This is a forum post by the user somyungal
: okay......... makeup.... check outfit...... check money..... check hair......... check
instead of guys approaching you look more unapproachable? how does that happen? i'm far from cheap, i get my hair done once a week, and i look good? where did i go wrong?
somyungal Flag post but what if you have a great personality and your far form vain? ---------------
I stand alone
it could be number of factors see my post above....
it's hard to decipher a person's personality without having a conversation with them.
it seems you are putting too much emphasis into your physical attributes and therefore questioning why men are not approaching you. personally, don't sweat it
have you every tried approachig a guy you liked?
buttapecan Flag post maxx!!
stfu!!kegels squats are good too.... *************************************** Yup...squats are amazing but you gotta do em in front of the TV while he's watching football....
Hey LadyQ!!!!!!
But on a serious note....when my ex and I stopped haveing *** is when I KNEW the relationship was OVER. I was just plain tired of him in everyway and the *** was the last thing to go....it got to the point where I would rather sit *** ass naked on my stuffed unicorn and.......
I moved on.
Thats how I like em, on point. That just make it easier to approach a woman. The hell I look like approaching a woman just cause she got a phat booty. She'll be waiting to hear the same line every other dude done gave her. I rather for her to have all the other accessories, ya dig?
aye vers, rejection! you talk'*** bout rejection that aint ***...
Thats like a basketball game and you get foul. ***, i'm just gonna keep the same drive going until i get in that bonus.
what i'm basically saying is a nicca gotta *** his *** to find out and the funny part is some dudes just don't understand its plenty fish in the sea and some of them game some ***...its all about how you observe the female that they're after.
well i stand alone because i'm known for going out by my self, i don't have much friends. but i have just noticed. let the truth be told i've been in love with this man for 8 years soon to be 9 and its like he would rather a hood rat more then anything. he looks at my house and said this could have been us but yet he rather live in the projects with his babymother. i just don't get it? why can't i leave this man alone? he's the wrost type of *** to have around. i try and try but every time i hear his voice i just melt. :(
@SOMYUNGAL My bad i read wrong i guess! Some dudes like hoodrats because they sit down and *** up and don't ask question. all they care bout is him coming over and him thrown a couple of dollars they way! SO IN MY OPINION U DON'T NEED THAT NICCA OR ANY OTHER NICCA THAT DON'T SEE WHAT U R WORTH LET THAT NICCA BE! WHN IT'S MEANT TO BE THAT RIGHT ONE WILL COME!
@Vers3tile
@imma
oh naw please believe lol
i go at em just to find out where i stand
i get some and lose some but that insecurity lies wit me doe lol
================================ man i don't how many i don't tried to speak to a nice looking woman in the streets of downtown dc and they just act as if they ain't even hear a word i was saying. they don't even smile when you give them a compliment. i just take it as if they're having man problems or there job stress'*** them out.
u need to let that *** go cuz it aint gon work
trust and believe
if the *** still stay wit his baby moms
u need to close up shop
stop lettin him bone
find u a new man cuz u gon continue to get hurt
i know u love him and all and u said its bout to be 9 years but from teh sound of it he aint tryna step his game up, he gotta walk away from that *** cuz u gon continue to be hurt.
oh man his babymoms hates me to the maxx!!!!!!
but i'm always going be around weather we *** or not. our families are close his sister and i are best friends our kids are the same age.
one time i was at the hair dresser and his son called his mother from my phone. more beef!!! but he didn't know he seen a phone and used it.. clear as day i looked and sure did say on my call log PLACED CALL TO "DO NOT ANSWER"
uncled3000 i know it's just so hard. i'm no good at making new friends. I rather stick wit what i know.
don't get me wrong theirs plenty of dudes that like me but i just can't do it. and in the back of my mind i'm scard he might find out, even thought he wouldn't give two *** or maybe he would. i guess i'll never know.
@somy..
people only do to you what you let them do to you. **words to live by**
if a man is living with his babies mother, it's not because he doesn't want to. he has some type of commitment to her, not you. he can whisper all the sweet things he wants to in your ear, but actions speak louder than words.
bottom line is that he's not with you. if your ok with that (which i'm assuming you aren't because of the post) then be happy with what you got. if not, it's time to raise the bar and find someone who is truly willing to say those things and mean them.
SOm..I am an earthling..human being to be exact. ..lol. Just playing girl. I am West Indian (Guyanese), born in Guyana.
Pretty girls seem very hard to reach esp the ones that carry themselves well. Classy women have a harder time getting approached as opposed to a "loose" pretty girl. It's all about how you present yourself. Honestly the kind of man that will approach a beautiful, classy, confident woman is the one you want. The ones that don't is the ones you don't want anyway. My husband approached me in Macys after scoping me out a bit. He was confident so he did it. Even though he thought I seemed unapproachable. He said he thought I was rich..lived in Parkland(rich area in Fl) daddy was a doctor and what not. But he was far from right. It was the way I carried myself and if a man has the nerve to approach a woman like that then he's the kind you want..get me??
@Somy ***mr biggs why do men play with emotions? why is it one minute i love you i can't leave you and the next nothing? i don't get it.***
------------------ The question *** be "Why do men play with emotions?" It's "Why people play with others emotions?"
Answer It's about people doing everything they possibly can to someone until that person decides enough is enough. It's hard to determine if someone is up to no good, because everybody wants everybody to have good intentions when it come to relationships and feelings. The best thing to do is be a little more patient in showing your emotions to someone and not thinking what 1 person did to you the next one will.
[[[SUMYUNGAL]]] I KNOW U DID NOT ASK ME FOR MY OPINION BUT HERE IT IS ANYWAY... women are made up of 49% confidence and 51% insecurity and alot of men know this and take advantage of this. turnin your 51% insecurity into 51% of low self esteem. they know how to feed into a womens (51%) which leaves the other 49% unable to defend you and help you to make the rite choices for your life. so what happens that 51% is held prisoner by the man. makein it hard for that 49% to help you. first thing you have to do is cut the situation off C O L D turkey. NO BACKSLIDING. 2 THING TO DO IS.... (well im not going to waist anymore of your time if you want to know more on how to resolve this situation once and for all then start a threed make it attention to A.LISTER...... AND I WILL RESPOND. GOOD LUCK I REALLY WISH YOU WELL
when i was in the 12 grade he had a baby then he went to jail then i had a baby. then when he came home i was still with my man and he was trying yo work it out with his BM. Then i got pregnant again and so did she. it seems like we could never be togther. i'll never forget the day he told me he got this broad pregnant. i held my tounge, swolled my pride and tried to move on
How old are you? The reason I ask is because you live and you learn.
Nothing will change in your relationship until you change it. As long as you put up with him being with you and his BM's then he will. I went through something kind of similar...minus kids. I was just on this negro's schedule at all cost. He called all the ***...finally I made up my mind to LOVE ME and be patient. I asked God to put a man in my life that would love me as much as I loved him if not more...and I promise you as soon as I told other dude I was done "messing" with him and I meant it...like 2 weeks later Mr Right walked in my life...someone I kind of knew but never paid any attention too because my mind was on Mr RIGHT NOW...
You have to let go in order to make room for somebody that will love you...not ssaying it will happen in 2 weeks or 2 years but when he gets there (if you dont settle in the mean time) you will know it.
Letting go can be hard when so much time is invested...im guessing you are about 26 since its been 8-9 years that you been playing this game iwht him...BOO look forward to your 30's is all I can tell you...different mind set!
