: MediaTakeOut.com received the following email, from one of our readers:
This relationship goes back to late 2001. He was a junior football player in college in _____. It did not begin as a sexual relationship, we actually started as very good friends. He always told me about his girlfriends, and would often seek relationship advice. Advice came in the form of IM/email and telephone conversations to sending money to pay for his dates (i.e. flowers, dinner, hotel rooms, etc). In addition I would send him money because, according to him, his parents didn’t support him financially, or emotionally as I later found out in our relationship. Things didn’t become serious or sexual until February 2002. He called 3 days after Valentine’s Day to tell me his girlfriend broke up with him. He was devastated and heartbroken, and requested I meet him at our mutual location in ____________ since it was an equal travel distance for both of us.We met in ___________ and things were normal as usual; we hung out, grabbed drinks, and talked about his ex-girflriend [sic] situation. When I got back to my hotel room, we just chilled, drank, and talked about his ex-girlfriend some more. This time, it was different. He asked me to give him a massage, I didn’t ask to do it, and was actually a little uncomfortable that he asked because I made it a point to not make him feel uncomfortable by being around me. I was and have always been a private person, even though we weren’t together like that at the time. I knew he was a football player, and being platonic friends with a gay man at that time, hell, even now, can ruin careers for whatever reason. I didn’t want people to make any assumptions of him based on his friendship with me. Up until this point, we were NOT lovers. However, this night, a massage, led to him taking his shirt off (not at my request), then to more intimate affection. It was this night that we first became sexually involved. It was very sexual, not just oral. The next day, I woke up on one bed and he on the other. I pretended to not know what happened, and he replied “you know what happened” as if it wasn’t a big deal. I was his first male experience, and that’s where our sexual relationship started.
Even after this encounter, our relationship was never strictly sexual. We had a quintessential relationship. He told me he loved me (something HE started), and we spoke and saw each other regularly. We both recognized that our relationship could not be known b/c of the obvious stigma, and he was in college, a young black male, etc. I am an openly gay man, and never denied my sexuality around him, in public or private. By nature I am a private and nurturing person, and my concern was protecting him. He often vented his frustrations about the situation, but more than anything, he felt it wasn’t anybody’s business who he was with.
During our relationship, he had no ambition of becoming a professional athlete because he didn’t think he was good enough. Like most college students, he was also constantly broke. Only unlike most college students, his parents rarely sent him anything. I sent him money ALL the time. I sent him money more than anyone, accumulating thousands of dollars over a 2-year period. It wasn’t until he was named ________ of the year that his status as a potential NFL candidate was elevated. He obtained an agent, and began attending combines. After confirming that a multi-million dollar deal was in the works, he pretty much told me we would have to distance ourselves from each other, but that he would take care of me as an appreciation for all I had done for him, financially and emotionally. . It hurt, naturally, but I understood. Even after knowing about his deal, I still sent him money. I sent him $600 a week before he signed his first contract. Shortly thereafter, our communication all but ceased.
I would still send him occasional text/emails or call, with no reply. If he didn’t want me to contact him, he would have changed his number, but he never did. On or around Thanksgiving, I sent him a text wishing him Happy Thanksgiving, and he replied. After 1 1/2 years, he replied with a half-ass response, basically saying thank you for everything you have done and God will bless you. Was he trying to tell me he no longer wanted me, or my lifestyle? Whatever it was, it pissed me off and in 2006 when I decided to move from NC to NJ, I used all of the frustration I had to contact him one last time. Knowing I basically took care of this man during his college career, and now he is making millions of dollars every year, and can only thank me with a text saying God Bless you as if he doesn’t know me? No thanks, I text him that we needed to talk and he replied it would have to wait until the season was over.
After the season was over, I told him that I needed help moving and he traveled to NC to give me money. It was at this time that we began to reconnect emotionally and sexually. He would visit me in NJ and on one particular visit, he told me, in a Newark, NJ hotel, that he wanted a relationship with me, a monogamous relationship. At this time he did not have a girlfriend, and promised he was not seeing anyone else. No matter what he said, I always had my suspicions he was seeing women while in a relationship with me. Still, like any significant other of a professional athlete, I was invited to his games, he would send me money to rent cars and drive to his games, reserve a hotel room, and leave tickets for me at will-call. I’ve been to his home before. Our privacy was more important to me, not him. When we argued, which was alot, it was always about his frustrations about my choice to not be affectionate or, pretty much myself, around him in public. I always explained to him the consequences, no matter how ignorant it was for anyone to judge his ability as an athlete based on his sexual preference for women or men, or both.
We had a relationship that worked for us, then everything changed in the mid to late 2000s. It was at this time, that he started acting weird. Our conversations just didn’t seem the same, and he was trying to distance himself again. Please keep in mind, we had a relationship, everything I knew about him, I knew from him. However, this time was different. One day he called to tell me he had really big news and said it would be worth my while. His exact words. I didn’t like the sound of it, and just felt like something wasn’t right. Trusting him as the man I loved, I allowed him to send me money to travel down to see him. He wanted to meet at his house, but I didn’t feel right, so I demanded we meet in a public place. I pulled up, saw him at a table and sat down. He literally looked at me, got up, without saying a word, and a man in a suit sat down and slid an envelope to me. In a nutshell, this bastard set me up! The man that sat down was his lawyer. He basically told me that I should take what’s in the envelope and not contact him again. The best part is that this wanna- be lawyer said they were keeping the “NFL police” at bay from me. What the hell? NFL police? At bay? From me? I was fuming. After all I had done for this man, all of the years we spent together, emothionally [sic] AND sexually, and he is going to try and get rid of me as if I am some secret he needs to brush under the rug, some fling he had, someone worth only a dollar value to him? I did not make a scene, though in hindsight I should have. I never opened the envelope, which I am sure enclosed a check for an undisclosed amount. I never looked at it. Never wanted to. I walked out and saw my former lover get out of his white Mercedes Benz, shook as hell. He knew I didn’t take the money and he just kept saying, what happened, what happened. Sad man. I didn’t say a word, I just looked at him, the look that says “How dare you? You WILL hear from me again. Just not now.”
It wasn’t until I got back home, got my thoughts together and tried to figure out why he would be so cruel to me and publicly degrade me. Oh, the beauty of the internet. Jackass. He just signed a deal with the [NFL TEAM], totaling over __ million dollars. That is why he tried to write me off. Because of money. I was beyond hurt and angry. If it was ever about money with me, I would have made that clear, or at least try to contact him again to settle a monetary deal to shut me up. But how can it be about money when I took care of and loved this man. I am the reason he even had the confidence to believe he could be a professional athlete. He dare not deny it. No one believed in him, that’s what he told me. Those were the type of conversations we had. And our relationship came down to a check?
Shortly after this incident I became very stressed and hospitalized for 2 weeks for high blood pressure and heart failure at 33. I still to this day know all that came along because of what he put me through and how he completly disrepected [sic] our bond. Laying in that hospital bed made me see things about him I never thought could be. How could someone I loved, and loved me, so much lie to me and set me up? Then I knew the old wise tale was true, money is truly the root to all evil!
The reason I have decided to come out with this story is because I have given him more than enough time to right this wrong. To not treat me like a skeleton in his closet, but to speak to me, man to man about the situation, and why he turned our relationship into a would-be scandal. I am the one who told him my being his lover could ruin his career, and I kept our relationship between us because he was right, it wasn’t anyone’s business. He is the one doing this to his life, not me. He is the one living the extravagant life in Atlanta, posing in magazines as one of the most eligible bachelors, dating countless women, who can confirm as I know, he has hate issues with women.
I’m sure any woman he has been with up until this point has only been with him for his money, but he doesn’t care because it looks “normal.” He promised he would take care of me, but only when he was a low-profile athlete. The minute he turned high- profile, he let the wrong people get in his ear, people whom he pay to protect his image, yet they made the mistake of ruining him by trying to hush me with money.
To this day, I have no idea what was in that envelope, but there is no amount of money that will heal a scorned heart. And now he needs to man up, if he can even call himself that, and stop living a lie. I know I was his first male sexual experience, and I believe I am the only man he has been with, but he is a known liar, so I can’t say I fully believe that myself. The fact remains that we did have a sexual relationship. I’m not here to call him, gay, straight, or bi. He’s grown and can defend himself, or hire a lawyer to do it for him. I don’t have the money or the luxury to do so. I’m here to confirm that no one is above being responsible for their actions. No amount of money, or publicist, can clean your image up enough so that the person you truly are will never see the light of day. My story is no secret. For every story written like mine, there are thousands unwritten that would read the same, only those took the envelope and walked away to let these men continue to live lies. I’m not going to be that person anymore. I have a life I need to live also, and the only way to bring closure to this situation is to get it off my chest. As I stated, I gave him over 2 years to right this wrong. He left me no choice, I have to do it my way.
Whatever, if that man do not want you please let him be. That man living his life and you want to drag him thru the dirt simply because he won't acknowledge you. If you loved that man so much you wouldn't be willing to expose him sense you're not together anymore. You know there was chances you wouldn't communicate once he made it big that's the chances you took on him and now you can't live with it. Live, let go and move on with you life. If he dont' won't you somebody will.
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MTO you're full of sh*t. I'm sure that "one of your readers" did send you the story but you also know where it came from.
You guys always get pissy when folks don't give you the required media credit when you break a story, yet you guys repeatedly jack stories from ME, Necole, Sandra, CL, YKYDAW, [SPAM], etc. I mean...come on. SMDH
STFU !!!!!!!! I'm so tired of these d*ck watchers thinking this man on man sh*t is normal ! U nasty bastard that's why there's so much f*cking diseases out there now and your on the net like a scorn woman take your extremely large a**hole somewhere and drink a gallon of bleach u sick punk muthaf*cka !!!
Well according to his own words, he was the one who was so concerned with "protecting" his potential NFL lover that he decided to play the background and assume the role of a jump off. Now he's hurt and upset that he got treated like one. Grow tha f-ck up!!!!!
Anyone gay or straight should have enough common sense to know the risks associated with falling deeply in love with a young kid. People under 25 years old just usually are not mature. Dude should have seen all of this coming and should only be mad at himself. It's horrible that he's trying to ruin the kid's career.
GET OVER IT!!!!!!! stop acting like a baby. he said he would take care of you and he tried. you dont know what was in the envelope by your own admission. wtf?????? i bet his ex-girlfriend didnt get a check. you just want him on blast cuz HE DUMPED YOU. it happens. just move on. you HAD a relationship. he doesnt owe you anything.
what frigging eva! get over it! women been going thru this for centuries, so let him and God work that out. just because u aint getting no more d@ck means it's ok for u to ruin the man's career. let the little gay, closest boy go about his life and u do the same. DAMN! y'all living foul any damn way.
When a relationship is over,people need to just move on with their lives and keep it moving.POINT BLANK! It serves no purpose putting out your personal business out in the media or getting yourself sick and hospitalized over when a person don't want to be involved with you anymore. @Slowmotion01: I cosign with you 100%.
ok, so how do we know that is was not just a disgruntled ex girlfriend who took the essence of the story behind e. lynn harris' "basketball jones", switched the sport and the details, and then made it seem like ovie is on the dl out of spite? a female could have access to all the proof provided in the pictures, just as easily as a male. or is there more concrete proof this man is on the dl? i hope if this is a female trying to ruin ovie's life, that the truth comes out, because this could definitely negatively impact his career. i know it's 2010, but there are still plenty of homophobic out there.
Much love to all the people who put it out there that it was posted on MissJia dot com FIRST. The ish was posted yesterday as a blind item (that you guys are reading NOW) and the reveal was done today on the site.
I don't care if ANY blog gets a story from me but at the very least, CREDIT back. Sheesh.
But thanks for blowing it up for me, MTO! You guys rock and helped my traffic! :)
*****MissJia dot com****
Well I'd wager, from what I have seen of these NFL dudes and my fine tuned DL detector, that a strong 70% of the league goes boths way or just straight up into man meat period...watch these mofos in interviews etc mofos think this sh*t is a game, its much more prevalent than most would ever care to think
This sweet tart is retarded! Ok if you’re going to blast someone and you know its true then put out the name! And if you just want to talk to him about the situation then why haven’t you reached out and told him instead of being messy talking about how you helped him out! For one he was going to write you a check for all you’ve done but you didn’t want that. You can’t make a person love you nor be with you so baby boy take the money and move on!
Weak a** . That goes for any man or woman that would let someone mean so much to them that it would make you physically sick to loose them. Typical drama queen/king. He called your bluff hun. YOU said that your relationship could be bad for hiM and his image. Now you want to cry foul? If you had kept it real and made the relationship more obvious from jump like he wanted, maybe you all would still be kickin it. Your bad. You coached him into this postion he played on you.
I wouldn't out him by name but yes he's foul ?and my good freind a openly gay male has dated two guys in the n.f.l & 5 guys in the m.l.b so yes there out there if they wanna stay in hideing fine cowards die a 1000 deaths I'm gay brn and proud d.l guys are a joke be care full ladies don't be fooled by the money and fame some of dem bois anit str8 ?caio
Beauty08 I agree 100% with you. I mean just cause you didn't get your way You gonna get revenge? You gonna tell on him being gay but if you are gay then tell me what is wrong with it. That is like the crack head snitching on the dope man. I mean he is the supplier. Where do you get your fix. Another pusher? Obviously the RAT gets the short end of the stick. In the END PPL will look at you diffrently for being a SNITCH. His next partner will think heh is no good cause he is scorned. Cause he feels like he gotta hurt you to feel better about his anxiety. no one wants a vengeful partner. NO ONE.
He's so good at appearing as a level-headed gay heart-broken man. But truth is if u can take a dick up ur asz u can take a check of what 3 mill?? Shyt a scandal aint worth it if that check had over $6 million on it. Nah if I was him hed have to make that check over 100 million, tell ya lawyer that!!
Happens all the time, and the sad thing is you do not hear about it. Most take the check, but I understood why he did not. I would have taken looked in the envelope and worked out a multiple year deal for me to keep my mouth shut. Started a few businesses and kept my annual check for expenses for my businesses.
Im sorry but I dnt feel bad for this dude. This NFL player OWES U NOTHING! U holding on to the past. Hell, he tried to pay u for ur time & money. He was ready to move on & leave ur relationship.
Do u kno how many women have been done dirty, left with babies, & the man didn't even leave the woman a pair of dirty drawers?!
So, GTFOH!
U shoulda took that check & wine/dined another dude.
Like Martin wud say to Cole, "U Stupid!"
Um, so yea, I didnt read that... Entirely too long of a post MTO...
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It's crazy how people have the nerve to say oh it's because of homophobia why black women are dying from hiv bs stop standing up for dl men. There responsible for there own actions. how could someone stand up 4 a group of men who are killing us and destroying the blk community. @jasmine4u ur right this story is so disturbing i lost my appetite
I can understand the principle in this matter, but the brotha should have just taken the money. Sure the NFL player was wrong to try to bribe him, but life goes on and karma has a powerful swing. The NFL athlete would have come to his senses. I think this is a case of conflicting egos and unfortunately the ego that matters most is the one holding the short stick.
@sexygirl& jasmine4u, yall r right it is a very disturbing story, and young ladies do need to know who these so called bm r! im HAPPY AS HELL he got put on blast like that. can u just imagin how many star struck woman this player could possibly infect? they dont care about that, all they care about is thier image! so *UCK him! i hate down low men!
sexygirl22 Flag post It's crazy how people have the nerve to say oh it's because of homophobia why black women are dying from hiv bs stop standing up for dl men. There responsible for there own actions. how could someone stand up 4 a group of men who are killing us and destroying the blk community. @jasmine4u ur right this story is so disturbing i lost my appetite
actually aids is not a homosexual disease u can catch aids from having unprotected sex. hell the straightest [EXPLETIVE] on the planet can give u aids . u bitches are so [EXPLETIVE] stupid its ridiculous
Wow.he should have known that this would some day come back to haunt him.He'd better get a mop and a bucket coz it's finna get REAL messy.This person has put up proof with his name on it.All they have to do is scan the seating arrangements and show who was seated for the tickets he requested...IF< they want to get scandelous on him!.Hotel Footage!...You caught buddy!...Tiger look what you've started!...smh....HUSH money bout to triple on celebrities now.
All I had to do was google most eligible bachelors in ATL and went through the last few years and there was an Atlanta Falcon for 2007, saw that his hometown state was SC and the guy that wrote the letter was from NC, figured it was Ovie Mughelli since he is a fullback as the letter said, then went to missjia.com and there was the proof, now more guys are coming out saying they supported him while he was in college for sex, this is about to get ugly like the Tiger Woods story. Wonder how many dudes actually took a payoff and kept their mouth closed. THIS SHYT CRAZY
Downlow is the NEW term,the old term is .."Trade"...This has been going on "Since hachet was a hammer!"...They have secret societies of this type behavior. your eyez are just wide shut,and that's how they kept it until "Law-N-Order" did that show on DL football players,and E.Lynn confirmed it on O*prah!
@emmettmays85,u r right!ppl r homophobic, n that should change, but as long as there r down low men, i just cant stand it! just be openly bi, and that gives a weoman a choice! who cares if your oplenly gay and play a sport? i dont, i respect that player more for being honest! in time ppl r gonna have to accept other ppls lifestyles!
i looked at the supposed proof on the website some of ya'll are talkin about...an until the supposed fag dude shows himself in those locations or in a pic with dude...this is bullshit...could be a female who's mad at the brother trying to assassinate his character...full well knowing the ignorant stereotype of "DL" black men will be well received...not sayin it can't be true...but it sounds like bullsh!t to me.
YESS HUNNI...I JUST LOVE A SCANDAL LIKE THIS...BUT Y'ALL ARE SO LATE. IT'S OVIE MUGHELLI....DUHH!!
AND THIS DUDE IS SO NOT CUTE!!....YUCK!...LMAO
ANYWAY, IF Y'ALL DONT BELIEVE IT CHECK OUT THIS LINK, THE JUMPOFF AINT MESSIN AROUND, HE HAS PROVIDED PROOF - Y'ALL GET IN HURR
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AND THE SCANDAL CONTINUES!! LOL
Money is the root of all evil.
D14k sucking for money is the fruit from the evil root. He didn't mind being a secret when they were still smashing. Why did he mind being a secret after they stopped. Whatever the reason, dude went on to the next. Maybe he don't want to get f*cked in the butt anymore.. or more particularly.. by you.
Sweetheart. SOme people dont even get offered money. THey just get threatened and left. Now go back and get that bread.
THE FOOTBALL PLAYER THIS GUY IS TALKING ABOUT IS *******(OVIE MUGUELLI)******HE PLAYS FOR THE ATLANTA FALCONS SO HE LIVES IN ATLANTA,HE ATTENDED WAKE FOREST UNIVERSITY LOCATED IN NORTH CAROLINA.DURING HIS SENIOR YEAR IN COLLEGE HE WAS NAMED THE STATE PLAYER OF THE YEAR.THIS GUY GAVE AWAY THE PERSON..
I feel bad for this guy. I mean, he must've been extremely hurt and feeling just that betrayed, any1 else would've taken that money and disappeared. I'm not insinuating that thats what he should've done. I'm saying he was truly in love w/ this man and his heart would not allow him to be bought n2 silence and indignity. GOOD FOR HIM!! This NFL star is apparently selfish, heartless, dishonest, cruel, calculating, arrogant, and cowardly and I hope gets EVERYTHING thats coming to him. How does it go? "Hell has no fury like a woman scorned", I'm thinking a man scorned may just be worse. Wow.
YEAH WHATEVER!!! SOUNDS LIKE THE OWNER OF MTO HAS A VERY ACTIVE IMAGINATION.
SURELY YOU MUST TAKE THESE ALLEGED STORIES WITH A GRAIN OF SALT (RELIABLE SOURCE TO ME MEANS YOU MADE IT UP). EVERY BIT OF TRASH ON THIS SITE COMES FROM AN "RELIABLE SOUCES"....WHERE WHERE OR WHO ARE THEY????
THIS SITE IS A HACK.
haha! this [EXPLETIVE] is completely full of lies. i read this story ina novel a few years ago. i've been trying to remember the book. it's funny that either mto or some idiot is making up stories for their own benefits (whatever that may be) and attempting to ruin others careers/lives. dumb mutha fuckas!
I dont believe that. Cus if u say u knew he was much so into women & u aint want to jeapordize his career...What's the problem? Wat u sound like is a soar azz loser & u need to hav yo azz snatched out dat hospital bed 4 sounding so pathetic. U played into his game and he played into yours. Get over it. And i should steal your heart medicine for making that story so dam.n long lol. What...run up....What!!! Get a life CRAB!! I pray for you though
Bullsh!t.....this is straight outta an E Lynn Harris book about Basil Henderson. LMAO....Even if this was true, WHY? Why put someone on blast because you were not chosen. U mad because he is rich. You claim u dont have money, like that, for lawyers and sh!t but you had enuff to send him $600 a week just because. Hell, I woulda played u too. Gay or straight, doesn't matter, u just a bitter azz idiot! U tryna put him on blast but u need to blast urself in the head. Get a life hater!!!!
How he putting somebody on blast when he didnt say his name or the players name. all he's doing is irritating us with that crap. none of what you said matters when the names is missing. Hell, I can say I won the lottery, but without the ticket, I dont get s*hit. dont put no dumb empty crap like this on here anymore if you shakin in ya boots about speaking up.
Yeah I heard it was supposed to be about Ovie Mughelli but still....WHY??? What is the point? OK so you mad? He made the big time and you feel like he owes u something. He doesn't owe u [EXPLETIVE]. I don't care about who he lie down with. U don't know if he disclosed that info privately to his circle......u are just hating because ur not in the loop anymore. It is about money!!! Ur letter was childish and stupid!!!!!
FIRST OF ALL ITS ADAM AND EVE NOT STEVE.....AND FOR TWO...AND IF I WAS HIM I WOULDNT HAVE TIME TO POST [EXPLETIVE] ABOUT THIS.... WHATS TELLING ERBODY ABOUT WHAT WENT ON BETWEEN THEM GONE DO...GETTING IN HIS ASS FOR PLAYING ME IS WHAT I WOULD DO. [EXPLETIVE] DA PUBLIC EXPOSURE CAUSE ONCE ERBODY FINDS OUT HE STILL GONE HAVE HIS MONEY, KEEP [EXPLETIVE] NI**AS AND BE SOMEWHAT STILL FAMOUS ANYWAY...NAWWWW I WOULD HANDLE THIS AS A PERSONAL SITUATION NOT PUBLIC.
