bad ones in the batch...the good outweigh the bad. All I'm asking for is a little consideration. Thanks!
@fender59 they already are. why the hell you think the black community so [EXPLETIVE] up? you shouldnt join any movement unless you knew everything it stood for is completely valid. black men should be around to mold our black women properly instead of exploiting them, then wouldnt have so many single black moms... oh but i forgot its the every single mom's fault for trusting black men enough to make kids with them. get the [EXPLETIVE] outta here... it doesnt matter anyway cuz black people will extinct in us by the next century because our black men dont want our black 'hoodrats' asses (even though they part of the problem). im pretty sure isabella or becky is waiting with open arms. im talking about the big picture.
"it doesnt matter anyway cuz black people will extinct in us by the next century because our black men dont want our black 'hoodrats' asses (even though they part of the problem). im pretty sure isabella or becky is waiting with open arms. im talking about the big picture." *********************************************
This thread is starting to go way south.
How did you come to this conclusion? Please do tell.
I agree with Stormzoe on this one. She probably had them babies to keep the men, but it wasn't enough. Damn, she probably knew he was going to call it quits and decided to do it first. Damn Shame. But, its none of my business?? No, it's not, but I come on here to comment on this shyt, so fall back people. They are only comments. don't get offended by the comments on Erykah, you know she needs some birth control.
Gigi2007 men need to be careful as well and stop having mutliple kids with multiple women. lets put responsibility on both ends. just as a woman can get her tubes tied or go on birth control, a man can get a vasectomy or use condoms. ------------------------------------------------- I couldnt have said it better myself..it does seem like its a double standard..women who have kids by multiple men are whores and sluts and are frowned upon..but men who have kids by mulitple women arent really looked as a man-whore..I mean things happen..u fall in love, get intimate and dont use protection 9 months later a child is born..sometimes the relationship doesnt work and ur left with the child u both created..i mean at least she kept her kids...at least she didnt use abortion as a means for protection like some chicks I know..I got 3 kids and never had an abortion but that was my choice..I dont regret having my kids at all..but if I could keep the exact same children and change the daddies I would lol (and my oldest kid is by one man and my other 2 have the same dad)
@girlygirl
THAT IS WHAT YOU BELIEVE TO BE FACT AND YOUR OPINION AND I RESPECT THAT......
BUT! I DON'T AGREE.
WHAT YOU CONSIDER TO BE BLIND FAITH IS WHAT MY RELIGION REQUIRES. TOTAL SUBMISSION, TRUST & FAITH IN GOD.
ALSO FLAG POST the bible was written by jews for jews
THE BIBLE WAS WRITTEN BY PEOPLE WHO HAPPENED TO BE JEWS FOR PEOPLE. ARE YOU FAMILIAR WITH THE WRITINGS OF PAUL?
YOU KNOW WHAT, NEVERMIND....WE WILL BE IN HERE ALL NIGHT ARGUING ABOUT RELIGION BUT THE TRUTH IS...YOU BELIEVE WHAT YOU BELIEVE, AIN'T NUTHIN WRONG WITH THAT HOWEVER I BELIEVE WHAT I BELIEVE AND THERE IS NO CONVINCING ME OTHERWISE AND VICE VERSA.
that was directed toward fender59, he's a thugtician follower. i was clearly saying that sooner or later black people will become extinct because our black men are disowning our black women. instead of helping them they turn to another race. you should know the rest from there. although thugtician does not tell them to go for the other race this seems to be the case... so i put it really doesnt matter cause we're dying breed
I had no intention on responding to this bullshyt thread...
What is new? A woman having a child out of wedlock...16 years ago, it was a shameful act to have kids out of wedlock...but, Hollywood has turn it into a fad. Like all things, fatherless children have become fashionable as Gucci, prada's and Louis V's...ahahaha!
Do you see the perverse nature of these things? You people hold these things in cult like status. You hold your stars in cult like status.
Listen, I don't know Ms. Badu well enough to pass judgment, good or bad. So, I will refrain.
But, the reason I am respoding is to those who think they know Who or What GOD is...enough already.
You bible thumpers...enough already. You atheist...enough already. You spiritual Gurus....enough already.
ahahahah!!!!!!!! you are making laugh.
Someones said, GOD is comprised of the masculine and femine Principle. The question is...what is feminine principle and what is the masculine principle.
I am curious...enlighten me. Note...I don't want a dissertation that was posted on some website.
In simple words...what are the principles you speak off?
So the next time you see or hear a white person calling a black person a monkey kindly let them know that....Yes, early man evolved from primates...and all mankind evolved from blacks....(i.e. I evolved from monkeys and you evolved from me)so show your daddy some respect. Believe me, they will STFU! (They hate that!)
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lol...someone said, black men evolved from Apes...ahahahaha
Apes weren't the first creature or intelligent being to inhabit the universe or planet earth.
So, how does it follow we black men came from Apes?
I keep telling you people, everything you were thought in school is a systematic lie...design to rob you of your spiritual consciousness.
ahahahah!!!!!!!! but that was funny...very funny.
da_advocator
"Someones said, GOD is comprised of the masculine and femine Principle. The question is...what is feminine principle and what is the masculine principle." **********************************************
I said that this is what I THOUGHT...
...meaning - MY OPINION
But seeing how everybody else is o so wrong...why don't YOU school us on who OR what The CREATOR/GOD is?
@ whatever85,
The black race will not go extinct as long as there are sisters like Erykah that are willing to birth the black child by any means necessary. So I guess it cut both ways. Black genes are dominant...look at Obama.
@ aWaKe, I feel you....but when blind faith causes you believe that burning bushes can talk...that is problematic.
This video will do you a world of good:
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@ da_advocator,
You laugh....but I doubt you've taken enough classes to discredit that is taught in science. You actually would have to have the knowledge in order to say what is right or wrong.
GuessJeans...you're right you don't know either families financal portfolio.
James007...I don't like you (not that you). I've read other threads you've commented on and you are one BM I am so GRATEFUL I never crossed paths with. Oh that's right I wouldn't have been your type anyway being that I am a BW and not a DW. You are so anti-Black women that it makes me wish you were of another race because at least that way I could try to understand the hate you give off. And before you go calling me Bish this and Bish that don't bother. The difference is I've seen what you're about but you don't know what I am about since this is my first time commenting/coming at you so what you say hereafter would only be pure speculation so again, just in case you read this, don't bother responding.
AntiDumb...as usual I enjoy what you have to say. In fact you are the reason I continue to log on to this site. I am always interesed in your perspective on issues at hand. I only wish more were like you...cough...James007.
you people are so ignorant! you getting all stressed out over some one else's life that has nothing to do with you....LOL
None of you know Gods sight, and yet your saying what she's doing is wrong? Who are you? For all you know this could be the right way, no one knows. Be more observant of self instead of others and maybe you'll see a bigger picture Only God Can Judge That Woman not you weak humans!
@ da_advocator,
You laugh....but I doubt you've taken enough classes to discredit that is taught in science. You actually would have to have the knowledge in order to say what is right or wrong.
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lol...so, you think your scientist can hold up to a secret society member...ahahaha
Here's a revelation. Einstein, Newton and Pathogorous...and countless other scientist were all Illuminati. I say this, not to fan the flame of conspiracy theorist, but to open your eyes.
By, virtue of them being involved in such organizations, they had access to esoteric knowledge that normal human beings lacked. Their laws and principles weren't created by them. They read it...Einstein's theory of relativity and Newton's laws of gravity and motion, and Pathogorous Pythagorean theorem were common knowledge back in Egypt. These information about the inner workings of the universe were common knowledge, which the elite have stored and kept away from mankind.
So, your scientist who you seem to hold in high esteem are nothing but puppets, who the Establishment have hyped to carry out their agenda.
Your education is a lie. Your degrees are worthless. The knowledge that is kept from you by the elite is the one you should be paying 25,000 per year for.
lol....and so you thought a master degree meant you have arrived...ahahahahah!!!!!!!!!1
If I wasn't bound by secrecy I would show you what will knowledge and power is...
I am out...
@ blackGold..
You ask me to tell you who God is...
Wouldn't that be contradicting my initial statement...that no one knows who GOD is...
You see, there isn't any word-combination in the English language that can define or characterize THE GOD. You would better serve to ask me, what mathematical principle defines the GOD...ahahahaahah!!!!!!
I am out.
Even though Erykah might be aware and conscious; she is STILL human! These singers be trying to find REAL LOVE just like us. Now on the other hand it's not a good look especially when she is in the limelight with young girls looking up to her.
She been gettin DOGGED her lately by reporters about havin these kids outta wedlock! She shoulda came out acting scandalous so people wouldn't have judged her too hard! LOOK at Lauryn Hill she came out all self couscious [EXPLETIVE] and looked what happened to her. People are really double standard cuz if it was a man they would not care at all bout all his baby mamas...
Her music is slippin cuz the last album wasn't all that great and I expected more from ERYKAH BADU.
She will be alright...
Humor me, if you have the patience.
If a woman is in a relationship with a man and finds herself in love with said man and bore said man a child and for whatever reason, does not marry, is this not the point where she should pause and take sometime to re-evaluate her situation?
Okay, now lets say this woman decides that she wants to continue in this relationship, at this point, would it not be wise to for her to exercise her options in the various methods of birth control available because if she does not and remains in this relationship with this man that she is still in love with, wouldn't the probability of another pregnancy become extremely high?
Okay, let's move on two man she's in love with number two, same scenario (repeat the above but with different man and additional child). Go through the pause and re-evaluation process again.
Now we're onto man number three, same situation and outcome, different man.
The point is people are saying maybe Erykah was in love (maybe she was), maybe she left (maybe she did), maybe this or maybe that. She still went through the same process three times and there was time to pause and re-evaluate after the first but she found herself in the same situation the second time. Again, there was time to stop and pause and re-evaluate and yet she found herself in the same spot a third time. I don't get, I am starting to think the poster who said maybe she just needed sperm donors maybe onto something. How can someone so "spiritually enlightened" find herself in this situation three times with three men knowing full well that there are condoms, pills, deprovera, sponges, diaphragms, copper t's and a host of other controls.
She wanted these children, she didn't care about matrimony, and she doesn't care if a variety of fathers are involved in the situation. These kids are going to end up with a host of half brothers and sisters, dealing with a variety of step mothers, one of the children may end up jealous of the other because someone has a wealthier father who brings better presents and above all these children are going to grow up and start asking all kinds of questions.
If she was fooled by love three times, then it's her own fault. Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me. Nobody ever made up a saying for fool my thrice, I guess the never thought anyone would be fool enough to get to a third time.
THIS IS THE LETTER FROM ERYKAH: _________ _____________ [SPAM]_
HOW DARE YOU DISRESPECT THE QUEENDOM
...AND MY CHILDREN AND MY INTELLIGENCE.
ive never been so disgusted in all of my life . there is no other place i used to enjoy more . i post no where else . you guys have taken an all time low , tho.
I'LL STATE MY PEACE
i am a great mother and care giver to my 2 children and to this world . my children are 2 of the kindest and happiest people i have met. I home schooled them and taught them the ways of good to the best of my ability. i am their doctor and their nurse . and even sometimes their mother and their father.
i am an excellent mother and resent all of the negative comments and insults on my character. I PUT MUCH TIME AND THOUGHT INTO HAVING AND RAISING MY CHILDREN. IVE HAD THE HONORS OF HAVING 2 HOME BIRTHS AND 2 WONDERFUL PARTNERS BY MY SIDE.
every relationship i have been in was because i loved the person DEARLY and was dedicated to us "exclusively" FOR A NUMBER OF YEARS.
the fathers of my children are my brothers and friends . we have a great deal of respect for one another and always will. WE LOVE OUR CHILDREN TO NO END. we took our own "vows" and CONTINUE TO UPHOLD THEM. AND THAT IS WHAT THAT IS .
question? WHAT IS MARRIAGE ? WHO IS THE JUDGE? WE ONLY UNDERSTAND THE EXAMPLES WE ARE GIVEN ( well sort of)
WOULD IT "LOOK BETTER " TO MARRY AND DIVIORCE AND MARRY AGAIN ? WOULD THAT BE MORALLY CORRECT ? WHATS THE DIFFERENCE ? the government's involvement i guess. IDEALLY , IT WOULD BE EXCELLENT TO FIND THE MAN OR WOMAN WHO FULFILLS YOUR SPIRIT AND STAY FOR EVER AND EVER ( thru sickness and health till death do us part ) AND HAVE HEALTHY STRONG CHILDREN AS A RESULT OF A healthy AND STRONG UNION. (this CAN happen ... we need much training , however.)
OR
IS IT REALLY "GOOD" TO STAY IN A RELATIONSHIP WHERE BOTH PARTIES ARE UNFULFILLED , LONGING FOR RELIEF , BRINGING one another down as a result of improper training , creating BAD ENERGY AND EXPERIENCES FOR THE CHILD TO REPEAT ? (not to mention breeding deceit and anger and resentment ) SEEMS TO CREATE FEARFUL CHILDREN WHO TURN INTO FEARFUL ADULTS .
HOW MANY OF YOU GREW UP IN 2 PARENT HOMES THAT WERE MISERABLE AS [EXPLETIVE] ? OR 2 PARENT HOMES THAT WERE NOT PERFECT BUT WORKED? HOW MANY GREW UP IN ONE PARENT HOMES WHERE THE MOTHER WORKED HARD TO MAKE SURE YOU WERE CARED FOR BUT SHE WASNT QUITE HAPPY? HOW ABOUT A HOME WHERE THE FATHER WAS THE MAIN CARE GIVER AND DID THE BEST HE COULD -LACKING NURTURE? HOW MANY OF YOU HAVE A SIBLING THAT HAS A DIFFERENT FATHER OR MOTHER? DOES HE OR SHE MEAN LESS TO YOU? HOW MANY OF YOU HAVE MORE THAN 1 MOTHER OR FATHER OF YOUR OWN CHILDren ? HOW MANY OF YOU HAD /OR / ARE PARENTS RESPONSIBLE ENOUGH TO MAKE GOOD DECISIONS FOR YOURSELF AND YOUR CHILDREN ,THAT DONT QUITE FIT ANY OF THESE DESCRIPTIONS? HOW MANY OF YOU STAY IN UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS FOR FEAR OF GOING TO HELL? HOW MANY HOS OUT THERE ... THAT HAVE KIDS TO GET A PAYDAY? HOW MANY PEOPLE GETTING THEY ASS KICKED AND ARE FORCED TO SUBMIT CAUSE YO MAMA GOT HER ASS KICKED? THEN WHAT is CORRECT?
how about this:
I PRAY WITH MY CHILDREN I FEED THEM GOOD FOOD THEY RESPECT PEOPLES DIFFERENCES THEY TRAVEL THE WORLD WITH ME THE KNOW WHO THEY ARE THEY ADORE THEIR FATHERS AND ARE LOVED BY 2 PARENTS OR MORE - OR TWO OR MORE SETS OF LOVING GRANDPARENTS THEY CRY THEY GET HURT THEY GET SICK THEY HEAL
THEY ARE real
THEY ARE NOT AN IDEA or a TOPIC AND NEITHER AM I . I AM ALIVE . I AM BEAUTIFUL WOMAN. I AM A GOOD WOMAM. I AM GROWING I AM COMPLETE WITH OR WITHOUT A PARTNER AND WILL ALWAYS BE AND I HAVE DREAMS OF A FAMILY STRUCTURE ALL OF MY DREAMS DO NOT COME TRUE AND DESPITE ALL OF THE PAIN IN MY LIFE ... IN MY MOTHERS LIFE ... IN MY GRANDMOTHERS LIFE WE HAVE ALWAYS ENDURED AND THERE IS SO MUCH JOY TO BE EXPERIENCED. I NEVER HAD A FATHER AND I DONT KNOW WHAT THAT FEELS LIKE - BUT MY CHILDREN DO , AND THEY LOVE THEIR 'PARENTS' .
WE ARE THEIR CHAMPIONS .
live how you want . follow which ever pattern YOU like . MY CHILDREN WILL BE LEADERS and they will not ever be slaves to this society's failing idea of morality. THEY OWN THEIR MINDS AND THEIR DREAMS.
BIRTH CONTROL lol ... could have 10 babies instead of 2 .
I LOVE CHILDREN AND I WILL HAVE AS MANY AS GOD WILL GIVE ME .
I AM VERY HEALTHY AND RESPONSIBLE AND SO ARE ALL OF MY PARTNERS
I CHOSE THEM WISELY AND SOBERLY .
ALL GOOD BROTHERS .
your opinions lack experience and are not only careless but also very uninformed and immature.
nothing is sacred here . and i see why.
if i loose you as a fan because i want to continue to have children then [EXPLETIVE] OFF... WHO NEEDS YOU ....CERTAINLY NOT ME ... KICK ROCKS ... CALL TYRONE ... PACK LIGHT .... BITE ME
i have defended myself here ON THIS SITE and hurled a few insults .. but only in response to your insults of my music , my clothes , my lyrics , my hair , my being a woman , my spirit, my choices of partners.... these have all been on trial here . and i continued to support the energy of this place .
this is to all the okay players / REAL HUMAN BEINGS hiding behind screen names in order to insult one another and who ever else you will.
geeeez... i had to say something i am so sad for parents who try , today guys enough is enuf.
dont judge to quickly , OKAY PLAYER?
i know you are having fun , but what if it were you and your children? my son is 10 . my daughter, 4 .
peace
ANALOGUE GIRL
and if this post is not clear kiss my placenta.
Maybe these dudes use her for her doe -Another Tyrone situation???
Maybe dud was'nt being an active supportive father.
Black men dont have a reputation for sticking around. Many are great fathers most are not. Does that mean she shouldnt have children? How will the face move on if we all waited for good black men??? I WISH U AL THE BEST ERYKAH- I love you!!!!!
Unfortunately this is a trend among many black women. Woman mets guy(s), has sex right away and gets pregnant. Hey, I have an idea - what about getting into a good, solid relationship BEFORE bringing children into the world. Many of us all ready know if a man is no good. We know it from Jump Street, yet we proceed in dysfunctional relationships and then we get pregnant. There is nothing at all glamorous about having three kids by three different men! Black women, stop the madness! Quit thinking there's nothing wrong with it. Maybe this is why we sisters are the fasted growing HIV/AIDS victims. Come on now. There are too many households with sisters raising children alone and the loser men who have left their side and don't take care of their children. Yes, these men are just as much to blame; however, ladies, we are the ones in control of our reproduction and there are ways NOT to get pregnant. Sometimes I think women believe that having a baby will keep a man near, dear and close. It doesn't work. Get into a good, solid, loving, stable relationship before having babies. We are examples to your children. There are never any guarantees, but you can rest assured the stats are in your favor when you do it right. The end.
A women can not teach a boy to be a man. A girl learns how a man should behave by knowing the first man in her life, her father. Its that simple. If this bond is not made, a women can spend her life searching going from man to man. A man can spend his life disrespecting women and community if he lacks a strong male role model. (ie, Gangs, one man 6 babys mommas ect.....). There is nothing wrong with a married black family if that can be done. The family is the bases of any good community and any good nation. We must do better. ----- Well said, this is the TRUTH!
I am not going to apologize for saying this but THAT IS A DAMNED SHAME! And no example to set for her children ~ What is she teaching them? To be breeders!
That is NASTY and CLASSLESS! And if people don't see whats wrong with that then they have no one else to blame for whatever sh*tty ghetto mess they find themselves in! Damned skank azz hood rats! Nothing but a shame to our culture!
Bourgie_girl... MTO got it right this time! She is a hood rat! Every man she lay down with happens to b a rapper. All of her kids r by different man, whom happens to b a rapper. It's a dam shame! BLK women r weak for a HARD cock! E.B need to do some soul seaching. This type of sh*t effect the BLK community. Look around! you see it everyday. When is it going to STOP! BLK women need to respect their bodies! strong my ass BLK women r WEAK! And BLK man as well! BLK man r low lives, jail birds, no career having and NO thought of what to do with their lives besides fu(king, catching diseases and having kids they r not taking care of. BLK women r raising their son's I am certain, the best way they can. But somehow, it's not good enough. Something is missing and that is their FATHER'S! BLK guys r the scum of the earth at best! They call themseleves [EXPLETIVE]'s and so on. U will rarly hear I am a MAN! Blk people it's been a long time and u people r STILL working on urseleves. Throw in the fu(king towel! you people have lost the war on yourseleves! NOW THAT! IS SOME TURTH FOR YOUR ASS!!! HAPPY B-DAY AND MERRY CHRISTMAS. THIS IS THE GIFT THAT KEEPS ON GIVING. LOL!
glad i missed dthis today
reading it now has done nothing but pissed me off and i would have been here all day with this BS
HOW DARE MTO GO THERE???
MTO IS CYBERGENOCIDE MTO IS CYBERGENOCIDE
SO MUCH THINGS TO SAY WRITE NOW BUT THANKFULLY BLAKGOLD STARCHILD RIGHTEOUSMADAME AND ESOTERIC TOOK THE WORDS RIGHT OUT OF MY MOUTH....
HOW DARE YOU MISERABLE FUCCS PUR MISS BADUS AND 'HOODRAT' IN THE SAME SENTENCE?
AND IF THAT IS HER RESPONSE...GOOD FOR HER...
THAT IS HOW I IMAGINE IT TO BE AND I KNOW YOUR KIDS ARE HEALTHY INTELLIGENT SPIRITUAL AND HAVE SEEN THINGS AND BEEN PLACES MOST CHILDREN WOULD ONLY DREAM.....
Unfortunatly Im gonna go ahead and agree w/ MTO on this one...i loves me some erykah but..3 babies and 3 different baby daddys? if she wasnt a celeb...lets say she was your neighbor or far off cousin or w/e, someone you knew at church what would you have thought? so...while i dont htink she is a hoodrat she sure is behavin like one...but who am i to judge
She's a grown woman,when the time comes for her children to pose that painful question to her she'll have to handle it...by herself!...let it be!.I'm sure it will be a day of recokning...But then again,some women are No- Nonsense when it comes to men...yeah ok she got pregnant by them...but did it ever come to mind that she might not stand for a man to beat on her?...or speak to her with disrespect?...she might be the kind of sistah that says.."Oh heya nawl...you can get the F on with all of that!"...Pregnant or not!...Evidently 3 times.... SOMETHING went wrong!...No one actually KNOWS why her relationships haven't worked out,all the gossips know is...they're not together anymore.Is birth control in order?..Hell yeah!...But then again she might not believe in contraceptives OR abortions!?!...So where would that leave her....in abstinence land?...Come on now...once you've experience what passioniate love making is ...it's hard to let that desire go.A lot of women point fingers at women who walk a different path and forget where they USE to be,becoz their lives have gotten better. My mother have always told me.."Sweep in front of your own door first!".Hood Translation:...if you ain't got room to talk about nobody?..keep yo damn mouth shut!...that's real talk right there!
3 kids by 3 different men doesn't automatically qualify her as a hoodrat. My cousin has 2 by 2 different men but she takes care of her kids and work her ass off to do so. I consider the chicks on the other side of the family hoodratz b/c they have kids just to get a check every month, is on welfare and everything else the government makes available to them and couldn't care less about the kids they just drop off to anybody. Those are hoodrat.
I assume Erykah, and my cousin, are like so many women out here. It is so crazy that a woman can be the most intelligent person when it comes to everything but a MAN.
Why is everybody tripping on this lady and her kids??? Yall need to be tripping on the ones who yall are taking care of thats living off the government. Yall ARE NOT paying for her kid's health insurance, food stamps, or housing! This lady has $$$. Just because she can't stay in a relationship doesn't make her a bad mother. It's not always the woman's fault.
Phuck em, Erykah!!! I understand. I'm a single mother of three that's well taken care of by me.
SHUT UP SHUT SHUT UP. GET UP OFF OF HER. CIRCUMSTANCES, LOVE ARE SUPER RELEVANT AND CHILDREN ARE ALL VERY IMPORTANT FACTORS WHEN IT COMES TO YOUR EXISTENCY AS A PERSON.
SO YALL PEOPLE HIDING BEHIND THESE PAGES GET UP OFF OF HER!!!
SO WHEN THEY ADOPT THE 3 KIDS BY FOLKS THEY DONT EVEN KNOW THATS JUST SO WONDERFUL IN ALL IT'S GLORY?
ACCEPTANCE!!! HOW DARE A PERSON SAY THEY DON'T RESPECT HER!
WHEN A SEED HAS BEEN PLANTED, YOU ARE NOT TO JUDGE WHY AND WHO HAS THEM. SOME PEOPLE LONG FOR YEARS FOR KIDS AND ARE PISSED WHEN THEY GET TOO OLD TO HAVE THEM. And everybody with three kids by different men are NOT on welfare. ridiculous!
let me quiet down, cuz somebody finna git hurt!
Peace out!
WOW...So the maker of Bag Lady becomes one!!?? LOL...no but seriously, I wouldn't go so far to call her a Hood Rat because I don't know her personally, there are respectful women that get caught up in these kinda situations and all for different reasons and since nobody can judge but God I wont...but the true fact is sh*t like this is hard on the kids no matter who you are or how much money you have!!! They grow up with all kinds of questions from peers that are hard to answer, insecurities about why all the siblings look different, "my daddy is better than your daddy", and all kinds of hard things for a child to have to bare...so as far as what the media thinks I wouldn't give a fukk, but this sh*t is not a good look for the children brought into these kinda situations!!!!
I REALLY DON'T THINK ITS THE THREE CHILDREN AND SINGLE MOM PROBLEM AT ALL. IT IS A PROBLEM WITHIN HERSELF..HER MENTAL WITH RELATIONSHIPS WITH THESE MEN. BEFORE SHE LAYS DOWN WITH THESE MEN AND DECIDE TO HAVE CHILDREN BANKING ON HAVING A COMMITED RELATIONHIP WITH THEM...SHE NEEDS TO GET HER HEAD RIGHT WITH HERSELF FIRST.
THIS IS AN INDICATION OF HOW SHE MAY OR MAY NOT FEEL ABOUT HERSELF (UNSURE, LOW SELF ESTEEM ECT...HALLE BERRY HAD THE SAME PROBLEM TIL SHE DID SOME SOUL SERACHIN FOR HERSELF N GOT PROFESSIAL HELP..BUT
SERIOUSLY, IF YOU HAVE BEEN IN THESE LONG TERM OR WHAT EVER TYPE OF TERM RELATIONSHIPS AND THEN ON TOP OF THAT U BRING IN A BOND SUCH AS A CHILD AND THEIR IS NO STABLE GROUND NO STRONG FOUNDATION TO BUILD ON (TIME AFTER TIME), THEN SOMETIMES YOU GOTTA LOOK AT YOURSELF AND FIND THE PROBLEM BCUZ 9 TIMES OUTTA 10 , THE PROBLEM IS "U". FIX URSELF FIRST...MENTALLY, EMOTIONALLY AND HAVE A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP WITH SELF FIRST..THEN MAYBE U WON'T HAVE TO SEARCH FOR 3 DIFFERENT BABY FATHERS THAT U CANNOT HAVE A COMMITTED LIFE LONG RELATIONSHIP WITH..I KNOW ITS DEEP..BUT ITS TRUE..ITS TRUE FOR ALOT OF US:(
LOL @ Jucme. Maybe now she can focus on taking care of them babies. I heard people saying "at least she can afford them" when she announced this third pregnancy with the third daddy.Well children need more than monetary support. How is she providing for them kids emotionally, and physically when she's busy lying on her frail back with every industry dude she meets making siblings for them? She's always talking about spiritual awareness; maybe she needs to go somewhere and learn about sexual awareness.
Wow, this is amazing 2 me. How we are judgeing Buda.I think everyone that judged or think it's wrong has at less one or two family members that has kids with different fathers.Sh*t happens.It's hard enough being in the public eye.Buda will not be the first or the last to have this happen to her.She will find her way just like everyone esle..Sometimes you have to go through life lessons to be a better person.I rather leave a unhappy relationship ,than to stay and make my kids sad,unhappy,depressed and have not one but,2 unhappy parents.I'm a single mom. Sometime the game changes in the middle of the flow.. Keep makin them hits Buda..
She is acting like Kenisha tacquisha. Double standards. How can she preach about something she does not follow? If she wants to have 25 babies alright my gal, At least get the same sperm donor. Dont have to marry or nothing. Three baby daddies is an I learned a dang thing from the first two experiences, but I am still gonna sell me some records off the vulnerability of my people. So it was written, so it was done.lmao. She need to lay off the pipe. second class citizen mentality it is. Whatever happened to my body is a temple? Public temple.lmao
She doesn't want to deal with what nonsense? Having multiple babies with various men is not something a conscious woman would allow. Erykah needs to chill with this babymama syndrome that she's grown accustomed too. It's not cute. What exactly does she teach her daughter? That it's okay to lay up and make babies with whom ever as long as you think you in love? Where are the morals!
@ Da great1..Looka here mr.man...don't start with me...The same way she as you said she.."spreaded her legs" for them, they could've sealed their lil business in rubber!...They WANTED those babies just as much as SHE did!...That last guy? he did it Just BECOZ she is BADU... he wasn't doin the most when she HOOKED up with him!...I'll bet cha he was overstrokin tryin to get that girl pregnant!..GTFOH!...He so in love, it ain't HIS fault,but his azz jet out!?..right?...Just face it..your species is HURT...The black male has a lot left to be desired by the black woman!...It's just as much prevention expected from the man as it is for the woman!...Every time a crisis..(PREGNANCY, of all fuqqn things) arises..Most SINGLE black men RUN the other damn way...unless?...ian goin there...I don't look for Badu to be a role model for my damn kids....and whomever IS looking for that is a sad parent?...As far as I'm concerned, she's just a singer- who has her OWN life!...OUTSIDE of singing??..helloooo!...She could get pregnant 4 more times,and it won't effect me...If you're so tired of Hoodrat Black women having so many babies by so different men, why don't you as black men, make sure YOU strap it up!...That'll cut it by what?...99%?...Oh i'm sorry...of course you have that.."it bust"...factor,right?...and that's the woman's fault too...huh?..*rolls eyes*
What is the name for men that have 2 or 3 kids by different women? *silence*
Exactly. P. Diddy have how many baby mommas? A woman have different baby daddies and she is a hoodrat. A man has different baby mommas and nobody blinks an eye. SMDH. TaylorKennedy, I feel you. This is the very reason I live my life on my own terms, not giving a damn what people think. People will talk, you can't help that. But, I do what I want to do and don't hurt anybody whule doing it. So, who's business is it. It never cease to amaze me how people always sticking their big ass noses in other people's business. Just worry about your damn self.
People on here are focused on how Erkyah will manage without the fathers helping her, if this is true that's all well and good but how about how the kids will manage. I know too many people (of all colors, backgrounds and wealth) put themselves before the kids, you know the exact opposite of how a parent is supposed to behave but lets think about the kids too. Unless the dad is physically or sexually abusive there is no reason he shouldn't be in the picture but really they should have been married. Unless you are blind you have to see what this type of behavior like what Ms. Badu is doing is hurting our communities. I see young men (especially) and young women all the time looking sad and angry and it must have something to do with the break down of the family. Why do you think the statistic is that 80% of men in jail grew up without a father. If something is that high to me that's a problem. The family is messed up, it can't be a coincidence that as our family has been broken up so has our communities and self-esteem. Even with Jim Crow & Segregation black people had 2 parents (80% had 2 parents in the 50's) now it's the opposite %. I know getting married doesn't mean you still won't be a single parent (that's what happened in my family) but at least you tried to do the right thing for the kids and yourself.
That's right we are bashing the "behavior". What is marriage? A union between a man & woman. Damn right I talked about my marriage to a beautiful black male You see, he earned this hand & vice versa If it doesn't work out, I can "cash in" and walk away. Those playing house, just get to walk away as did this gentleman who procreated with Ms. Badu. How this translated into a bash against single mothers & fathers is just not knowing how to analzye a topic carefully. Could be why some of these issues are prevalent in our community. Don't like what you read, bypass it. It's free speech up in here and I plan to exercise it. Who's next?
my mother, age 59, had 3 children by 3 different men as well and she's not a "hood rat" by any means. my mom's human...like all of us...even those with celebrity status. i know many of the folks making comments on here have the same parenting background as i do. i'm VERY offended by the above quote by e's picture. whoever wrote that quote needs to not only look at their own life in detail, but try a lil technique called "proof reading". (take a good look at that quote in black and red)
I am not sure how to take the commentary on Erykah Badus choice(s)...Society dictates that we marry, have babies and raise them as a couple & as a family. Erykah has made it very clear I believe that she marches to the beat of her own drum. Three kids, three fathers...ok...this was/wasnt the plan but it is the reality and all that really matters is that these kids are loved, respected, nurtured, provided for and protected by both parents. Marriages end everyday...does this mean men/women do not move on and have more babies??? If a relationship ends but you as a woman/man choose to bring forth life who is anyone to judge??? So long as the woman/man mother/father have an intense dedicated respectful love for one another..which is INDEED possible even after a failed marriage/relationship...that is what matters. Children need to see and feel and learn love...period...they dont know a piece of paper...a piece of paper that mind you can mean very little as it does in many marriages. Would I tell young girls to have babies out of wedlock...no...but would and do I judge a grown self sufficient woman who does..no. Relationships take work and men and women change their minds and hearts like they change their drawers...creative minds, artistic minds & spirits operate on an entirely diff level than most of us posting comments...the main point here is that we have choices and most times we choose what other people want us to do and not what we want to do...clearly Erykah Badu knew the scrutiny she would get from her community but she is continuing to do HER thing...what works for her...and at the end of the day that is what makes us happy...DO YOU and care not what MTO or the posters have to say...the old saying...opinions are like dot dot dot...who gives an ish about the opinions of others...she will raise her babies in knowledge and light and they just might turn out better that most of the kids that come from those "monogamous" married picket fence households...love peace & family first is soemthing Erykah Badu talk about in the past and that in itself is saying a lot.
Now I know I luv a large penis but I'll be damned if I let every "Big D*ck Tyrone" skeet in me!!!! WTF??... It's called birth control, the pull-out method, or the all time fav a man with a low sperm count! lol
Now if Angel had a kid by each one of them G-Unit dudes, that chick would be a hoodrat as well.
If LisaRaye had a kid by every ball-player she f*cked, then she'd be a hoodrat.
If Mary J. had kids with every guy that produced a hot track for her, then she'd be a hoodrat.
If Naomi Campbell had kids with evey designer that gave a top runway spot, then she'd be hoodrat too. Notice the pattern.
There are no excuses, and no one is immune. Not Shaniqua in the hood, Kelly Rowland, or Erykah Badu.
If we got to know people besides the first few weeks of intense sex, we'd know he doesn't take care of his other kids, has no ambition of getting a real job, had no father figure of his own, blames the white man for "the system", only f*cked with low self-esteem broads in the past, and has extreme anger issues.
I would like to add one thing that I DO believe in and would tell young girls and my fellow women...YOUR BODY IS YOUR TEMPLE...the one thing I am opposed to is sexing different men and sexing different men without a condoms...I believe it takes time to have sex with men without condoms and as corny as it sounds women should be more selective..this isnt to Erykah Badu bc I dont follow her life closely enough or at all for that matter to know how long she was in these relationships...my main concern is letting it be known to young teens & all women is to know your worth...value your body and know that when you lay with men it is deeper than you know. All this unprotected sex always has me like whoa...
MTO, you all are so funny to me. Why is it whenever it's someone black featured on this site you're so negative. Ms. Badu is doing very well I'm sure. After all she is financially stable and she has family. Do you know how many black single mothers who have been raising 6 and 7 kids on their own for years? We're equipped to do this kinda stuff. If things aren't going right in a relationship you shouldn't stick around just for the sake of the kids... living a lie and being miserable.And maybe she saw something in this man that she didn't see early on. And for you ignorant-a$$ bastards on this website making these demented a$$ comments please sweep around your own front door!
Can everyone please stop actin like this is the first time this has happened in life. I reaaly do get tired of everyone tryin to act like she has committed the worst crime possible. Please she broke up with someone for whatever reason. Ok it's her third baby's dad. And so what. At least she aint like a lot of the people bloggin about her and can take care of all her children on her own even if she chooses to have 7 more and name them all zimbabwe. Regardless of what is goin on with her relationships her kids are well taken care of believe that . And whether or not the fathers choose to be involved you better believe they are financially providing for their kids. WHich is more than most of the people bloggin about her can say. But yet she a hood rat. No you a hood rat don'e get it twisted. She made an informed decision when she had her kids made sure she could take care of them before she had them. You you just wited in kine and updated your welfare case. People in glass houses........
So many accusations and assumptions. We don't even know this lady or her belief systems. So how can we force what we feel is right morally for us on her? Doesn't make sense at all. Just all apart of the sociological perspective it seems. All of a sudden she is a bad mother, probably has Hiv, doesn't love herself etc etc etc.. Love you Erykah... May Jah be with you.. Women can't make a man be with them. If I'm not mistaken she was with this brother for awhile before she became pregnant, another human being cannot control someone's actions or how they may respond in certain situations.. No matter how well you think you know someone, they are human beings and will disappoint you everytime because they are HUMAN and Imperfect.. Thats why I stay by myself don't want no damn relationship LOL Half these men are crazy and no damn good!!!!
Yall bitches are silly. No one can stop you from breaking up and moving on....why should she be romantically tied with anyome just because of kids?? Will any of you stay with the person you have a kid with just for the kids sake or not have another kid if you getinto a another relationship...All of you condemning her are more than likely hoes yo damn selves...putting yo shi# on to her. Her kids are taken care of and each father is active in those kids lives...nothing hood rat about that.
